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Caught in a lie.
There is this guy that I am sort of "talking to" and tonight he was trying to upload pictures on to his myspace, but he was having some trouble, so he asked me to do it for him. Okay, no problem.
So he gives me his username and password so I log in and start uploading his pictures. Well I become more then tempted to look in his inbox see who hes been chatting with. So I do and theres about five different girls that he's sending messsages to.
He calls them "hun" and "baby", "babe", "sweetheart", "beautiful"... the works. So heres my problem with the whole situation. Tonight we were having a sort of "deep convrsation" and I said "listen, you know that I don't talk to any guys or hang out with any guys but you, so where do you stand with the same situation"? Well he pretty much said I don't call or hang out with any other girls. I dind't get the impression that he was haning out with any of the girls yet or anything like that.
I really wanted to say what about online, but i figured that would be too obvious. I just don't know what to do about it without saing that I looked in his inbox.
Any advice would be so helpful.
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Lol. There are plenty of guys that say "Hun" and "Baby," some are very classy and just say it out of respect. Don't worry too much, at least he's not being all "Oh, you're so hot, I love you so much, BABY" right?
Please don't tell me it's a conversation on AIM, or something, deep conversations should deal with face to face.
Usually when you talk to someone in person, you can read their faces. So if he says "No I don't" coolly then he probably does that to a lot of girls.
Do you have a problem with him hanging out with other girls? Maybe your jealous. These feelings will pass sooner or later.
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Honestly, i say dont come clean and tell him you were looking through his stuff...
he doesnt really need to know...
just be like "i heard from people that you've been talking to other girls..."
and then he'll probably be like "who'd you here that from"
and you just have to say, "i cant tell you. i promised them i would NEVER tell and i dont break my promises. i know if you ever told me something you would never want me saying anything to anyone else and i expect the same from other people so i have to keep my promise."
and then be like "so can you please just be honest with me and tell me because i just need to know, and dont lie, because i'll eventually find out."
i really hope i helped.
:)
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Deer in the headlights response. If a girl I was interested in told me that I was the only guy she was interested in as a preface to asking if I was interested in anyone but her, I would probably lie in the moment. .
You put him on the spot having information you got by invading his privacy. You shouldn't have asked, and he shouldn't have lied. It was an instinctive "oh shit" reaction.
Come clean. Admit that you snooped and apologize for it. Admit that it made you a little jealous and you reacted to that without thinking. Promise not to violate his trust like that again.
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You two are "just talking" at the moment so you have no reason to get angry about it. If you were dating and he was doing that its a different story.
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i would let it slide. see where your two relationship takes you. jealous is a big problem between couples now a days. My fiance got me over jealousy by talking about taylor swift. now i hate her to death. but when i do get a little jealous i just keep it in because i know he wouldnt hurt me like that. Just continue talking to him ask him if he has ever cheated on girl before you know get to know him before you to start dating.
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just because he has a few girls he talks to online doesnt mean anything. i talk to a lot of guys online and i dont hang out or call any of them.
dont be so paranoid. as far as i know, you two arent dating so it shouldnt be any big deal.
but just dont let him know you read his inbox. thats a little bit stalkerish and might really piss him off.
take care! :)
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you should have just asked him if he talked to any girls period then he would have told you. but now just ask him where you two stand and if he likes you and stuff its the only way to know whats between you and obviously if you dont want him talking to other girls you like him.
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