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Q: How do you earn your new friend's trust?
like with a secrets and stuff how can i prove her that im trustworthy and good at keeping secrets?ive known her for 3 months

Just wait. that is something your friend needs to decide weather she can trust you enough. dont beg her to know her secert just be her friend and be there for her.

Q: Okay, I'm on the pill but lets just say that i'm not so good about taking them at the same time everyday, i always take it between 7-10am though. So, i got done with this last pack and when it was time for my period... nothing... next day.... nothing. What does that mean? Could i be pregnant? my pack only has four pills for the days when your supposed to have your period so if it never starts do i just start my next pack? If i am pregnant couldn't that be really bad for a baby? Bottom line is I really don't want to be pregnant.

I amnot sure the type of pill your on. but i would go to your doctor and ask her or him. it isn't good for a baby but you need to find out or not because it could possible harm the child. i know doctors state you need to take the pill every day at the same time. so yours may not have worked.

Q: I am 16 and have been sweating excessively this last year, I am not that healthy of and eater anymore and I do drink lots of soda. I have a gained weight, not too much, but I do need to lose weight, which I plan to do. I get very embarassed at school and I wear my coat or a sweater to try to hide it. But it is spring. I have a drysol (prescription) deoderant. It didn't work.
Please help if you have or know someone who has had this problem. Would it help if I lost weight and ate healthier?

I use secert the ones that have different sents. i went through that as well. i was very embarssed. i talked to my doctor they didnt help me i used to put tissues there or go to the bathroom and wipe it. try that deoderant. but i grew out of it.

Q: Okay so this guy i am dating is 16 and im 14 so i really like him he has a great personality and every thing i wanted and he Tell's me he love's me and everything,But how do i tell my mom im dating him when she does not want me to have a boyfriend or anything and i think it make's it even worst that he is 16 because i think she will be really upset with me and i don t want to make her mad at me for that.

Just let her know. Mom i am dating a boy who is 16 and before you say anything i wanted to tell you because keeping it from you would make things worse. let her know you would like her to meet him. tell him his name and age. etc. good luck.

Q: 19/f

I've been dating my boyfriend for about three months, and even though we are not the same religion, it's not an issue because we're both open-minded and we don't try to push our ideas on each other. But his mother is very religiously Catholic, and she told my bf that she thinks I'm corrupting him because I'm Buddhist. In truth, my bf has been Agnostic for almost 2 years, and I have nothing to do with his religious point of view.

My bf also told his mom that we're sexually active, assuring her that we always have protected sex and that we're in love. His mom flipped, said I was tearing her family apart, and now he and I can't hang out at his house- we have to go out or chill at MY house.

He and I are both committed to this relationship, and we're planning on staying together for as long as possible. Is there anything I can do to get his mother's blessing?

maybe you should write her a note or talk to her over the phone since your not allowed over there. let her no how you feel. tell her mam.. i really love your son and i would like to stay with him i just wish i can earn your blessing some way. let her know your son choice his religion on his own before we started dating. I dont mind what religion he is nor does he car what religion i am. its just our beliefs and we love each other.

Q: Okay, so basically my boyfriend promised me he'd see me today, and sleep over tonight.

However just before he was about to leave, he told me he couldn't come because he wanted to do a few chores. He didn't have to, but he wanted to get them done.

It's kinda stupid, but I'm a bit disappointed and angry at him. I didn't show that to him, I told him it was fine and I understood, because it'd be silly to actually argue with him over it.

But I feel guilty for feeling this way, it's not his fault.

I know it's pathetic, but I seriously wouldn't have cared if he said "I can't see you today, I have stuff to do"

It was that he was like "Yeah sure! Promise I'll see you today, and for once I'll be able to sleep over" but then just before he leaves he texts me saying "Sorry can't come over, If I don't do this stuff I won't be able to do it until tomorrow"

:(

has he stayed the night with you before? maybe he is nervous to stay the night with you if he hasnt?

Q: I'm 18/female.
My period was due today(March 12), Im always right on time but I had protected sex last night and my period hasn't come yet so I was wondering, If i have sex(protected of course) a night before my period is due, what happens? When will my period come?

dont stree out about it. stress backs your period come late. give it a week or so.

Q: what exactly is a "rough patch" in a relationship?

a rough patch is like when you fight a lot. seems dont think to be turning out the way you planned. but it is just a patch a rough start that you can fix. dont get all worked up about it talk to your other about it. tell them you want to fix it. if that is what you want.

Q: Hi i'm 18 years old and I've been going out with my boyfriend for three years and the past few months haven't been the greatest I mean I just feel like we are falling apart. And just the other day I saw this guy that I use to have a huge crush on and now we have talked on the computer I few different times. I can not get this guy out of my head. I mean I can't sleep I can't hardly do anything because it hurts so much because I want to tell him how I feel but I can't stand the thought of him not liking me back and I just don't know what to do!! please help!!

First off in my opinion lose the boyfriend. You are not happy there is no reason to put your self through that. I put my self through that with my recent ex and we were falling apart because he had been cheating. Drop him. with this old/new guy. Tell him I used to have a crush on you (randomly bring it into a convo.) see how he reacts. Ask him to hang out if he reacts in a good way.. dont be shy and if he turns your dad dont seem down turn your head up and live the single life. its never a bad way to go.

Q: Okay, well for Valentines day my boyfriend bought me this really pretty necklace. It wasn't an expensive expensive type, however it was from a jewellers store, not an accessories store so it's worth a bit of money.

Anyway, he's not one to throw around his money. He comes from a very poor working-class family, and he doesn't make a lot of money himself, so for him this was probably a big thing.

I'm gonna guess the necklace was between 30-50 dollars, and that's what I'm really hoping with what I'm about to ask...

He slept over at my house last night. When we went to bed I took the necklace off and put it on my bedside table. In the morning, I went for my phone to check the time and I flipped everything off it. Including the necklace.

I just came home from work and realised that my necklace was part of the stuff that flipped. I found the chain, but the pink pendant/charm thingy (the thing that makes the necklace a necklace) is gone.

There's abosolutely no way to find it. My room is HELLA messy, plus I'm fair sure it dropped into a box full of absolute crap, and even if I took everything out I wouldn't be able to find it, it's so tiny and would fall out once I move around stuff.

So now I'm really nervous about telling him. As I said, that's a big deal to him, and I'm scared he'll react about the sentimental value as well.

I could always not tell him...but I always wore it, and he'd eventually ask why I don't wear it anymore...

I think if the necklace means as much to you as it does to him. why not go slow with cleaning your room in the end you will have a clean room and probably the piece to the necklace. take your time while cleaning and be careful when moving everything around.

Q: I don't know if this helps, but I have like bronchitis or just a really bad cough.

But anyway, I was at my boyfriend's house and we were making out and I had just given him a blow job and stuff and then I started having really bad menstural-like cramps but my period just ended like a week ago. I was ovulating too. And they kept getting worse and worse to the point where I was on the floor curled up in a ball yelling and practically pulling my hair out in pain. Then I got up to put my clothes back and got nausicous (sp?) and went and threw up and I was perfectly fine after except I was bleeding really bad like I was having a really heavy period. I am 15 and started my period when I was 13. I looked up symptoms on mayoclinic.com and I saw the exact immediate symptoms for ovarion cysts. Could this be it? What's wrong with me?

Thanks in advance!

No one on here can answer your question with a certain answer. I believe you should go and speak with your doctor. Tell them excatly what you have told us. You can ask to speak to your doctor with out your parents around.

excuse me but that was no way to talk to a person whom was trying to give you advice... and when i had strep throat my last doctors visit was on a SUNDAY and my town is big on church.. so you dont have to try and act smart. thank you very much. and yeah you should.

Q: 22/male

I'll try to keep this short, here are the facts:

She's super cute, definitely a 10.
I'm an average looking guy, shy, but people tell me I'm really nice and sweet.
I've partied with her 3 times, and she has been nice to me in person even though I've been somewhat shy.
She has relationship problems, guys always treat her like crap for some reason.
I live an hour away now, but I move to her town in 4 months.

Recently, she's been talking to me quite a bit, and saying she wants to hang out with me. But I know she hangs out with a lot of guys. And she knows that I'm moving down to her town soon.

I think I'm probably a good change from her bad relationships. Is that unheard of for her to go for a guy like me? Could it last or am I just a stopgap until her next ahole guy?

I am going to tell you my situation. I am younger than you but maybe my advice can help you. I am Average looking female who moved to a small town 7 months ago. had a rough start. A guy added me to myspace. He was always the type of guy that was into super model girls, partying, drinking, some drugs. That kind of stuff. I am a young teenage mother, working and starting college. We started talking making it clear we could be friends. Talking got us to relize all we could think about was each other (after a few months of talking) we hung out a few times. I was the first girl he stayed a whole night with the first girl to bring to family functions, the first girl to meet his mother. we live together now, engaged. anything is possible and maybe this female relizes that you are different from the guys she is used to. talk to her. get to know her and hang out with her. good luck!

Q: So, I met my current girlfriend at work. After she got moved to another store, we decided to date, and I soon after quit working for the company all together. At her new store, she works overnight shifts which require her to be by herself with one other clerk employee from 12:30am until 8am. She has befriended one of the overnight clerks that she works with (there are only two) and this clerk is the only person she has made friends with at this new store.

My girlfriend and I have been together six months, and there is quite an age difference between us. The clerk is closer to my girfriend's age than I am, so that makes me insecure. She assures me all the time that she doesn't like this clerk in "that way" at all, but I still get nervous. The clerk is gay (as am I, and obviously, my girlfriend) so it does broaden the chances of something happening between the two of them.

My girlfriend has told me before that she has gone out to breakfast with Angela (the clerk), but at first she told me that she just went to breakfast then randomly told me a week or so later that it was with Angela. Angela has also come over to my girlfriend's place for breakfast and spent 3 hours there, after working by themselves for eight hours.

My girlfriend informed me the other day that Angela broke up with her girlfriend, so my girlfriend is going to take Angela to one of the local gay bars to "meet someone new".

My girlfriend has said before that she'd been worried about "gravitating towards someone else" because distance has been an issue between the two of us, and I have told her my discomfort with Angela and she said if it bothered me then she wouldn't hang out with her outside of work. (Sorry if this seems scattered, just trying to hit all the details.)

So, am I out of line in wanting to tell her that I don't want her going out to the bar with Angela? Am I out of line in being uncomfortable with the two of them being together outside of work, and even inside of work since they spend so long together by themselves (aside from the stray customers)? Help please.

Why can't you go to the bar with the two of them. Why can't you all hang out sometime. Maybe get to know this Angela girl, maybe she isn't half bad and really friends with your girlfriend. jealousy is a major problem in relationships and i know the people you work with become good friends because your with each other for so many hours and talk to each other about your problems, etc. that can also cause problems. rumors etc. try talking to your girlfriend. seeing if you cant go to the bar to.. or maybe all of you go out to dinner or something.

Q: I'm a 21 yr old female who just got out of a 2 yr. relationship and I've finally found someone that can make me feel things I've never felt before. This guy is 22 I've known him since I was 5 we've been close friends on and off. He's asked me out in the past but I've rejected him. Well now that we started to reconnect We somehow found ourselves falling for each other.He is everything I've ever wanted but he has a girlfriend of 2 yrs. on and off. He claims they are doomed and he is trying to break up with her and he is also going to therapy for me to find a conventional way of breaking it off. They really do not get along, all they do is fight but he just doesn't know how to leave her. Well it's been a couple months and he is making progress. But I catch him in these lies all the time about everything. He claims I'm what he wants and we could be so perfect together. We are pretty much the same person in every aspect. Well I just don't know where to go with this. I can't seem to just walk away. I hate distancing myself. It just feels like we could be so right together but I'm scared this is a hopeless case and I'll be cleaning my heart up off the floor by time I am done. I'm just such a mess about it.

If you are what he is really looking for in a female. Breaking up with his girlfriend would be easy. I am not saying what he is saying to you is a lie but it may not be the whole truth. Ask him about it. Tell him that you really love him and its been a couple months now its time to just pick because you are sitting on the side line waiting for someone whom may never stay.

Q: Hi, i have a question regarding my dreams. I have a boy close friend
and we had a misunderstnding. We havent talk for 4 months until now.
I been dreaming of him for 4 times already but in my dreams we also
didnt talk. What do you think the message of my dream?

i think you are just dreaming of what is going on in your life and how bad it is bothering you.

Q: There is this guy that I am sort of "talking to" and tonight he was trying to upload pictures on to his myspace, but he was having some trouble, so he asked me to do it for him. Okay, no problem.

So he gives me his username and password so I log in and start uploading his pictures. Well I become more then tempted to look in his inbox see who hes been chatting with. So I do and theres about five different girls that he's sending messsages to.

He calls them "hun" and "baby", "babe", "sweetheart", "beautiful"... the works. So heres my problem with the whole situation. Tonight we were having a sort of "deep convrsation" and I said "listen, you know that I don't talk to any guys or hang out with any guys but you, so where do you stand with the same situation"? Well he pretty much said I don't call or hang out with any other girls. I dind't get the impression that he was haning out with any of the girls yet or anything like that.

I really wanted to say what about online, but i figured that would be too obvious. I just don't know what to do about it without saing that I looked in his inbox.

Any advice would be so helpful.

i would let it slide. see where your two relationship takes you. jealous is a big problem between couples now a days. My fiance got me over jealousy by talking about taylor swift. now i hate her to death. but when i do get a little jealous i just keep it in because i know he wouldnt hurt me like that. Just continue talking to him ask him if he has ever cheated on girl before you know get to know him before you to start dating.

Q: I go to school in a dominantly rich area. Most of the kids at my high school are very well off. Amazing cars, credit cards, all the money they can spend, the latest technology things, just have anything and everything they want. I'm not as well of as these kids so it's kind of hard for me to fit in. The girls here almost never wear the same thing twice, they carry extremely expensive hang bags, just the works. I just need some advice on how to fit in here.. I'm not going to have the latest phone, the coolest car, and I wear the same jeans like twice a week. Thanks

Yeah it is very hard to fit in. But why bother fitting in people will like you for your personality why should someone like you for what you own. remember when you get out of high school, and your out on your own one day . Those kids will more than likey not living off of there parents income there whole life. they are going to relize how hard it really is.

Q: my sister in law really hates me... ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months and he recently got kicked out of his house and is living with my family and me...it wasn't entirely my fault though is friend was in on it to and he wasn't forced into anything...but his sister has been threatening me and saying that i fucked up his whole life and just making me feel like shit [[she lives in Idaho,were in Anaheim]] but still evrything she says makes me feel bad my boyfriend says to ignore her because she hormonal and pregnant but like i realy feel like telling her to shut the fuck up because she doesnt know what living in his house was like [[he was adopted..and hated it there]] so yea i kinda wanna yell at her but then i dont because my boyfriend and i would like to get married and i dont want to have an "i hate you bitch" relationship with her...so how can i tell her to butt out in a way that straight but no like fuck you kinda way??

Tell her something like this:: You know your brother and I are hoping to get married one day, I really love him and he really hated living at the house to begin with. I dont want to fight with you or argue with you. I just wish you would give me a chance and get to know me, I dont want you to hate me.

Q: hey

im pretty sure i have depression and i have a lot of issues and problems and i used to cut to cope but i gave up 8 weeks ago. but im struggling to cope now. my mum has a vague idea of my depression but other than that know else knows.

i tried counselling but it didnt help. i do want to get better. im going to university in september and i dont want to turn up with all my problems.

im thinking of going to the doictors to see if i can get some anti-depressents but i dont want my mum to find out so im not sure if that it'll work cos im still 17.

also i was thinking about therapy where the thearapist can help me out and give me advice (the counseller didnt do any of that) i think i can only talk freely to a stranger cos id find it hard to talk to friends or family.

im just really stuck on what to do cos im fairly sure i cant beat all of it on my own.

any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks x

Let your solutions to your problems come to you. Dont try and solve all your problems on your own it makes things much harder. I went through some pretty bad depression, the medication I had taken made me worse than I was before. But I only tried two different kinds than convinced them to stop giving it to me. I over came my depression by getting ride of what was causing me to be depressed. I focosed on my school work, My family and friends on having a good time, good music to cheer me up etc. go get a good massage and stuff.

Q: 16/f
Two weeks ago I invited 7 camp friends for a dinner party which I had on Friday. One of these people is a guy I like who worked in the same group as me and my best friend this past summer at camp (he sort of knew I like him, [long story] and I'm not sure if he still thinks I like him but he might, & I'm pretty sure he didn't like me back but everything worked out cause we talked about it and we'e still friends even though it was sort of awkward for a couple days). I sent an email invitation to all the people I was inviting in the same message on Facebook so I wouldn't have to send a bunch of different emails. People were sending messages back & forth within the message so I know he saw this invitation. Everybody answered within about 4-5 days after I sent it except for him. I sent him a separate message a week after I invited everybody asking if he was coming, and he never answered. Two days before the party, I asked my best friend to ask him, and he never answered her, and he was online all day so I'm sure he saw it. Some of my other friends and my cousin advised me not to say anything else to him, saying if he didn't end up coming it was his loss, or I'd just be pissing him off if I kept bothering him. He didn't show up last night. I briefly checked AIM during the night several times when nothing much was going & saw that he was on AIM, not away or idle, each time I checked. When I told some of my camp friends about it they were surprised saying that that's not like him, and I do agree, because he is a really, really nice person, we're still friends, and we always had fun working together during camp (we haven't talked much since camp ended, but we're still friends). I was also confused because I invited him to my birthday party a month ago that he legitimately wasn't able to come to, but said something to me about it. I'm very confused and disappointed about why he ignored my invitation, didn't show up, and sat on the computer all day instead. I know he doesn't hate me and we're friends, and I'm sure he would've wanted to see other camp people too. What might be a possible reason someone would do that? Should I confront him?

something may have been bothering him, being the only guy, etc. there could be a million and one reasons why he didn't come or respond. maybe iming him on aim next time he is on.. like Hey, what are you doing? or How are you or something to that.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.