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pretty much all my friends have boyfriends & i feel so alone & i wanna boyfriend. i've had things with guys but never actually had a boyfriend. what should i do?
my friend might sleepver friday & i wanna look for guys or somethin
melissa (17 female) (link)
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While you might think hooking up with a random guy on Saturday is alright it may not be. Will you feel good afterward for doing it? Won't you be back to lonely and longing for something lasting the day after?
The problem is you want a trophy in a sense that you want a guy because well everyone else seems to have one. That's the wrong approach and why you aren't succeeding. Guys can sense the desperation even if it's not a vibe you think you are projecting.
The best thing to do is become friends with guys who are mature, not up to mind games, and someone you genuinely want to be around all the time. If you know some guys already see if they would like to get to know you better on a no-pressure date and see what happens.
Also, you could tell your friend I appreciate what you're trying to do about hooking me up but that's not for me. I want someone I connect with and that will always be around. Ask her if she knows anyone who would be a good match but tell her if that person just wants a random fling one night that you're not interested.
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About 2 years ago my mom and brother moved down south to live with my grandma to help her out after my grandpa died. I stayed here in NY because I wasnt ready to leave yet (friends, etc) and I was already going to college. I now have a job and still go to school 2 years later, but after visiting my mom I really do miss her and my whole family. I mean my whole family lives down south now pretty much. I live with my boyfriend up here but we're always on and off but I do care about him. And in NY everythings really expensive anyway,so I have been wanting to move down south. But, I think whats holding me back is the fact that I still do care about my boyfriend and all of my friends are up here. What should I do? Should I move down where my family is or stay here? (link)
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I would ask for a commitment from your boyfriend and tell him that you intend on moving back home as your family is there and you no longer feel satisfied in NYC.
You can always come and visit friends you have met while on vacation later on but if your gut says you need to be happy and finding happiness is with family than move.
You will eventually find a job there and a place in time. If this guy is just on and off again and can't commit to you and a desire to move maybe your gut is strongly indicating you need change.
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im 20 and he is 22. we have known each other for 6 years and dated on and off. we have been together now for almost a year. we live together now. as of lately though im not "lovey-dovey" i usually don't wanna cuddle or have sex or even kiss. what does this mean? i do love him, but maybe we aren't meant to be. i want to talk to him about this but im afraid he will get upset. what should i do? (link)
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Are you on any new medication that may have sexual side-effects such as lower libido or no desire? Are you depressed or have any other mental health issue? That could destroy desire as well.
Maybe you just are bored of the same routine and need to tell him and figure out ways to spice it up. At any rate you need to tell him that you love him and it isn't his fault but you both need to figure out why the desire for intimacy suddenly isn't there.
Tell him you feel upset and it's not him and want to investigate medical and other reasons together. If you really love someone and have had a 6 year bond it's important to try and keep it intact and look at all the reasons for the problem rather than bail on this without trying to fix it.
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My boyfriend and I are both in our early twenties, and I am looking for a great gift for him. The two of us have been together for almost two years, and this is the first year that I am getting anything for this specific day. Usually I get him really cool sports-related gifts, since that, Magic: The Gathering, and World of Warcraft are his main interests; for example for his birthday last July I purchased him Yankee tickets and we saw them play on Labor Day... he absolutely loved it.
I am extremely nervous right now since all I got J (my boyfriend) a white-and-pink teddy bear for Valentines Day, so far. The main reason is because I wanted to see my man's reaction when he saw that his girlfriend got him a very girly teddy bear, since I know that he has higher expectations from me... it is meant to be a gag gift. I was thinking of something sexy, like condoms – since he always says that he wants to use them and we never do... the two of us cannot afford a baby right now. But at the same time, I do not want for J to be like, “So first of all, she got me a girly teddy bear... now she buys me condoms... and what's this, a coupon book?” (I really like that idea for him, since as a young couple we are both highly sexual.)
Either way, I would really like to get my boyfriend a very hot and naughty gift. When I was looking at cosmopolitans list of sexy gifts, one of the suggestions was a panty-gram. I would really like to do something like that... but I keep thinking, women's underwear (even if there is a naughty message from me inside) and a pink and white teddy bear – what is he going to think? In my opinion, my J is very masculine and I just want to make him laugh... I do not want to make him feel insecure about my opinion of him.
Another issue is that I do not have much money, I am a college student and the only income that I have right now is from work study (and peer mentoring, which I will not have many hours for this semester). What are some suggestions for me to make up for the pink and white teddy bear gag gift?
While I sincerely do appreciate everyone's advice, I would really like it if a man between the ages of 21-30 responded to this question. (link)
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I think you have forgotten it's not the gift you buy that counts but the love behind it. Don't second guess yourself because you know what he's like and would love better than anyone here. Go with your gut.
You're also a creative gal who wants to do something original or that he will really get a kick out of.
I would suggest taking the bear and adding the coupon book, message etc, the gag gift you both talk about and a dinner you make yourself and bundle it together as one surprise. He may be masculine to the hilt but I know his heart will melt when he sees how hard you tried. It's not about the cost it's about symbolism and if that bear means something to you and he understands that it'll be fine.
As far as naughty gifts go if you did go that route and are 18+ any adult novelty place would have staff well educated on what could be a good idea for little cash as a valentine's day couple thing. But... I think sticking to what you already came with and consolidating all 3 ideas would more than be sufficient for any guy.
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I'm going to my first ever concert which is a rock concert (Papa Roach!) and I was wondering what to bring with me and what to wear there if you got any advise. Thanks. (link)
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WATER! It's essential to be well-hydrated and have access to bottled water at the venue. A lot of arenas because of the smoke, haze, and lights and other effects tend to have air of poor quality or that will make your mouth dry and scratchy. You're going to want a drink at some point.
Also, it can be very hot inside the arena or if you are standing in the stands or worse on the floor of the venue in like sardines so be sure to stick to jeans and T-shirt or a jacket and sweater you can shed as you might sweat a bit.
Aside from that the biggest thing you need is something you may not have ever considered. Every major concert worldwide is promoted by Live Nation with 10% that are done by AEG Live.
Why is this important? Well every venue on The Papa Roach tour will receive a technical rider and a breakdown second by second of what time certain things are to be done by and who goes on when and for how long.
If you call Fan Services at the arena 24 hrs prior to the show and ask for "SET TIMES" for Papa Roach they can tell you when main acts go on and end so you can show up later and miss what you don't want. It also helps as you can plan your transportation that way.
I know a lot of fans want to be surprised by what an artist sings and their encore but what most of them don't want you to know is that NOTHING usually is spontaneous the entire night as it's all timed and the lights and sound are in synch with a list of numbers that are to be performed at every stop.
There is a web site http://www.setlist.fm that if you punch in "PAPA ROACH" it will show you the songs they played every night of the tour are the same. So, if you hear a certain song and know it's close to the song that comes in the encore you can bail and not be stuck in crowds to get out. This is essential if you need to make a bus by a certain time.
Instead of a purse carry a wallet with you and cell phone in your pocket hidden from thieves and you should be fine. You may want to also ask the arena about binoculars because your view might not be good without 'em as well as read their banned items list for good measure.
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Okay so I was hanging out with a friend and she asked me what my favorite food is and I said Cotton Candy and she said it isn't a real food. So who do you think is right. (link)
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It falls in under junk food as it's a candy treat. It's mostly consisting of sugar, food coloring, corn syrup so I can see the friend arguing differently. So, unless someone proves me wrong which can happen although I doubt it as sure as you can eat it in bulk or at a carnival it's food.
While on the Internet I found a You-Tube tutorial that shows you how to make your own. You'll definitely need an adult assistant as it's messy and not easy to boil candy you make to the exact temperature without screwing up at least once.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-bG59cITaY
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Can I take summer classes if I get awarded for financial aid in the 2012-2013 year?
Can I take summer classes when I recieve financial aid? (link)
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Ask the financial aid department at whatever institution you are going to apply to what the rules are about summer courses and aid. I would venture to say NO and only full-time but such a policy and rules about money is something they can only answer for sure. They know the system inside out and we won't.
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This year I wanted to try out for XfactorUSA, the only thing is I have a lot of things or IMPORTANT things this year I have to take care of. I'm 13 year old and I'm not one of those kids who just wanna do it for fame. I want to do it to show a different part of music I think the world hasnt discovered yet. Real music, like tupac and biggie ll cool j. Bring back the lyrics and the beat that people once loved. Not about drugs But about love and hardship making it to the top. My mom is all up for it to go to Los Angeles to register for me to preform in front of the producers. I was also diagnosed with some knee problem common to girl athletes and scheduled to have surgery this year, I also have a one direction concert to and I hope that it doesn't fall on a day where I will hopefully make it to perform in front of hundreds plus the judges. I don't know if I should wait or go with my gut. I always take the safe route and I'm ready for a risk that I'm willing to take, that will lead me to happiness. I'm tired of second guessing myself and phsycing myself out. Any help, advice is accepted and needed. ~OhniBASED (link)
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Has anyone beside family and friends told you that you have talent or talent to compete at such a high level? You have to know that for sure or making a trip to L.A. like a lot of people who aren't suited could prove embarrassing or futile.
If you are positive 100% that you really have something than try and audition but understand thousands show up at each location and many don't see the judges. If you want this go for it and don't worry about a concert or whatever in the future unless you first get something. All that other stuff can be ironed out then.
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I met this guy at work who had a girlfriend, but they broke up. He looked like he needed someone to talk to, so I listened to him vent and everything. Around 2 weeks later, he started flirting with me but I had a boyfriend..this guy kept asking me to hang out and, after refusing to a few times, we hung out and had sex. I immediately felt guilty about cheating on my boyfriend and I broke up with him because I knew what I did was wrong. I did have sex with the guy probably about 3 more times, the third time was weird because it was more intimate then just plain sex, and before I left he kissed me which we never did before. Then the sex randomly stopped for like 3 months. And things began to get weird. He sometimes would act like I wasn't even there when I saw him at work, he didn't hit on me as much, didn't talk to me as much and he just got weird towards me? He would tell me other girls he hooked up with and occasionally would ask me if I wanted to have sex again, but he would never text me or hit me up after asking. I was so confused. So, I just moved on from that. I know I may sound like an idiot but I did (still do) want to hook up with him, even though he does tell me about the other girls. It doesn't bother me which I know sounds stupid. But after that 3 months of him just being weird, we had sex again but then it stopped now for 2 months. He's back to the telling me about other girls, not talking to me as much and acting weird again? He still asks about having sex but never follows up on it. My question is, should I just say no from now on? Should I just stop, because, I do enjoy hooking up with him but I am getting so confused when he acts like he's acting? Does he not care about me in any way at all? Please give me some advice :/ thank you. (link)
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He sounds like a player and bad news. He's only in it for sex and once he gets that he ignores you and then randomly comes back asking again. You're going to get emotionally crushed if you invest any more time than you have done already.
I doubt he cares about you or any of the other girls to be brutally honest just the sex. I suppose if you knew all he wanted was that and no commitment and you wanted the same maybe..
But bottom line I see this as a bad situation that you need to move on from especially if you have to work in the same office. The fact he's constantly bragging about his conquests to other girls and probably guys in the workplace just shows you how much he doesn't care about women and how he treats them.
Keep your head on straight and get smart to him being bad news. Having had sex with him before on multiple occasions was a bad judgment call and continuing would be worse as he's clearly used you in my opinion and other women. The fact he's talked to you about them is odd as well as to women in office and out, If something doesn't seem right about the guy than trust your gut above any other feeling.
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Look i have known a boy since i was 3 and hes sweet and kind. When he smiles i cant help but smile back. When i see him i get a weird feeling its like its pulling me in what is it? (link)
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It's your brain and hearts way of telling you that you are attracted and interested in him. If you like him and have known him that long you should be able to tell him anything and not be embarrassed and see what he feels.
At the very least you'll remain friends but you could walk away with a date which could lead you places.
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I did my fafsa a few days ago and I saw my advisor and he told me to register for classes. So I registered for a class and the next day it was dropped. Does that count on transcript? Do I have to wait for my financial aid to come in to register for classes? (link)
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Call or see financial aid and tell them what happened and that you need to register for courses for the program you got accepted for.
What they likely haven't told you assuming you knew is that you had to put a fee deferral deposit down to hold your spot in all your courses until financial aid cut you a check. Check in with them, the head person for your program and your campus for help.
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If you get your financial aid money a week after school starts, how do you get your books and stuff? (link)
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I would WAIT until after the FIRST class session for each course. Tell the instructor you're having issues affording books and want to be 100% certain that assignments and stuff you will be tested on will definitely come from them. Then you will buy said books,
Your profs may know of students who are looking to unload these books having just taken the course a semester before or you could find them used. Try placing an ad on a bulletin board this week or electronically if they have a forum or place for that and see if you can get a deal. If you can't you'll have to buy new.
If I were you the first thing rather than doing the above should be a call and or a trip down to the financial aid office. Explain you were told in writing that you won't get financial aid until after the first week of school but have NO way to pay for all your books that the instructors say you must have first week.
Ask them what they can do to help. They see this issue a lot. You may find a classmate willing to share a book if you go 50/50 and photocopy the chapters until you get money. Don't panic because there will definitely be a solution.
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We have an initiative to help the community and we will like to know how can nike sponsor us in helping the under privileged community. (link)
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Try Google or the number below and ask for the name and e-mail address for the person responsible for media and public relations. Call or e-mail them and ask them who best to e-mail or send an inquiry about sponsorship to. Media/public relations people have all of those contacts on hand.
Once you know who to direct the query to you would need to mail it to the contact at the address below. They probably see tons of applications and inquiries so don't feel bad if they don't respond.
NIKE, Inc. Corporate Information
1-800-344-6453
7am - 4pm PT, Monday - Friday
Corporate Mailing Address:
Nike USA Inc.
Consumer Services
One Bowerman Drive
Beaverton, OR 97005-64
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My daughter is 11 years old.She has been a healthy and happy kid.For about two days,i noticed the following things in her:
1)Sudden loss of appetite.
2)Mood swings.
3)I caught her crying at night.
4)She even cant sleep at night.
5)Act like being scared.
Please help me.Her cute jokes and laughs were gone.She looks very small like of her age. (link)
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The best thing to do is talk to her. Tell her she can say anything and it won't upset you. Explain you have notice that she doesn't want to eat lately, her moods have changed, she acts scared, won't sleep and cries herself to sleep when she does.
The constant mood swings do have me concerned. She may not be bipolar or depressed but rapid cycle mood swings all the time plus the other symptoms and anxiety are consistent with people suffering from depression and or bipolar disorder.
If she's unable to answer what's happening tell her it's not a punishment but you want her to talk to a doctor about what's going on and that she can do so without you in the room so long as she follows the recommendations and treatment if any.
Abuse is possible as is intense bullying so you have to ask directly about that and rule it out. I doubt it's PMS but perhaps her moods and being upset could be the precursor to menarche as that's the only other thing I can think of and it's a real shot in the dark. I would just talk to her as she will likely reveal what is going on and you can then determine whether she needs some professional help especially if you think it won't just fade away.
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Well, today at work (I work at the local vets doing receptionist work) and a farmer called up for some medicines to be put up and set out in the locked box outside, so that he could come pick them up at a later time. After he told me what he wanted, he hung up and I went to find them, only I couldn't find what he wanted exactly. None of the medicines matched! So I took what I though the closest match was (because a lot of farmers get the names wrong, so this is what we usually do). And when I was checking it out to put into his account, one of the medicines was quite expensive. But I put it through anyways. And now I'm at home, I'm worried that I have given him the wrong one. I've only had this job for a short while, and I am sitting my GCSE's at the moment, so I am getting really stressed and can't focus on my revision. I know I probably can't do anything, but can anybody give any advice?? Thank you. England. (link)
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Tell the vet that he asked for a medication with a similar sounding name and that you filled it believing what he meant was exactly what you gave him because NOTHING else matched up.
Tell him/her that you realized it was a potentially HUGE mix-up and that they need to know and that you filled it because that's the procedure they taught you. This could adversely affect that person's career and license if anything wrong occurred. You should have let the doctor deal with it in the first place if you were sketchy.
You need to come clean about the error even if the consequences mean you could lose the job. It's better that than an animal die or the doctor in big shit due to your mistake. At least you will have done what your conscience says is right.
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I really like this boy at school...Matthew. I think he likes me to by the way he acts. We both are in relationships with people we love, but at the same time we love each other. What should we do? (link)
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Become friends and build that up. Then if something ever happens with either of your partners you can act on it. This way you will know each other well for the future. If meant to be together life has a way of bringing it about. Take this opportunity to really get to know him well as you need a strong bond if anything happens down the road.
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I am 3 months pregnant. I live with my boyfriend. He pays the rent since I don't have a job. We are BOTH on the lease, though, and I have contributed in the past when I had an income. I am 21 and he is 26. Today he said to me "You can't live here anymore. I am not your family and I am not your father." (Meaning, he thinks since he has been paying the rent by himself recently, it gives him the right to tell me to move out.) I know he has been talking to other girls online, at his workplace, and at bars. (They are in his phone text conversations and emails.) I don't know if he has cheated on me, but I do know he is pursuing other women. He has not told his parents I am pregnant and told me he has no intention of raising a baby with me. The reason he gave me is because I have not found a job since I have been unemployed, I am a college dropout, and that I have no ambitions in life. He has never expressed this until my pregnancy, and quite frankly, what does being and unambitious unemployed college dropout have to do with anything? He helped create this baby, AND DID NOT OFFER TO PAY FOR ABORTION.
Okay, so here are my 2 questions:
I KNOW ITS THE YEAR 2013 AND ALL, BUT SHOULD I BE ASHAMED THAT I WANT A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH HE IS THE "BREADWINNER" AND I TAKE CARE OF THE HOME AND CHILD? (I'M NOT SAYING I DON'T EVER WANT TO RETURN TO WORK, BUT IT HAS BEEN VERY DIFFICULT FINDING WORK AND BEING A HOMEMAKER AND MOTHER CAN BE MY "AMBITION" FOR NOW.)
WHY DOES MY BOYFRIEND SEE THIS PREGNANCY AS MY WAY OF "DEPENDING ON HIM LIKE A FATHER"?(I AM DEPENDING ON HIM AS A BOYFRIEND, FATHER OF MY CHILD, AND POSSIBLE FUTURE HUSBAND)(He is making me feel bad, almost like I am a gold digger, because I am living here rent free. I don't ask him for gifts, I don't ask him for anything, not even food because I am on food stamps. He is stingy with his money and I respect his decision to spend his money elsewhere, even though I RECENTLY FOUND OUT it is spent to take other women on dates or to buy other women drinks at the bar. but why is he so unwilling to pay for his baby? He has a good full time job and a bachelor's degree. AM I A GOLD DIGGER SERIOUSLY?
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I would tell him where to go and move back home with your parents. He deeply resents you and is using this to blame you. He's not a nice guy and messing with other women behind back.
You may not be paying rent and dependent on him temporarily but he knew that before he invited you to live with him. Don't abort the baby as it's not the child's fault his/her birth father is a jerk who won't take responsibility.
It may be hard but you can raise it yourself with support from family and get your work and education sorted out from there. Also get your parents to hire a lawyer and threaten him to pay child support or sign over the rights to be legally termed its father.
The baby may be the blessing of a lifetime for you and bring you great joy and your family too the whole job thing and money issues seem bleak now but can change. Get your parent's support and let them know what a real ass this guy is. It will all work out but you need to end the relationship with him and not let him see the kid later as he refuses to acknowledge any responsibility.
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So I been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months now. It was amazing at start, I couldn't ask for more.
But then, the problems started. I just don't seem to care about him like I used to. I don't love him anymore. Then again, I didn't really love him, I just loved the fact I got a boyfriend. His every action disgusts me more and more.
The huge problem here is that, he very much loves me. I'm quite scared if I do breakup anytime soon, he might become a stalker or hurt someone.
Is there a way to breakup with him, to ensure he doesn't become crazy? Provoke him to breakup with me maybe? I been thinking about telling a lie that I had slept with someone else. ....I just don't know, I'm confused and scared about this.. (link)
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If he's violent and could hurt you than you need to tell adults and or the police if he's hurt you before and threatened you about leaving. Leave you must as it's unhealthy and you aren't in the right relationship. As the person below said and I will reiterate don't hand pour gasoline on a fire and concoct a story to get out. Just tell him you're done with him and end it.
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My best friend moved and she means so much to me - Plus, she moved to the school I've been wanting to go to!! It's fancy, not strict, has better education... It's better for me.
Plus, I don't really want to know anyone there except for her. So then I'll meet new people (Everyone at my current school hates me).
So how should I sort of convince my mom to let me move? I've mentioned it, but not really asked her. She never said yes, but she never said no. (link)
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Perhaps your mother cannot afford it otherwise she would put you there. Talk to her and tell her that you are miserable at school and have been for some time because classmates bully and treat you like shit.
Tell her that the only thing that was good about school was your friend. Ask her if she can find a way to send you there as you would be a lot happier. It could be a money issue as well as transportation or even an issue where they can't or won't take kids from a different district unless they move. Have her look into possibilities.
Also, SOME kids may be bugging you but reality is NOT everyone hates you. There has to be someone out there that needs a friend like you. Start looking at those in the same boat as you that maybe you ignored or didn't think of.
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my mum has always had anger problems she would shout and swear at dad.THEN LIE and say it was him who started it .like childness she would go for him scratch hit kick him say he did it first she is a compulsive lier andshe would shout i will leave u and take the kids an u will never c them dad has always bin scared she would take us then he would not know what was happening to us so he has stuck with it for about 13years(i am 16 my sis 15 an bro8)but for the last 2years she has gone worse dad says cant take it any more.after seeing corrie i told him,she is like her and if he did not do anything i would, she hits out at us kids sometimes wen she has her turns she goes into a frenzy and cant see beyond that moment her eyes go big an we all get scared what she will do,she tell my sis to lie for her which we know she does then she buys her stuff to keep her on her side but now even she nows shes doin wrong lieing 4 her and says she feels like killin herself but she is stuck an dont know what to do,dad has told the social now an they r lookin into it but its been 2weeks how long will they take? where can i go and talk to somebody we worry about my sis .she lies 2 her family an they take her side,dads side all want 2help her but she hates all of them,wont talk 2them.please tell me where i can go for help,i am 16 old boy (link)
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You're a brave young man. That much is certain. Your mother sounds like she is mentally ill and has been for years but is now becoming a crisis. Your father has no idea how to deal with her as she's NOT rational and could be violent.
The longer he stays silent on this the worst she will become. While social services is involved they may not have been around long enough to see that mom's really off it and needs help nor have they seen the effects.
What you need to do when the social worker comes is ask her to speak to her privately and tell them what she has said about your dad and kids, the swearing, threats of violence etc. and that it has been like this for years but really awful now. They'll get you help and your mom too finally.
You could also tell your teacher what is happening and that social services are involved with your family but don't know the extent and that you know your mom is likely mentally ill and life at home is hell and scary. Once you tell someone your life will get better.
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