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I go to school in a dominantly rich area. Most of the kids at my high school are very well off. Amazing cars, credit cards, all the money they can spend, the latest technology things, just have anything and everything they want. I'm not as well of as these kids so it's kind of hard for me to fit in. The girls here almost never wear the same thing twice, they carry extremely expensive hang bags, just the works. I just need some advice on how to fit in here.. I'm not going to have the latest phone, the coolest car, and I wear the same jeans like twice a week. Thanks
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Treat having less money as a fact rather than a status symbol.
The trick to being accepted is not giving a damn about it. If someone asks you if you have something, say no in the most unconcerned tone imaginable. "Nah" works really well.
The trick to this, is to be admiring without caring. The attitude of "thats cool, its probably nice to have one, I just don't know what I'd do with it" is about as close as I can describe it. When someone shows off something, act interested, but don't ever seem bothered by the fact that you don't have one too. When someone asks you why about anything you own, respond with "It fits me"
This part is where you get to have fun with it. Pick things you like. Wear things that look nice. Pay attention to your appearance and always look like however you'd like within your means. Establish yourself as comfortable with yourself and people will envy YOU.
I've had to deal with the same things for different reasons. I was well off enough for everything I'd wanted when I was a kid. By this, I mean that I had simple tastes and wasn't concerned with things like how I looked or what I had as long as it served my purposes.
I didn't have a cell phone until the end of high school (didn't want one) and once I finally bought one, it was a simple solid state phone that cost like 70 bucks before coupons and rebates. I don't think I paid a dime for it with my contract.
People would ask me why I didn't have a kickass phone. I would respond by pulling my phone out and dropping it on the ground, then picking it up and saying "that happens all the time. I wanted a phone that can withstand punishment and be easily replaceable"
Then I'd offer to try that with their expensive sliding/folding/picture taking/mp3 player phones to see the result. I was always declined.
All I had to do was establish that I had my own reasons for what I wanted. It helped that I often did, but thats not entirely necessary to start out with. Just pretend, and do what you like. Eventually you will enjoy making your own decisions about what looks good and not caring what other people think, and that confidence in your own choices will be a bit more real.
You gotta insulate yourself. This hurts because you want all these things and are jealous, and that jealousy is something others can see. If you stop yourself and just learn to like what you have, other people won't be worried about it either. Kids in school who were different and fine with it always seemed to do well socially, because if you're ok with the way you are others assume there are good reasons and will go along with it, giving you more chances. Just be nice, friendly, and interested along with the confidence you project, and remember that these are teenaged kids just the same as you. Having money isn't going to solve all their other insecurities, worries, and everything else.
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Yes it is very hard to fit in trust me. Put to tell the truth be your self, don't care what they say. Be you and everything come out right. I know it will be difficult being the only one with expensive stuff. It is hard to fit in just be yourself.
You can email me at Nagalie4lyfe@gmail.com
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Yeah it is very hard to fit in. But why bother fitting in people will like you for your personality why should someone like you for what you own. remember when you get out of high school, and your out on your own one day . Those kids will more than likey not living off of there parents income there whole life. they are going to relize how hard it really is.
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