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And i thought i was normal!!
13/f I just need a little help, or a lot depending how you look at it! Short Version:I like my best friend more than a friend and it is a SHE! I mean, I used to kid around with her but now whenever we get close i have to back off or I'm afraid I'll do something...stupid. And I'm starting to stare and when she looks at me I have to look away. I've been feeling like this for weeks and I dont think it's fair to her that I'm like this...what should I do? I thought I was normal!
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First of all, being a lesbian, or liking a person of the same sex, does not make you "abnormal." Who's to say what's normal and what's not? Anyways, you might want to open up your thoughts to your friend. If she gets grossed out or whatever, just laugh it off and say you really don't want the friendship to be ruined. You can't control what you feel.
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well...... number one, if you like the same gender that doesn;t make you abnormal and you say it like it's a bad thing. personally, I'm bi and I was in the same situation as you when found out. so personally my advice is to first find out if she's strait or not and if not then tell her how you feel. but if she's strait then be more careful because she might just get creeped out. And before you do anything u might want to make sure about how you feel.
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I think its funny how you say normal.
Nothing is normal.
there is no such thing as normal.
Being Lesbian or Bisexual doesnt make you "unnormal"
And it is okay, to like the same sex.
Some times this feeling passes, but you a teenager and your just learning how you fit into the world.
so calm down.
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First of all, if it does turn out that you like girls, it does not mean that you are not normal. There are several possibilities for you. You could just be going through a phase. I went through a simmilar phase recently. I thought that I was a lesbian and it turned out not to be the case. You could just be confusing your close relationship with your friend for feelings of love or infatuation. There are a LOT of hormones rushing through your body right now and to add to that you're just establishing your sexuality. It is a possibility that you are either a lesbian or bisexual. This is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. There are a lot of different lesbian/gay/bisexual support groups depending on where you live.
Telling your friend about your feelings might complicate your relationship and you might want to hold off on it until you are sure yourself. On the other hand, if you and your friend have a strong enough relationship that you think you're comfortable sharing how you feel with her, then by all means tell her. If you think that it is likely that she will be supportive and help you understand your emotions better then you should tell her.
You might want to try going to a guidance councellor or someone who can help you analyze your feelings and help you to figure out if your feelings are genuine or if they are just a result of hormones. I sincerely hope that you get all your feelings figured out. If you need anymore help with this feel free to ask me, or email me.
Love, Rainbow
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You are actually very normal. This is not unusual at your age. Your hormones are beginning to change your body, and affect the way you look at a lot of things. So much is happening at once that you could be confusing the emotional close friendship you have for your friend and that type of love, with the type of love that your hormones are starting to desire. It does not mean you are turning into a lesbian.
As far as telling your friend, I would hold off for now. Just take the time to try to understand and separate the emotions you are feeling. You are at a tough age in development emotionally and physically, but you will be fine!
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