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What do you do?
What do you do when your friend makes a big life choice and you think to yourself, "Wtf? She's going to hurt herself so much!"? What do you do when your friend asks for your advice, you name the pitfalls you can see and give her suggestions on how to avoid or lessen them, but she goes ahead and makes a probably hurtful decision anyway? What do you do when your friend makes a decision and you are both excited for her but also aware that it probably won't end well? What do you do when your friend can see the pitfalls in front of her but doesn't do anything to avoid them?
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You warn your friend... Gently. When they fail to listen... Or listen but can't help themselves... You watch them "bang their head up against the wall." And once they fall apart... You help them pick up the pieces. You offer your shoulder for them to cry on... And your hand for them to hold...
And when they do it again... You shake your head and shrug your shoulders... Perhaps nag them a little though you know they won't listen... When giving advice gets old... You just shut up if you're tired. Because they are who they are, and they're going to do what they're going to do and there's not much more you can do about it...
Except to accept them as perfectly imperfect and love them unconditionally... Because that's just what friends do.
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All you can do is let your friend live and learn from her own mistakes. Just make sure you're there for her when she does fall. People make stupid decisions in life. It's inevitable. All you can really do about it is let that person know you care and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
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the only thing you CAN do: be there for her, and keep being the good friend it sounds like you already are.
friends do stupid things, don't always listen, end up screwing THEMSELVES over, and feel sorry about it. as much as it hurts, though, you're gonna have to sit through it and watch, because you gave your bes advice & the situation still ended wrong, but even then you make sure your friend learns from her mistakes.
as for situations to come, just remember that with really BAD situations, being a good friend sometimes means you've gotta slap them in the face until they listen (harsh, yes, but it's true...)^_^
*Mari*
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What do you do?
you be there for her when she hits that pitfall
you told her what could happen, all the downfalls, tell her shell get hurt
you did your best
so now, when she gets hurt, youre there for her
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You have done your duty as a friend to let her know that you forsee difficulties on her current path. Now you let her live her life and you are there for her if/when she falls.
Sabine
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