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Q: i have an alter ego, and it is beggining to make me wonder. i am the type of person who can read Gossip Girl one second and then read a westernn book, or a book on philisophy the next second. during the say, i am petrofied of spiders and will not go outdoors if there is a bee, but at night, i will do anything to be outside, alone with nature.i will spend a whole school day just chatting with my friends about clothes and boys, but when i get home i sit there and analyze their personalitys, seeing what makes each of them good friends, and what i need to watch out for. i have happy pop, heavy metal, rock and roll, chilled out, hip-hop/r&b/rap, and clasical music all on my iPod. some says, ill go out in sweatpants and another day im wearing my micro-mini skirt with the 4 inch stiletos. i am wondering why i am so different, why my personalitys contradict eachother. why do i think so much about the meaning of life somtimes, and the other times im thinking about boys, grinding, and my hair. it drives me crazy knowing that while somtimes i have such a good head on my sholders, other times i have the worst sense of what is right and what is wrong. also, if i was only to have one side, i dont know which to chose. i love being able to be insightful, so i would never give that up, but should i give up all of the mindless, moral-less fun i have with my friends? im torn. please help me, my different selves are confusing me! thank you so much, i know nobody likes to read about me talking about myself for pages and pages.
xoox,
BubblyGirl

what do you mean "what should i do?" and "my different selves are confusing me"? uh, it's not "different selves", it's just YOU. you have diverse interests and multiple qualities in your personality... there's nothing wrong with that! there's nothing to "give up"... it's just who you are, and you shouldn't hide either side.
i know you're probably thinking "seriously, what do i do, HELP ME IM CONFUSED" but there's really nothing i CAN say because you're always gonna be you, your tastes are gonna evolve over time and no matter what side you decide to "give up", you'll find that you're not really giving it up, just hiding it, or ignoring it, but it's not gone, because it's you. DON'T change yourself!! otherwise, you're, well, not being who you are, and do you really like people who aren't themselves? exactly.
Probably sounded like a load of bull, but listen to me, i know what i'm talking about=) i hope i still helped, though=)
~Mari^_^

Q: hey. does anyone know any sites that can give you tips on skateboard tricks?

http://www.skateboard-city.com/skateboard-trick-tips

i'm really not sure if it will actually help, but my cousin goes to that site all the time for tips. i'm sure you'd be better off googling it=P

Q: What do you do when your friend makes a big life choice and you think to yourself, "Wtf? She's going to hurt herself so much!"? What do you do when your friend asks for your advice, you name the pitfalls you can see and give her suggestions on how to avoid or lessen them, but she goes ahead and makes a probably hurtful decision anyway? What do you do when your friend makes a decision and you are both excited for her but also aware that it probably won't end well? What do you do when your friend can see the pitfalls in front of her but doesn't do anything to avoid them?

the only thing you CAN do: be there for her, and keep being the good friend it sounds like you already are.

friends do stupid things, don't always listen, end up screwing THEMSELVES over, and feel sorry about it. as much as it hurts, though, you're gonna have to sit through it and watch, because you gave your bes advice & the situation still ended wrong, but even then you make sure your friend learns from her mistakes.

as for situations to come, just remember that with really BAD situations, being a good friend sometimes means you've gotta slap them in the face until they listen (harsh, yes, but it's true...)^_^

*Mari*

Q: so basically one of my friends told me that this guy named joey liked me, he is extremeley smart, good looking and a year older than me (im 16) and my friend told me that he wants to ask me out for two reasons 1. he kinda likes me 2. there is this girl named bridget same age as he who also likes him and wants joey to ask her out but joey does not want to go out with her and so he wants to ask me out so maybe bridget would back off. I like joey but i also like this guy 18 m phil. He is incredibly good looking and he is a girl magnet, i thought he liked me because he kept on flirting with me last year and this year but my sister told me he does that to all girls and he also smokes a lot (for me thats a turnoff). I want to go out with joey but i don't want to get in a fight with bridget about it because my friend told me that he wants me to go with the plan that if joey asks me out i would say yes, but i actually do like him but i just dont want bridget to get mad at me, i don't want to talk to bridget because im not that close with her shes just in a couple of my classes, but i dont want to say no to the offer either and then theres phil... what should i do?

if i were you, i'd go with joey. if he likes you, bridget shouldn't be a problem, and since you like him too, you should give him a chance. it desn't sound so much like he's using you to get rid of bridget, but more like it just happens to be a bonus if you went out with him.
as for phil, it sounds like you're mainly just attracted to him physically. being a "player" & smoking... that's not cool. that just screams "HEARTBREAK, JUST WAITING TO HAPPEN!"
still, i don't know any of you, so i can't judge. just saying it the way it sounds to me, but do what you feel is right.
~Mari^_^

Q: my best friend sam has had 2 babies and she is only eleven she is pregnet again now for 5 months my other friends say not to be her friend anymore but we have been friends since preschool she is the school slut and wears short skirts and low cut half shirts and she doesn't know who any of the dads are should i still be her friend?

wow, you've gotta be kidding me... first of all, i just gotta say i don't believe you. there's no way an eleven-year-old has a kid and another on the way. BUT if i'm putting my two cents into a situation like this, here it is:

talking to a friend about it is pretty much a friend's responsibility. standing by that friend's side no matter what other people say simply because YOU say she's you friend... that's also your responsibility as a friend. i know... there are times when your friends frustrate you, like you can't get something through to them, and you even feel like giving up on them sometimes... and i agree, she doesn't exactly sound like the type of person someone should have as a friend, as she's a bad influence... but what she needs is a GOOD influence, and that's why you're here, especially when you have a lot of history with her. this isn't about other people thinking she's a slut; it's about whther or not you care what other people think, and if you do, maybe you're ALREADY not her friend.

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If you think my username's dumb, you should see the one I made when I was 13...

Hi, I'm Marisol :) I'm 24 years old. I try to look at all different sides of a situation before forming an opinion. I may not always know what to say, but I always have something TO say. So as far as giving advice goes, I just give my best input and hope I can help. Let me know how I do with some feedback. :)