Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
Website: Ask Michele
E-mail: cobweb2@comcast.net
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what shall i do becuase i'm 13 and i'm too young to buy condoms (link)
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WEll, I am sure that you can get them over the internet, but for that you would need a credit card. Try going to a super market.Get some other stuff with them. There will bo so many people in the store, you won't feel so self conscious because no one will be paying attention to you.
Get into a line with a young person as the cashier. and then pay for all your stuff. I don;t think they will notice.
Good luck. Please be careful. And please don't feel that since you had sex once, that you have to have sex again, or with another boy. Don't have sex with someone you don't know very well. Get to know the boy, become friends first. Don't let them use you. But you won't know what a boy is really like after just a few hours spent together. ANd don;t go by what he says, because soooooo many of them find it easy to say nice things just to get you into bed. Then they soon forget about you. So take your time.
Michelel
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I found a pipe and a lighter in my brother's draw. I was furious because I'm am strongly against smoking. He's in college...I understand he's old enough to make his own descisions, but he has a lot going for him and I don't want him to screw up his future....What are the possibilities of what he was smoking? Like weed..tobacco?And, is there a site that has the bad effects of it, or if you guys can list some that will convince him to stop, I would appreciate it! (link)
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It's probably pot, which is agains the law. And is a felony. And if he gets caught and arrested, he could lose his financial aid. I don't know if your parents are paying for college or if he has applied for financial aid. If he is on financial aid, the government will not give him any more aid if he gets arrested for possession of marijuana. You can do research on the internet and find lots of information smoking pot and the real problems that can happen from smoking it. Health wise and everything.
Michele
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My question is simple, could you suggest a good, easy, and result showing work-out plan? I really need to get in shape for my Junior year. I am the Junior-Class President next year, and I MUST look in great shape. I have tried diets and many differents tools, and none show results. I am 16, and currently weigh, last I checked, 225lbs. (link)
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You need a two fold plan. Burn calories and tone or build muscles. Burning calories is any exercise of long duration. Running, walking, biking, skating, swimming. rowing. Any or a combination of all, for an hour at least 5 times a week. Then work with free weights. Low weights like 3 to 5 to 8 lbs will help tone muscles, higher weights will build muscles. You don't want to work on building muscles until you have lost weight. Otherwise you build the muscles under the fat and you will look better. GEt a book on weight lifting or go to www.about.com they have a section on weight loss and weight training, you can sign up for their free newsletter. Can you join a gym? Is there a YMCA in your town. They have the best gyms and are the least expensive. If you are going to work out a home you have to at least invest in a few hand weights and a work out bench. You can't do the right kind of exercises on the floor. Look for books by Joyce Verdral, PHD. She has books about weight lifing that explain everything, and they have pictures and all. YOu can find used books and old books on www.half.com for very little money.
And finally, yo need to go on a very low fat diet, here is a basic one that I used for many years, and still try to follow. I know this works. I lost 45 lbs. in 5 months.
Cut all fat out of your diet. Read the labels and see what food you eat that contains fat. I mean the nutrition labels. Foods that are high in fat are
Whole milk
ice cream
potato chips
cookies
cakes
pies
cheese
cheese
cheees
especially cheese
cheetos
doritos
snack only on pretzels and low fat popcorn
no candy
no soda
drink lots of water
consume low fat versions of
milk
yogurt
drink lots of water
eat lots of fruits and veggies
white meat chicken and turkey or fish
no red meat.
Eat a piece of chicken or turkey no larger than the size of your hand.
Cereal is a good snack food. Choose cereals low in fat and low in sugar, have with skim milk.
Eat dairy, fruit and cereal in the am.
snack on fruit
eat dairy, fruit, 4 oz of meat, and one slice of whole grain bread, and veggies or salad for lunch
repeat for dinner.
have a smalll bowl of cereal with fat free milk as a snack after dinner.
follow this NO CHEATING, and you will loose 10 lbs in two weeks.
This is taken form the FAT TO MUSCLE DIET. It is a book, see if you can find a copy.
Good Luck to you. You go girl!
Michele
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I what to become very skinny because i like this guy and he only looks at the skinny gurls!!! Its like im not even there!! like all me friends say im normol for my age! i dont like so! Im like so fat. they say im not fat atall do i what to go on a starvation deit but my friend say NOOO! but i really like that guy~ I WHAT TO BE SKINNY!!!
Court (link)
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HI, I gave this same answer to a girl last week. She thanked me. I know this works. I lost 45 lbs. in 5 months. Good Luck. PS Don't be skinny for anyone else but yourself! ANd you must follow all of this diet. You need to be sure to get fruit, veggies and dairy in your diet and protein. Don't live on one kind of food, you'll get sick.
Cut all fat out of your diet. Read the labels and see what food you eat that contains fat. I mean the nutrition labels. Foods that are high in fat are
Whole milk
ice cream
potato chips
cookies
cakes
pies
cheese
cheese
cheees
especially cheese
cheetos
doritos
snack only on pretzels and low fat popcorn
no candy
no soda
drink lots of water
consume low fat versions of
milk
yogurt
drink lots of water
eat lots of fruits and veggies
white meat chicken and turkey or fish
no red meat.
Eat a piece of chicken or turkey no larger than the size of your hand.
Cereal is a good snack food. Choose cereals low in fat and low in sugar, have with skim milk.
Eat dairy, fruit and cereal in the am.
snack on fruit
eat dairy, fruit, 4 oz of meat, and one slice of whole grain bread, and veggies or salad for lunch
repeat for dinner.
have a smalll bowl of cereal with fat free milk as a snack after dinner.
follow this NO CHEATING, and you will loose 10 lbs in two weeks.
This is taken form the FAT TO MUSCLE DIET. It is a book, see if you can find a copy.
Michele
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in college I want to major in interior decorationg because I think I have a flair in that type of art. for those who don't know that much about it, it's when you help design color schemes, furniture, decorations, paint, etc. for peoples' rooms and stuff. Well I want to know if that's a good paying job and if I'll make enough money to support myself and kids, a house, etc. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I really want to know if it's a good enough job. Thanks. (link)
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WEll yes, there are some interior decorators who make a lot of money. Martha Stewart started out that way and Chris Casson Madden, you can look her up on the web. She has a web page. As you know they have been on TV, have published books, and magazines. It is important that you promote yourself once you have your degree. Take some courses in marketing also, that will show you how to promote yourself. Get your name out there, to bring in customers. It would also be important to live in an area where people have "disposable" cash. Everyone wants to have a beatiful home, but not everyone can afford an interior decorator. So, bottom line there are decorators who have made a lot of money, and there are some whe have not been successful. It all depends on the person.
HOpe this helps and good luck to you.
Michele
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Hi!
I had sex for the first time 2 weeks ago, and it felt fab, my boyfriend enjoyed it so much we did it for about an hour in some local woods. we didn't use condoms and i had sex durin my periods -do u enjoy sex and do u think i'm pregnant? (link)
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Perhaps you are not pregnant, but now that you are having sex, and since you like it, (and what is not to like) you have to be responsible and get on birth control. Also use condoms. I guess if you both were virgins and remain true to each other, you don't have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. But you do have to worry about pregnancy. Getting pregnant will turn the pleasure of sex into a nightmare. And please don't think that it won't happen to you. Every young gilr who ever got pregnant thought the same thing. And since there were 40,000 abortions performed last year, that is a lot of girls who did not use precaution. If there is a clinic in town, go there and get on the pill or the patch. Please.
Though sex is pleasurable at any age, taking responsibility will show that you are mature enough to handle it. If brith control for you is not an option then condoms for your boyfriend should be used. Anyone can buy them at any drug store.
Good luck
Michele
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How many smirnoff ices about would u have to drink to get drunk? (link)
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You know last year 1,700 kids died from ingesting too much alcohol. I know you are still going to drink, but I think when you start to feel the effects of the alcohol, you should then stop. Why would you want to drink so much that you can't stand up. There is a book out by a young girl she wrote it. She started drinking at age 13. IT is called SMASHED. I am sure that all the info you need to know about drinking and what happens when you do, even what it is like to have your stomache pumped out for drinking too much and being close, very close to death.
Michele
yeah sure.
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hey all today i was skateboarding with my brother and his friend and my one friend made a ramp out of wood and i went to skateboard like go up the ramp and well i fell and the bad part is i landed on my arm i mean on my arm and when i got home my arm started shaking and my hand to and know it hurts alot i think i twisted it when i fell to so what should i do should go to the hopspital or go to get it x-rayed or should i just leave it alone. i will rate 5's for reasonable answers thanks kindly. (link)
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If you broke something, it would swell up, A REAL LOT. A broken bone needs to be set in a cast. If it is a sprain, you need to put cold then warm compresses on it, 2o minutes warm, then 20 minutes cold. Wrap it in an ace bandage and keep it immobile. It is possible that your shoulder is dislocated? It if was it would look real funny and hurt a lot. I really think that if you broke something or if you dislocated your shoulder I would think that you would be in so much pain that you would not be on the computer looking for advice, you would have gone to the hospital right after it happened. But if you are still not sure, you really should get medical attention.
Michele
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If you can see the tumor, if it is on the outside, you could also try putting Tea Tree Oil on it. It has a very strong oder, but I works well to heal almost everything. That is what I would do.
Michele
Ok, I bought the Tea Tree Oil, but on the bottle it says not to apply to animals.... Help? (link)
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Well, I have a book here that says it can be used on animals. But I think I know why. Many animals would lick it off, and Tea Tree Oil should not be taken internally. Do you think the hamster will lick the tea tree oil off the tumor, or could you cover the area so he can't lick it? Or maybe it is in an area where he can't reach it. Just be sure to clean things up after you apply it so he doesn't lick it. If it gets on his paws, he may get some of it in his mouth.
Michele
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im a 21 year old male and my girlfriend is 19 and 8 months pregnant.She's thinks i dont find her attractive anymore because it seems like ive lost my sex drive!!what should i do?? (link)
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Don't you guys have a doctor. If you asked the doctor this question he would tell you it's normal. It is normal for her to feel unattractive, and it is normal for your sex drive to be lower at this time. You are both anticipating the birth of this baby, and when you see it, you will believe in miracles. This should be the happiest time of you lives. You two should have waited until you were both older before you had a baby. Then you would both be more mature, and when these feelings came, while you would feel them, you would both be able to realize that is just the preganancy, the anticipation of the baby coming, that you are both nervous, and you would both realize that it is temporary. And by temporary, I mean a few months. She is going to feel that way for a few months after the baby is born, and so are you. You won't be able to have sex for a while. And by the way, don't think that because she is bleeding after the pregancy, that she cannot get pregnant, She can. So use birth control.
Good luck to both of you.
Michele
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Okay...i went out with this guy (lets call him fred)we went out for about 3 months.. he broke up with me with the excuse "i deont want a girlfriend" but i kept in touch with him i called him every night. he ended up dating one of my best friends and he told me he was still interested in me but he dont want a girlfriend we still go on "dates" but im not interested in just being friends. im in love head over heels with this guy. hes all i ever talk about and hes the only guy im interested in i still cry over him about every night and i have dreams about him ALL the time! I wanna be dating people but when i try to it makes him sooo mad so i stop but it seems that im only there for him to fall back on like he uses me..what should i do i dont wanna keep waiting on him and i dont wanna b used but im sooo in love with him and ive tried letting go of him but i cant help myself hes just so amazing. should i keep waiting untill he wants a g/f or should i move on? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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The answer is staring you in the face. You can't make someone love you. But you can make sure that no one takes advantage of you. Why would you settle for that? There is someone out there for you. Someone you are going to love very much, and he is going to love you very much. It is not going to happen as fast as you want it to. It never does. BUt itdoes happen. But if some nice guy is interested in you, and he sees that you don't think enough of yourself to not let yourself be treated this badly and just be used by some guy. Then he is not going to be interested in you. I know it hurts to love someone that does not love you back. IT hurts, nothing you can do. Feel it, cry, do whatever you have to, then move on. He is not the only guy in the world. You feel bad now because he treats you so badly, and just uses you. Imagine if you could actually make him spend the rest of his life with you,but not treat you any better. Are you ready to face a life time of that? You'd be miserable. Then you'd be miserable with kids. then you'd be miserable with kids, and divorced and no money. Find a guy who thinks you are the most wonderful, most beautiful, most alluring, and fun to be with person on this earth. That man/boy you can have a life with. Not someone who treats you badly, says things to hurt you, then gets sooo jealous when you even try to have a decent relationship with a real guy. This man/boy is using you. He can't do that unless you LET HIM. So stop letting him. Keep your heart safe. The right guy will come along. Keep yourself safe so that when he finds you, he will fall in love with you, and you won't have any relationship baggage.
I know, I have been there.
Michele
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Hi,
Ok, so this guy has asked me out for the longest time. about 5 minutes ago he ask me out again and i turned him down, again, and he was like 'well if we cant go out can we be friends with benifits? like blow jobs, fingering, etcetera... ' and ive noticed myself feeling more attraction to him lately just not enough to be in a relationship with him. but there is that need for sexual attention from an attractive guy, you know? so i dont know what to do?? help please!! (link)
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If you wouldn't like him to go out with him, why would you have sex with him? Sexual needs....how about bad reputation. Friends with benefits, and the guy gets all the benefits. Think I'm old fashioned? Well I am, and I wish that things have changed for women but they haven't changed in 100's of years. When you meet that special guy who wants to marry you, he is going to ask you........how many?
And you'll want to say none or a very low number. The best part about sex is being in love. Otherwise it is just a bodily function.
Michele
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I am overweight and I want to lose about 20 pounds. I've tried dieting and I just can't do it. I try to excercise but I forget sometimes. Does anyone have suggestions of what I can do? I'm hoping to lose it this summer too. I'm 13/f. (link)
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HI, I gave this same answer to a girl last week. She thanked me. I know this works. I lost 45 lbs. in 5 months. Good Luck.
Cut all fat out of your diet. Read the labels and see what food you eat that contains fat. I mean the nutrition labels. Foods that are high in fat are
Whole milk
ice cream
potato chips
cookies
cakes
pies
cheese
cheese
cheees
especially cheese
cheetos
doritos
snack only on pretzels and low fat popcorn
no candy
no soda
drink lots of water
consume low fat versions of
milk
yogurt
drink lots of water
eat lots of fruits and veggies
white meat chicken and turkey or fish
no red meat.
Eat a piece of chicken or turkey no larger than the size of your hand.
Cereal is a good snack food. Choose cereals low in fat and low in sugar, have with skim milk.
Eat dairy, fruit and cereal in the am.
snack on fruit
eat dairy, fruit, 4 oz of meat, and one slice of whole grain bread, and veggies or salad for lunch
repeat for dinner.
have a smalll bowl of cereal with fat free milk as a snack after dinner.
follow this NO CHEATING, and you will loose 10 lbs in two weeks.
This is taken form the FAT TO MUSCLE DIET. It is a book, see if you can find a copy.
Michele
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I am now fifteen and the last time i liked a guy while we were going out was when i was twelve. its fucked up cause i've gone out with guys since then; and i've had crushes; but as soon as we're actually together the idea of commitment totally turns me off and i stop liking him. And even when we've broken up i remain totally possessive; i get jealous of him and tell him to wait for me and not date anyone else. It seems like I only want what i can't have, and i never want to keep anything thats too easily won. it's nice for the first few days... but then it actually seems like im tired of being involved. what the fuck is wrong with me? could it have anything to do with my mistrust in love, or perhaps my broken family? (link)
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Well, I think you are just too young for a committed relationship. All of you are. But that doesn't stop anyone from trying to be in one. It is ok to date, otherwise, how will you get to know guys and find the type of guy you like. At your ages, you guys are just looking at how cute someone is. There appearance takes on too much importance. And none of you are the same people that you are going to be when you get older. Mostly we change out total personally, every 5 years or so, when we are growing up. So the kind of guy you like now is not going to be the kind of guy you like 5 years from now or 10 years from now. Later in life, when you meet people that you have things in common with, then you will find someone that you can like a real lot and have a long term relationship. Now all you have in common is maybe you all go to the same school, or live in the same neighborhood and maybe like the same music. And maybe dress the same, but that is nothing to build a long term relationship on, that is why boyfriend and girlfriend things don't last so long at this age.
Say when you are 21, you really like mountain climbing, or you really like this one group and go see them whatever chance you get, or you like going dancing. When you do these things with your friends, you will meet guys who like the same things. Then you will do them together. You'll have that in common. You can't base a long term relationship on just sex. Or just seeing each other in school. These boys cannot do anything for you, they can't take you out on a date, they can't take you away for a weekend. They can't take you out to dinner, movie, whatever, All you can do is arrange to mee them somewhere and hold hands. Yes it is wonderful to be with someone, and to have a boyfriend. But with nothing of substance to the relationship. They are doomed to be over fast. It is not you, don't worry. You will be ready for committement. When you are older. Don't get me wrong there s always one ot two couples in school who have been dating since day one, and are still together, and sometimes those two will even marry. But it is rare. What is more common is dating a dozen or so guys while you are in high school. And that is OK too. But I would advise you to have sexual relations with all of them, (that is if you are, I don't know, and I am not accusing you of anything, I am just trying to make a point). So, look at all the adults around you who are married. They all felt the same way you did when you were young. They never thought that they would find the right person And of course they did.
And hey, marriage is work. It does not last if both parties don't work at it, and are thoughtful towards the other person, and respectful. You said you came from a broken home, and while that could be a strike against you, it doesn't have to be. Don't make the same mistakes. Take the time to get to know a guy before you get more involved. BEcome friends first. Every marriage out there that is still intact today, the couple will tell you that they are also each others friends. Mutual respect is of the most importance
I hope this helps, honey.
Michele
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what web site can i go to to find out how i can turn some one in to chid welfare (link)
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Well welfare is run by the state. So look in your phone book, in the blue section under the state that you are in. Look for a department called Child welfae, child and family services, family and youth services. They may even have a hot line that is open 24 hours to report abuse. In our state Connecticut, they have a 211 line that is an info line for social services. I don't know if they have that in your state. Your state also does have a web page, and if you find that.I( it would be a .gov site. ours is www.ct.gov) THere you might be able to find the link to the department that handles social services. I know here in CT they do follow up on anonymous calls like that. so give it a try. And good for you for helping a kid in trouble. Too many people look the other way.
I know I wouldn't hesitate if I knew a child was being abused or neglected
Michele
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My skin gets bitten a LOT during the summer...are there any home remedies or good sprays that you guys can suggest
thanks (ill rate) (link)
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Skin So Soft by AVON has been known for years to keep the mosquitos away. No one knows why it works but it does. I keep some in my cabinet. I am not crazy about the smell. Very flowery, but it works. It is not expensive, and it has no chemicals. DEET is a known mosquito repelant, but to much is dangerous, and I wouldn't recommend it.
Michele
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I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for about 4 months now. Note: I'm also a girl. I think my parents are starting to catch on bc I've spent every single Friday at her house for the last 3 months or so, since we've been going out. I've stopped spending time with a lot of my other friends, and it seems I only have time for her. I try to tell myself that I need to start seeing my friends more, but every weekend I just can't bare not being with her. Especially because she has a rough past, and she is on house arrest and can't come up to me. She was also thrown out of my school and goes to a school far away where I cant be with her. She's a grade ahead to. Anyway, the point of this is because I don't know wether or not I should tell my parents about me and her. They've seen me come home with hickies, and almost stopped letting me see her. I think I'm falling really hard for her, and I think it could be love. Every second not spent with her I feel so lonely. I'm afraid of what the outcome will be if I tell my family about my relationship. I think they know that I'm gay, because my mom makes fun of me for it all the time. I'm not asking for anyone to solve my problem, because I know that no one can, but I'm looking for advice (link)
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I don't think it matters what your sexual preferance is, as much as it matters who you are in love with. And many of us are attracted to people who are "bad guys". You know, the kind that get in trouble all the time. And this girl sound like that type. Since she is under house arrest. I wonder how much attention you would get from her if she had the freedom to come and go as she pleases. I don't think your parents ar going to like that you see this gird because she had no redeeming values. She may be using you for now because her friends don't want to be stuck in the house. You are willing because you are in love. YOu are willing to settle. Think with your brain and not your heart for a little while Ask yourself what kind of relationship this person can give you. If it going to be all one sided. Once she gets her freedom you may see the last of her. Imagine how much that will hurt you. I am not saying that you should change your sexual preferences.....you should just change who you choose to bestow you love on, and who you spend quality time with. Male or Female, it should be someone who treats you with respect and cherishes you. Find someone who has not been introuble with the law so you can have a nice life together and not have to pay for their mistakes. People like that can also bring you down with them because misery loves company. If they get you to break the law with them, it makes them feel better about themselves.
Your much to young to be so completely involved with someone like that. This is the time of your life that you should be learning about who you are and what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of person you may spend the rest of your life with. But it is too soon to know for sure WHO that person is. Because you and your friend are not going to be the same people 10 years from now. If she continues to choose a path of trouble....do you want to go down that road to? For what, for love? Love won't save you honey. Not in that way. Do you know how many people are in jail because they did something for the person they were soooo in love with? Girlfriends for "just carry these drugs for me". If you love me you'll drop this money off for me at this house. They get arrested, and the boyfriend or girlfriend gets off. Sometimes they didn't even know they were breaking the law. Now 8 to 10 years of their lives are spend behind bars. Please go back to your friends. You should be enjoying this time in your life. Out and about and doing things and enjoying your teenage years and the freedoms that come with being you and not having to have any responsibilities yet. That will come soon enough. Your friend squadered her freedom by breaking the law. She should pay, not you. I'll bet your friends miss you. Why not spend the next free day you have with them, and have some fun.
Michele
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My best friend just passed away :-[. she was only 13 and she died of cystic fybrosis. i miss her soo much! we have been best friends since the day we met .. when we were 3! every night i cry myself to sleep because i miss her so much! She passed away last week. PLEASE HELP ME! what can i do to keep her with me and what can i do to make me get over the fact that im never gonna see her again!? thanks a lot .. (link)
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HI Samie,
I am sorry for your loss. I am sure that you played a very important roll in your friends short life. She must have counted on you to be there for her. I know that her disease was debilitating, so there were not a lot of activities that you two could do together. But you stayed her best friend anyway. That was so kind of you. Samie, I believe that everything happens for a reason. Your friend was sick, and you both knew that she was not going to live a long full life. Yes, you both hoped otherwise, but inside you knew. You shows strength and compassion where a lot of people would have shyed away. Maybe she was sent here for only a short time, not just to be your friend, but to teach you and the others close to her, compassion, and to value life, because none of us know how really long we have. IT may also have been to influence you to choose a path for your future. A future of helping people like you helped her. Perhaps you may become a doctor. Or a research scientist and find a cure for cyctic fybrosis. . Maybe you will do charitable work. Your friend will be an influence on you your whole life. YOu will always remember her. And as you grow older and begin to understand the cycles in life, you will think of her and smile, and thank her for making you realize how important life really is. The best thing you can do is live a great life, in her honor.
God Bless you. You have lived a lifetime already, in your short years. It has made you stronger and has shaped your future. Even if you don't realize it yet.
Michele
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My best friend lives in another state. She thinks shes in love with this guy who's 17 (my friend is 14/f). I've never met him, but i really don't trust him. He's currently in jail, and he has a baby on the way with his Ex-girlfriend. I really want to help my friend, but she thinks shes in love with this criminal. he was arrested for drunk driving! SHe doesnt want me to judge him, but i cant help but judge him! what am i supposed to do? should i support her, even though i think she's gonna get hurt, or should i keep trying to convince her not to keep giving this guy everything he wants? (link)
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No don;t support her. Let her know exactly what she is in for. YOu can see it. You may not be able to stop her, but don't condone it. He is being nice to her because he is in jail and has no one else. I feel bad for that poor girl who is having his baby. This man will never be a good father or provider or husband. WHy not find out his real name, and do a search on him in Google. Then go to her city newspaper's website, and search on his name. All the times he has been arrested his name will be in the paper. Here is another thing. Each state has a Government page. On that page is a link to JUDICIAL proceedings. CLick on that link. Go to a nother link that will read something like case look up or party name look up. YOu will be able search on his name and you may even be able to find out what he has been arrested for. Wether or not he has any additional paternity suits agains him. If he has ever been arrested for domestic violence. If you have trouble let me know what State she lives in and his name, and I will try and find the link for you. Criminal cases are all a matter of public record. It is not against the law to do this.
Gee, I hope no one is paying attention. ha.ha.
Michele
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hey i have a problem! i think my family hates me.....grandma,sisters,brother and uncle to be exact. ( to help those are the people i live with )anyway i think i hate them to cause they hate me and yell at me all the time so i should hate them to!i want to leave the house really badly. my grandma says i'll be grounded if i leave but i dont care what should i do? (link)
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Ok, why do they hate you. Are they mean, do they send you to dinner without food? Do they keep you locked in a closet? Did they take all your nice things away? Do they hit you, or bite you or spit on you? No. Well that is what people will do to you on the street if you run away. ANd that is just the beginning. They will also use you sexually. YOu will be hungry, you will be cold, and you will get dirty, and you will be scared, and you will have no place to go, then some guy will take you in, and you'll be scared but you'll be soooo hungry and tired you'll go with him. And he's going be rrrreeeeaaaallll nice to you. He is going to sympathize with you, and say that you had every right to run away. They were mean to you, they don't deserve you. But he will be happy to take care of you. And don't worry you won't have to go back there, and you won't even have to go to school. And here, after you've eaten take this, it will help you sleep. Then when you wake up, you won't even know where you are. But he'll be there and suddenly he is going to be so mean and say, it's time for you to pay girl. Did you think I was going to take care of you for nothing! NOw you're going to go to bed with me and then you are going to go to bed with my friends. And by this time, you are going to be thinking about your grandma, and your sisters and your uncle and be thinking about how much you miss them, and how you wish you could go back there, and how you wish you could take back all the things you said. and maybe they would help you, but you don't even know where you are, and that guy look scary, and he's is not about to let you out of his sight, cause he knows that you are going to run away the first chance you get. If you survive.
If think I am exaggerating. Go and look at my column. Look up the letters I got from SAM and LAUREN. SAM ran away and she had a good reason she was being abused in a foster home. She was so lost. She was beaten and drugged and did lord know what to survive. And her friend Lauren was frantic looking for her. Everything is OK now, but I know that she will never forget her ordeal. If she did have a family that cared for her she would have never ran away. Both her real parents are drug addicts. Is your family on drug? Do they abuse you? I think you will have to have better reasons that you hate them and they hate you. Maybe they just think you are a selfish brat and they are tired of you. DO you always need to be the center of attention. Is everything all about you and what you want. Try to be more charitable.
Listen if you run away, and end up going through what I just described.....if you made it back you would be the best little girl they ever saw and you will appreciate and love each one of them very much. So why not skip all the bad part,and just start being nice. If you are not part of the solution, then you must be part of the problem. Take it upon yourself to be very nice to all of them, and see what happens. You may be pleasantly surprised.
Michele
That's my story and I'm stickin' to it!
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