about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

is fingering yourself bad? i finger myself everyday and more then once a day. is it bad to do it so much?

It's not bad and you're just masturbating which is normal.

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Is there a limit to how much you should mastubate.. is it bad to do it every night?

There is no limit and no it's not bad to do it every night.

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My one friend is sometimes like really fun, but sometimes she's a bit of a downer on everyone. She like will make things uncomfortable or not as fun and it's not as fun hanging when she's there. What shoudl I do?

Like.. have you ever thought that she might be shy or uncomftrable by some people that you guys are hanging out with. Instead of saying she's not fun and such, talk to her and find out what's going on and why she's like that. If she is making you have a bad time, do both you and her a favor and don't hang out because you're being unfair.

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ok well my best friend is like all over what i do like she does whatever i do like she even has an advicenators and like its so stupid what do u think i should do?

Imatating people is annoying and I agree with you but I don't think she realizes that she's doing that. She probablly really likes what you do and how you do it. Since she's your best friend, talk to her. I know it might be uncomftrable but you have to do it or else she won't stop. Be honest with her and if she gets mad, it's not your fault. She will get over it.

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This is going to be really long, so please stick with me.

Last week, I found out that my boyfriend was flirting with someone that hangs out where his sister works. I was kinda sorta okay with it, since I know that he means nothing by it and its just his personality. But then one of my cousins went to go get her hair done by his sister while he was there. My boyfriend doesn't know my cousin. Well, this girl was really like seriously flirting with him and he was just trying to tell her that he loved me and would never cheat on me and to stop flirting and all. But she didn't stop.

Well I'm death in one ear, and 50% in the other, so when I talk on the phone, I can only hear what the person who is talking on the phone is saying. Well, he called me and she (the slut) was flirting with him and yada-yada. And I heard her say, "If you didn't have a girlfriend, you know you would want to hit this" and he said, "Yes, but I have a girlfriend and I love her and wouldn't want to hurt her" Well then she said, "even if you did?" and he said "never"
Do you think he will cheat on me with this girl?

Okay, well he goes to "trivia night" at a place around here with his sister, her husband and their friends and that girl went. Well, they ran out of chairs and she sat in my boyfriends lap. He didn't do anything about it.

Well, we had this really long talk about it and he said he wants to marry me and he loves me and never wants to hurt me again.

I told him that I called the girl and she said that he kissed her and he made her sit in his lap and he was always flirting never her. (I lied, I've never talked to this girl) He got really mad and upset about it. Well, a lot of rumurs go around about him and he said that I never believed any of the other rumours why should I belive this one? So, does that mean that my lie is really what he did? Or did he really not do anything?

He said he would never talk to her again, and I believe him. Just, do you think that what I lied about was the truth? Is that why he got so mad about it?

Please help, I really love him and don't want to loose him.

He is always telling me I'm the best thing that ever happened to him and he never wants to loose me, and when I talked about breaking up with him he got really scared and cryed. I'm just really confused. Please, help. Thanks.

You're basicly asking an opinion here and I'm sure a lot of us have different things to say. Anyways, what that girl is doing is really mean. She obviously likes attention a lot. So, to answer your first question. I don't think he will cheat on you with this girl. He claims to really love you and he says he wouldn't do such thing. The problem is, you don't trust him. You made up that lie for no reason and don't belive the rumors you hear. People love to start drama and get involved with other peoples issues. When you told him that you called that girl and when he got mad, I don't think it's because it might of been the truth. He's probablly really agrivated that you won't trust him and that you think he would do something like that to you. That girl really wants to break you two up because she's jelous of what you guys have. Don't let her do that. I can't tell you if you should belive any of the rumors and what you should do. Just give this a little more time and see what happens. If you guys really love each other, you wouldn't let a jelous girl ruin your relationship.

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ok so my friend lets say her name is L.D told my other friend lets say her name is N.S that i said N.S is a whore and i didnt. I told N.S that i didnt and she believes me. L.D is now telling N.S that i am lying to her and L.D wont talk to me.
What do i do?

That is pointless drama that no one needs. You're getting agravated for no reason. If she wants to belive something stupid like that, let her. She has no proof that you said it and if you did, so what? She needs to learn how to get over immature things like that. Try talking to L.D one more time. If she won't belive you, oh well. Don't beg her to forgive you and don't put so much effort in fixing this when it's not your fault. Things like this will blow off but just don't let it get to you.

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Two of my best friends have been hanging out a lot over this summer because I've been away a little bit. However, one of the 2 friends (Holly) told me that the other friend (Jess) got wasted alot, and she has been sneaking out with this girl who is basically just bad news. I was really furious about this because everyone who hangs with this girl gets into big trouble. Me and Holly were really angry that Jess has been acting this way, but today I found out that Jess and Holly both got drunk last night and idk why, but i am really depressed about this. It seems like they are btoh changing, because we had always said we never needed drinks to have fun. Now I don't know what to do or say and I'm just really confused. Please give me some advice!

People can change over night. There is nothing you can do about that but accept it. What they're doing isn't the best thing, but it's their lives and their decision. You're being a good friend though and worrying about them but just try to talk to them. Tell them you don't want them to get hurt or anything bad to happen to them. If they only drink a few times it doesn't mean they're different. People do things because they think it's fun and they want to expiriance it a few more times. They're always going to be your friends and if they don't want to stop drinking, that's on them but just don't let it end your friendship. You guys should be able to get through anything even if it takes a while.

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hi, my grandma put my blue jeans to wash in with the other lighter coloured clothing, and all the clothes have gone blue! what do i do? thanks in advance

There's nothing you can do. You can't turn them into the colors they used to be.

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OK this is just an opinion question, there's no right/wrong answer... its kind of long but as modivation to read this i rate =]

I saw this girl's MySpace, and it had her SN on it, and like I know her and everything, but she wasn't really my friend, more like my acquantaince, but I added her SN to my AIM buddy list anyway. But at that time I didn't have a MySpace, and I was looking at my friend's, and this girl was on her friends list... yeah, I think you get it. Soo... I clicked a link in this girl's profile, like it was random words, and it led me to her BuddyProfile. I was embarrassed and I deleted her SN and blocked her. This was 6-9 months ago. Since then I have changed my SN and forgotten about it. But... a few days ago one of her friends, which isn't really my friend, viewed MY BuddyProfile! I thought it was over and everything, but like I guess this girl and her friends have been like tracking me! I mean its been over half a year!

What do you all think? I mean you would think they would have forgotten about it by now.

And while I'm at it... when you see an SN that has viewed your BuddyProfile that you don't know, what do you do? I just add them to my Buddy list, look at their profile to see if I know who they are, then forget about it. I think IM-ing them is too straight-forward and uncomfortable. Do you guys agree.

Thans =]

I don't get what you're asking. So what if you don't know her and she looked at your profile or something? People do that all the time and it's no big deal. If someone that I don't know looked at my profile I wouldn't care. It's public and it's made for anyone to read it even if they're strangers.

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i dont know if i`m in the right category. anyway, does anyone know of any good websites that have already made AIM profiles..besides Buddy4u and quote mania? thankss.

http://www.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=2162133

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okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?

Honestly, I don't think you'll last a very long time. For one, it's a really bad idea but no one can tell you what to do. Second, you don't know what he could be doing behind your back. Maybe he cheated on you and you don't know about it. It's hard having a relationship when you don't know the person at all. You only know him by his picture and what he claims to be. Just be careful.

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I have had discharge for a very long time. About two day ago I started getting some werid brown stuff on my underware am I getting my period or is it an infection or something? < that means they do have an infection. It happend to me. Just letting you know. You give great advice. Keep it up! ♥

It's not an infection. Every girl goes through this and it's normal. You are getting your period soon. Just wear panty liners so it doesn't get on your undies and bring a pad or tampon with you at all times. & thank you. :]

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13/f
After the break up he seems to look at me alot.. and then ignores me, and then the 3rd day after the breakup he seems happier than i am. Alot of people says that he regrets it, and even my ex said he probably does cause its a guy thing. He aimed me and said that we can still be friends, but when i aimed him back he ignores me. AGAIN. i just found out today that hes 2 faced, and why he broke up wit me..
why?
okay.. well he thought that i was flirting w/ another guy.. when my sister says that shes sorry if i do cause i got it from her.. and thenn i just found out today by his friend.. he could of told me to stop so i could change instead of saying "its over." and he leaves me there wondering why and i try to be friends wit' him but he pushes me away.
i hope he regrets breaking up wit' me.. does he regret it?? if he doesn't, how can you tell.. that he regrets it. Aim:
: what happened?
him: mary
: ?
him: STFU!
: .............
: wthhhh?
PLEASE HELP ME.. ive never been this sad before, and its making me more sad.

He isn't something you should be worry about. If he really wanted to make the relationship work, he would of talked to you but he didn't which shows he has no patiance. Flirting is a natrual thing and people do it without noticing and I'm sure he's done it beofore. I understand why he got jelous and such, but it's nothing to break up with someone for. I also think that he just likes to make you mad by ignoring your or maybe he just doesn't mean to. If he's going to keep being a jackass then don't even put up with it. I don't know if he regrets the breakup.. no one knows but him. It doesn't seem like he does but it's it's not that hard to tell. If he sweets talks to you and wants to get back together then he does regret it. Just let him cool of for a while and then see what happens.

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okay, so I'm in love with Leguna Beach, but I'm from Canada, and I heard that they show like seasons earlier in the states. Like, apparently people in america, are watching the third season right now? Is this true? and if so, I'm soo jealous :p. Thanks for letting me know:).

Season 3 was on last night. =] You'll like it a lot.

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ok so first of all I give you props for helping people and running this site

Most of my guy friends act really immature when they're online. When he said that his "friend" was on his screen name and such, he was probablly lieng. I know why it bothers you so much though, I can't stand it eather. When someone pisses me off over online and they're really annoying, I block them. You should do the same. Tell him straight up that it's getting really annoying how he's always acting like a little kid online and that you don't care who it is, but to stop. Don't put up with it because you're only going to keep getting madder. So anyways, if you like him and want to try and make this relationship work, give it a little more time. After you talk to him, see if he is still going to act like that. He might not be really fun to talk to online, but if you enjoy hanging out with him and if he acts normal in person, then see what happens. If you really can't put up with his immature self then just stay friends. =]


& thank you very much about what you said.

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I really need to know about high school. i am soooooo scared about it. in the movies, they make high school seem like hell. i know it won't be like the movies but i think it will be bad. i go to high school in one year for the first time. is it bad? or am i making it seem this bad? thanks!

Yesterday was my first day of being a freshman and honestly, it's not bad. You will get to see your friends and older kids don't pick on you. In the movies they make high scool seem really bad but it's just for entertainment and it's not really like that. There are cliques and a lot of hall ways lol. Teachers and people will show you where your classes are and you'll catch on pretty quickly. I was also very worried about not having anyone in my class.. like my friends and I was wrong. I know a lot of people in my classes and you will make a lot of new friends. So yeah, high school isn't as bad as people make it seem.

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where could i find very very cheap water bras? i know victoria's secret has them but theyre expensive..

and one more question, do push up bras or water bras make your boobs look bigger?

I was at Walmart yesterday and I saw this really cute pink bra and when I felt it it was a water bra so they have them. Also, Dillards and JC Penny have them but you just have to look around so find them because sometimes they get sold fast.

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I know this is kind of discusting, but my breats kind of sag. Im 36D.


http://ruggerjay.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/cleavage.jpg


Don't worry. That is not porn. It's a picture of a bra.

That is how I want my boobs. I have the Victoria's secert.. "body" bra. It still doesnt work.

What are some secerts to get them like this?
Thank you SO MUCH

If you take a look at that picture, the girl is pushing her breasts together. You should try a push up bra if you already haven't. Also, buying one size smaller in a bra will give you that nice push.

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OH MY GOSH, SHE IS SUCH A SNOOP. I HATE IT AND I CAN'T STAND HER! SHE SHOULD REALLY GET A LIFE AND LEAVE ME ALONE! SHE'S SUCH A B*TCH. I CAN'T STAND IT ANYMORE! SHE HAS EMBARASSED ME AND I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I WANT TO RUN AWAY! I'M JUST SOOOOOO UPSET.she has got to read everything that i do/write. and i told her not to go on there, she logs on. and i can't change my password because she'll have a fit. help? i can't take it anymore

Once in a while my mom or dad like to see what I've been doing online and yeah I get frustrated but I get over it. If you have nothing to hide then chill out. I don't think it's you that your mom doesn't trust. There are so many horrible people out there and she just doesn't want to see you get hurt. I know that still makes you really mad but just put yourself in your mom's position. If you had a child you wouldn't want her to talk to strangers and such. She is just trying to look out for you. Talk to your mom and maybe she might give you a little space. Running away won't solve your problems. When you come back, you will still have to deal with them.

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when i take baths and like i run my hand over my hair i pull out strands, well i dont pull them out but then come out. and i feel like im loosing my hair but my hair is really thick. and i strunch my hair mostly, or let it naturally dry, but when i straighten it its only once a week or less. i use gariner fruitc or however you spell it, but whats happening, is my hair thinning out alot

When your hair falls out like that, it's really no big deal because the damaged hair falls out and healthier hair grows. Just keep your hair healthy like you are doing now.

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