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How do men perceive virgins?
I am a 24-year-old virgin. I'd never met a man previously that interested me in that way, but recently I have started seeing someone who does. We have fooled around a bit and I told him that I was a virgin, he said he didn't think it was weird or anything, but... I'm curious about the general opinions guys have for virgins, especially at an older age (24)? Does this negatively effect how you would perceive them? Does it positively effect your perception?
Also, I'd like to mention that I am not a virgin for religious reasons. I've had opportunities to have sex and wouldn't have felt guilty about it because I think it's wrong or anything. I am just choosy, I guess.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
This question depends on the man as to how to answer it.
For me I would think that your saving your most precious gift for me is a most wonderful thing you could give me. To allow me to show you the wonders of what sex has to offer tells me of the trust and faith that you place in me. For sex is the most intimate act between man and women.
That is me, other men may feel differently. They may question why you have remained a virgin for so long. They may fear you are a non sexual person or frigid. They would be wrong and they would be men who have low opinions of women.
Our sexuality is just that, ours. How and when we choose to have our first intercourse is our choice not anyone else. If you choose to wait until marriage then that is your choice and I respect that.
I caution much younger women who write to us not to throw their virginity away. To wait until they find a loving man. Not just some young teenager that wants to put another notch on his headboard. Sex is not a sport to see how many men or girls you can bed before you marry. It is an intimate act that should come between two loving individuals who at the very least are looking at a long term relationship. Not something that is done in a wham, bam thank you mam way.
So the short answer to your questions is this. I and others like me do and will respect you for choosing to wait for the right man. For those that don't respect this, who may think less of of you for choosing to wait are not worthy of you.
Stay with your feeling they are the correct ones. Don't let anyone tell you different or pressure you into giving in to them.
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I have utmost respect for someone who waited for exactly the right person and didn't settle for less. It shows a lot of responsibility, character, and maturity. Age at first intercourse experience doesn't mean anything. Nothing weird about being 24 or younger.
It's about truly being ready and like I tell everyone else it's not a right of passage thing you must reach by a certain age. We're all ready when we're ready.
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General opinions are tricky customers as all cases are particular in one way or another. I'd say it depends entirely on the man involved. Positive vibes would be a woman with self-restraint, self-respect, knows what she wants and won't settle for anything less. It would imply commitment was more important to her than quick-thrills. It would suggest loyalty too and that old-fashioned word 'chastity', call it a higher-than-average moral integrity if you like. Negatives? Now this, I assure you isn't a flippant or throw-away comment intended to get a cheap laugh. Women with that much moral-fibre have ALWAYS scared the flippin' life out of me! I don't feel like I'm on the same page. So a 'general' comment...you might appear pretty daunting to some guys, they might feel you're a little bit more than they could live up to. Now, I feel like it's ME being analysed. OK, for the record, I'm pretty hedonistic and always have been. I've never been known so much for my willpower as the lack of it. But I'm certain a guy who shares her code would find the woman easier company and would take only the positives I mentioned, and they ARE positives. I'd think he'd be thoroughly delighted...not terrified at all in fact!!
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