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want to help but without getting involved
ok heres the story. my friend john has been going out with this girl for a little over a year. today this other guy walks up to me and tells me that the girl he was with cheated on her, but that i wasn't supposed to know that. he was in my next class, so i asked him how his break was and he gave me the thumbs down.
he told me that his gf told him yesterday that she cheated on him...8 months ago. so i was like wow what did you do when she said that, n he said he cursed her out. im pretty sure theyve done stuff before, but she slept with some other guy and tells him this now. ill give her credit for at least waiting until after the holidays to tell him. so the friend that told me said to the guy: so i guess theres no chance of you guys getting married now, and john said: wait why not?
so its a bit confusing. should i talk to him about it? i mean i want to help but at the same time dont want to get dragged in and involved. should i just let things happen? all of my friends are really mad at the girl for doing all that...but for me, not that im mad and hate the girl, but i do feel bad for the guy. any ideas - will rate
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Let him sit this thing out by himself. If he wants help, he'll ask for it. What you should do as a friend is just hang out with him and try to draw his mind away from that girl. Help him forget, but don't try to solve his problems for him.
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I don't think you should get involved.
It is really up to John to decide if he can take her back and up to her if she realizes her mistake. She could have just not said anything to him at all.
Cheating doesn't have to be the end of a relationship. I am sure they will talk it over and decide what is best for them. It is not a good thing by any means but it is forgivable.
If he takes her back and you have said negative things about her, it could affect your relationship with them. Best to keep out of it all together. :)
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Hey,
Do you want to get proof on the girl? If So maybe take a photo of them together and put it in a envolope and don't put your name on it and slip it into Johns locker.
But if you want to convince him that she is trouble, I would just say kinda stay out of it. Because she would probably wana fight you. Which is retarted cause she would probably end up getting her butt kicked. But anyways, If I was in that situation I would kinda lay low. He will soon figure out that their not right for each other.
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-GD
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