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Why is my dad cussing too much?
My dad sometimes uses cussing for fun and in mean ways like h-ll,s--t,d--n,and a-s.What can I do to hear less cussing from him?
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Leave your dad alone. Crikey, if that is the worst thing your dad does you're pretty well off. Don't try to be everybody's moral police. Take care of your own stuff and be an example is about the best you can do in this regard.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.
Some people feel that to prove you are an adult you need to pepper you speech with four letter words. This is not true.
I was at a meeting one time when one of my co-worker said to our boss that he has never heard me cuss. Our boss replied that I don't cuss. I replied that I know all the words but feel in our line of work we should be able to articulate what needs to be said without the use of cuss words.
You see we were salesman and sales managers at this meeting. Our jobs required that we meet with people in places where cussing might be appropriate as well as where it was not. I choose not to cuss at all so as not to mistakenly cuss at the wrong time.
I tell you this to make a point. There is a time when cussing can be permissible and may even be appropriate. It is not appropriate anywhere it upsets someone else.
So you might want to remind dad that he is not at work and you hear enough cussing outside of home and would appreciate it if he could curb his language when you are home together.
There are many different ways you can tell your dad this. You can do so in a letter which you start by telling him how much you love him and how much you would like other people to respect him. Then go on to ask if he cusses at work as much as he does at home. You might use some of what I said about being articulate enough to say what needs to be said without cussing to gain peoples respect. Which is another reason for doing so.
In the products I represented for so many years it was expected that I would have a higher education level than those I needed to inter-act with. It did not make me better than them. For instance I might know how what I sold worked and how it should be installed. Ask me to install it and I was lost. The men that installed it cussed and swore like nobody knows, I think it helps the installation I'm not sure.(lol)
Fact is there is a time and a place where cussing may be appropriate, home is not the place. This is what you need to get across to your dad. I'll even bet dad is not aware of how much he cusses until you bring it up. So try to be gentle in telling him and not to do so in a manner that will embarrass him.
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You should defintly talk to him about it. That is innapropriate and he should realize it. If it don't work I would talk to your mom about it or another trusted adult. I hope I helped good luck(:
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Have you tried talking to him about it? If not just let him know you think he is cussing to much and you really don't want to be around him when he does. This is only my opinion. Hope I could help(:
~Punkett
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