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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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My boyfriend is going to california for two weeks almost all christmas break. and i never get to see him because he doesnt live with his dad anymore.. he lives about an hour away from me.
and i have had really bad expieriences with people going to california. they come back and have completely forgotten about me..
what do i do?
Others have forgotten you. That was their loss. He is a different person- he is not "others."
He already lives an hour away from you and doesn't forget about you, so why would a couple weeks on vacation cause him to?
The thing about trusting people is trusting they won't forget you. Don't expect him to make the same mistakes others have made, that isn't fair to him.
ygs-29/f
Okay So me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2 years and get along really well and for the most part he treats me very well and is very sweet and funny. but sometimes he can get into these moods where everything I say or do can make him turn into a jerk for a while and it hurts me because its like whow why are you acting this way. And then i leave him alone for a few minutes and he is fine. Anyways and at school sometimes he can be a complete jerk to people and he doesn't realize it or care. I just want to know why he does that or how can I explain to him that what he says hurts people. Because i've tried telling him to stop and He thinks he is just messing around when he says stuff like that to people. So how do I make him understand?? Please help!!! Thank you!
Well, he will realize it when people stop having anything to do with him. You've already tried to explain it to him, that didn't work, so all you can do is let him figure it out from his own mistakes.
ygs-29/f
Ok there are 4 people involved. Me my cousin sherita my cousin jasaiah and my i dont know if she's my friend anymore mariah. Ok Mariah told me and Jasaiah, my cousin that sherita had sex with this boy and they we're rubbing chocolate on each other. Jasaiah told sherita's dad and sherita got in trouble. Then Sherita asked Me and Jasaiah who said she had sex. We told her mariah which was the truth. Sherita asked Mariah and Mariah said we we're lying and got mad at me for telling her. Mariah started telling everyone at school she's mad at me and now no ones talkin to me. Then there's this rumor going around that i had sex and some one told my mom now i have to get checked to prove that i didnt! I need help! I know it's confusing but please help.
Sounds like a bunch of not being able to keep secrets in that little group.
Mariah shouldn't have told that Sherita had sex and all the details. BUT she told you and Jasaiah in confidence. Jasaiah shouldn't have told Sherita's dad- it wasn't her place to say anything.
To be quite honest, to avoid stirring up further trouble, you shouldn't have told her who said she had sex and ultimately got her into trouble at home.
Since that is the only way it seems you were involved, you should have kept quiet. If Jasaiah wanted to tell her it was Mariah, then you should have let her do it on her own and just stayed out of it.
Sounds like you 4 need to get together and try to make amends. You know, apologies all around.
You have learned a good lesson- sometimes things should just be kept quiet in order to avoid the snowball effect of drama.
ygs-29/f
facebook friend histories are gone? what is this new friend list thing?
The best way to get an accurate answer is to contact facebook with your question.
ygs-29/f
I have a friend who's girlfriend seems to like me more than she likes my friend. I'm two years older than her and I already have a girlfriend. What should I do? It would be rude to date her, yet I don't want to tell my friend? Sweet really…
Please help,
Germany
Yah, it would be extremely rude to "steal" your friend's girl.
Better just stick to your own girl.
ygs-29/f
I'm a beginner at guitar and I wanted a small amplifier that has a reasonable price that I can practice with. My parents might be getting me one for Christmas and I know they aren't going to get me a huge expensive one so I wanted to know if anyone knew of some good ones for beginners so I can give them an idea.
Thanks!
I have a friend who plays guitar, and he swears by Marshall amps.
They can be quite expensive, but here is a link to a Marshall Microamp:
http://www.alpha-music.com/productcart/pc/viewPrd.asp?idcategory=1051&idproduct=1316
It's small, but I think it would be good for a starter. You can easily take it with you if you decide to jam somewhere other than home.
ygs-29/f
So, i broke up with jay a while ago...and he got really upset about it. the night before i dumped him, we got into an argument because he was ignoring me, and thats not cool. so eventually the conflict ended, but he was still texting me because he "wanted" to. but i was still really pissed off. he asked why, and i said "why do you care?" and he sends me a text saying "oh, come on dont be like that" and i said "like what?" and he says "im not even gonna say it." and i said "like a jerk?" and he says "maybe" and i dont remember what i say, but he sends me a text saying that he was kidding and i send one back saying "no your not" and he quit texting me after that. now, i know that that was completely my fault. i get really irate sometimes, and i probably would have strangled him if he was in front of me. but then the next day i send him a text saying "i think we should take a break until we know eachother a little better"...i know that isnt the best way to end a relationship, but i had no other choice. he was in school. (im homeschooled, hes not) anyways, he replies saying "yea" but i could tell he didnt agree. so hes been ignoring me since and he wont talk to me for more than 2 minutes. and then i yelled at him the other day because one of my really good guy-friends who goes to jay's school told me that jay had called me a "dirty whore" and so i confront him about it, and he denies it. and then he gets mad at me AGAIN. and so now im totally lost. i would ask my best friend for help, but i dont have one anymore. what should i do??
Well, I think you should move on.
Why would you want to worry yourself over trying to confront him any longer?
Obviously he isn't mature enough to handle a relationship when problems arise. Instead he ignores you and calls you nasty names behind your back, then lies to you about it. (I would trust that he is lying when he denies it, because why would a good friend lie about it?)
Go on with your life. You'll be better off.
ygs-29/f
whats is stereotype?
"stereotype
Psychology: general mental image that is held of a group or class of people that is usually oversimplified. An advertiser may feature a stereotypical user of his product in order to encourage the audience to identify with the user. For example, housewives are often used in advertisements for cleaning products."
From link:
http://www.answers.com/stereotype+definition?cat=biz-fin&gwp=11&method=3&ver=2.1.1.521
ygs-29/f
Im a 13 year old girl and idk what else to put on it.. I already asked for movies, guitar hero 2 (or 3), an ipod, a cell phone, chocolate, a Michael Kors bag, a prepaid credit card, and yeah thats it. but are there other cool things out that i could add to the list? im aiming for 10 things on my list and so far I have 8. all suggestions are welcome. but well we're not the most richest family on the block so keep price in mind. and im like.. well for my tastes, im pretty much everything. im girly, a tomboy, sporty, preppy, artistic, and i like learning new things. um for some more ideas of what ideas you can come up with, i like crazy or like funny sentimental gifts.. uh stuff like that i guess. they dont need to have a purpose if they're just cute or whatever is what i mean tho i generally like things i can use. thanks for the help and happy hanukah + other holidays coming up.
I don't want to sound like a jerk, I'm just being realistic.
Appreciate what your parents are nice enough to give you. Feel lucky to get it.
Keep in mind how many countless, less fortunate kids out there don't get anything because their families can't afford Christmas AND heat.
Christmas isn't a selfish holiday.
ygs-29/f
Well Im not sure, because he has asked all his other gfs out so im not sure
Well, it may not be because he wants you to ask him out, but because he wants you to come to him and let you know that you are interested, rather than having friends do it.
ygs-29/f
Do you think 15 is young? If so why? How old do you really think they are? I'm asking this question because 18 19 year olds call me a little kid. I'm just trying to see how old I really am.
To me it is, but that is only because I'm nearly twice that age. There is a big difference in life experience between 15 years old and 30. Lot of growing up between those ages.
18 and 19 year olds see you as a kid because they are legal adults now. Makes them feel more adult to see you as a little kid.
There is nothing wrong with being young. I mean really, though I'm going to be 30 real soon, I still FEEL young. I'm a kid at heart. My 74 year old grandma was a kid at heart.
How old are you? You are 15 years old, but youth is what you make of it. I'm the type that wants to hold onto my youth. I may grow old physically, but that doesn't mean I have to mentally.
It's truly odd how we human beings work- we try so hard to be so grown up, and when we are grown up we try so hard to be so young.
Word of advice: No matter how old you are, no matter how old you get, don't kick that kid out of your heart. You will be thankful, and your kids will love it.
And enjoy being a kid.
ygs-29/f
15, female.
I lost my first true love, Jordan over stupid lies Casey told me. I lost my very best friend of 6 years, Casey. She's a victim drinking, casual sex, and weed. My mom has breast cancer. My brother is moving across the country. After three months apart, Jordan and I started hooking up again just because were both still in love but everyone is against us dating again. My mom caught us while he was fingering me and I was giving him a handjob; there goes that trust.
Life is slowly falling apart. I only have two other friends. I've been told I'm attractive, so its not that I'm hideous to talk to. I'm outgoing, always honest, and I'm fair to others. Still, people always assume I come off as a bitch and don't bother to get to know me. I need more friends, I need people to help me get through. Help.
I know this may sound silly, but why don't you look to your mom to help you get through?
Don't shut her out of your life. There is no advice like a mother's advice, and since she has cancer, you may later seriously regret not sitting down and talking about all of your problems.
She will do her best to help you sort things out like your thoughts on her cancer, your brother moving, why you lost your friendship with your best friend, how you feel about being disallowed to date your boyfriend.
You don't really need more friends to help you- you just need a person you can trust to talk to.
Your mom is someone you know you can trust, so give her a shot at helping you. She will appreciate you asking her advice.
Hell, she'll appreciate you just letting her into your world by talking about your problems.
I mean, you lost her trust. A big way to regain it is for her to know that you will always be honest with her and tell her what is going on.
ygs-29/f
hey! does anybody go to Milken high school? i was wondering, what are some teams that you have (Dance team, swim team, etc) and what are some other good/bad things about the school? thanx!
I found a site on Milken Community High School, if this is the school to which you are referring:
http://www.milkenschool.org/upperschool.aspx
If you can't find all of the information you are looking for, then click "contact us" and the school can answer all of your questions.
ygs-29/f
My cellphone sometimes doesn't get texts. My one friend is on a different cell service. But when she texts me, I don't end up getting half of the texts.
Whats wrong? My cell service, or cell phone... or...?
Could be her phone, could be yours.
Best idea is to call the customer service at your cell phone company and explain to them the situation. They will find out if you are having problems with your phone and solve the problem for you.
Your friend should do the same.
ygs-29/f
Well i was just wondering if it was ok to have sex with my girlfriend when she's having her period if i wear a condom?
There is no harm in it.
Of course you know you should always wear a condom, not just during her period.
They are the only thing that protects you against STDs, so it's wise to get into the habit of practicing safe sex now.
ygs-29/f
So in July of this year, my parents found out that me and my boyfriend had sex. But we lied about it for a few days but then i finally told my parents the truth because my dad threatened to but my boyfriend in jail. Im only 14. And hes 18. I know thats really bad, but i dont care about age. Especially now. We're supose to be going to court for this and have the judge decide what should happen, him going to jail for a few years, or probation, or even a restraining order. I dont want any of that to happen. I seriously love this guy. I dont care what my parents say, or think of it. I love him and I want to be with him! I love his family and his family love me, well right now they're are still kinda mad but they told me that they still love me, no matter what. So basically we are still together, but to my parents, we aren't. Every day, I miss him even more, there isn't one second that im not thinking about him. I cry myself to sleep, Im depressed, lonely, and hurt. I want to go to counseling but im afraid to tell my parents because they think im over him completely. But im not, I never will be. I never will forgive my parents about this, they ruined my life, my heart, and my trust. But lately its getting really bad. My depression. I don't have anyone really to talk to about this. Only his sister and two of my best friends. I know they can't help me, but at least they listen. I don' know what to do anymore, i know i can't move on. I've tried before, never worked. I don't want to live with my parnets anymore because i just keep things from them all the time, I want to be somewhere that i can actually express how i feel. And when i need to cry, ill cry instead of just letting it build up inside all day long and then crying myself to sleep at night. I just hope and wish that ill get a nice judge who will understand how we feel. I dont care that im 14 and i think im in love. I know i am. And if u say im not, then I DONT CARE. Because honestly, no one really knows how i truely feel about him, maybe 3 people, but they only know a little.
Anyways, I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
Well, if you truly love him and he feels the same, then the only thing you can do is to wait until your relationship is no longer illegal.
Age doesn't matter with love, but it does matter to the judge. Legally it is statutory rape, even though you consented.
See, you are under the age of consent, so you can't consent to sex with a legal adult in the eyes of the law.
You have to follow the rules the judge sets. If you sneak off to go see him, then his trouble will only get deeper.
So the only option with that is if you love each other, you will wait for each other.
Now. You need to stop hiding things from your parents. If you need to seek counseling, you need to say so. If you keep hiding things from them, things will only get worse between you.
You show your maturity to your parents by showing that you are able to sit down and discuss issues in your life in a civil manner.
You have to stop thinking of it as them ruining your life, and understand that they are only doing what they think is in your best interests. That is their job. It may not have been what you wanted them to do, but they only did it because they care enough to do so.
You have to remember that, even though you don't believe it now, but boyfriends DO come and go. Your parents will be there for you until the day they die.
ygs-29/f
Hello. I wanted to ask a pretty simple question. What does it mean when my friend, Cedar asked Alex if he liked me and he shoved her?? I would really really like to know.
Thank You.
Also he said to my friend Emily this..., "Im asking Savannah out in the near future (soon..)"
sooo yeah..
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Maybe he would rather you come to him directly instead of using go-betweens?
He could be waiting on you to come up to him and ask if he is interested.
ygs-29/f
i rly love this site but when there aren't any new posts i get impatient. Are there any other advice sites like this that I can go on whenever I'm waiting for new posts?
I know there are other sites, but I'm not sure what they are called.
I just wanted to say that even when there aren't new posts, there are pages and pages of older questions that can still use good answers.
Someone may have asked a question last week or last month that got bumped down the list that you may be able to answer.
ygs-29/f
Well, Christmas is coming up, as we all know.
My dad is a software engineer, so he works with computers. Is there anything computer-like that I could get him that isn't a
-laptop breifcase
-mouse
-key board
-mouse pad
-office chair.
My budget is 100 dollars.
Also, he gets back pains, so I was thinking of getting him a back massager? Anyone recommend a good one?
Thank you, and any other gift ideas appreciated (he doesn't like sports, cologne, ties, suits, watches, etc) Pictures and scrapbooks are stupid.
Ok, I know you said no keyboards, but I thought this was just the coolest keyboard. It's flexible, can be rolled up, and best of all, you don't have to fret over dust, crumbs, or drink spills:
http://the-gadgeteer.com/review/brando_usb_flexible_keyboard_review
Since he gets back pains, you could also consider a back support cushion for his office chair. Here is an example:
http://www.comfortchannel.com/prod.itml/icOid/4357
Or you can do the portable massage chair. He can put that on his office chair to help ease his aching back:
http://www.luckyvitamin.com/031262010995.html
ygs-29/f
13/female
i think that my science teacher likes me. like, he acts weird and creepy around me.
1. hes always calling on me in class
2. hes always looking at me
3. in the morning, when i walk around, he follows me and my friends.
4. hes always giving me bad grades, and he suggest that we go back there and talk to him when we get bad grades, and when i do, he always stares at my boobs.
5. he looks down my shirt.
6. when ever hes around me, or close to me, or where i can see him if i look at him, he does SOMETHING to show off. like, he has this yo-yo, and he always plays with it, and then looks at me.
7. today, when i was leaving the parking lot from my school, he was directing traffic( cause if their isnt a teacher or someone out their directing traffic, its a MADHOUSE!) and when ever my car passed him, he yelled (AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS)" BYE SHELBY!!!!!"
this may sound like a really stupid question, and you may say that im just immagining it, but im serioulsy creept out by him. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!
No, not a stupid question in the least. He sounds like a creep- I know he would creep me out.
Don't try to take matters into your own hands on this one. You need to tell your parent/guardian about this. This is something that they need to handle for you. It is their goal to protect you, so they will take care of this problem, because it is a HUGE problem.
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