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Scared of intimacy.
I want to get close with people, but when it comes time to become intimate, I become very scared. I suppose I have some self-esteem issues about my body that contributes to that, but even after that, I'm still hesitant to go for it. I'm not talking about necessarily having sex here, I'm talking about even letting somebody touch me below the waist, or letting somebody see me naked. I'm sure i want to become intimate with somebody, but I'm very self-conscious.
Does anybody have anythign to say on this?
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i have the same problem, but i've learned that people like it when you're confident about your body and when your very outgoing. ive seen over weight girls get the HOTTEST guys EVER beacause of their personality. even if you dont have the best looking body its just the way you look at yourself people hate it when you complain about the way you look. so i mean you can wait for them to put the moves on you because if they were grossed out with the way you look they wouldnt touch you from waist down anyway if they think your hot go for the kill have mad hot sex have fun like me
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Hi,
I know what your saying. One thing you should not do, if go around in chatrooms looking for sex craved maniacs, who want to see pics of women below their waist. You should find a guy who you can trust, and love, and touch and he can touch, without having sex!
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Thats so normal.But you have to forget about what you dont like about your body and go with your feelings.
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hey hunny! ♥ heres's my advice for you, it's okay to be scared, its okay to be worried, because you dont know what to expect. and when you live in our society, were always feeling pushed to be more than we are and forced to never feel quite good enough! but im sure your a beautiful person, and you should be what YOU want to be, and do what YOU want to do. i used to be very self-conscious too, but when you find some one who cares about you, and you care about them, all your worries wont seem so big. just go for what you feel is right, and if you feel uncomfortable or rushed, then just stop. best-of-luck baby~ ♥~brittany
message me if you ever need anything!
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It's okay to be scared! Who isn't? Just about everyone is self-conscious. You're definitely not alone on that one.
My advice to you? Stop worrying about your looks. Easier said than done...I know. But it's something you gotta do. Do NOT get intimate with someone you don't love and loves you just as much! When you find someone you love and vice versa, of course you might still be worried about your body, but the person you love should make you worry <i>less</i>. If they love you for you they won't even care about your looks. And when someone loves you dearly, you will love BEAUTIFUL to them no matter how ugly you think you are!
Of course when you get intimate with just anybody you're going to feel scared and self-conscious. It's supposed to be that way! Only get intimate when you feel you are ready and only get intimate with someone you <i>love</i> and vice versa. That's the only way that will guarantee you to be no longer afraid of intimacy.
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everyone is different! last weekend at the beach my friend philip mooned me and i just laughed it off even tho it was kinnna freaky...& at the beach while we're all tubing when we fall off HECK YES SKIN SHOWS! lol..but its ok becus everyones diff. and we are gods creations, im sure your not that bad ;-) haha..IM me on my sn (taylorbug234) if you ever need more advice
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Everybody has problems with their own body, and many people are self-conscience. I kno i am, and tons of other people are out there with your same dilemna. I think that if you become close with someone, and if they care about you enough, They will think your beautiful no matter what, because the right way to judge someone is not by how they look on the outside, but by their qualities on the inside. Thats always whats most important. I hope i helped! Sammerz
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i used to be the same way but eventually you will meet somebody and all of that will go out the window!!! like i used to wear pants and everything all the time, even if i was just at the house by myself cuz i dont even wana c my own body cuz i hate it that much but i always stand there naked with my boyfriend now, or let him sit by me while im in the bath so we can talk or whatever. you will meet someone eventually who, as weird as it sounds, will see you as totally beautiful, despite your flaws. he wont see the things about your body that you find gross as gross. he will honestly probably make you more confident about yourself too...FIND THAT MAN!!!
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ok heres my 2 cents:
try not doing those things until your comfortable..and if your going to be naked be naked when its pitch black.
i also think it wouldnt be fun for you to have someone touch you when it wont be fun...a good self esteem is somethng you need to build up..and until then stick to things your comfortable with because getting touched should be fun..not a bad experience
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