i need advice! my freind is really skinny and she thinks shes fat. everyone tells her shes skinny, but she just seriously thinks shes fat and needs to loose weight. i dont think she is anorexic because ive seen her eat, but not that much. i think she goes to the bathroom after lunch, but thats normal, and i havent really paid attention to that every day. could she be anorexic or belemic? and if so, how do i talk to her about it?
help would be appreciated, thanx =]
I wouldn't go accusing her of having an eating disorder. Especially if you were wrong.
She probably has a high metabolism. People look at themselves differently. From your point of view, you probably think you have fat thighs but somebody else's view.. they look small.
You should follow her to the bathroom after lunch. Well obviously if you hear her barfing then yeah.
Or if you pretend to go to bathroom with her and you get out early.. You wait for her.. if she tells you to leave then maybe.
You shouldn't really talk to her about you thinking she has one. Because that might ruin your friendship.
You just ask her what kind of diet she is on to get a conversation stirred. And tell her she looks like she has lost some weight.
Or randomly ask how she feels about the same sex marriage, eating disorders, etc.
But yeah, don't do that all at once.
Or out of the blue just ask, would you ever have an eating disorder? ''I've read in a magazine that a girl suffered from it for a long time. She thought she was doing okay until her body slowly shut down and she had to get a feeding tube. I wouldn't do that. It sounds scary blah blah blah''
Something like that.
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what is oral sex?
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&defl=en&q=define:Oral+sex&sa=X&oi=glossary_definition&ct=title
oral stimulation of the genitals
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since i got out of school i've really only straightened my hair about 3 times. i used to straighten it almost every day in the school year, but i dont anymore. thing is, it still seems fried. its kinda frizy and seems dry. why is it still like, this, and what can i do about it? thanks xo
Because you used to do it almost every day... it damaged your hair.
You need to use a deep conditioner every week or every other week for a while.
Your hair will become healthly again and not so dry.
Maybe get it 'professionally' done?
I had to get my hair deep conditioned.
My hair came out really soft and nice.. and it wasn't frizzy. :]
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i have like a bunch of random whiteheads and little zits in random places on my face but i wash my face 3 times a day...in the morning with clean & clear morning burst, at night or when i get back from work or something with neutrogena oil free acne wash and before i go to bed with a noxzema pad but they like wont go away and more keep popping up and its getting annoying...help???
Don't wash your face too much. It's irritating the skin.
Just use one product in the morning and at night
or use nothing for a week and see how that goes.
I had really bad acne and I stopped using things, it's a lot clearer.
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i have and appt. to get my braces taken off in a couple of days. Do you know if it hurts? and how long does it take?.. my friend said it takes an hour.. but mine is scheduled for 30 min.
hope you can help!
it's not supposed to take that long.
they just pull the brackets off with a tool.
doesn't hurt.
just a weird tugging that you feel.
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I'm a 15 year old girl and I know everyone who answers me is going to tell me that love doesn't exist at 15, so I'm going to say, I " like " this guy named Jon. We went out and my friend gave me this birthday present and Jon was like " Where did you get it" and I said " Brad gave it to me for my birthday" and Jon told me to give it back. Jon is very controlling and wont let me get a word in when he's in his controlling moods. I told him I wasn't going to give the present back because it's rude and Brad might think I don't like it and I do. When I said I wouldn't give it back he got mad and of course left me. I asked him later why he even loved me and he just said " I don't, bye. " I was really hurt and I cried for 3 hours. My friends cheered me up for that moment but I'm still upset. What should I do? Thanks in advance.
Forget him. You need a guy that cares for you. This is a chance to see if he does.
You shouldn't talk to him or anything for a while, and see if he goes back to you. He should apologize.
But you should do things that make you happy and make plans with your friends to get your mind off of it.
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hey everyone... im a 15/f && i have been getting bullied since 8th grade by this girl && some of her friends... && this girl in 8th grade started IMing me on the internet and started cussing me out.. && then in 9th grade she got my cell phone number and started prank calling me along with her friends... && she also would say im ugly and i try to hard to fit in... she told me this when i talked to her eariler today!!! i wuz like im not ugly && i don't try to hard to fit in && i don't care what u && yur firiends think of me... but she was like fuuck you && go to hell && don't tell me what to do... do she's going to keep bothering me!! so how should i prevent her from bothering me? i've tried to ignore her && that didn't work... && i've tried standing up for myslelf
Show you don't care.
Ignore them.
if she talks to you on IM, block her.
If she makes fun of you, AGREE WITH HER and laugh.
If you keep doing that, where's the fun? Seriously though. If you are making fun of somebody ..you want a negative reaction. Just joke along and tell her you're wasting your time.
Get a new number and give it out to only CLOSE friends.
WHAT YOU THINK.. MATTERS.
if you think you aren't ugly.
and you know you aren't trying hard to fit in.
Who cares what they think?
She can't bother you.. if you don't care.
Laugh at her. Smile. and walk away.
If she calls you, say something before she does and hang up.
Whatever you do, don't try to cuss her out or anything. It eggs her on to do something worse.
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I first got my period about a year ago, and I was 13. Since then it's been super irregular and I bleed for up to like 10 days. Is it normal?
Yes it's normal.
It depends on the person on how long they have it.
Some have it for 14 days.
But you're irregular
and it may change to 7 days in a couple of months..
I have had mine for about 4 years. Mine usually lasts 9 days.
And I'm pretty healthy. :]
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i have blue eyes and brown hair well how can i make my eyes look bigger .. everyone is always saying how pretty my eyes are ... but i want the to stand out more what can i do ? and how can i wear my hair to compliment my eyes && i have really gross eyebrows i hate them they like curl and there wayy long.. HELP PLEASE
Put eyeliner right in the middle or at that beginning of eyelash growth, then go all the way out.
Usually when you have a dark shade of eyeshadow on the outer side of the eyelid and a light shade [like white] near your nose.. it "opens your eyes."
---Don't put eyeliner all around your eyes. For some reason it's a trend nowadays. It only makes your eyes look smaller.--
It depends on the color of your hair.. on what eyeshadows to use..
Blue eyes look best with violet/lavender eyeshadows.
But..pink, violet, turquoise, cool green or brown also look good with brown hair.
Hair?
Some layers surrounding the face?
I'm not good with hair, sorry.
Trim your eyebrows.
Or well, go out and get them done. :]
Dab some hairspray on your eyebrows.. it usually holds it so it doesn't curl.
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My cousin has been masturbating since she was 3 years old. Is that normal? She is 17 now.
it's normal..
since you are young.. you are new to your body so you explore.
um well, how does she know she did that since 3? does she have a good memory or what?
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ok well me and my "bf" want to go somewhere special and we dont want to go to the movies been there done that to many times! and not my house b.c heres the thing i want to tell him i love him for the first time!! and he has something to give me and things like that so not my house to many people, there is like 8 people there. not his house his mom is all over his kids when girls coome over, well thats what he said. so any ideas its tongiht or tomorrow but i need answers quick thanx!
I think you should go out to somewhere to eat. Any place you feel like eating.
It doesnt have to have a romantic kind of feel.
Go to a park when it's starting to get dark.
Walk with him and go to a place that's kinda secluded..
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hi, okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now, on and off. and i mean i would do anything for this kid. i`m not saying i`m in love with him, but i might be. and we talk like we have a really serious relationship. but, there is one problem, we barely ever see eachother. school ended for me june 9th, we saw eachother on the last day of school of course, and then about a month ago at this public swimming pool. that`s all we have seen eachother this whole summer. i mean i talk to him everyday, and we try to hang out, but he says that he can`t and tells me why, but i always think that he`s just making up an excuse to just not hang out. i mean he says that either his parents don`t want to take him or something that has to do with his parents. we`re 15 so we can`t drive by ourselves yet. but, he never hangs out with girls he goes out with i guess, and it really is because of his parents. but i still have that thought in my mind thinking he just doesn`t want to see me. how can we hang out more ? and do you think he just doesn`t even wanna hang out with me..?
I was in a relationship like that. You have to go out and see him. If his parents can't take him somewhere. You get a ride and go to his house to see him. You offer a ride.
He needs to stop making excuses. He needs to stop messing around and see you.
Sometimes they want their space but you haven't seen each other in a long time and just tell him you want a day where it's just you and him.
Go meet each other at a park or something of that sort.
You can walk together somewhere.
Offer a ride.
Suggest to hang out at his house or yours.
He has to work in the relationship too.
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okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice,
if you like him a lot. you keep telling him you aren't comfortable with saying that or you dont know what love is. say you want to be with him though.
he's just a silly boy who cares about you.
in a few years... your feelings may change about that but just hold onto him now.
he sounds like a sweet guy.
if he loves you, he'll understand that you're not ready for that.
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i am a 34c and i am 13 years old. 5 feet tall . and way around 107 . personally i tihnk that it to big and all the guys stare at them . i mean i know that i am pretty . i`m not conceited but i`m honest . i want guys to look at my face more . and i do wear revealing shirts . yeah lol but i`m starting to cover up more and realizing that more guys like me for my face lol . any ideas on how to get them to notice my face more instead of my breasts? thanks a bunch
Wear a jacket?
...
Get a new hairstyle?
New makeup to brighten up your eyes.
shiny earrings?
I dunno they are always going to look. It's just..there. You can't help but look, you know?
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My boyfriend and i recently got into a huge fight (again). It started because he was joking about buying cars, then said he would by me a hummer. He completely ignored the fact that my cousin was killed by one only 2 years ago. He claimed that he didnt know about it, but we've been together for almost 14months now, its almost impossible that i never told him. anyway, from there he got really pissed off at me and everything hes been mad at me for started coming out. He told me that he hates that im working full time, going to summer school, and preparing for my moms wedding that is in 8 days. His biggest complaint about them was that i have no time for him. He also told me that he doesnt want me hanging out with people from work. (we worked till 3 am one night then went out to denny's for food) He kept saying things like "i do so much for you, i always make time for you, i try to please you so much and i get nothing back" which is a total exaggeration. At that point i asked him, do you want me to quit my job? drop out of summer school? im not asking you to please me, i just hoped you'd love me. Then he said the big line, "I dont know how to love you"
What do i say to that? how am i suppose to react to him now?
we havnt talked for a week. he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, but ive been crying every night. I realize that we are both at fault for this, but i dont know how im supposed to feel about hearing that after he told me he loves me so many times before..
He misses you.
Just try talking to him. Tell him after the wedding is over... you'll try to make time for him.
Maybe take one day off and do something with him.
You have to tell him you're trying.
But you need the job and you need to go to summer school. And your mother's wedding is important too. If you're preparing for the wedding then ask him to come over and help?
You have things in your life to do. He needs to understand that but you should spend at least one whole day with him and show him how much he means to you.
He's probably lonely and feels like he's not wanted.
You just need to talk to him soon. About anything or how you feel.
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16/6
I have a bump 'down there' but Ive already eliminated possibilities. Its not an STD like genital herpes - Im a virgin. Its not razor burn because I dont shave. It hurts when I touch it and I just noticed it maybe 3 days ago. Its the size of a pimple. Is it possible it could be a pimple? Im worried..What could it be?
It's a pimple.
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If you're worried you could go to a doctor.
But if you don't have sex or shave then it's most likely to be a pimple anyway.
It will go away in a few days.
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i want to get my hair permanently straightened, but my parents both said no. because: my mom said it would damage my hair because of the chemicals. my dad said that its not really permanent and it doesnt last a long time. and i don't have to worry about it being too expensive because my uncle works at a hair salon and he can do it for me for free. is what my mom and dad said true? what are some good things and bad things about getting it permanently straightened? thankss soooo much.
It does damage your hair.
But you can make it healthy again by using the right shampoos, etc.
Talk to your uncle ..that you really want it.
And have him talk to your parents.
Maybe it will work. Tell him to talk about the good things about it.
The perm will last to 8 months or more.
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me and my boyfriend wanted to have sex he stuck it in for just a min i made him pull out and put a condon on is there a chance i could catch a std from him if he was only inside me for a few seconds before i made him wear a condom?
There's always a chance.. even if he just sticks it in for a few seconds. What about precum? You have to think about that.
If it worries you a lot, get tested?
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ok, so right now, i only have 1 piercing in each ear. im thinking about getting more, but the thing is i either get a lot, or stay with only a few, because thats the way i like it.
so i was thinking:
3 on each ear -- 1 ear would have 3 in a row, and the other would only have 2 in a row, with a cartilage.
i really need your guys' opinions/advice,
& if possible, any other piercing combinations you have/want/like
THANKS!!
Yeah 3 in a row looks good. I had that. plus cartilage.. on each ear.It looked cool.
You could always try getting two piercings in the cartilage area.
I guess it is how you put earrings together.
Like two hoops then a stud.
and the cartilage feels better with a stud.
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Okay so there is this guy that I really liked. We went out for like 2 and a half months and then I broke up with him, but it was rather mutual. During the school year i had my first two classes with him and it is so wawkard. We never talk and he is cool and I want to hang out with him and everything but we haven't talked in months and everythings so awkward. Hes cool and so are his friends. THis is exactly what I didn't want to happen when we broke up. Any ideas on how to reconnect? Ill rate high for any help.
Well you can try this approach. You could start talking to his friends and have him come along.
You can always ask a question if you get a class with him or if you see him walk by, accidentally bump into him. Or you could say hi or wave, just for him to look at you.
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