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I can't take it anymore
Hi i'm 18 years old and I've been going out with my boyfriend for three years and the past few months haven't been the greatest I mean I just feel like we are falling apart. And just the other day I saw this guy that I use to have a huge crush on and now we have talked on the computer I few different times. I can not get this guy out of my head. I mean I can't sleep I can't hardly do anything because it hurts so much because I want to tell him how I feel but I can't stand the thought of him not liking me back and I just don't know what to do!! please help!!
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First off in my opinion lose the boyfriend. You are not happy there is no reason to put your self through that. I put my self through that with my recent ex and we were falling apart because he had been cheating. Drop him. with this old/new guy. Tell him I used to have a crush on you (randomly bring it into a convo.) see how he reacts. Ask him to hang out if he reacts in a good way.. dont be shy and if he turns your dad dont seem down turn your head up and live the single life. its never a bad way to go.
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That is very normal for relationships at the end of high school. Most people mature quite a bit throughout high school, and change more then they realize. You shouldn't worry about him liking you back. If it is really bothering you this much, just tell him how you feel. If people never took a risk in their life, we would all be dull and boring. Take a risk, it may change your life for the better.
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It sounds like you are really into your feelings heavy for this other guy because you view him as a possible escape from what you are going thru with your current boyfriend. It doesn't mean that the feelings are not real....they probably are since you've liked him in the past. You need to make sure you close one door before you open the other. If you do not sort out your feelings for your current boyfriend before jumping into another relationship, your feelings could switch back and forth between both guys. You don't want your heart involved in a tug of war situation, so if you are really finished with your current boyfriend then end the relationship with a clean break and be sure about your decision. As long as you would also end your relationship with your boyfriend without the promise of your crush being an option...you know you are doing it for you. Once you make the decision, commit to it and then you will truly be free to date someone else. The guy you have a crush on may feel the same way you do, but you will never know unless you explore. Rejection is always difficult to take, but if e isn't into you you will get over it and be fine again. The alternative of him never knowing how you feel and getting with someone else will always haunt you if you say nothing. You don't want to have the constant "what if" thoughts or regrets. Tell him a subtle way how you feel and just do it lightly and read his body language and response to you. You may be very suprised at the outcome. Good luck!
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