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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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my dad died when i was 12 and I still get upset about it every now and then and now since the anniversary of his death is coming up soon this month i've been feeling upset more than ever he died about 5 years ago is this normal?

It is completly normal. You will never get over the fact that your father has passed away and don't try to. It's okay to cry and let it out. & I'm sorry about your dad. I can't even imagine what you're going through.

im 13 years old, and i have braces. the teeth around my braces arent completely white, but not yellow either. just sorta regular. i realllly want my teeth to be whiter, tho, so is it ok to brush your teeth wit baking soda, evn tho i have braces? will it damage the braces?

My friend does that and it didn't damage her braces at all. It actually does make your teeth whiter though.

my gf broke up with me acouple days ago and i cant seem to get over it. we were going out for a really long while and i really loved her and she just did it all of a sudden. can someone give me some advice to get over her.

Getting over someone takes time and don't try to rush it because it will only make you feel worse. Did you even ask her why she broke up with you? If she just broke up with you with no explanation, then she's just pathetic. For now, just go out with your friends, have fun, and meet new people. Do anything that will take your mind of her. I know it might be hard at times but it's for the best and don't blame yourself. You won't get over her in a day or week or even a month but that's okay. Just don't rush anything. It will take time.

Ok so me and this guy are into eachother well atleast im into him and he says hes into me we've had sex more than once and have done other things everything was good but then just last weekend he went to a college party and now that hes back its like hes being an asshole and isnt trying to get with me. Its like he thinks im not good enough for him now..what do you think?

Guys can be jerks like that and honestly, I don't know why he's acting like that. It seems like he never actually cared about anything but the sexual things you guys were doing. I'm not trying to sound rude, but that's just my honest opinion. If he was really into you, he wouldn't be acting like an asshole and who knows what he did at that party. Just ask him why he's acting the way he is and if he doesn't care, don't even waste your time on him because it's not worth it.

Is 5`3 in a half to 5`4 short for an adult? I need an honost answer. Thanks Love yahh ! ♥ *

For an adult, it is short but it's avrage.

my best friend and i went to the movies with my boyfriend and his best friend. me and my boyfriend we're trying to get them together but the other kid had a girlfriend so there wasnt that big of a chance. anyways during the movie my friend decided to flirt with both boys and i pretty much just watched the movies [im a shy person] and then after half way of the movies my bf's friend was making out with my best friend and my boyfriend like put his arm around me and that was it. and like while my friend and his friend were like totally making out lol he just like stared at them and then would look away and then stare at them and i dont know it was weird and later that night he sent a text message saying dont think im prude cause i didnt makeout i just had bad experiences with braces or something..
anyways later the next day he dumps me.the next few days he called alot but only to see if my friend would go out with his. and we sometimes talk online but its only about them. then one day i was shopping and missed his call and so he left this message: " hey babe, he really wants to go out with her, can you let us know if she will? i got to go, love you bye" and that was so confusing cause when i asked why he said love you and hey babe he was just like oh i was bored haha. but i dont know does it seem like he still likes me? and if you think he does what should i do because i really still like him :/
thanks if you answer

Why he broke up with you, I have no idea? Do you know..? You guys seemed to have a really good time the night before so what happened? I think he's just trying to be a good friend and try to hook his friend and your friend up but he's getting way into it. When he said "love you, bye" it wasn't because he was bored. Why would anyone say that when they're bored. He's just bull shitting you so don't belive that. I do think that he still likes you. It's impossible to get over someone in a day or two unless there were no feelings to begin with. Once things are settled down and you guys start talking a lot again, ask him about the relationship you guys had and why it ended. I mean he left you with no explanation. So, just talk to him and see what happened.

what are a couple good quote sites besides like quote-mania?

and it would be best if they had a lot of like love and getting hurt kinda stuff..
THANKS

http://www.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=264809

me and my boyfreind were in the bathtub both with no clothing what so ever on

and i think he cumed

can it swim up and get you pregnant if we didnt have sex

but we were close to eachothers private areas?

Sperm can't just swim up your vagina and get you pregnant. You're fine.

okay well this will be an outcome of two total situations in which i need help of.

firstoff: i have a boyfriend of 9 months, and he is completely utterly in deep love with me. [ im 14 hes going on 16.] he always calls me and wants to be with me, and he always tells me how he cant live without me, and would never want us to break up. how we're perfect for eachother, and how we are the ideal couple. how perfect i am [which im seriously not]and even how he wants to marry me soon, and live together forever. well, my dilema is that he like is obsessed, and he gets mad / jealous and stuff when another guy talks to me because he is so insecure about himself. i feel like ihave no space at all, and im trapped with him, and stuck with him forever. idk what to do, please help. also, its not like idont love him, because dont get me wrong ido, but he puts me through so much useless things; i mean like SO MUCH, and idk if i can take much anymore. now, i dont wanna tell him that because then he'll start interrogating me. Please Help Me With This.

Secondly: i know his best friend, and ive always been fond of him. fond meaning hes attractive, we've been cool. well i talk to him online and stuff. and i know he is / he was looking for a girlfriend. and i kinda set him up with my friend. my good friend. and they like give each other "

Guys can get really attached and worried about the stupidest things, but to him it's not stupid. He just really cares about you and doesn't want anyone to have you but himself. He's your boyfriend and you guys seem to really care about each other a lot so that's exactly why you need to talk to him about this. Sure he might get mad and upset but you need to tell him how you feel. It's only making you feel worse and in relationship, honesty is really important. You know that he gets jelous and mad only because he cares about you, but he needs to understand that sometimes he can over react. I'm sure he'll understand. If he does get mad don't take it personally. If he loves you as much as he says, he should be able to change a little bit about him.

I understand what you're saying and it is defenetlly a hard situation to be in. Look, you need to do what makes you happy. I know you might have some doubts about your relationship and who you want to be with, but don't rush anything. Don't make yourself chose someone. Take your time and think this over. I honestly think that you and your boyfriend's friend are just really good friends and sometimes people think they might have feelings for them. If you're positive that you like him then maybe take a break with your boyfriend. Just because you guys get along doesn't mean it's worth going out with him. You need to find other positive things that are about him. Think to yourself. Who do you want to be with and who you like spending most of your time with. Being jelous is completly normal. Every person goes through it and don't feel guilty about anything. Just take things slow and see what happens and do what makes you happy.

Alright so. I'm in my first year of highschool, and this highschool is three different schoools combined, and I'm from one of them. There's these twins, really really adorable and nice and everything, but they seem like really shy. One of them is in all of my classes and the other is in all of my best friend's classes, so we're trying to hook up with them before homecoming LOL. Neither have had a real girlfriend, but the one I like has had like one for 2 days. They're at our lunch and we really want to sit with them but we don't know what to say. Have any good conversation starters, or something that we could say to them that won't make us look like idiots? Or just anything that could help us? Thanks so much!

PS Love your column!

Aw, =]. Anyways, when you see him in the hall or in class, say hey and give him a big smile. At lunch, you girls should go up to them and just ask to sit there. I can't really tell you what to talk about but once you're sitting there, you will find plenty of things to say. Ask what they did over the weekend, what they like to do, about homecomming and if they're going. Flirt with them and just become friends. Make sure they know you guys are interested in them.

My friend constantly makes fun of me. I know friends joke around with each other like, and make fun of each other a little bit, but this is all the time and it gets really old. I've stopped laughing at it - I used to laugh too because I don't have a problem laughing at myself. But she makes fun of everything I do - if I said, "Ok" she'd find some reason to make fun of it. What do I do? Why is she doing this? THanks.

If you're tired of her doing that, tell her. Just talk to her and tell her it's not funny anymore and be serious about it. I don't think she even realizes that it's getting on your nerves or that it's bothering you that much. If you don't say anything then it will keep making you get mad so just talk to her.

This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

I like guys that are funny, mature, outgoing, sweet and being attractive is always good. A cute face and nice body. =)

how do I fight my porn addiction. I hate it but it's everywhere. Please help me.

Try to keep busy. Instead of being infront of the computer or tv, go out and do something else. Go out with friends and it will take your mind off it.

14/f. i'm going into 9th grade, which at my school is the last year of middle school, and i think i know what i want to wear for the first day of school, but i don't want to look like everybody else. this is what i was planning on wearing:

skirt:
http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=648&itemID=46122&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=

shirt:
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_297743_-1_12628_12552

it is that but the stripes are light blue & brown. and i'd wear brown flip flops. i'd also straighten my hair.

what do you guys think? i don't want to look like every other girl there, so if this isn't a good outfit, then any suggestions will really help!

Honestly, I don't like the skirt but the shirt is cute. I don't know how girls dress at your school, but a lot of them wear outfits like that. It's a bit plain though so add a few accesories. A cute purse, maybe a belt and a cute necklace. Do your hair & make up cute and everything will go together.

i'm srry this is really long but i need elp i'm so confused

ok so i was looking throuh our pictures one day and i found one of my sisters class from 4th grade so she went on myspace and looked if anyone had one and she found a named Quinten and so she talked to him for a while and then she left her messanger on one day and he started talking while i was on the computer and so i told him that she left it signed on and that it was her sister so we talked for a while then after that we started talking alot and i was kind of tartng to like him and then he said he liked me but he couldnt tell me before cause he thought it would rec our friednship and so i told him i liked him to and so we decided to try a long distance relationgship then we started talking everyday and the more i talked to him the harder it was to stop talking to him and everytime i see he is on or i get an offline message from it makes me really happy and for a while everythime i talked to him or thought about him wich was alot i started shaking now i told him about it and he said it was cause i wasnt getting anough sleep and something about my muscles and stuff but then i got more sleep and i was still shaking and he started syaing it was cause i kept thinking about him and stuff and i wanted to know if anyone might know why i was shaking?? and if i do love him?? and whether the long distance relationship will wokr i mean we are planning on actualy hooking up after high school and do you think it would be bad if we ad bfs or gfs until we actualy hook up???i'm soo confused help me please and if it would be easier to talk on aim or yahoo messanger my aim is everyonesproblem@aim.com and yahoo is For_ever_ur_problem@yahoo.com

I never heard of anyone shaking when they talked to someone they like. I think that you're just too excited and happy when he get's online and you're happy to talk to him. I can't tell you if your long distance relationship will work out, but I hope the best for you guys. They're really hard and complicated and most people don't even try to see if they can make things work. I don't think that it would be a bad idea if both of you went out with different people.. but that's only if you guys aren't together. You guys should still talk and keep in touch but when both of you are out of highschool and if you both have feelings for each other, see if you can make things work. It will hurt you that you can't see him everyday and you can't go see him whenever you're having a bad day. Stay friends and after some time, then try having a relationship.

Theres this boy i really like but, i can't get him to like notice me alot. I mean we talk online all the time and sometimes go places together with other friends but i am like totally crushing on this guy and my friends have tried to see if he likes me but all he says is "why do you want to know?" i no this seems like a very common problem but i need help! what should i do?

p.s hes shy wich makes it hard.

Since he's shy, you know he won't make a move on you first. He doesn't seem like the type of person that'll go up to someone and ask them out and such. When you're talking to him, just flirt. Talk about things that are interesting for the both of you and by doing that, he will get to know you a lot better and like you. He just has to get more comftrable around you and talking to you so he'll losen up.

Well, i said the quote "I'm the new Berlin wall, try and tear me down" to a friend. She started to go off on me about how the berlin wall was bad because it devided berlin in two. Wasn't it intended for good?
CAN SOMEONE TELL ME IF THER BERLIN WALL WAS GOOD OR BAD?

When I had German last year, my teacher talked about the Berlin Wall. It was bad because it separated a whole bunch of people and kept people from getting in. It could of been good in some ways, but people don't remember it much as being a positive thing. We also watched a video and it showed people being soo happy when it was tore down.

Age: 14
Gender: female

Today was the first day of school, and I had lost my bras the night before, so I had to use a push-up bra, which is padded (I only wear it for my tube tops. I only bought it because none of the other strapless bras at the store came in an A size). I'm 32A, and the bra makes me look bigger than I actually am. I'm worried that the next day, I'll wear my regular bra, and people will think that I was trying to make my breasts look bigger.

What can I do about my predicament?

Honestly, people don't really care much if someones breasts look bigger one day and smaller the next. It's not that much noticable so people won't make a big deal about it. A lot of girls have different types of bras and they're all made different so don't even worry about it.

Do moderaters know who asks the questions?

Only level 2 and 3 monderators can.

do you masturbate?

No.

EDIT- & no, I didn't.

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