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my freind anorexic?
i need advice! my freind is really skinny and she thinks shes fat. everyone tells her shes skinny, but she just seriously thinks shes fat and needs to loose weight. i dont think she is anorexic because ive seen her eat, but not that much. i think she goes to the bathroom after lunch, but thats normal, and i havent really paid attention to that every day. could she be anorexic or belemic? and if so, how do i talk to her about it?
help would be appreciated, thanx =]
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My guidance coucelor thought I was belemic because I went to the bathroom everyday after lunch, but so do all my friends. I'm not belemic. But your friend might be. Keep a good eye on her. Don't talk to her about it, but if the topic of weight comes up say,"I don't really like talking about weight."
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if I were you I would talk to her if she were a true friend she would understand...tell her that she is scaring you because she rarely eats and you don't want anything bad to happen to her.and tell her she is perfect in every single way to you and to all of her friends,tell her everything you feel inside and she will understand what she is putting herself through without even realizing it.
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It's really hard to tell if someone has an eating disorder. Don't rate me low, because what I'm about to say is TRUE. You can't do anything about it. This is a mental and psycological problem that she has.
I have been anorexic myself, and still suffer from it. I know what it's like to make excuses to not eat ("I'm sick", "I already ate", "I don't like that"). I also know what it's like to have people constantly asking if I'm anorexic.
When people do that, it makes you snap at them because you want no one to know. No one.
You can't say that your friend is losing weight, because that encourages it. You can't say that your friend is gaining weight, because that will make her panic and eat even less.
There's no way to prove she's anorexic unless you're with her all day. Try to do something with her that's all day or a couple of days and notice what she eats. Don't talk to her about it, though! It will make her mad and embarrassed.
If you discover that she is anorexic and/or bulimic, you still can't do anything. Confronting her would make her mad, and telling her parents would make her even madder.
All you can do is offer her food (but not constantly, because then she'll know that you think she has a problem).
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I wouldn't go accusing her of having an eating disorder. Especially if you were wrong.
She probably has a high metabolism. People look at themselves differently. From your point of view, you probably think you have fat thighs but somebody else's view.. they look small.
You should follow her to the bathroom after lunch. Well obviously if you hear her barfing then yeah.
Or if you pretend to go to bathroom with her and you get out early.. You wait for her.. if she tells you to leave then maybe.
You shouldn't really talk to her about you thinking she has one. Because that might ruin your friendship.
You just ask her what kind of diet she is on to get a conversation stirred. And tell her she looks like she has lost some weight.
Or randomly ask how she feels about the same sex marriage, eating disorders, etc.
But yeah, don't do that all at once.
Or out of the blue just ask, would you ever have an eating disorder? ''I've read in a magazine that a girl suffered from it for a long time. She thought she was doing okay until her body slowly shut down and she had to get a feeding tube. I wouldn't do that. It sounds scary blah blah blah''
Something like that.
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