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Im 18,high school graduate and still a virgin. Im in the transition of moving out into a house with my cousin(age 20) his baby mama(19) and their kid(3). My cousins friends starting coming over when I was 17 and 1 of them told everyone i was cute and flirted the other one flirted and we were vibing you could tell he was into me but once i told him i was 17 and he was 19 he stopped and took some steps back. Now Im 18 and ones 21 and the others 20. They come over almost everyother weekend to drink and chill. One weekend i ended up sleeping in the middle of the 20 yr old well call him(dave) and one of the friends hes pretty cute to. Daves head was by my feet(not cute) and so was my head next to his. He began touching my butt trying to move in on me and then he started grabbing my hand under the blankets putting it on his stuff but we werent talking cause his friend was in the bed,(i know not cool).He was trying me to either give him a "Hand" lol or a BJ all night. Well I obviously have feelings for him if i flirt and was willing to touch him. Well the next time I saw him he was trying to get at some girl at a kickback and my cousin well call her (a.t.) told me thats fucked up and hes 20 and Im not his gf so who am I to blame him but I felt bad. So last weekend they came over and (a.t) was gonna drink shes 17 and never had the whole night they were trying to get her to drink more and more and she was buzzed hard and me,some guy(a friend),dave, and (a.t) were laying on the bed in that order and he was hugging her and rubbing her butt. and she told me the next morning I just wanted to be comforted. I know hes probably playing the feild and me being a virgin might be a turn off but I know hes kindof interested but hes a huge flirt and I want to know how i can get closer to him and how i should flirt with him? Also do you think hes into (a.t.) more than me? and why is she doing that when she knows what happened with me and him? Also not to be mean Im honestly prettier and I cant see him with her at all but I think me and him would look really good together,Just saying.I can tell theres more that hes not just a player tho... (link)
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I think you should step back and take an objective look at the situation you've described here. By objective I mean where you are not personally involved but someone is telling it to you. You're asking how attract & flirt with a guy you've spent all night in bed with, playing with his dick. I'm fairly sure it's not meant to go in that order for a start! I can't see you're going to get anything other than the most casual of casual sex possible here. If that's what you're looking for, run with it. If not, start looking elsewhere. OK, no-one's going to die or anything, but you're almost certainly going to end up feeling used & hurt. You're seeing 'something more' in him. I wonder...is he seeing, or even looking for the same in you? Sorry I can't be more positive.
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How do can a girl have good sex for her first time? (link)
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My toes are sort of curling at this question. I know. First time, big event. And of course you want it to be as slick, cool, exciting and sexy as an Alexander McQueen fashion show. I really do think it's more realistic to treat the first time, particularly for a girl as a rather steep 'learning-curve'. Let's think laterally. Suppose you landed your dream job. However much you want it and want to be good at it, the first day you'll be a bag of nerves and anxieties. You won't really be sure what your meant to be doing at times, or how to do it. I don't need to go on do I? Don't lose heart. The answer's looking for YOU. Every time make love with your boyfriend your confidence and skills will increase. You'll learn what makes you feel food, what doesn't, what he likes. And he'll be learning the same things. Even if he's had a partner (or a few) before it's still a case of learning about each other. You're new remember! As long as you're really hot for each other some awkwardness and mistakes at the start won't much matter to either of you. Apart from mistakes regarding birth-control. Don't you DARE mess that up!!! Pretty soon it'll take your breath away, just like that fashion show. Only nobody will be taking pictures...at least I hope not!
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I was raped last year by a man who i didn't know.. i saw him around like twice but i had always told my best friend and this childs protection woman i didn't know the man..
I am Fourteen...
It is so hard i have lack of confidence.. i get stressed way too easily and i just am not worthy of anything.. i hate my body and i feel ugly on the inside and outside. I feel dead on the inside infact ... I am pretty sure i suffer with depression (like my mum) but i haven't spoken to the doctors .. for about a month i would eat and make myself sick.. I got a throat infection from doing it too much..
And i refuse a councellor because im ashamed... How do i recover? (link)
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Hi there. What a world. You've really got to accept conselling my darling. You're seriously still in a'victim mentality' here, you're hating yourself because you're blaming yourself. This was nothing to do with your actions. You did not invite it. A fully grown woman could not usually stop a man from forcing her, let alone a youngster. It's a physical strength thing. You could not have been expected to see the situation arising at your age and avoided it either. Unresolved, this is going to really mess you up, for want of a better phrase. Get some fight-back in you. Excuse the language...don't let the bastard beat you! Nothing can change what's happened, but YOU are the important one now. Best wishes CJ-B
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Ok well I'm a 12 year old girl. Well wen I was 4 my twin brother,daniel died of cancer. Well you see today he's been dead for about 6 years and when I woke up I saw him he smiled at me and I said hello and he waved at me. He told me that I musnt worry and that he's ok and its better that he died and didn't suffer. I'm not sure if this is my imagination or what because I kept seeing him! And he looks exactly like he did when he was 4 :( please let me know what you think! I need to know what's going on! Me and him were like best friends before he died (link)
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Hello. My sympathies. It's often said that twins share a particular closeness unlike any other human relationship. Given the biological facts that's understandable. The mind also 'keeps hold' of traumatic events in a way I won't bore you with but when people say they remember the scene perfectly and keep seeing it over & over again, it's quite true. It must have been traumatic, and also at 4 years somewhat beyond your full comprehension. These mental-loops fade with time, but at the same time your understanding has matured a lot. Do NOT under-estimate the power of the sub-concious mind. The visions are real, as much as any thought-idea is real. You're mind is throwing them up in an attempt to force you to confront and accept them. Now, I can tell you that your are not 'losing it'. Quite the contrary...you're dealing with it! And naturally there are no such things as ghosts, be sure of that. The sentiments come from within yourself. You mustn't worry. There was no suffering. And yes, it WAS 'better' at the end, though tragic that it had to happen at all of course. Things you already know in your concious mind, just being re-affirmed. That dreadful shock is only really coming out now in a way, now your mind is able to fully handle it. Don't worry. You're doing OK there! Your parents will have faced the same mental 'demons', but at the time. Talk to them. Naturally you will never forget it. Kinder if our minds would let us eh? But it doesn't work like that. Aim instead for 'acceptance'.
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I am a 24-year-old virgin. I'd never met a man previously that interested me in that way, but recently I have started seeing someone who does. We have fooled around a bit and I told him that I was a virgin, he said he didn't think it was weird or anything, but... I'm curious about the general opinions guys have for virgins, especially at an older age (24)? Does this negatively effect how you would perceive them? Does it positively effect your perception?
Also, I'd like to mention that I am not a virgin for religious reasons. I've had opportunities to have sex and wouldn't have felt guilty about it because I think it's wrong or anything. I am just choosy, I guess. (link)
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General opinions are tricky customers as all cases are particular in one way or another. I'd say it depends entirely on the man involved. Positive vibes would be a woman with self-restraint, self-respect, knows what she wants and won't settle for anything less. It would imply commitment was more important to her than quick-thrills. It would suggest loyalty too and that old-fashioned word 'chastity', call it a higher-than-average moral integrity if you like. Negatives? Now this, I assure you isn't a flippant or throw-away comment intended to get a cheap laugh. Women with that much moral-fibre have ALWAYS scared the flippin' life out of me! I don't feel like I'm on the same page. So a 'general' comment...you might appear pretty daunting to some guys, they might feel you're a little bit more than they could live up to. Now, I feel like it's ME being analysed. OK, for the record, I'm pretty hedonistic and always have been. I've never been known so much for my willpower as the lack of it. But I'm certain a guy who shares her code would find the woman easier company and would take only the positives I mentioned, and they ARE positives. I'd think he'd be thoroughly delighted...not terrified at all in fact!!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex for a while now and agreed to wait until we are both ready. We talked the other day and agreed that we are ready and plan to have sex for the first time this Friday.
I am not on birth control but we are going to use condoms. Are condoms effective on their own for preventing pregnancy? I am worried that the condom will break or something will go wrong. (link)
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Condoms, in-date and used correctly are an extremely effective way of preventing pregnancy. They're the ONLY method that protects against STI's but as you're both first-timers (admire your patience & agreed terms by the way!) that isn't an issue. They can break. Mostly if you don't leave a good sort of 'pouch' at the end, or worse if the pouch has air trapped in it. It's easy to spot, as it'll sit there like a party balloon if you get it wrong! Try again if that happens. If the worse comes to the worst and it did happen to split, well quite honestly your partner will feel a difference. You'll have to trust him, because I'm not sure a woman would spot it (female advisors, correct me if I'm wrong...can YOU feel a difference??). So it's up to him to stop and pop another one on straight away. Sure, there's the 'pre-cum can contain sperm' thing. It's relatively low risk, especially if you use a condom that's 'spermicidally lubricated' (odd sounding phrase, but does what it says on the box I suppose!) The only way to be more certain of avoiding pregnancy is to not have penetrative sex at all. Bit drastic, specially for a healthy 19yo lass!! I'm sure you'll be fine. Millions of other couples are. Best wishes.
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When you have no family, friends or people who you can talk to what do you do to cope?? I want to be dead, i want to say good bye to everything that I see every day. I have tried all sorts of meds and counseling and it does not help. All my life I have tried to make people happy and it is always thrown back into my face, so why try? (link)
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Glad to hear you've recognised the danger and are using practical measures to keep some sort of control over things. During sessions did anyone raise the 'self-esteem' issue? Your last sentence rings of it to me. A big off-shoot of low self-esteem is that you constantly sacrifce the little you have in attempt to win the approval & esteem of others. Try to start liking yourself a bit more and worry a little less about pleasing others maybe? It's important to be kind of course, but striking a balance is essential. We're not really cut out to 'shoulder the sins of the world' as it were. If you're strictly secular like me, just know that it can't be done. If you're religious, it's a divine task, not a mortal one. Any help?
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Well basically there is this guy at my skl and he's asked my best friend a couple of times if I would give him head,or a hand job ,so after skl my friend deliberately planned for us all to play dirty dares( basically 21 dares but the dares are sexual) and she sort of kept bringing up that this boy wanted me to wank him off, to sort of force us into it anyways so he got all shy coz he thinks his dick is too small etc. But he says he wants to do it and I sort of want to but he has a girl friend in another school and he wants me do it in the park? If I did do in the woods in the park and he has a girl friend would this make me a slut? And did I mention I'm only 13 and so is he we only just got into yr 9 , any tips on hand jobs? (link)
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Hi there. These teenaged dares eh? Well, reliable figures from surveys say that the most common age for girls to start the 'handjobs in the park' stuff with guys is 13 to 13 1/2 Looking back at my own younger days I'd say that was amazingly accurate! It's quite normal to be thinking about boys pretty much all the time, and of course you'll be dying to actually make a guy come, and see what it's all about eh? It really DOES NOT make you a slut, OK? Just normal. The fact that the guy in question has a girlfriend raises a few questions though. He's not likely to turn down your offer, believe me! And, OK you're not exactly going to be a marriage-wrecker. But if the roles were reversed, and you found out...how would you feel? Pretty crap I bet, to put it mildly. If you ever meet she'll probably call you all the foul names she can think of, slut included! Now wouldn't it be kinder to shelve the dare until you find a 'single guy'? Try not to hurt others if you can, it tends to hurt you too apart from anything else. Just a thought. I don't think you really need any tips. It'll all come naturally, and probably pretty quickly too...you can polish-up your technique with plenty of practice! Have fun...don't get guilt hang-ups...but consider the effect of your actions. Fair comment?
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I am a 16 year old year old girl and I love to masturbate. But the same old ways are getting boring. Does anyone have some tips or tricks? (link)
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Hiya. Women have more options than guys in this respect. But since I don't actually know what your 'same old ways' are I couldn't suggest anything new could I? Let's turn your question around then. You love doing it, so you've got no mental hang-ups to sort out. Do you usually manage to come nicely? Do you feel pleasantly sort of sleepy, relaxed and satisfied afterwards? If the answers are 'yes' then why trouble yourself searching for a new technique? You must have one that works for you already. Enjoy it for what it is, not how you make it happen. Of course, it'll feel better sometimes than others. Sometimes a bit boring even? Same as most other things in life then!
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So I met this guy last April and we started dating by May. Everything with him is perfect. I am always so comfortable around and we know absolutely everything about each other. We talk on the phone for at least 4 hours a day, since I'm at school. He's a few years older. But lately I feel like all the amazing passion and love from the beginning of our relationship is gone. I recently read over our old texts to each other and I got such a horrible feeling in my stomach because our relationship is so different now. I know I feel the same and it isn't really on my end. For example he used to tell me he loved me so many random times throughout the day and now I'm the only one who ever says it. I asked him about it once and he said thats how It has always been, that I am always the one who says it first. He didn't even try to change things since he knew it was bothering me. He never EVER says I'm beautiful. Which i would never expect or nag him about. The fact that he used to always say it kind of hurts though. I don't think the fact I am away at school changed feelings because when we met we did the long distance thing for the first few months. I have some problems with his family too. His older brother is getting married and whenever we are all at dinner they only talk to her like I'm not there. He says they ask about me all the time though. But whenever I email his mom to talk she just tells me how she is and doesn't take interest in me. I brought this topic of our relationship not having any spark up to him and he told me its because our relationship is different. He said don't worry about it. The fact that he wasn't concerned either makes me nervous. I love him so much and I know that phase of our relationship or any relationship doesn't last forever but its just changed TOO much compared to the other relationships I have been in.
I'm just confused as to what to think of his response to this topic.
Sorry this was long. And thanks SO much for any advice/opinions. I really appreciate it. (link)
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OK. Science-geek answer! That 'loved-up' feeling at the start of a relationship is caused by our bodies producing high levels of the 'bonding hormone' called oxytocin. At normal levels we're romantically 'open to offers' as it were. The raised level gives us a kind of tunnel-vision causing us to focus strongly on one individual to the ecxception of others. While we continue to focus on them and bond with them the body keeps producing oxytocin, in a 'virtuous circle'. BUT only up to a point! The level returns to normal after somewhere between 18 months, up to a mximum of 3 years. It's done it's evolutionary 'job'. When it has returned to it's normal level, you don't necessarily stop 'loving' the other person, but you WILL start to notice OTHER people and other things again. Are you still awake? Honestly, there's no witchcraft or smoke & mirrors involved in relationship phases really!
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well like i said my blow job game has been off. before when i used to give my boyfriend a bj he would cum in 2-3min now it seems like it is taking much longer. and i used to not have a problem with deep throat but now all the sudden i do. the past 2 times i have given my boyfriend a bj i even threw up the first time it wasnt that much but the last time it was a lot and since i was deep throating it even came out my nose(totally disgusting). he does have a bad habbit of grabbing my head and forcing me to go deeper and when i do start to gag and pull away he still doesnt let go. but what i want to know is what can i do to get back on my A game when i "practice" deep throat with something i dont really have a problem its just with him that i have the problem i dont want to give a bad blow job and right now i feel like thats what im doing even tho i know i am capable of doing WAY better (link)
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Hi there. Could your boyfriend try just holding, or sort of supporting your head quite gently while you do it? He might still get the same feeling but without forcing you down on himself until you gag. Personally having a girl throw-up wouldn't do ANYTHING for me, so have a think. I hope he isn't doing it as a show of force, to deliberately humiliate or degrade you? Only you'll know that, but be honest with yourself. It's not a great character trait in a man, to put it mildly! How about being creative with your hands? A lot of guys like their testicles played with, or squeezing the base of his shaft quite firmly between your thumb and forefinger. That would quite probably make him come quickly, and pleasantly strongly for him. Personally I feel the deep-throating thing really belongs in porn flicks, but others may not agree. You can say you've tried it, but it's not for you, maybe? Being sick ISN'T sexy, and if the relationship's based on you doing one sex-act that's not a great base anyway. And don't be so obliging...a good bj means good for YOU as well you know!!
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Hi,
Recently, I was clearing out the garage and came across some old home movies. I found loads from when I was just two days old, still at the hospital.
It seemed my family were really good in thinking ahead, and I think it would be a shame if I didn't capture a lot of the memories of this day and age for us all to look back on in 20 years.
I've tried looking for a good camcorder on amazon and so on. But they all seem to be terribly expensive. I've checked review sites, but there are so many models out there! I recently bought a 'vivitar' model, which was horrendous! The picture was grainy, and the mic wasn't sensitive enough. So I want to avoid this brand.
But do you have a good one? I'm not a fan of these new, small ones that are flat? But if it is good, I don't mind investing in it. Do you have a model that you use and enjoy?
It'll be used for loud, large family gatherings. Mostly indoors, but also outdoors now and again. My budget is maybe $200? The most important things are 1. Picture quality 2. Sound quality 3. Battery life
Like I said, there are so many different models, and in instances like these, google is little help.
Thanks! (link)
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Plenty of good footage shot on Sony. A used professional model can be picked-up at a fraction of what it cost new and will buy you very sharp images & fair-to-good sound with a half decent mic & wind-shield plugged in. Better picture quality than a new bargain-basement low-end/consumer model. Built-in condenser mics are notoriously crap at recording anything (except the sound of the cameras own AF & zoom motors!). There are lots of models, usually with names in the form HDRxxxxxxxx(long list of numbers & the odd letter). If you can find a pro camera that hasn't been subjected to heavy pro use they're hard to beat. Sony hand held cameras have been pretty much the 'industry standard' for a long time. (Cinema motion-picture quality cameras are a law unto themselves and cost as much as houses, but 'broadcast quality' is well within reach, especially pre-owned). Old batteries, recharged many times don't hold a charge long so budget for a brand new battery and you've got a classic shooting machine. Never know where it might lead! I don't work for Sony by the way....
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So me and this guy were friends for 3 years. And I never like liked him. Until lats friday. I rally like him. So he asked me out* he gave me hugs like 10 times a day. I just want to know if I should like kiss him on the cheek or something??* thX!!! 14/F (link)
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That means friends since you were 11? Well, girls don't much like boys at that age, and likewise. But you're a bit older now and it's a lot different right? Of course you should give him a kiss. And he'd better kiss you back too. Just like the other reply said...that's what boyfriends are made for!
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I took 21 paracetamol and it didn't work!!! (link)
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Glad it didn't! You wouldn't have gone peacefully in your sleep you know. It causes massive internal bleeding and you die in agony. People don't take paracetamol because they're painless, they take them because they're easily available. No-one talks about the details of a suicide afterwards do they? So they don't tell you that. If I'm shocking you, good! There is no 'good' or easy way to die. You need to start looking for a way to live. Please find some help very soon. It might look like a way out, but there's no way back.
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after hot sex with my boyfriend my boyfriend my period came the next day ,unexpectedly ,why (link)
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Not a doctor, but I've got one in the family so I asked him. The menstrual-cycle is NOT affected in any way by having sex. Are we looking at a period or vaginal bleeding then? The 'hot sex' is looking most likely, maybe causing a tear or rip in the vagina. It's quite robust but you can over-do it! Chlamydia could be the cause (of bleeding, it can't make a period come when it isn't due either) but don't assume the worst. It's just about impossible to diagnose yourself as symptoms are varied (or non-existent!). A test is the only way to determine whether you have it or not. But it's a very far from uncommon infection and easily treated, so don't get stressed. I should pop along to your doctor and have him/her take a look. By 'unexpectedly' I assume your period wasn't due/overdue at the time you had sex, or of course you would have noticed at the time? There are other (much rarer) possibilities but a trip to the doctor will sort it all out. Best not to take chances with your body, it's the only one you'll get!
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So, I have a very healthy sexual relationship with my boyfriend, we have sex about 1-2 times a day. However sometimes we just like to engage in foreplay and we don't even have sex(Which I don't mind) However, I usually end up taking the lead during this. Though if he finishes he tends to just flip over and go to sleep after leaving me hanging. I've tried to stop pleasuring him and see if that would give him the hint to pleasure me for a while but that doesn't work, I've tried tons of things but nothing works. What should I do to give him the hint that this girl needs the same back? (link)
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Could simply be lack of understanding. Guys can believe that a climax is 'essential' for them, and 'optional' for women, and in many relationships this can be the case. Mainly because a woman CAN enjoy sex/foreplay without reaching climax, whereas if the man doesn't climax it's a disaster. Possibly his previous partner was happy with this arrangement? Possibly he just thinks ALL women are happy with this arrangement? If you are constantly left 'hanging' as you aptly put it, it will very likely become a problem that goes outside the bedroom and into other aspects of the relationship. You'll feel neglected, ignored and generally an un-equal partner in the partnership. Not good. So it's a matter of letting him know that general conceptions or previous experiences don't mean anything, he's with YOU right now...and you DO need to come! Sort out the order too...guys quickly return to the un-aroused state after climax. He's gotta 'do you' first while he's still horny. After he's come you'll never keep him interested long enough to bring you off properly. Us blokes are a bit like that, it's a physical/hormonal thing more than an attitude problem really, so don't read it as boredom or lack of desire. Good luck.
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her mother is going to prison for a year for a forgery charge. I wonder once she goes if I should take my 13 year old daughter to visit her, but I am not sure I want my daughter to be inside a prison environment
it has nothing to do with her mother, she made some stupid mistakes but she is not a bad person nor was she a bad parent to my child, but it is the envioronment I wonder about (link)
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I agree 13 is a sensitive age but it's maybe too old to be have things kept from her. Maybe you could arrange a visit, and tell her in advance about the environment she's going to encounter. You could explain the differences between crime and violent crime against another person. As you said, she's not a bad person or bad mother. It might impress on your daughter the whole crime/punishment set-up if she sees it for herself too, which would be a positive thing. True it's not a pleasant environment, but it is a controlled environment so there's no chance of physical harm of course. In my opinion I'd say young people more often resent the things you didn't do/tell them than the things you did when they look back.
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I'm a sixteen year old girl and have been sexting a guy for seven months. I have known him since I was eleven and have had strong feelings for him almost as long.
We sext a couple of times each month and at the time I enjoy it. A lot. However, not long after I regret it because I know that he only sees me as the girl he sexts, and as nothing more or less. I know I'm the only one he's been sexting but I don't want to be used for this anymore, though I can't seem to stop myslef from doing it.
My friends are disappointed in me because of this as they know of the upset this boy has caused me in the past. I know I shouldn't continue to sext him but like I said, in the moment I like it. I'm not even sure why I like it, I assume it's because he's actually paying me some sort of attention.
If anyone could offer me any kind of advice about what I should do about this problem, that would be really great and I would be extremely appreciative. Thank you :) (link)
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Think we've got to look at 'expectations'. When you say you've had strong feelings and you like it because he's paying you attention my reaction is that every time you sext you're hoping it will turn into something more? It feels good in the moment, well it will do. But afterwards are you feeling badly let down? You've done the fun bit, and then it's right back to square one? Be honest with yourself. Do you think it will or not? You could play your cards right now, but in your teens I know that's hard. There's a lot of mind-games at your age. Maybe try. Right up-front, ask him if he wants to do a bit more than sext...if he doesn't, throw away his number & forget him. The flip-side of the coin as it were, would be to change your expectations. Treat as a bit of fairly harmless, fun-at-the-time stuff but neither of you are looking at it being anything more. If you're keen on him that might be difficult. So have a think. Personally I'd say constantly raising your hopes then having them pretty well crushed time after time is not going to do much for your self-confidence & self-esteem. It's already got you in an 'I shouldn't...but I can't stop myself' mind-set. The situation is entirely in your hands as I see it.
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hi im like 13 years old and Im a guy im tired of masturbating the same old way is there any other way i can get turned on and masturbate (link)
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I can remember the really old jokes about "Try using your left hand, it feels like someone else doing it." Or painting you nails and putting some rings on so it looks like your girlfriend doing it! But seriously, behind the corny old jokes there's a sort of truth. A bloke hasn't really got a wide variety of choices when masturbating. I honestly can't think of anything that you could call 'another way'. Sorry about that chap, but maybe it'll save you thinking there's some big secret way that feels better that you're missing out on because no-one's told you. Unless of course any other advisers know different...?
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I'm considering unnatural death not because of a serious illness but because seems like no one cares about any one anymore. Come to think of it why should you or anyone care...You have your own lives and problems. It's been really hard the last few years and getting no better fast. The thing is, I love life and embrace life, I want to live and enjoy life to it's fullest, more than anything. But, I just exist, can't really genuinely, smile or laugh or even enjoy a beautiful day or music. It's as though there is no place for me on this earth. I want a place, I want to live and be happy etc. Sad thing is, not that I want death, but that I want life and can't have it. I'm tired. (link)
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Add another, that's two who care. Forgive me if I'm completely wrong, but have you seen a doctor and asked for a full check, blood tests etc? There could be a biological reason for the depression & tiredness. If not,that feeling we're just existing in a disinterested world's become the 'spirit of the age' now isn't it? I already look back at a world that seemed more friendly, more natural. More sane, more human. And I find myself thinking I'm glad I was young then and not now. But we live in the present, not the past and all we can do is live in the time we're given. I think the only thing we can rely on in the world is constant change. Globally, and personally. Who knows what tiny spark might catch in you, so long as you keep on livng? What might it grow into? The things you want can still be found. Good company, friendship, laughter, a beautiful sunset. Maybe it's a little harder these days. You've lost sight of them, but they are still there. The lower you get the more distant they seem. Your awareness becomes turned more and more inward. The feelings of alienation deepen, turning your thoughts more inward still. It's a vicious circle. But none of this was written in stone, this is not the inevitable path your life MUST follow. You CAN have life. Constant change my friend, that's all you can be sure of. All that live are subject to it, like it or not. Good and bad alike are swept away and replaced or renewed every second we live. Misery can't hold you forever by the throat any more than you can keep happiness in a jar. But you've got to be in it to win it, as they say! And if the night gets just too dark...keep those phone numbers and things. See ya!
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