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ok heres the story. my friend john has been going out with this girl for a little over a year. today this other guy walks up to me and tells me that the girl he was with cheated on her, but that i wasn't supposed to know that. he was in my next class, so i asked him how his break was and he gave me the thumbs down.
he told me that his gf told him yesterday that she cheated on him...8 months ago. so i was like wow what did you do when she said that, n he said he cursed her out. im pretty sure theyve done stuff before, but she slept with some other guy and tells him this now. ill give her credit for at least waiting until after the holidays to tell him. so the friend that told me said to the guy: so i guess theres no chance of you guys getting married now, and john said: wait why not?
so its a bit confusing. should i talk to him about it? i mean i want to help but at the same time dont want to get dragged in and involved. should i just let things happen? all of my friends are really mad at the girl for doing all that...but for me, not that im mad and hate the girl, but i do feel bad for the guy. any ideas - will rate (link)
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Let him sit this thing out by himself. If he wants help, he'll ask for it. What you should do as a friend is just hang out with him and try to draw his mind away from that girl. Help him forget, but don't try to solve his problems for him.
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Hi, ok well there's this one girl. and all the guys like her. shes one of my best friends, but i wanna be more than friends. i wanan sk her out but i dont wanna get put down or let it ruin our friendship. (link)
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If you don't take any chances, nothing will happen. If you two go out, have a great time, get sick of it, and break up, it will be better than having done nothing at all.
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My boyfriend is constantly trying to tease me. He'll show me his underwear, say kinky things to me, and try to get me in "the mood". It didnt bother me a whole lot, but I got the idea that he wanted a lot of this in return. So I started giving it to him. Only he responded by saying that I was no longer his innocent girlfriend, how I've changed, and how surprised he is at me. He seemed so dissapointed. This type of thing keeps happening. I'll show him what I think is a great picture of me and he'll somehow suggest that I have low selfesteem and I should realise how beautiful I am. I dont get it? Should he be the only one in our realtionship who acts this way? Did I go too far? I rate. (link)
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Does he seem REALLY bothered by it? If so, you should probably stop; otherwise, he might just be teasing you.
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Ok I really liked this boy that rode my bus for like 2 months maybe 1 but anyways i could tell he kinda liked me then at our christmas dance he was so sweet to me and like we slow danced so the next day on the bus he didnt really say much kinda acted like his regular self flirted with me a little bit but that was it and so then we got out from to christmas break and then i really lost intrest in him cause well he just took to long and today on the bus i got on and i ingored him he and he asked me ou FINALLY but i dont know if i should or not cause im not as crazy about him and hes kinda dog hes always looking at other girls so i told him i had to think about it so what do you think i should do???
ILL RATE 5'S ON ANYONES INFORMATIOn (link)
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I don't think that he's really worth your time. If it bothers you that he looks at girls all the time now, it will most likely bother you a lot more if you go out with him. Also ask yourself why you lost interest in him. If you can still see his flaws in bold, they're not going to magically disappear if you two start dating.
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Are these shoes still in becasue I bought them..and Ill wear them anyway..but are they in style?? http://www.gojane.com/13572.html Thanks I rate highh Caitt (link)
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I guess it would depend on what you wore the shoes with, but by themselves I think that they're really cute! Sure they're in.
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I really feel awful right now so I'll sum it up. When I got to my last class today a friend told me I was really stained. I went to the bathroom and i had blood on the back of my pants. It's so embarrasing. I feel like becoming a hermit crab. Share your experiences with me please. (link)
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Oh don't worry about it. Sure, some people may have seen and laughed, but that'll be the worst of it. Trust me- you'll probably encounter much more embarassing things later in your life.
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well anyway im a sophmore guy and i like this girl. i was gonna tell her on the phone the other night but i couldnt bring myself to do it. how can i build up enough courage to tell her? i told her friend and she wants to tell her, should i let her? help! (link)
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I agree with everyone else who replied to this- do it in person. All girls like it better when they're asked out in person.
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ok...im like one of the most popular girls at school but my friend is known as a "almost geek" and i love her to death shes like my sister...and i have been so popular since elementary school and i cant give that up but i also cant give my bestfriend up...Why is this so hard for me to decide on?What should i do give up popularity or help my friend become popular 2? please help!!
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Of course the right thing to do would help your friend get popular. My question to you is how much do you value popularity? Why is popularity such a big deal? Sure you have a lot of friends, you feel good about yourself, more guys will like you, etc; but are you really so absorbed in popularity that you have to ask advicenators whether your popularity or your good friend is more important? Always keep in mind that after highschool is over, popularity isn't that big of a deal. All of the people who you've known for years now will be going to different colleges, and when you set off on your own, no one will really care that you were the prettiest, most popular girl in school. The thing that changes people's lives and opens their hearts is someone who is a wonderful friend. And that's exactly what you should be- a wonderful friend.
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ok i have this friend...she's 17 years old and she was in this religion where you can only wear skirts and you cant cut your hair and all that kind of stuff and she got pregnant so now she's no longer in this "religion" but i found out last weekend she's pregnant by a guy that i use 2 be so inlove with...i want to still be friends with her because we grew up together and she's like my sister and she has had a rough life but then i dont want to get a bad name for being friends with her!! What should i do? And should i forgive her for messing with my ex boyfriend because we promised each other we would never date another ones ex or anything because thats wrong...what do i do...HELP
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You definately forgive her. She really needs a friend now, more then ever. Being pregnant at 17... that really sucks. Try imagining yourself in her shoes. I'm sure that she's incredibly sorry for sleeping with your ex, and that she's regretting it at this very moment. Even though you both promised to not date eachother's ex's, I don't think that it's something to get that mad over. She's already payed the price of her sins; you should be there for her as a friend.
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ok...i have a problem i guess this involves school and friendship and relationship problems...but here it goes...last year i had this boyfriend that i loved to death but i felt like he was using me for sex and i always did what he wanted...well little did i know my bestfriend was going back to school telling other people what we did on the weekends and i was homeschooled for the first time last year and i went back to public school this year and a guy in that class was one that she told everything to and he thinks im easy and he tells all his friends that...well now i found out my ex boyfriend went back to school last year and told everybody what we did and everything and now all the guys think im easy but thats not true and alot of guys are wanting to go out with me but i feel like its because of that...what would you do? what should i do?
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If they all think that you're easy, do something to prove them wrong! If you don't think that any of the guys asking you out really like you for who you are, then don't even bother with them. They can't keep calling you "easy" if you don't go out with anyone or do anything with any guys. If you ever do decide to get a bf anytime soon, don't do anything that would spread more rumors.
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Hey, well im gonna go to a 'party' on friday well i wouldnt call it a party cause my friend is haveing me and 2 other girls spend the night and her brother is haveing 4 freshman spending the night to.... me and my friends are 13 and 14 and him and his friends are 14 and 15...Well two of my friends already have 'dibs' on two of the guys..... so ive never met any of theses guys soo i dont know witch one ill 'click' with.... but like my friends are telling me ill like this one kid because we are both alike.... but thier telling me that he is 'sexually active' so like i dotn want to get like to close to him cause i have to sleep there.... so should i even go to the party and have fun but possibly do something i might regret or should i stay home and miss a great party and just being pariniod(sp)over nothing
thanks soo much!!!
p.s. im 13 and the guy their telling me i like is 15 (link)
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I don't think that you have anything to worry about. Seriously, the 15 year old guy can't be THAT sexually active... he's only 15, you're only 13, I doubt he's even been laid more than 3 times. How do you even know that these rumors are true? If your friends say that he's a nice guy, and that you two are similar, then I think that you should just go to your party and have a great time with him and the rest of the guys. If he tries to rape you or does anything that makes you uncomfortable, bring an air horn or a can of mace... just in case.
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ok so i like this guy and for once a guy is taller than me hes 6 foot and im 5'8 so im thrilled anyways i have 2 classes with him and one of the classes i have lunch in and he eats with me and ill still his seat or he'll give me his cookies bc he knos i like them and he always gets to english before me on purpose bc he knows it bugs me only problem hes kinda shy and so am i thats why i think he might like me but i dunno i want him to ask me out does he like me as just a friend or is this flirting? should i give up or not? im not the kind of person to make a first move so i want him to someone please help! i just want to know what is going on if what im doing is right if i need to flirt more or whatever so yea help me somebody please! thanx bunches! (link)
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Patience, my friend. If he really likes you, he'll make the first move. If you desperately want something to happen, try telling his friends that you like him and maybe they'll help speed things up.
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hi some one ne one please answer this. ill rate 5s to ne good suggestions. well i have liked this guy for about 4 or 5 months now. ive never talked to him b4 or ne thing. im very shy around guys. not that shy but when i get around them alot im not shy. ne wys i see him staring at me alot. now when he sees me hell stare at me or show off for me. i really like him but i dont know how to start talking to him. i can tell he wants to talk to me cause hell stand around by me and stuff but i dont know how to start talking to him.i really wanna get to know him b4 i ask him out or ne thing. ne suggestions would help. thanxs (link)
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Try using an icebreaker or something witty. Look up some good icebreakers online; they may be cheesy and what not- but hey! at least you'll break the ice and have something to laugh about, too.
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How do you clear the "history" on Internet Explorer? I'm fairly computer-literate, so you don't have to explain what's what or what's where && all
thx (link)
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right click Internet Explorer >> Internet Properties >> Clear History
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Is there anyway for people to know you and ask you personal questions. I have had only a few personal questions and I wish I had more. Is there like i said anyway to get more popular on this site, or well known?!? (link)
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Just answer as many questions as possible, and get high ratings- then people will be more likely to ask you questions in the Columnists section
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everytime i put makeup on it looks really powdery if thats how you spell it.. i use lotion before i put it on but it still looks dry and stuff.. what should i do or what brand of makeup should i try to use...?? i need major help haha (link)
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try getting makeup that will go well with your skin tone. What kind of makeup do you need help applying? Since I'm not a professional, try approaching someone who is. Try going to MACY's in the makeup section and ask one of the ppl there to pretty u up. Take notes on the types of makeup they use and how to apply it.
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I'm really close to this guy named Kevin. He's one of my best friends & I just met him about a month ago when I first moved to this state. He told me he was gay when we first met. It didn't bother me at all, seen as I have a lot of gay friends. But, this was our conversation tonight:
HIM: I love you a lot! :)
ME: Hah, you can't you're gay.
HIM: No, I'm bisexual. I just prefer guys more.
ME: Lol, well youre 75% gay.
HIM: Yeah, but the other 25% is you.
Okay, Well, basically my question is, do you think he really likes me? Like from that 25% thing? Just wondering.. Thanks a bunch. (link)
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Yes, I think he really does like you. Unless he was being sarcastic, then I'm not so sure.
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ok long story but i will make it short..
i've been having a hard time this month and my ex whom i hate..i'll call him bob... and my best friend whom i went out w/ for about a month..i'll call him fred... after fred broke up w/ me, bob told me that he still loves me and wants me bak but he treated me like complete shit so of course i told him to fuck off. then bob used my so-called-best friend, i'll call her lilly, to talk to me to get me bak. i told lilly not to talk to bob nemore but she kept doing it behind my bak. and bob threatened me that he'll spread crap about me if i dun stop spreading crap on myspace, when i didn't do nething like that. my house almost got broken into and all my friends think that bob has sumthing to do w/ this but i have no proof. and lilly recenty told me that bob got pulled outta class by the cops and got searched for stalking me. but i didn't tell the cops about bob stalking me so i dunno how the cops got that info. and my mom started to yell at me for no reason 1 day and i was already upset so i snapped and had a mental break down and had told my mother about everything that happened between me and bob. she told me that she might get a psychiatrist for me cause i am mentally scarred but i doubt she will. i really need to hang out w/ fred cause he helps me a lot although he doesn't notice it....fred and i used to hang out so much before we broke up and even before we started dating. he was alwayz there for me even 2 or 3 am when i needed sum1 to talk to and be w/.... he gave me a shoulder to cry on, he made me laugh harder than i've ever laughed before and he could make me smile no matter what...he is what kept me going all this time since high skool started. so basically like 2 yrs cause i've known him since end of freshman year. but ever since we broke up, he never wants to hang out nemore... i was heart broken and felt like i've lost a brother i never had..then there came this guy whom i will call greg. greg gave me advice and was there for me for about a week and a half...he told me he likes me a lot but i told him that i couldn't really be w/ him cause i still had strong feelings for fred...he understood and still hung out w/ me but then all of a sudden stopped even calling me...i haven't seen or heard from greg for a week and he never answers his phone... so i am left alone once again.... i have no1 to be w/ when i'm feeling down and fred isn't there when i need his support most.... so i sit in my room feeling depressed. so i try and hang out w/ my friends to keep my mind off that but no1 is available... i called like every1 this weekend but they r busy or can't hang out and stuff... i feel neglected and avoided every weekend... i want to hang out w/ fred again cause he doesn't even know that he's the only 1 who can save me from feeling like this...but i have a feeling he doesn't even care about me nemore... and now i'm just trying to think of reasons to y i shouldn't kill myself... i regret even existing cause i make every1's life miserable...i even asked fred's friend if he ever talks about me cause they hung out today...and his friend mentioned my name and fred said "let's not talk about her."...... the world is being so cruel to me and i just don't deserve to be happy and i can't take this pain nemore....... i often cut myself w/o me knowing and i'm afraid that i'll do it again netime soon but i dun want to cause i promised fred that i wouldn't... i've never been so depressed and i'm scared..........i'm sry it's really long... (link)
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Hey hey, life is not something to be thrown away. After highschool, you will have a completely new start. You can make new friends, forget about the old and painful, and just start a new beginning. If fred doesn't even want to talk about you anymore, I really doubt that he will want you back. It's best to go the hard way and accept his choice no matter how difficult and painful it may be. Otherwise, you're just like bob- someone who never lets go, someone who clings on only to their lust. Bob is a complete psychopath, and I hope you get proof to get him in trouble with the po. Other than that, I hope you can find a new, great friend who will always be there for you. Why not try to get off on another friendly relationship with my cousin? ... let's call him Byle. I know that he probably never told you this, but Byle loved you very very much. And even though you broke his heart, you have to realize how much courage and love it must have taken him to again accept you as a friend. I hope that you guys get close again, because I feel that a part of Byle still wants to be there for you but is afraid of being hurt. I know that I can't see you as much as I'd like to, but maybe if you hung out with Byle more, he could make you happy again. I know that right now he seems to be as stubborn and icy cold as an ice cube, but if you show him warmth and kindness, I believe that he'll open up his heart to you. Please try to let go of Fred. The only thing that can help your relationship with him is probably the passing of time. I'll give you 10 reasons why Fred is a douche and you should forget about him (and you may not agree with me, but I really hope that you would)
1. He broke up with you (he obviously does not feel that there is something special betwn you and him)
2. You guys only went out for a few weeks (who knows, you might have gotten sick of him! All relationships feel close to perfect the first few weeks)
3. The chief says so (boys are stupid, you don't need them to be happy. NO guy is EVER worth crying over FEMALE POWER! Hoo haa!)
4. He doesn't like talking about you with his friends (he thinks of you as a regret in his past. Why? the world will never know, but apparently, he's an idiot for thinking so)
5. Fred doesn't want to hang out with you anymore (apparently, he doesn't appreciate the value of your friendship, so why should you appreciate his?)
6. If he were such a great guy, why would he hurt you like this? Why would he break your heart knowingly, and then completely ignore you?
7. There are many other guys out there, the more time you spent reminiscing about Fred, the less time you have to find someone who will really love you
8. If Fred were a decent guy, he'd at least try to protect you from Bob...
9. If he doesn't like you anymore, and you can't get over him, isn't that just lusting? I seriously doubt that's the type of person you want to be.
10. Even tho you've only said nice things about him, I still classify him in my list of douches. Why? Because he deserves nothing but a slap in the face and a kick in the balls.
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OKay I know there's a lot of questions like these, but I really need your absolute HONEST opinion about what I should do.
Me & this kid named Joshua met in May, and we've been very close since, we started dating the day we met because we had a lot in common, and we straight off the bat liked each other. We dated for about two months, until he broke up with me because he had feelings towards another girl. Which I was okay with, because I knew he'd come to me, our relationship was just too strong to be friends. We dated, again - I took him back because I just really liked him (not loved.)
In about July I started having extreme feelings for Joshua, he made me so happy, I thought maybe I was falling in love? I was really unsure, so we were still dating, & he broke up with me again, and he didn't tell me why. Then we dated AGAIN & I broke up with him because I thought I felt feelings towards my best guy friend. Now we're just pretty good friends, we talk a lot, & I just found out that while we were dating, he was telling his best girl - friend that he loved her, and calling her baby. That makes me extremely mad, because he's hurt me so much & I've never done anything like this to him before.
My question is: Should I still remain friends with him?? I don't think I'd ever be able to date him again. But he hurt me so many times in the past, I'm just unsure. If you were in my situation would you be friends with him, or would you never talk to him, again?
Thanks =)
I'll rate you a five just for answering my question. Sorry it's forever and a day long. (link)
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To tell you the truth, I would never talk to him again (but that'd be mean, and that'd explain the large number of people who dislike me). That is SUCH an evil thing for him to do, and he sounds like a totally incostistant, backstabbing jerk! Of course, it's always better to have him as a friend rather than an enemy. I think that you should just not hang out with him at all anymore and just become friendly acquaintences, but not friends.
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ok i have my period at the end og aug...
but 2 weeks ago i had sex ... but with out a condum... but i know for a fact that he pulled it out an cummed .. an he told me he didnt cum ... an i felt the cumm by my leg when he was cumming ... but im still concerned but if our there others signs before u skip your period like my boobs dont hurt i didnt feel like shit ..
im braking out in zits maybe im about to start my period im really kinda scared (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it too much unless you actually do skip your period. Stress can actually make you skip your period which would probably freak you out even more, so I wouldn't worry about it. The chances of him getting you pregnant are still pretty low even if he did cum sum in you. I would just plan ahead next time- either use a condom or take it up the ass.
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