I'm Dominic Mayfield. I'm 6'1, green eyes, black hair. Around 200 lbs, thin but got meat on my bones. I've been through many situations in my life, which is why I can understand most other situations. Ask away and I'll help as best as I can.
E-mail: dmayfield87@hotmail.com
Gender: Male
Location: MD
Occupation: None
Age: 23
Member Since: August 14, 2004
Answers: 138
Last Update: December 3, 2010
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i think i'm gonna tell this guy i like him tomorrow. the problem with that was...yesterday i thought i was going to do it today...but i didn't. i think it's because 1) i have no idea how to put it into words that don't creep him out a bit, and 2) i open my mouth to do it, just..improvise...and the words melt away and i'm left with air...
so my question is this....how and when should i do it? i see him at lunch all the time, and he rides my bus, if that helps any. (link)
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Well what you need are words of confidence. There is no way of telling anyone of basically going to tell anyone if they want to go and say they like them. It just comes no matter what. What you need to do is go ahead and ask him yourself. The feeling of your breath leaving you and it melting away is you're so much in love with him that you cant handle of asking him directly. What you need to do is just look on the bright side of things. That when you do ask him you get to see his face of the reaction and when he says yes:P and also think of the good things of going out with him when you do ask him out. If you think of it your going to be very happy when you ask him your own way instead of others. This is the truth cause i should know:P I hoped i helped.
~Dom
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i think i might have something wrong with my lungs. i get out of breath WAY too easy. i don't think i have athsma, cuz i've never had an attack, and i don't smoke, but my parents do. i'm getting bad grades in p.e. because i can't run. i COULD run...if i could breathe, because it doesn't tire my legs at all...but anyway, how can i tell if there's something wrong with me, or what do i do? (link)
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The best possible sollution is to go to the doctors. I dont believe anyone can tell you what it is cause each person is different it could be your lungs are deteriorating or that you may have asthma im not sure but you need to go to the doctor thats my best advice.
~Dom
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do you think that it is weird that a 24 year old guy is dating a 16 yr old girl? i do but i need other opinions, the girl is my best friend and i dont like it. I need help on how i can be more open about the situation. please help!!! (link)
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actually it is weird for one thing a 24 year old shouldnt be going out with a 16 year old in the first place i mean hes an adult and shes only a teenager. im sorry but that shouldnt even be. Im sorry for speaking my mind but i said what i said
~Dom
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i dont know wat to do. It seems like everything is falling apart. I jus feel like everyone hates me for sum reason. I used to be friends with one of the most popular kids in the whole grade, but she hardly talks to me anymore. She says i've changed, alotta people say that. Is there anythin i cud do to make them stop hating me?
p.s.wen i stopped trying to fit in and actually started being myself, people started talking to me WAY more then they did b4.) PLease dont delete this. Thank u!!! (link)
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Well my advice is to be yourself then it sounds to me they want you to be who you are instead of acting like someone else. When you start acting like yourself, then maybe everyone would want to be your friend again. Hoped i helped.
~Dom
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how do i prevent the red razor bumps on my bikini line from coming when i shave? and how do i get a very close shave to where you cant even tell there is hair there? i want it all gone but everytime i shave it just turns red and gets razor burn. (link)
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what you an also do is get a new razor and get gel to shave it prevents the burning sometimes hoped i helped.
~Dom
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I heard that if you eat 6 small meals a day, instead of 3 big its better for you. Any truth to this? (link)
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And also people are more different than other people me i have a very high metabolism and i can eat a whole pan of food myself and then eat 2 hours later it just depends on the person
~Dom
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if you stop drinking soft drinks, will that help you lose weight (link)
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its one of the things that can help yes but if you go off of them that doesnt mean youll lose weight i drink soft drinks all the time but you see everyones different so you'll have to go and test that out yourself.
~Dom
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I need some really great ideas for some stores to shop at for back to school shopping. I really want to look good in front of my friends and people at school and i wasn't that popular last year but people still liked me. I just need a way to get popular. And i know you're all going to say "oh just be yourself" or something but seriously people i need help with more than that!!! I don't know who the real me is anymore!! (link)
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Well instead of just going out to buy clothes, why not get one of your friends that are really popular and take him/her clothes shopping with you so you can find out what you want to wear. If she/he is popular they can go ahead and pick out the right kind of clothes for you so you dont have to worry about it and think your dumb for picking out the wrong kind of outfit. Also that way if people dont like it you can just say " eh...someone picked it out for me and i was just giving it a try" lol hoped my advice helped.
~Dom
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thank you for your answer - but you did say that in order to give me a better answer - you needed to be more informed. Do you have an e-mail address or do I just send to here? In other words, does everything I send to this "box" that I'm in right now go publicly on the site? Thank you for your time. (link)
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no if you just talk to me it does not go on the whole website it does go to my column though and people can view it but if you need to talk with privacy my email address is
love_is_tomorrow_not_today@hotmail.com
i would be glad to help
~Dom
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theres this girl whose gonna be on my bus this year and she wants to beat me up for no reason. shes 2 years older than me and shes really mean. shes the kind of girl who will scream mean things at you in front of everyone! i dont know how to handle that... its so embarrassing, but i dont want to act tough because then she'll really want to beat me up. im so scared help! (link)
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What i would do is hang around your friends that are around her age and also that are stronger than you so you wont have to feel scared. And when she goes and says that i would just try to talk with her. Like if she screams something at you, look at her and just smile a lil bit and say "hi" or something and see what she does if she gets a lil confused of what she says that means she doesnt really want to beat you up its just that shes trying to get your attention, but if she goes and says something else and gets even madder i would just suggest sitting with people that are stronger than you and also are your friends. If it were me that was in your situation right now i would keep messing with her mind and basically turn her out to be one of my friends instead of an enemy:P. I hoped i helped.
~Dom
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I'm having a really big problem with a certain advicenator that gives horrible advice, puts people down, and makes fun of the questions that people can't answer... I know it's not my place to say something but this person is VERY rude and makes people feel like crud, I would know. I really want to say something.. This one girl said "Im 150 lbs and I need help losing weight" and the advicenator said "Who cares you're the f**king fat a** not me im only 112 and taller than u, fat a**" thats just rude so help me please... thanks alot (link)
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Yeah and not only that you can also go and help that person with good thoughts instead of bad. If he went and say that just go and tell her i weigh 160 lbs:P lol which i really do:$ but i cant gain weight or lose weight (not the point) But anyways just talk to her and to other people and once you see that go and hurry up and post something nice so when they also see a bad message they can also see a good message.
~Dom
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I am a 14 year old guy and I like a 10 year old girl, is this ok?? (link)
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Well you know anyone could like anyone at an age but it just depends if you date them or not in your case i would wait until shes 18 and when your 22 cause then that will be over the age limit and not be considered something but by then im pretty sure that you will be going into a lot of changes and liking other people just give it time dude, and youll find other people you like.
~Dom
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ok well yeaterday at about like 2a.m. I went driving in town with my cuzine and her older bro (he's only 17) he drove us around and well he was smoking pot in the car so I got totally nervous and I didn't know what to do so I just staid in the car worring my butt off and when I got home at around 10 my dad smelt the pot and asked me if I smoked but I didn't pin it on my cuz did I do the right thing? I rate high:D (link)
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Well im not sure if you did right. But in my terms thats what i would have done. And then later on i would have went to her older bro that smokes the pot and try to reason with him not to smoke anymore cause it almost got you in trouble. And if that doesnt work i would suggest of talking to your cousin and discuss this with her. Sorry i wasnt much help.
~Dom
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hey i need someone's help uploading a picture, i don't know how to make it smaller so if someone can help i'd appreciate it (link)
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Well it depends on what kind of cam or digital camera you use. If your using a digital camera im not sure cause i dont use those:P. And if your using a cam you cant save it as a JPG. file cause thats bigger than the expectations. What im recommending is just go ahead and mess around with the cam until something works basically save it in different files and save it under different names that kind of stuff. Sorry i wasnt much help.
~Dom
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Okay, my computers are on a wireless connection. (SBC yahoo DSL) The wireless connection is working, because I'm on my laptop right now and I'm obviously online. However the main computer where everything is plugged into (the main source) won't go online? Anyone why know this would happen? Please, any advice would be awesome. (link)
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Well what you need to consider for your main computer what kind of internet connection does it have? If you use the same internet connection as the laptop for you computer then im not sure whats wrong. But if your not using the same kind, its probably a bad connection. Although it could also be a virus in your main computer that just wont let you on. Try running a virus scan and if that wont work, degragment the harddrive and reboot your computer. If that doesnt work go and get a couple of disks and save all your important files on to the disk and completely wipe your computer by doing a system reboot to make it all better. If that doesnt work i would suggest of getting a different internet connection for your computer and as well as taking it to a mechanics shop, who knows it could be a couple of things wrong with it that you just cant fix. Im not sure if i helped or not but theres my advice.
~Dom
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I don't know where to begin with so much going through my mind and my heart except to get directly to the point, which I'm sure you would appreciate. How do you stop loving and caring for someone that means so much to you when you don't even know how the relationship ended to begin with? I guess that's a pretty wide open question huh Doctor? Can you even relate to what I'm talking about because to tell you the truth I am so baffled at this point, things in my everyday life aren't even making sense to me anymore. It's like I'm just going through the motions everyday, but at the end of the day not really remembering too much of anything except the constant, nagging pain in my heart, which is really unbearable. I am an adult female who thought she had a pretty good thing going with an adult male. THOUGHT being the key word here. No, everything was not always perfect, but what is? Nothing major that we couldn't handle. We seemed to make each other happy in all kinds of ways that you may not even be able to imagine. I still do believe that the love was mutual and not just one-sided, but maybe I was wrong. He told me he loved me and I believed him. Shouldn't I have believed him? Isn't that what love should be based on, trust? I actually "felt" the love and caring that he had for me so I know that it wasn't one-sided. I totally trusted this man, with my life, literally. We had constant, daily communication that one day just abruptly came to a halt. And I do mean a screeching halt! Not a halt on my part either, but his. With no explanation in any form he just no longer shared any type of communication with me whatsoever. What's that all about? We had a little communication problem the night before everything ended and I was in a position where I could not make him fully understand what all was taking place, no I was not with another man or anything remotely like that, I was just in a position that made it impossible for me to talk at that moment> Let me stop there because I know that's not making sense to you. However I never got the chance to tell him what the whole deal was. And it doesn't look like I ever will. That was the last night that I ever talked to him. I love this man so much more than I ever thought that I possibly could love someone and I know that we would have been so good together and I know that he knows that too. What's the problem then you might ask? As I stated before, he will not answer any of my calls, he no longer calls me, and I don't really know what to think. I do know that he is a very open minded caring person and this just isn't like the man I fell in love with to not let me know what the problem is, so what do I do? Please don't tell me to just simply ask him what happened because like I said, he will not take my calls or contact me. How can anyone be that cold-hearted? He has totally broke my heart, broke my spirit, and yanked my soul right out! The biggest problem that I have is not understanding what happened! Surely you can understand that? He has to know that doesn't he? You can't possibly be in constant contact with someone throughout the entire day, every single day, and then one day just stop all communications and not expect them to question what the hell happened. Obviously he just doesn't want anything to do with me, that's a no-brainer. But until he tells me so and tells me why, how can I ever have any closure with the relationship, or even have any peace for my ever so confused, battered, busted up heart? I miss him terribly. I guess I got that point across pretty well already. On the flip side of this sad, but true story - Right in sync with him just totally ignoring me, this is unreal, but true, all of these men out of my past and some that have been trying to go out with me or come into my life all called in a one-week period. Sad, but true, I'm just not interested. How can I be even remotely interested anyway when nothing has been resolved with him. I will not be interested in anyone in that same way again because I know in my heart that he is the one for me, I know it, and he knows it too. Or maybe not? How do I find out what went wrong when it's impossible to ask anyone a question when they simply won't talk to you? Now how cold is that? Doesn't everyone deserve that much? I know they do, and yes, I know people don't always get an explanation even though there always is one. I don't know how to make you understand that he is just not that "typical" person that just leaves people's hearts hanging without an explanation, or maybe I just have him figured all wrong. Am I a total fool? If so then I'm a fool in love. If that is the case and I am to never get an answer, how do I go on? I can't keep walking around everyday crying, in a freaking daze, with real pains in the pit of my stomach as well as my heart. All of the people who know me know that I smile all the time and am for the most part a happy person always trying to bring a smile to others. But since that day, they all ask me where my smile is, where's that sparkle in my eyes, where's my spunk, where's my love for life? I'm not going to get it back until I know what happened. What do I do? How does one stop loving when they don't even know what went wrong? How do you ever get your mind, heart, and soul "together" again? How do you ever trust again? How do you stop the very real pain? I am a grown woman and this was not a little crush. I took it very seriously as he told me he did too. I did things for him that I had never done for anyone else to try and please him, which ultimately pleased me in doing so. As you can tell my thoughts are all over the place. And like I said I don't see how I can "pull myself together" without answers. This is really, really rough and I don't think he gets that or he would talk with me, right? What to do? How to cope? When does the pain stop? Why did this happen? Why can't I get any answers? How to trust again? When I commit to something or to someone, I really try to give it my all, which is why I get hurt so easily. That, I can answer.
Signed; Desperately Seeking An Answer
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You went and wrote down a long explaination and i shall give you a honest answer. I do not believe you are a fool. But i would like to ask you for a favor i need to know what that awkward lil communication was for me to fully understand what had happened cause im not sure of what happened. But of this feeling you have in your heart and your gut that is hurting you, its just that you are longing for a love that will probably never will be again *maybe you think this consciously maybe not* but even so i dont know what happened but if hes not answering your calls or anything like that then you need to find him and confront him face to face if you want to be with him again.
~Dom
im not sure of what happened but for me to give you more of an answer i need to know if you will allow me to know.
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i need help. i like my best friend. and im not sure if he likes me. and i really like him. he says if we go out it could ruin our relationship. but hes went out with almost all of his best friends.i want his so bad. i havnt had a boyfriend for a long time, and this could be my chance PLEASE DONT DELETE I NEED HELP IM SO CONFUSED! (link)
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he says it could ruin your relationship but hes afraid that he would probably lose ya most likely i would go for it although thats just me you decide whats best:P
~Dom
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ok another question...i really like this guy, but hes 2 years older than me, and he likes another girl...but at first i thought he liked me, cuz he would kinda flirt with me, but i dont think he does anymore, and my friend told him i like him but he doesnt believe her...what should i do? (link)
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i would say that hes probably scared to like you and hes probably scared cause if someone told him that you liked him he probably thought they were lying and was playing with him so if i were you i would go up to him or talk to him online or something and say you guys need to talk and then sit down with him or talk to him on the internet and actually tell him how you feel about him. sorry if i wasnt much help.
~Dom
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y are boys soo confusing??? so today i went to my friends house for a party..(make-out party) and well....kaylas bf came for her...hannahs bf came for her.....jennas bf came for her.... but the boy i liked never showed up. so i felt un-wanted the whole day cuz i knew that kayla and jenna and hannah didn;t wanna do n e thing with me there with out a bf so they were holding off till like 1/2 hour left of the party.. and now i feel bad cuz i made the whole party suck... idk wut to do im mad and sad and confused and frustrated cuz i really was lookin forward to a good time.
wut do i do?
help asap (link)
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well dont feel bad or mad or anything cause its your boyfriends fault for not showing up in the first place and for holding the party off im sure your friends would be forgiveful cause of your boyfriend and next time when you and your boyfriend or someone else goes with ya you might have more fun than you would of anyways and it just comes to show how reliable your boyfriend is anyways. Sorry its not much but yeah:P
~Dom
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I jus got signed with an agent for my voice!! and in 3 weeks im supposed to go to L.A. to record my first cd!! im so excited...but im really nervous and sad ill have to leave my friends in my freshman year. i know i should take the job considering ill be BiG and i really wanna see my name in lights but im so scared ill lose my friends while im gone and all the new friends ill make (celebs maybe :)) will not turn out to be real and ill be all alone! what to do!? HELP! (link)
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congratulations on your achievement. of course there is nervousness and sadness cause of leaving your friends and such but if you go and take the job there is a chance you'll be able to have a good and better life ahead of ya and when you get rich you can always go back to your friends and visit and such. To tell you the truth this is your decision and of what you should do, cause noone knows what will happen if you suceed or not but if an agent signed something with you, you must have some talent and will be good at it. I really do hope things work out for you. I hope i helped.
~Dom
p.s. just remember be who you want to be not of how someone else wants you to be if you want to do this then good for you and congrats but if you dont wanna do this make a decision of what you should do and reconsider but all in all congrats:P
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