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This may be an odd question, but I'll ask anyway, I was hangin out with friends and I was running through the house and hit my arm on the banister, now I have a huge bruise that has gone from purplish to greenish, to many other colors.
But my question is, is there any way to make the bruise not hurt that much, or to make it go away faster, because it's on the upper part of my arm but right near my elbow, so whenever I bend my arm it kind of hurts, so any suggestions? Or is there nothing I can do?

try putting ice on it..its gonna be tender for a bit but it will get better

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my gf is always demanding me to do things if i don't she tells people about the things we do
and my family belives her evevn if its not true
and it makes me out to be the bad person
16/f

this girl is manipulative and you need to break up with her..that is ridiculous! dont allow that!
find another girl because you desserve better than that

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hey all my friends have made out and i am just really shy around my boyfriend (when i have one) everytime he gets close i kinda just abck off because i am scared i have never made out andi dont kno how all my friend ever say is it just comes natural ! i am complety feeling left out ! some off my guy friend would be like hey if you wanna make out just tell me and like there for real they will be all who cares and stuff and one of my guy friend has done every thing but sex and i kinda like him and he said if you can make out wiff me just to say you have and my mom loves him and she thinks he is the sweetes biy ever but she doesnt kno anything he has done! and she would totally not aprove if she heard !

question A: give me tips on making out! thx!
B:should i go out wiff him or is he using me !
C:should i make out wiff him just to say i have!

dont even worry that your the only one who hasnt made out yet..everyones first kiss happens at diffferent age

tips:
have good breath
be confident
move in slow
kiss him slowly and softly
then when your comfortable let it get more intense and use your tongue
honestly..a lot of it is natural

ok should you go with him? ask yourself how you want your first kiss to be..do you really want it to be with this guy and have it just as a little make out session and thats all?

or do you want your first kiss to be with a bf ?

this is something you should decide for yourself..dont do it just to say you did it...do it because you want to...if you dont want to ..dont do it..noting wrong with that

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There's this one guy & him & I are pretty good friends. I like him as more than a friend & he feels the same way about me... i think. He told me he was considering asking me out. It didn't sound like a for-sure thing though. Basically, he didn't jus come out & admit his feelings, he said he doesn't know. I want him to ask me out but I'm not sure what to do. Also, he doesn't know I like him. Should I just come straight out and admit it?

Thanx,
Nathalie

yes because if hes planning on askking you out it will make it a lot easier on him knowing you like him..its rejection we fear..so if you let him know how you feel...(or tell one of his close friends how you feel and have them tell him or something) it will make things easier..

dont be afraid to make the first move..like when your alone ask him how he feels and tell him you like him more than just friends

**no regrets! tell him how you feel or he might be so0o shy that nothing happens!

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theres this gurl i ask out and we went out 4 a day we went out and she beoke up wit me the next day and i really liked her she said she want to get to know mw better and thisother girl ask me out do i wait o her to we can ghet to kknow each other or should i go out with the other girl who ask me out wat should i do????! reel confused!

ok this girl who wants to get to know you better..is she real special to you? like do you feel like you would like to wait on her and get to knoow her better? if not then go out with the other girl

think about this..lets say you wait on the girl but she ends up not going out with you and the other girl gets a bf..then your left with nobody

unless this girl is special and you really want to be with her..dont wait if you like the other girl too

OR

you could kind of put them on hold..and just be "friends" with this new girl who asked you out..just tell her you dont want a relationship right now..its a pretty famous line that works

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hey
does anyone know any way a 15 year odl can make money except for a job, like doing other things..mmkay thnaks

-babysitting
-petsitting
-walk petsitting
-gardening
-housecleaning
-mowing lawns
-raking leaves
-washing cars
-yard sale

some of those things you can get big $$$ for if you work hard..especially the house cleaning

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im going to sleep over my friends house today..but the thing is i havent seen her in a yr and we were really friends b4 but weve been talking on the internet alot, the problem isnt lik im scared shes a creep its just that im scared it will be awkward! i can get really shy sometimes and the number 1 thing i hate is awkward silences!! is there any thing to do to make sure we'll both have fun???

p.s. i sweat alot too so is there anything i can do for that?

-awkward

ok yeah awkwardness sux..well i think to eliminate akwardness you should be outgoing and fun! like suggest to
-make prank phone calls..maybe even video tape them...me and my friends did that..tons of fun
-suggest playing slip n slide, twister, video games,
-play spider..its a fun game if there is a big room...when its dark one person is blindfolded and waits outside the room..the others hide and dojnt let the other person tag them..its funny to watch them bump into things
-go online and have funny convos with strangers
-take funny pics
-dress up
-talk about your friends..funny stories...gossip..etc. she can fill you in on hers too
-play the either or game..me and my friend jes love this game lol
"would you rather have sex with ____ or ___ "lol its fun
-dance to music

about the sweating part sorry...ok try using babypowder where you sweat after you get out of the shower..drink water to help cool you down..sweating stinks but we all do it

have fun!

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ok i have this boyfriend and we went out for 8 monthes and saw eachother like almost everyday! then we broke up for 5 monthes but now were going out again and we've been together for 4 monthes but we NEVER see eachother like we've only seen eacher twice! and we talk all the time on the phone but never get to be together cuz i ask him all the time and hes always buys or he just blows me off to hang out w/ his friends and i dont no what to do and he always tells me he loves me but i feel like he doesnt can someone please help me? and i dont think hes cheating on me or ne thing! please help thanks!

ok so i see you want a guy who is going to spend time with you, right?

so..tell him you want to spend time with him and if not, you want to take a break because this isnt what you want.

dont be with someone who doesnt make you happy..

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My mom and dad are making me get a 93 peice of crap ford explorer for my first car, any idea's on how to increase its sexyness, help would be much aprechiated

this may seem farfetched but send in a tape and try to get on pimp my ride! (the mtv show)

if that doesnt work buy some accesories ..maybe pimp it out by buying those pink or green fluffy carpets for the back..get a sound system if you can..
think .. do you have any kind of connections with someone who is handy with cars? maybe you can get a nice paintjob or pimp your muffler

i personally would send in a tape to pimp my ride..worth a shot right? if that fails invest some money to jazz it up


www.myemblem.com go there..you can buy an emblem and personalize it the way you want..its a good start

http://www.carpretty.net/stepbystep.php

http://www.carcentral.net/

http://www.pretty-logos.com/cars.php

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13f. i went out with a friend of mine, tom for 4th of july. just us. he was super-polite, introduced himself to my parents, they loved him. we went walking around town together, and we were laughing and talking the whole time. but it kinda started to feel like a date, and i dont like him that way. he puts his arm around me, and asks if he can kiss me. i say no. it was only akward for a minute or so, then we pretty much forgot about it. then we were sitting alone together watching fireworks and he puts his arm around me. we argue for a minute. (cuz i dont mind, i just dont want to lead him on cuz there's no way i'm making out with this guy). so he promises he wont try to kiss me, and we end up holding hands and putting our arms around each other, and my heads on his shoulder, but thats it. he called me the next day and left a message on my cellphone saying he wanted to say hi and to call him back. i dont really feel like talking to him and i dont know if we would have anything to talk about and it could be kinda akward, so, do i have to call him back? if i dont will he think i'm weird about the other night and am avoiding him?

yeah i see your point that things can be weird..you have a couple options:
-text him saying hi back..you wont have any awkwardness
-call him and say you had a good time and your parents thought he was polite and nice..maybe this can lead to the topic of parents in general or his parents who knows.
-lead the phone convo and dont let it get to a weird subject

he seems nice so i wouldnt avoid him because that would hurt him

i think eventually the topic of you and him should be talked about though bc if you definately dont like him like that its not fair to him to think you might like him etc..but i think you know this already so thats good

hope i helped out

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I want to get close with people, but when it comes time to become intimate, I become very scared. I suppose I have some self-esteem issues about my body that contributes to that, but even after that, I'm still hesitant to go for it. I'm not talking about necessarily having sex here, I'm talking about even letting somebody touch me below the waist, or letting somebody see me naked. I'm sure i want to become intimate with somebody, but I'm very self-conscious.

Does anybody have anythign to say on this?

ok heres my 2 cents:

try not doing those things until your comfortable..and if your going to be naked be naked when its pitch black.

i also think it wouldnt be fun for you to have someone touch you when it wont be fun...a good self esteem is somethng you need to build up..and until then stick to things your comfortable with because getting touched should be fun..not a bad experience

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whaT DO you do if u hear your parents ummm..... doing it. they're like 48 and i think its wrong. They were both making sounds and i don't want to confront either one. please help me i dont no y but it bothers me.




ill rate high for good answers

i think talking to them would make things awkward when things dont need to be that way.. i agree with everyone else that doing something else to get your mind off will help...even blast music (using headphones of course) before you hear anything thi way if they do it, you wont even know!

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I really like this guy named Mike. Me and my friend Logan went to the movies with him and he held are hand and kissed both of us. Then after that he gave us his number. I was really attracted to him. He asked out my friend Logan but she said no. I really like him and he knows i do but now he likes some other girl. why would he kiss me and hold hands with me and telling me all this stuff on the phone and now likes another girl?
signed,
confused

because some people dont want to settle down and be with one person..they want to be with a lot of people and have lots of "fun"

ive been in this situation and i can see you want someone to settle down with..if thats the case forget about him

if your willing to accept the fact that he is going to talk to and hookup with other girls then go for it..but dont get hurt

wow i cant beleive when you went to the movies he was holding hands and kissing both of you..maybe this isnt the right guy for you..wait for someone else to come along unless your truly willing to accept the fact that he doesnt want to be "tied down" to one person

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my dad is sooo annoying.. and he is soo strict.. and won't let me do anything hardly.. I always have to go to my mom... what can I do to try and get him to calm down.. cause he is mad all the time.. and what can I do to let me do stuff more?

tell him to call your cell when your out to check up on you

tell him :
who you will be with
what you will be doing
when your going
where you will be going

have your mom talk to him..maybe she can knock some sense into him

maybe have him meeet your friends you will be hanging out with? i dont know..its worth a shot

to let you do stuff more just tell him all the details ..the who what when where stuff

keep telling him your responsible and you just wanna go out with your friends

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there is this girl.. n everytime some1 likes a guy.. she somehow takes him from the girl.. n she is doing it to me this time.. and I don't wanna let that happen! cause I realllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy like him and I have for a while.. what can I do to stop her?

shes not a friend is she? well yell at that ho and set her in line! let her know whos boss and how she isnt gona pull this crap..

also..make your move ! you dont want her to take him away so hang out with this guy and make your move!

*no regrets!* remember that

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14/f
0k, so I'm going out with this guy, and last night, he fingered me and ate me out.. He fingered me so hard that I bleed a little bit, and I was wondering, if there was any cum on his hand, like from the last time he jacked off, could I get pregnant? What are the chances?
Also, what can happen from being eaten out?

no worries my friend..there is almost no way your pregnent..there wouldnt be enough sperm and the sperm probably all died of he wiped off the cum or somethingg..so no worries there

as for the part about what happens when you get eaten out...well i hear it feel pretty damn good thats all lol

-hope i helped!?

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you have to be in shape enough to work out in public, the gym, teams, or around the neighborhood, some people say thats dumb but really, think about it, when you see a fat guy running down your street your like eww he needs to cover up and work somewhere else, everyone does, so how do you get in shape so that you can get in shape, and how do you make it fun so that you will actually start to exercise and continue for more than 5 minutes every month

well if thats how you feel you can make things fun just by walking..people wont "eew at you" grab a cd player walkman thing with your fav cd and walk walk walk around the neighborhood..make it a daily routine and the satisfaction will keep you going. or you can go to your school's track and walk/run at weird times when nobody is there..like eaarly in the morning maybe i dont know..
one of those indoor excersise bikes can get you into shape if you have one
situps..crunches..eating right

i guess as you see pounds drop..that hapiness will make you keep going with your program..you dont have to go nuts..but making fitness a part of your life will help keep you going..even if you only have time for a quick walk around the neghborhood or 20 crunches and 20 siitups..its somethin right?

good luck and i hope i helped outt

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well theres this guy & he tells me he loves me & flirts all tha time but i think he's caught up on my friend & my friends say he likes me but is scared 2 "settle" with me should i wait on him or just forget about it? plz help if u can.

well do you really want someone to settle with? because if so move on and forget him..but if your ok with not settling and being friends with benefits then make moves on him and im sure he will respond...it really all depends on what you want and what your willing to sacrifice..like if you want to settle..are you willing to not settle just to be with him ? ask yourself that and whatever you decide on go with it..no regrets

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ok, well i think that my cousin is really hot and hes over right now and i think i like him but is that wrong to like my cousin cuz hes like family?

ok yes its wrong...just dont worry..forget about your cousin and focus on a hot guy in your school or something
-melissa0-

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ok. what is the weight when you are fat.ik my brother always makes fun of me but is he just doing that to be mean or am i? what is the weight that is considerred fat?!PLEASE TELL ME



---am i fat?

it depends on your heighthttp://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm

check that out

ps..sweetestthang is wrong because at the age of 15 if your 5'2 170 is overweight so yeah it all depends on your height and dont forget if you have lots of muscle that can affect your weight too

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