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Is it normal? And why do I feel so gross?
I'm sixteen and a female.
This is weird for me to post advice about this on here, but whatever.
I masturbate frequently. I mean, not crazy, like to the point it runs my life, but about two or three times a day. Sometimes it's because I'm turned on for a random reason, or just because it feels good. But sometimes I just feel so gross afterwards.
I also watched some porn last night and today. I feel so nasty afterwards and I don't want to feel that way because it is normal, right? So why do I feel so disgusted after I do those types of things?
Thanks a lot!
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What you're doing is NOT uncommon.
Your feelings of disgust are due to bad programming, that masturbation is somehow dirty or depraved, which is far from the truth. It is a necessary part of discovering how we function sexually and someday you will teach a partner about where and how to touch you thanks to that experience.
So my advice is to relax, enjoy your orgasms and don't let what you perceive to be the opinions/bs of others to get in your way of good, healthy and harmless fun. It is your life and only you can live it, so do what makes you happy. Allowing others to sabotage your life by filling your head with silly fairy tales and fear mongering will end badly.
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Ok I would firstly like to say, I get where MCC is coming from about your religion but DUDE soooo not cool. Masturbation is perfectly normal and most teenagers do it instead of going and having sex each time they are horny! THat wierd feeling is something that some people experience and trust me it goes away. If anything try to slow down on the masturbating and the feeling will slowly cease. INbox me if you have any other questions.
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No! Its not normal for a person to masturbate and watch porn. Those are just lies that society made up. The Bible says in
1st Corinthians 6:18
'FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY. EVERY SIN THAT A MAN DOES IS OUTSIDE THE BODY BUT HE WHO COMMITS SEXUAL IMMORALITY SINS AGAINST HIS OWN BODY. OR DO YOU NOT KNOW THAT YOUR BODY IS THE TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT WHO IS IN YOU, WHOM YOU HAVE FROM GOD, AND YOU ARE NOT YOUR OWN.
Now why do you feel gross & nasty?? because the Holy Spirit who is in you is guiding you and telling you that what your doing is against God's will. If it was God's will you wouldn't feel that way. Follow the Holy Spirit its guiding you my dear. Masturbation and pornography have many negative effects. You may not see them now but they are their in the long run. It would be better avoid them now and
1)be obedient to God
2)save yourself some trouble in the future.
If you want to know if its normal and right then 1st consult God the All Knowing one- Read the Bible- you'll clearly understand why you feel disgusted. because you have the wonderful counsellor(The Holy Spirit) in you who is guiding you. No its not normal at all.
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When I was your age, I would play with myself 3 or 4 times a day sometimes. So, you are perfectly normal. I think I would do it just because I was bored but usually I was turned on by something. I would find candles or anything I could around the house to use as a dildo to make myself orgasm. There were a few occasions where I would have a slight guilty feeling after I came but it would go away soon after. I'm guessing your gross feelings are similar to my guilty feelings, so there's nothing wrong with you there. When I was younger, my older sister said it was better to masturbate, than to bang a bunch of guys. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
Let me start by saying masturbation is totally normal. Most teenagers masturbate, be they boys or girl, to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes brought on by puberty. A recent report relates that as many as 90% of the population masturbate. Now this would include adults as well as teenagers and such acts as mutual masturbation, hand jobs, fingering and oral sex. One could define masturbation or mutual masturbation as any sexual activity other than intercourse. Masturbation is a natural way to relive this tension.
Most religions including the Catholic Church condone masturbation; if this is so why do parents and church elders tell children it is wrong to masturbate? The only reason I can think of is the pleasure received from masturbating leads to wanting the pleasure of actual intercourse. In a sense there is a double standard here. As mutual and some people even use single masturbation as a form of foreplay, adults are telling children that something they do on a regular basis is wrong. Well if it is wrong or sinful for the children, would it not be wrong for the adults.
What my wife and I told our children is that masturbation or mutual masturbation is a safe way to satisfy desire without the chance of anyone getting pregnant. There is nothing dirty or disgusting about masturbation; it is a safe way to satisfy a natural urge. The only time masturbation is wrong is when the urge to masturbate precludes doing everything else.
I hope this answers your question. There is no reason to feel as you do other than at some time in your up bringing you were told it was wrong to masturbate. Masturbation is a safe way for you to relieve the sexual tensions you are feeling now due to puberty and in the future when you and you partner are not together. There is also nothing wrong with watching porn. Visual stimulation works well with the fantasies of masturbation and as long as it does not become an all encompassing habit there is nothing wrong in watching it.
Just lock your bedroom door so you are not disturbed.
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