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I have a crush on two boys and can't decide which one I like the most.One does martial arts the other loves something else.They both do archery and so do I.Which should I love most?? (link)
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Only you can decide that. Who they are as people should be the deciding factor, not what they do.
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I'm a fifteen year old girl and I have recently started to develop feelings for my step-brother. He is two years older than me and we see each other ever other weekend.
We've known each other for about eight years and we've always had a sort of love/hate relationship.
We would annoy the hell out of each other and he would insult me but recently things have become different.
Before we would wrestle and I'd just be determined to win. But now I don't care about winning I just enjoy wrestling and it isn't as serious as it was before it's more playful. Also a few times whilst we've been fighting I've brushed his lower are and felt what turns out to have been an erection. We'll be fighting and one of us will straddle the other and just sit there and tease the other. Or when we get tired I'll lie on his chest and he'll wrap his arm around me and we'll just stay there for ages.
He still insults me but it's not as intense as when we were younger.
I'm pretty sure it's not normal, I've never actually met anyone whose had a crush on their step-sibling before. I came clean to my friends about it and at first they were shocked but now they think I should go for him because it's not incest because we're only related by law not blood. I'm not sure what to do because I'm doubtful that the feelings I have towards him are mutal and even if they were I'm terrified of what would happen if I told him. What should I do? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with these feelings since you aren't related by blood, but I would wait until you turn 18 before you guys start showing affection to each other where your parents can see you. Today's parents are just so easy to freak out.
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hi. teenage guy here...
i feel like i irritate everyone with that attitude.
"moody" that is. (link)
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Teenagers are often moody because they don't know how to act or cope due to their natural insecurity. They definitely don't know who they are yet, either and try on a lot of different behaviors. Also, teenage chicks love moody guys, so there is a certain reward for it socially.
Also, sometimes they just don't get enough sleep, which makes anyone a little on edge.
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There are some nights where i dream of this girl trying to kill me. Sometimes when I wake up I feel as if she is there in my room. It gets hard to wake up some nights. What does this mean? Am I going crazy? (link)
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We all have our wacky dreams.
I have a recurring one where I somehow get impeded from graduating college even though I graduated eons ago.
Don't sweat it. It happens.
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Ok so I dated this guy for 3 months last year. I'm 18 and he's 25. He broke up with me in December. He said he needed to work on himself. While we were together we had some issues with communication. I thought we could work them out so I was surprised and devastated at the break up, but I tried to move on. 3 weeks after that he called me and we talked for about 4 hours which resulted in us getting back together. So everything was going good. Then I stopped hearing from him. His phone was off and I had no way to get in touch with him. About 4 weeks later he called me and said he was stuck in Mexico, had no charger for his phone and he didn't have my number memorized so he couldn't call. I basically said it was fine and we were still together. Then another 3 weeks goes by without my hearing from him and he sends me a text asking how I am and if we're still together. I said yes and then 2 days later he texts me and says he just wants to be friends. Now I'm trying to move on but he keeps texting me telling me he misses me and I was the best thing in his life but its so confusing because if that's the truth then why break up. (link)
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If something in your gut doesn't feel right it ain't right. Time to find a new boyfriend. Just keeping it real over here.
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my friend likes the same guy i like when i liked him first but anyways he doesn't like her he likes me and we're going out now but i feel bad she said she wasn't mad at me but u can tell she is how can fix things between us (link)
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It really isn't up to you to care how she feels. If she wants to be childish and be angry with you over this then that is her problem. All relationships have expiration dates anyways. Sometimes it's six months others its 60 years. The same goes for friendships. Definitely don't let this conflict interfere with your relationship with your boyfriend. That would be giving her way too much control over things and would annoy the bejesus out of your boyfriend.
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so i have been dating this guy almost four months. and i found out about the time we started dating that i can never have children. i feel like im keeping this big secret from him but also we are still early in our relationship. but then again i dont want him to find out later and think i have been lying to him this whole time and being dishonest. im one of those people who are very big on honesty. i hate liars. and thats why this is so heavy on my heart. i just don't know what to do. this guy is great. he is the best guy i have ever gone out with. he's sweet romantic. amazing. help please? (link)
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Tell him. Better to get all the big important issues out of the way before the snowball has traveled too far down the hill.
Also, don't feel like you're letting anyone down. We each have our strengths and weaknesses. Enjoy being yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
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My dad sometimes uses cussing for fun and in mean ways like h-ll,s--t,d--n,and a-s.What can I do to hear less cussing from him? (link)
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Leave your dad alone. Crikey, if that is the worst thing your dad does you're pretty well off. Don't try to be everybody's moral police. Take care of your own stuff and be an example is about the best you can do in this regard.
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If you could recommend any book in the world to someone, fiction or non-fiction, what would it be and why? I don't mean just a girly piece of chick lit that had an exciting plot line but a book which inspired you, made you think, changed your outlook etc.
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"Escape from Freedom" Erich Fromme
"1984" George Orwell
"Animal Farm" George Orwell
"The Americans" (a three volume series) Daniel Boorstin
"The Discoverers" Daniel Boorstin
"Breakfast of Champions" Kurt Vonnegut
Anything by H.L. Mencken
"Candide" Voltaire
"Brave New World" Aldous Huxley
"The Tale of Genji" Murasaki Shikibu
"Snow Country" Yasunari Kawabata
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I'm sixteen and a female.
This is weird for me to post advice about this on here, but whatever.
I masturbate frequently. I mean, not crazy, like to the point it runs my life, but about two or three times a day. Sometimes it's because I'm turned on for a random reason, or just because it feels good. But sometimes I just feel so gross afterwards.
I also watched some porn last night and today. I feel so nasty afterwards and I don't want to feel that way because it is normal, right? So why do I feel so disgusted after I do those types of things?
Thanks a lot! (link)
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What you're doing is NOT uncommon.
Your feelings of disgust are due to bad programming, that masturbation is somehow dirty or depraved, which is far from the truth. It is a necessary part of discovering how we function sexually and someday you will teach a partner about where and how to touch you thanks to that experience.
So my advice is to relax, enjoy your orgasms and don't let what you perceive to be the opinions/bs of others to get in your way of good, healthy and harmless fun. It is your life and only you can live it, so do what makes you happy. Allowing others to sabotage your life by filling your head with silly fairy tales and fear mongering will end badly.
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My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago, because he told me he has issues and wasn't ready to carry on a relationship. (he went through a divorce a few years before we started dating) I hung out with him at a mutual friend's birthday the other day...I acted very casual around him, and he did the same. Afterwords, we ended up spending the rest of the night together, talking about the problems outside of our relationship we had been going through since our breakup. He finally said, "Okay, you're coming home with me. You need a break." And so I ended up back at his place...we talked more that night, never going into the relationship we had previously had, other than him apologizing again for breaking up with me...He was very affectionate with me, and even gave me a massage. I slept in his bed that night, and he held me close to him in a bearhug all night, being very affectionate with me, stroking my arm/thighs and whatnot...the next morning, he made me breakfast, and eventually we ended up back in bed again, because we were still tired...and then we let ourselves go...at the time, I just didn't care, and let my passion for him take over. We showered together afterwords, and he kissed me a couple times when we were in there...I went with him to his parents house later that day for dinner, but again, very casual...on our way home, he told me he was sorry things got the way they had earlier in the day, and he told me, "I can't think of anyone I'd rather do it with."...and he was talking about how he's getting close to figuring stuff out, but isn't quite there yet...I don't know if he was talking about being in a relationship or not...
Now, I knew going in it probably wasn't going to be the beginning of a new romance...I hoped, and hoped though...
I know it was just more than likely just a casual thing. But it's not like I was a cold, 'bootycall', because he's not that kind of a guy...but I still feel regret for doing it. And I want to tell him that. I want to tell him, "I shouldn't have done that, because I still have feelings for you."...but I don't know if I SHOULD. I'm going to see him tomorrow, and I don't quite know how to go about this, or if I should...I still want to be with him, but I am 95% sure he doesn't...
What do you all think? (link)
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So basically you regret it because it makes it harder to move on, is that about it?
I think a healthier approach to it would be to realize that you enjoyed the sex but rationally know that it may not signal a reconciliation. Just view it as a fun one off and don't get so bogged down in whether or not there is any significance attached to it.
There are people who were once boy-girl but realize that their personal styles don't really allow them to live together on a day to day basis but that they also have great sexual chemistry, so they get together occasionally for a good old fun roll in the hay. Look at it like that and avoid the emotional burden.
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I'm 12 years old and my younger brother is basically 11. My mom has to spend days reminding him to do stuff like dishes or laundry but he never gets in trouble. My mom said if he didn't do the dishes on a certain day he wouldn't get his Ps2 right, he doesn't do it and the day after he gets it. Me, she told me to clean my room in an hour she never said when I had to start doing it and if I would get punished, after I do my home work(which takes an hour) my mom comes in and says, "Not done? No T.V. for a week." I clean my room after and nope, nothing I'm still T.V. free. Another example, there's no swearing in our house. I call Ethan a "dumbo" 'cause he's got big ears and I get my art rights taken away. He calls me a F---ing F--- and my mom says,"Don't say that to your sister. I'd get it if he was like maybe 4 or 5 years younger but this is too much. (link)
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Talk to your mom about it. We can't read her mind on the internet. Sorry to be so unhelpful.
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Well, i had a sleepover at mine once, and as girls do, as a joke we played dares, but not normal dares, you know, the kissing sort, and i had to kiss my friend (Lauren) and i really enjoyed it? then when everyone went to sleep, i decided to tell Lauren thati strangley enjoyed it, and she said 'yeah, me too' it was silent for a little bit, then i accidently tounch her genitals (Vagina to be exact) and i went to let go, then she touched mine, she slipped her hands down my pants and started rubbing my vagina. i really enjoyed it :S the we starting kissing. we went upstairs and we started having lesbian sex. we both really liked it. but we havnt told anyone. am i a lesbian or bisexual? (Sorry its very long) (link)
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Don't worry about the labels. At your age at least some experimentation is normal. Just live in the moment, relax and just see how things transpire. You might be bisexual or just bi-curious or you may later decide to go either straight or become a lesbian. Just do what makes you happy for that moment and be grateful for what you learned from your experiences. Every day is a transition, right?
Definitely avoid the female curse of overthinking. That never ends well.
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So heres the deal im 15 and i really wanna get a bikini wax cause shaving is a pain in the *** and i can never really get the difficult areas with a razor and i just liek it to be nice and clean down there ya kno.. so i have a giftcard to this spa and they offer bikini or french bikin dont know which one too choose? i really want to do it but im nervous its kinda weird to just spread your legs for some stranger.. so can they do it with underwear on just manaveur around the underwear and how far do they go? do i really need to leave it unshaved for 3 weeks thats nastyy. any other things would help! Please and thankkk youu!
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There is nothing dirty about that part of your body, so you don't need to be embarrassed by exposing it in appropriate situations such as at the waxing salon. Once it is shaved that area looks beautiful. The vagina is like a flower and shouldn't be hidden under the bushes *lol.
So do what you have to do without embarrassment!
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In my sixteen years, I have been in four relationships.
My first boyfriend was a sophomore when I was a freshman. He was very sweet and loving at first, and then took advantage of my stupidity and I ended up losing my virginity at the age of fourteen. I became scarred by the wounds he gave me, and I lost a lot of trust in myself and in relationships.
My second boyfriend was totally fake. I was his best friend and then we broke up after four months and he told me he never loved me and I was boring. I lost myself for a while, and in the months after I found who I was and healed.
My third boyfriend was the most amazing guy I have ever met. He and I had the greatest relationship. We had a full, open trust, long talks, and a great, faithful connection. I really felt in love with him. He broke it off with me in March because I was "depressing." He brought out the real me, and I was destroyed when we broke up. I still miss him to this day.
My last and most recent boyfriend didn't last very long. He and I talked for a while and then got together, and then because I was feeling doubtful and hurt, and he never made time for me, I broke up with him two days ago.
But now I am going into this stage again. I've been in it before. It's a stage I promised I'd never go back to. I've been depressed, hurt, angry, and lonely. I feel like I will never ever find anyone for me. Being a teenager sucks. I'm a very emotional person and I rely on others to make me happy. I'm in this constant longing, this yearning, for love, and I don't want my life to be constant heartbreak. I've had a low self-esteem lately, and I feel so lonely. I often think I will never ever like anyone again because I've been through all the people I could possibly like throughout my life. I never have felt anything recently for anyone, except for my best friend, but he rejected me....
I mean, is it normal to feel this way? Am I just going through what every teenage girl goes through?
I need a lot of advice on this.... thanks so much. (link)
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What you are experiencing isn't uncommon.
Women too often blame themselves for things that aren't their fault. What you need to do is relax, religitimize yourself as a person (for example, do you act ethically? Are you kind? Are you reasonable? etc. If the amnswers are yes, yes and yes then you're golden) and then ask yourself, "what am I learning here?" "What was my agenda in these relationships and what was his agenda?" "Am I acting out anything I've been experiencing at home (women often tend to find partners who behaved liked dad, both good and bad)?" And finally, "okay, now what would a successful strategy for my next relationship be?" To answer that last query, you have to know what you want and you have to know yourself without being so hypercritical that you almost psychologically abuse yourself. Just know what your virtues and faults are.
The sadness you feel is not just due to the native insecurity of teenagers, but to the lack of developed coping strategies due to your brain and life experiences still being in development. You'll get past it. We have all been there. Look at things in the long term, take charge of your life, like yourself and have a good definition of what makes you happy. And be grateful for the basic things in your life because that gives you a sense of proportion.
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do guys like it if girls masturbate? like.....
guy: do you masturbate?
girl: no
or
girl:yes
do they find it attractive or they don't care or they don't like it? (link)
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Yes, guys love it when a girl masturbates.
First, masturbation for both sexes is perfectly natural and is essential to learning what turns you on and how your body responds to sexual stimulation.
Also, mutual masturbation is hot and can be a fun alternative to sex. Show him how you like to touch yourself and maybe even let him try to replicate that on you and then he can respond in kind.
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My mum and dad are so controlling.
I'm fifteen years old and they wont let me out on my own. When I went on dates with me ex, they only let me go out for two hours.
How can i make them less controlling? (link)
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Demonstrating to them that you're responsible. Get good grades in school and don't hang out with chavs/douchebags.
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My dog is suppose to be put out,but I cannot get over it! What can I do to calm down about this? ;( (link)
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I know the feeling, dude. I had a dog pass more than a year ago due to cancer. So your situation is a really tough one. Just spend as much time with the poor pup as you can before you finally make that trip to the vet. It's about all you can do.
Well, that and going to the pound and saving another dog or two and giving it/them a loving home.
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Ok so me and my boyfriend had an amazing easter together. He invited me to his family reunion and i got to meet all of them for the first time. It was great I loved it. Then we had to leave because there was a tornado. And I was scared because we were driving through it. Then I felt save with him. He finally dropped me home.
Then the next day he talks to this girl on facebook. I get mad because I thought he loved me. I know it was stupid I was just a little mad though. We were going to hang out Tuesday since I had work on Monday. Then he tells this other girl about me and how I overreacted about it. So she's like I'm gonna piss her off and write on your wall and flirt with you. And he was ok with that because he didn't stop her. Then I get home and read it and I get so mad. I couldn't control my anger. He was telling me I had anger issues. I told him I was mad at him because he didn't need to make me madder than I already was.
Then I said I'm gonna block you. He didn't want me to block him. Then I ignored him for 2 hours. He finally talked to me and said there was nothing going on between the two girls. He loves me. And the thing that really pissed me off was he's like "I love that you care about it" and I said I don't fu*cking care about you anymore. He got mad and I dissed him more. Then he's like Goodbye, I'll miss you so much.
I didn't respond because I thought it wasn't real.
It's been 2 days straight. He blocked me on facebook, on skype, deleted my number (one of my friends told me that) and he just hasn't talked to me.
I know it's both of our faults. I know he was sick of the relationship. I know it's over between us. That was just the stupidest way to end it over a text.
I'm really strong about it because I've been hanging out with my friends and trying to move on because I want to he's a bad guy for me. He unblocked me on facebook today but we're not friends.
I know he wants nothing to do with me but I really miss him. I wish it didn't have to end...especially this way...
What do I do? I know I have to move on but I love him so much, I can't stand life without him. It's hard. I was with him for almost 2 years I want to be in a relationship with someone who really loves me. Because he never came back :'(
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Yeah, here is the problem:
Women are security driven. This causes them to be competitive with each other for male attention. Getting away from his flirtation on Facebook (btw, people, get the hell off of that will ya? Only insecure people use it), you obviously don't feel confident of yourself or otherwise you wouldn't have hit the roof until you knew something concretely sexual had happened between them, which, of course, didn't.
Women also love nothing more than to take guys away from other women (go to a singles bar and see how much play guys wearing wedding rings get sometime) because it is a sign to them of their attractiveness, which makes women feel secure. This is why the other girl was going in for the kill by getting your goat.
For the guy, it makes him feel like a stud. To have chicks fighting over you just freaking rocks in the same way women love guys getting into fights over them.
So don't go back to him because you know that the relationship is over. You would just be trying to reclaim your territory from teother chick, which is totally counterproductive and, may I say, pathetic. But you also need to learn from your mistakes here and relax and don't be such an emotional minefield.
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why do guys like to go in deep? (link)
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Why do girls like it deep? Because it feels good.
Also, you have to realize the whole dominance aspect of male behavior. By penetrating you a guy feels like he is dominating you and the deeper and harder he goes the more he feels like he is the man.
Look at it this way: sports are little more than domination games and guys vicariously, by routing for their teams to win, are looking for domination when they watch them.
Look at how guys interact with their friends. there is usually a definite pecking order. One is the leader and is often the biggest and strongest of the lot and then it goes down from there. That is why guys bond with each other by doing stuff while women, who are security centered, bond through self disclosure.
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