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do I have a right to be a LITTLE bit angry/disappointed?
Okay, so basically my boyfriend promised me he'd see me today, and sleep over tonight.
However just before he was about to leave, he told me he couldn't come because he wanted to do a few chores. He didn't have to, but he wanted to get them done.
It's kinda stupid, but I'm a bit disappointed and angry at him. I didn't show that to him, I told him it was fine and I understood, because it'd be silly to actually argue with him over it.
But I feel guilty for feeling this way, it's not his fault.
I know it's pathetic, but I seriously wouldn't have cared if he said "I can't see you today, I have stuff to do"
It was that he was like "Yeah sure! Promise I'll see you today, and for once I'll be able to sleep over" but then just before he leaves he texts me saying "Sorry can't come over, If I don't do this stuff I won't be able to do it until tomorrow"
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i say you should be a little upset because he let you down but its no reason to be really upset, you should understand that he had other things to do and sometimes guys just need their space. Just forget about it, you guys will eventually get more time together.
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Yea maybe you be just a little dramatic ut as long as hes not cheating or lieing you should appriciate him and cherish him cause there arent that many faithful good men out there! Let him know Why you feel this way and tell him not to make plans with you any more unless he knows hes gonna stick to them if you really feels this strongly!
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Okay, look. you can't be mad with him or upset with him until you talk to him about why he backed out at the last minute. I mean, he could be nervous and totally got like freaked out, or he might have thought it wasn't a good idea and couldn't think of a better excuse because he knew you'd get mad. so when you speak with him, don't flip. Just ask him about his actions and that he can tell you anything and you won't get upset or anything. Maybe something is going on and he needs your help. guys are pretty complicated. and tghey tend to hide their feelings and try to make you happy, when they know that what they promise they can't follow through with it.
it sucks, yes, but if this was the case, then at least he wants to make you happy :] but seriously.. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. i promise, if you talk to him, you'll find out what's wrong. and i don't break promises.
Oh and you do have some right to be upset. he shouldn't make promises he can't keep. thats like saying you'll be home for dinner and never coming home. not cool. so you can be upset, but don't let that show when you talk to him, until after you hear his reasonings. just ask him why he felt the need to do his chores right when he was going to come see you. maybe awkward situations scare him.
I have maybes for you because I don't know the definites. He has his own reasons, and i have my guesses on those, but you should find out why and get it all sorted out. you'll feel so much better. and i think the main reason why you're upset is that he made an "excuse" or a way out. like you weren't good enough for the truth. you know? and I know how that feels. don't worry though, I'm here for you if you have any other questions or anything. just inbox me ! and keep me posteddd.
xxo good luck, hope I helped :] !
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has he stayed the night with you before? maybe he is nervous to stay the night with you if he hasnt?
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