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Sleeping with guy who has a girlfriend
I'm a 21 yr old female who just got out of a 2 yr. relationship and I've finally found someone that can make me feel things I've never felt before. This guy is 22 I've known him since I was 5 we've been close friends on and off. He's asked me out in the past but I've rejected him. Well now that we started to reconnect We somehow found ourselves falling for each other.He is everything I've ever wanted but he has a girlfriend of 2 yrs. on and off. He claims they are doomed and he is trying to break up with her and he is also going to therapy for me to find a conventional way of breaking it off. They really do not get along, all they do is fight but he just doesn't know how to leave her. Well it's been a couple months and he is making progress. But I catch him in these lies all the time about everything. He claims I'm what he wants and we could be so perfect together. We are pretty much the same person in every aspect. Well I just don't know where to go with this. I can't seem to just walk away. I hate distancing myself. It just feels like we could be so right together but I'm scared this is a hopeless case and I'll be cleaning my heart up off the floor by time I am done. I'm just such a mess about it.
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Beware of seeing things only the way you'd
like them to be. Don't step into a
relationship with anyone who is still in a
long term relationship. He is still there
because he wants to be. Make no mistake about
that. You don't need to be hurt again right
now.
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I've been there. I really have. You need to see how much of what he says is true. No guy would go to such extremes to "TRY" to break up with their girlfriend. Try to figure out if he really is doing therapy. How much of their relationship do you see, and how much is he telling you?? If he wanted you the way he says he does, he'd be willing to leave her NOW! Theres also another aspect. He's been in a relationship for, i dont know how long, but if and when he does get out of that relationship he may want to be single for a while. And you're going to have to acccept that.
I cant even say how much i have been in your situation before... Its scarily similar. Talk to him. Does he really need all this time to break up with her? Why does he need it? Why cant he just leave her. If he loved you more than he loves her he'd leave her NOW!!
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If you are what he is really looking for in a female. Breaking up with his girlfriend would be easy. I am not saying what he is saying to you is a lie but it may not be the whole truth. Ask him about it. Tell him that you really love him and its been a couple months now its time to just pick because you are sitting on the side line waiting for someone whom may never stay.
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if you're really all he wants, he wouldnt have any trouble leaving his gf. he'd know exactly how to leave her, and he wouldnt have any problem with it.
go to him and tell him you're tired of being the bad person. (sleeping with him when he has a girlfriend is wrong on all levels, but you're just a victim here) tell him that you want to be with him, but it wont happen unless hes single.
if he really cares about you, when you say that he'll take immediate action.
if not, i dunno what to tell you, except that guys are impossible. -.-''
good luck :)
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Well k you need to tell the guy how you feel and just tell him the truth tell him that he needs to break up with the girl immediatly because it doesnt take months to do it all he has to say is that he doesnt have a strong connection with her and doesnt feel like things are working out or even going anywhere you just tell him that if he doesnt break up then he has to leave you alone because its unfair to you and to that girl i hope i helped good luck:D
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