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my blow job game has been off lately, and i need help getting back on it
well like i said my blow job game has been off. before when i used to give my boyfriend a bj he would cum in 2-3min now it seems like it is taking much longer. and i used to not have a problem with deep throat but now all the sudden i do. the past 2 times i have given my boyfriend a bj i even threw up the first time it wasnt that much but the last time it was a lot and since i was deep throating it even came out my nose(totally disgusting). he does have a bad habbit of grabbing my head and forcing me to go deeper and when i do start to gag and pull away he still doesnt let go. but what i want to know is what can i do to get back on my A game when i "practice" deep throat with something i dont really have a problem its just with him that i have the problem i dont want to give a bad blow job and right now i feel like thats what im doing even tho i know i am capable of doing WAY better
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Hi there. Could your boyfriend try just holding, or sort of supporting your head quite gently while you do it? He might still get the same feeling but without forcing you down on himself until you gag. Personally having a girl throw-up wouldn't do ANYTHING for me, so have a think. I hope he isn't doing it as a show of force, to deliberately humiliate or degrade you? Only you'll know that, but be honest with yourself. It's not a great character trait in a man, to put it mildly! How about being creative with your hands? A lot of guys like their testicles played with, or squeezing the base of his shaft quite firmly between your thumb and forefinger. That would quite probably make him come quickly, and pleasantly strongly for him. Personally I feel the deep-throating thing really belongs in porn flicks, but others may not agree. You can say you've tried it, but it's not for you, maybe? Being sick ISN'T sexy, and if the relationship's based on you doing one sex-act that's not a great base anyway. And don't be so obliging...a good bj means good for YOU as well you know!!
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It's totally normal for things to take longer as you gain more experience with one another. In the beginning, it's a totally new thing and the guy often has trouble holding off. Later on, it's not as much of a shock to the system and he's had a chance to practice delaying his orgasm.
If it's any consolation, I've been told that the longer it is until orgasm the stronger it will be when it happens. Also, the longer wait time might be intentional on his part: more time equals more blow job for him.
As for the deep throating issue, the problem is likely you being forced. You've got to curb that now. It's quite common for guys to forget that we ladies have gag reflexes and to start forcing us into situations where we gag. He has to learn that forcing you to gag and barf will not get him any more, and will make you shy away from future oral. Make a connection between him pushing you too far and you stopping what you're doing immediately. It's a mood killer for you when you're forced to vomit out your nose, so it should be a mood killer for him.
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