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I just read "Confessions of a Shopaholic" and it was amazing! I already own 2 more books from the series but I don't know the order to read them in, sooooo....
In what order are the books from the Shopaholic series? (link)
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1. Confessions of a Shopaholic
2. Shopaholic does Manhattan (the one about new york, the title is along those lines)
3. Shopaholic ties the knot
4. Shopaholic and Sister
I've read the whole series, they're great.
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Do you think it is ok to ask a guy if he likes you. I mean like like you? (link)
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Yes, of course it is okay. Thats really the only way to know if he like you for sure. If you like him as well, you'd be putting your heart on the line. If you feel comfortable doing that then go for it! There should be more couragous people like you.
Love, Rainbow
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well i like this guy and i know he likes me back cause i can tell..and his friend told me! but he's really angry at me cause once i've been kinda mean whatever yeah and i really like to be friends again soooo when i tried to talk he didnt answer that much (he did but is was just weird all he said was uhu and yeah and stuff like that :-/) and in school he is just weird he looks at me but just weird cause everytime i'm in the same hall or classroom he walkes away cause he's mad! so what should i do now? i really wanna be friends and i love him soo much he'S the kinda guy i always wanted sooo what should i do to get him to not be so angry and just forgive me?? i already appologized but as i was saying he answered weird!
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I don't know what you did to make him so mad, but sometimes one apology isn't enough. I think that you need to tell him that you really want your friendship (or whatever you want to call it) to work. Tell him that you are trying your best ro fix it, but you can't do it by yourself. You should sit down and have an open conversation. It may be diffucukt to get him to agree to this, but once he does it will be better for both of you. Do it face to face in a non-threatening environment. Speak without judgement. There may be more bothering him than whatever you did. It might not be an easy talk, but once you do it, you might be able to find a solution or come to an agreement. The bottum line is, stuff like this isn't just going to go away. You have to ask him whats up and talk about whay hes acting the way he is. Hope I helped. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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I have very oily hair. Thing is I wash it everyday, so I don't know why this is happening. Anybody have any ideas or ideas of products I can use to reduce the grease. Thx in advance & I promise to rate. (link)
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This sounds weird, but don't wash it as much. When you wash your hair it is stripped of all it natural oils and therefore thinks it has to produce more. I used to have extremely oily hair, but then I cut down the washing to once every two days, instead of every day and it got better. The first few days like that are pretty gross, but once you get over that the oil goes down a bit. If you use shampoo/conditioner for normal or dry hair then use shampoo for oily hair. The only thing I can really reccomend is to wash your hair less. You can still shower everyday, you just don't have to wash your hair. It may sound a little gross to you if you have always been taught to wash you hair every day, but it works.
Love, Rainbow
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This is for people in high school. Sorry if it's long but I'll rate all 5s && give feedback! When you go into high school from middle school, does everything change alot? && Also, do you loose a lot of friends/do a lot of people change/is there a lot more work?? I'm just really nervous for high school && that everythign's gonna change I know high schools "the best years of our lives" but Im scared so if you guys could tell me your expierences with it && if you loose your old friends/best friends && everything changes && how it changes. Thanks. I will rate you all fives promise! &♥; dayna. (link)
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It varies from school to school and from person to person. You might lose friends, it really depends on how hard you work to keep them. If you are going to the same high school then you will most likely be together for the first few months and then find your own friends. Thats not what happens all the time, though. I had a good friend from middle school and when we went to the same high school we stayed good friends. We simply made new mutual friends. If you are going to different high schools then I think much depends on how close you are to begin with. I have a friend who I was very close with before high school, we went to different schools and we are still pretty close.
People do tend to change in high school, there are so many different people and oppourtunities. Don't be hurt if friends begin to hang out with a new crowd, its most likely nothing personal. You will probably change as well. You will find new friends and hopefully keep some old ones. Seriously, high schools tend to be so highly populated that there will always be friends for you.
As for the workload, I don't find it too overwhelming. If you are involved in a lot of extra-curricular activity then obviously it will be more diffucult to keep up. Most teachers understand the difficult transition from middle school to high school and will go easy on the homework for the beginning. The workload does get more, but not by huge leaps and bounds. If you concentrate in class and keep up with homework, you should do well. Teachers don't chase you as much for assignments in high school. Its more your responsibility. So, if you are away get the missed work, if you don't understand ask the teacher until you do understand, if you STILL don't get it go in and see them for help.
Overall, high school is what you make it. If you go in with a negative attitude then you will probably have negative experience. Your first year is always the worst. High school can be a very fun and exciting step forward and I hope that I have helped prepare you for it. Congratulations and good luck!
Love, Rainbow
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The guy i like worships the devil..i think..he is into wicca and i'm totally the oposite...i love Jesus and God. But is it wrong to have feelings for someone like that? (link)
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Wicca is not devil-worship. Some people may say that they are wiccan, but they mean devil worshiping. Wicca is a real religion, it is about using the power within you to perform "magic". He may not actually worship the devil, infact if he is a true wiccan he doesn't worship the devil, he probably doesn't even believe in the devil. No, its not wrong to have feelings for someone of a different religion, you can't choose who you have feelings for. I hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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My best friend's birthday is this Thursday. I want to get/make her something really creative. She loves rent, wicked, dancing, and singing. What should I do? (link)
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Huh, well. Remember that she is YOUR friend and no one can really tell you what to get her, but I'll give you some suggestions anyway.
If she plays an instrument then you could get her music books of rent and/or wicked. That way she could sing and play the songs. You could buy her the soundtracks, if she doesn't already have them. If a show that she wants to see is coming to where you live then you could get her tickets. You could buy her a gift certificate to her dance supply store. There are some places where you can buy time in a recording studio, so if she would like to record her voice you could do that for her. A scrapbook full of memories (pictures of you two, ticket stubs from places you've gone, programs from performances she might have been in, etc.) would be a touching gift and it wouldn't cost very much. I hope I helped and that your friend has a wonderful birthday.
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Love, Rainbow
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i've been dying to now: in Rent the movie what r they talking about when they talk about baggage. cuz it comes up so many times and i dont kno wat it is. its been killing me! (link)
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As you move through life you experience things that stay with you. That is emotional baggage. People tend to bring baggage into relationships and it can be very hard for the other person to deal with it, since they have not been there for the past experiences. All the things that stay with you. For example, if you got your heart broken once and from then on you are a very emotionally unaavailable person because you want to avoid getting your heart broken again, that would be baggage. Everyone has some sort of emotional baggage. I hope I cleared things up for you.
Love, Rainbow
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13/f I just need a little help, or a lot depending how you look at it! Short Version:I like my best friend more than a friend and it is a SHE! I mean, I used to kid around with her but now whenever we get close i have to back off or I'm afraid I'll do something...stupid. And I'm starting to stare and when she looks at me I have to look away. I've been feeling like this for weeks and I dont think it's fair to her that I'm like this...what should I do? I thought I was normal! (link)
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First of all, if it does turn out that you like girls, it does not mean that you are not normal. There are several possibilities for you. You could just be going through a phase. I went through a simmilar phase recently. I thought that I was a lesbian and it turned out not to be the case. You could just be confusing your close relationship with your friend for feelings of love or infatuation. There are a LOT of hormones rushing through your body right now and to add to that you're just establishing your sexuality. It is a possibility that you are either a lesbian or bisexual. This is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. There are a lot of different lesbian/gay/bisexual support groups depending on where you live.
Telling your friend about your feelings might complicate your relationship and you might want to hold off on it until you are sure yourself. On the other hand, if you and your friend have a strong enough relationship that you think you're comfortable sharing how you feel with her, then by all means tell her. If you think that it is likely that she will be supportive and help you understand your emotions better then you should tell her.
You might want to try going to a guidance councellor or someone who can help you analyze your feelings and help you to figure out if your feelings are genuine or if they are just a result of hormones. I sincerely hope that you get all your feelings figured out. If you need anymore help with this feel free to ask me, or email me.
Love, Rainbow
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sorry about spelling, but I am really considering getting my cartilage (spelling?) pierced around my birthday day (July 1st) and I know this is a stupid question but how bad does it really hurt, and I don't really remember getting my ears pierced because I was young. And also when you do get your cartilage pierced how long do you have to keep it in? Well, thanks and if theres any other information about getting your cartilage pierced please tell me
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For me, it didn't really hurt at all. You just sort of feel the needle go through your ear and then it gets really warm. The healing time varies from person to person, mine is 6 months, my friends got 4 months and 2 months. Its different with everyone. After getting it peirced you should probably go home and take asprin right away. It will probably sting, but it really doesn't hurt that much. You should follow the cleaning instructions that they give you, otherwise there is a good chance that the piercing will become infected and thats not nice. Hope I helped.
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Love, Rainbow
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For a couple years now, I have been able to control this pain in my foot. If I stretch out my foot (mostly toes) and then push them slightly down with my muscles, my foot will freeze in that position and it becomes very painful. Sometimes, my foot will just go into this position without me making it. Is this some sort of condition, can I prevent it? (link)
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This is just a muscle cramp, everybody gets them. Sometimes you might get them in your calf. Its nothing to worry about. Muscle cramps are usually a result of overworking the muscle or growing. In terms of prevention, you can eat the following:
water
calcium (milk, broccoli, etc.)
sodium (salt, although salt has negative effects on your body when taken in large amounts, so you might not want to eat a lot of it)
potassium (bananas)
Other than that, there isn't really much you can do. They get less frequent as you get older. They are extremely painful, but shouldn't last very long. Hope I helped.
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Love, Sarah
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wat are some good kind of sad songs..that you can listen to while you broke up with some1 (link)
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I don't know what kind of music you like, but I'll try to give you a variety.
Oh Darling - The Beatles
Honesty - Billy Joel
The Ex - Billy Talent
Crestfallen - The Smashing Pumpkins
Yesterday - The Beatles
And I - Box Car Racer
Breathe (2 am) - Anna Nalick
Bad Day - Daniel Powter
Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word - Elton John
I Guess Thats Why They Call it the Blues - Elton John
My Immortal - Evanescence
Seasons - Good Charlotte
Ghost of You - Good Charlotte
Wake Me Up When September Ends - Green Day
Miss Take - Horrorpops
You're Beautiful - James Blunt
Goodbye My Lover - James Blunt
Piece of my Heart - Janis Joplin
Empty - Metric
On a Slow Night - Metric
Try - Nelly Furtado
You Know You're Right - Nirvana
Heart-Shaped Box - Nirvana
Numb - Pink
Halleujah - Lenord Cohen (I like the Rufus Wainright cover version)
I Will Remember - Sarah McLaughlin
I am a Rock - Simon & Garfunkel
Sound of Silence - Simon & Garfunkel
Soma - The Smashing Pumpkins
The World has Turned and Left Me Here - Weezer
There, those are some pretty good songs for what you're looking for. I hope you feel better soon!!
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Love, Rainbow
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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.
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is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?
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There is about a 3% chance that the condom will break (they are only about 97% effective) everytime you have sex. You can get pregnant even if you're using a condom, like I said, condoms are not 100% effective. Its better if you use spermicides or something in addition to a condom so that you have a backup form of defense. Don't use two condoms or a male and female one. The friction will increase the chances of them breaking. Hope I helped.
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Love, Rainbow
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I have a chance to be on the Oprah Winfrey show. She is looking to interview people with a mental illness and I have schizophrenia. I have been published in other magazines before for how I have managed to live with my condition; but have never been on television.
Some of my friends are telling me to go for it; but I don't know if I want this much exposure. Does anyone have any reasons why I shouldnt go on the show? And Pros or Cons? I havent made up my mind yet! (link)
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I think you should go for it. Seeing someone else with schizophrenia on tv, living a normal life may give other people who are suffering from it some hope and they might not feel so embarrassed about it. It will also help to educate people as to what schizophrenia really is. I don't think that most people have a full understanding of what it is and if they can understand, it will be easier for them to accept people with it. On the other hand, should you decide to go on the show, people you know might see you in a different light. People who didn't know about your schizophrenia before will now and you may not want that to happen. Hope I helped. Good Luck with your desicion.
Love, Rainbow
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I'm 13 and I'd like to know, how much makeup is too much? On a usual day, I wear eyeliner on the bottom lid, and an opaque, frosty lilac lip gloss. Is this ok? I don't want to look like a clown (link)
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That sounds fine, you shouldn't be wearing LOADS of makeup especially at your age. Less is really more with makeup, at any age. As long as the eyeliner and lip gloss are both tasteful, it sounds fine for a 13 year old girl.
~Rainbow
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13/f. I know that around here there are loads of moronic girls saying stuff like "OmG diS gUy iS soOoOo hOT i wANt hiM! aM i iN luV???!!!" Now, I know that teenagers generally don't fall in love, but is there anything wrong with being
"infatuated" with someone? The way many people talk about it, they make it sound like a bad thing. Is it a bad thing? Because, I'm "infatuated" with someone right now. I try not to take it too seriously, but sometimes I can't help it... (link)
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There is nothing wrong with being infatuated with someone as long as you handle it appropriately. It sounds like you handle your feelings very well. Infatuation becomes a, for lack of a better word, "bad" thing when it is mistaken for love or the infatuation is taken too far. There is nothing wrong with being infatuated, it happens to everyone.
~Rainbow
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Is it normal to start your period in gr.6? another question. If your start having periods in gr.6 and don't have one till gr.8 is the normal? (link)
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That happened to me and I'm fine, I wouldn't really worry about. I got mine in grade six and didn't have it again until grade 8. You could ask your doctor if you're really worried, but you should be fine.
~Rainbow
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what exactly is a BMI? (link)
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Body Mass Index, its a comparison between height and weight.
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i have a 4 pack at the top of my abs cause i do a lot of crunches at dance, but i cant figure out how to get the bottom 2. its so annoying ! any ideas ?
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I'm not sure what these are called, but the following crunch-type things will work your lower abs:
Lie on your back on the floor and put your legs up in the air, you should be in the shape of an "L". Then use your lower abs to lift your butt and lower back off the floor.
Do as many of these as you feel is nessecary. Good luck with your abs!
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~Rainbow
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Hey, a week ago my boyfriend and i tried to have sex, but he couldn't really get it becuase i was in too much pain. He had a condom on and didn't cum, so we just stopped tryig..is it possible that i am pregnant? I am not sure if there was any pre cum though. (link)
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There is a posibility that you could be pregnant, probably not, though. If there was precum and the condom broke or something then you could be. Watch for your period, morning sickness, nausea and abdominal pain are all signs of pregnancy. If you get really worried try getting a home pregnancy test, or going to your doctor if you trust him/her. You are probably not pregnant, but it never hurts to make sure. I hope I helped.
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~Rainbow
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