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Losing my Virginity
19/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex for a while now and agreed to wait until we are both ready. We talked the other day and agreed that we are ready and plan to have sex for the first time this Friday.
I am not on birth control but we are going to use condoms. Are condoms effective on their own for preventing pregnancy? I am worried that the condom will break or something will go wrong.
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Condoms can be effective, but I can see that you're already paranoid about it. My opinion is this, use the condom but discuss all preventative measures just incase you do become pregnant. It sucks being that rare case. If you do happen to get pregnant, you and him need to decide what the plan is from there. I don't think that should be a hard topic to discuss considering you've already talked about having sex when you're both ready. Good luck! Stay non-pregnant (until you're ready!)
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Condoms, in-date and used correctly are an extremely effective way of preventing pregnancy. They're the ONLY method that protects against STI's but as you're both first-timers (admire your patience & agreed terms by the way!) that isn't an issue. They can break. Mostly if you don't leave a good sort of 'pouch' at the end, or worse if the pouch has air trapped in it. It's easy to spot, as it'll sit there like a party balloon if you get it wrong! Try again if that happens. If the worse comes to the worst and it did happen to split, well quite honestly your partner will feel a difference. You'll have to trust him, because I'm not sure a woman would spot it (female advisors, correct me if I'm wrong...can YOU feel a difference??). So it's up to him to stop and pop another one on straight away. Sure, there's the 'pre-cum can contain sperm' thing. It's relatively low risk, especially if you use a condom that's 'spermicidally lubricated' (odd sounding phrase, but does what it says on the box I suppose!) The only way to be more certain of avoiding pregnancy is to not have penetrative sex at all. Bit drastic, specially for a healthy 19yo lass!! I'm sure you'll be fine. Millions of other couples are. Best wishes.
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