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I'm a girl and I like this other girl at my school. She's a senior and I'm a sophomore. 15(almost 16) to be exact. She's 18. I'm not sure if she's too old for me because I've heard that liking her is a lost cause. (link)
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When I was 16, I dated an 18 yr old... when I was 17 I dated a 21 yr old... She's not really too old for you. She may still be a lost cause, though. Girls can be very inaccessable.
Give it a try. Just don't be crushed if it doesn't work. There's never harm in trying something, so long as you're prepared to deal with the setback if it fails.
Dream big and live your dreams. ^_^
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As a child my parents made me go to the church and as I grew older I grew to dislike the church, I don't believe in the religion and I decided to resign my membership from the LDS church, well a while back I sent in a resignation letter, It stated that I was resigning my name and all records and no longer wanted to be a member of the church, I also stated that they were not to contact my family members or other members of the church in this matter, I told them to no longer contact me either, saying this letter was my official resignation.
Well I received a letter today, it stated they were contacting my stake president, and my bishop, who would then contact me. I told them I didn't want anymore contact which they disregarded, in the letter they stated that I would suffer eternal consequences and said they would circulate the letter to the church leaders. They want me to go in and negotiate with my bishop, who I already spoke to on the matter. I am eighteen almost nineteen, I no longer live with my family and I feel like it is no one in the church's business or my family's business. I worry the bishop will contact my parents because my church is notorious for being blabber mouths, I want to know what actions I should take before I get to deep into this. If I were to take legal action if they keep contacting me or they contact my family how should I go about it. I want to do this as professionally and as quickly as possible and I don't want my family to know. I feel like they're making me jump through hoops. What should I do?? (link)
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I've never heard of a church needing a resignation letter to leave them... I, however, grew up Catholic, not Mormon. i just stopped going.
If I were you, I would ignore any further attempts for them to contact you, at all. You've said your peace. For all intents and purposes, you no longer belong to the church.
If you pursue this legally, for harassment or something, it's just going to drag everything out. It won't really prevent anything or resolve anything... you'll also be out a good amount of money for seeking and using legal council... they're not cheap.
As for them contacting your family, you're probably not going to be able to avoid that one. Even if you get legal help, they're probably going to try and drag your family in to guilt you into going back to the church. Religions based on a community, like Mormonism, are notorious for that sort of thing.
You are, however, an adult now. What you do with your life is your business. Don't let them pressure you into associating any longer. You don't have to.
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She's been with this guy for 6 months and he's very controlling and he cheats on her with his ex girlfriend. He doesn't like for her to have family over their apartment and he doesn't like for her to hang around her very close friends. He has been abusive to her multiple times, one of the times he stalked her to a grocery store and hit her and stole her purse, she had witnesses but she never pressed charges, she got back with him. Yesterday he choked her & hit her and broke the window out of her apartment and trashed it. She called the police and pressed charges, now she wants to drop them. today she wants to get back with him. He has stalked her numerous times and hit her while she was places with friends. He verbally abuses her and she already has low self esteem. I'm afraid he wll hurt her badly if she stays with him. What can my family to convince her to leave him? (link)
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It's really hard to help someone that seemingly doesn't want any help. There isn't a whole lot you can do unless she really wants to drop her husband.
Things you can try, however... you should contact a therapist specialized in abusive relationships, or a counselor, etc. They can help you set up an "Intervention" for your cousin.
Relationships like this can go on for years and years and they just get progressively worse. Without professional help, from some kind of social worker, psychologist or counselor that is accustomed to this kind of situation, you probably aren't going to be able to get through to her.
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My boyfriend keeps telling me that he is masturbating and this bothers me. We are having a long distance relationship and its a 2 year relationship. We've met several times over the summer vacations but when he tells me he is masturbating I get saddened and angry. He knows that I get mad but he doesn't do anything. He also watches porn which makes me sad and angry. He knows how I feel but yet he continues. (link)
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You shouldn't be bothered by your bf jerking it. Masturbation is something guys do a lot and denying it to them is... I don't even have a word for it. I'm female, I'm not a guy trying to vouch for other guys, it's just a thing they do.
The fact that you have a long distance relationship makes the necessity for masturbation even more crucial. You may not realize it, but if he didn't masturbate and watch porn, he would probably be cheating on you. People can't live without sexual release, most of us, anyway.
Why does it bother you? Yes, I understand that porn is naked women doing god knows what and that they can make people feel less than good about themselves. I know lots of women that dislike their men watching porn and masturbating, but men aren't going to stop; I wouldn't stop, either.
Being in a relationship doesn't resign people to never pleasure themselves again. It's not how things work. I don't know why he's TELLING you about his masturbation habits, though. That's the part I find strange. I wouldn't want to know anyone's masturbation habits.
If it's the knowing that bothers you, you should tell him to stop telling you... but you can't actually expect him to stop. It's unrealistic and asking him to do something that he just can't do...
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I'm in 7th grade and I was thinking of trying to write a book. I want it to kinda be a dairy like dork diaries but I want it to b based of my real dairy. I don't really know how to do that without but their real name without getting confused and I don't want to put to much info because if I let my parents see it I don't want them to know certant stuff. If that sounds to complicated than can I give me an idea on how I could write a normal story or mayb a script. Thanks for the help!!!
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So first... you should put what you write somewhere that isn't easily accessible to your parents, if you're going to keep things from them. Blog sites are great for that. You pick a username, and you make it a private blog.
Blogger, OpenDiary... etc... they're all good for storing your files away from prying eyes.
So second, you have the names issue. That's an easy one. When you're done with your book, there is a feature in Microsoft Word that will go through and change a word to another word. So if your friend is named... Paul... you tell Microsoft word to change Paul to Joe or whatever. Easy peasy.
As for other stories... no one can tell you how to write a story. You either write what you know or you have to find the imagination to create a story that's all your own. Start with what you know, it's easiest. ^_^
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Hello, 18 female, freshman in college. Since coming to college at the end of August, I've realized that I've made about 4 friends (not including the friends that have come to the same college that I've known in high school.) So, all in all, I have about 7 good friends. I'm quiet and shy so I'm not one to go and just talk to someone and just become best friends. But as I'm walking around or getting lunch to take back to my room because all of my friends are in class so I eat in my room and study, I see these girls walking around in groups of like, 20 people. That only makes me feel like I'm really weird that I don't have a lot of friends. I find that I'm usually in my dorm studying and not out at parties or doing crazy "normal" college kid things. Sure, I talk to the people in my building but we don't hang out or have dinner together. I just feel like my life is boring and maybe I'm looking for somebody to reassure me that it's better to have a little bit of friends than a whole bunch of fake ones. Just, I guess, do you have a lot of friends at school and how did you make so many new friends? Is it weird that I'm so introverted? Thanks. (link)
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I've never had a giant slew of friends. I have a few really good friends, and that's good enough.
If you think about it, trying to remember information on 20 people can get really hard. Names, birthdays, likes, dislikes, boyfriends, lovers, exboyfriends... especially girls... we're full of stupid information we expect people to remember for no good reason.
You're fine, you're normal. I didn't party in college either, and all it really meant was that I was often sober and not in jail...
Introverts are people too... We exist in hoards, we just don't flock together. Lol.
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I'm 11, and I already say I love you to my boyfriend.
We haven't kissed, and we've been close friends for a year before we started dating. We've been dating a month now, and we say 'I love you.' all the time.
Is that bad? (link)
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If you love someone, you love someone. That's all.
There's not really a standard age range in which you should start saying the L-word... Lol.
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Hi I'm Georgia/12/Australia
Lately my best friend beth has been hanging out with these other girls allyssa and connie.
Usually me and beth do everything together and now she's ignoring me and excluding me and the other day i just burst into tears.She;s really hurting me and she has been doing this for a while what do i do? (link)
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You're at that age where people change and grow away from each other.
There's no real stopping it. It's just what happens.
Make some new friends. They won't replace Beth, but they'll be new and great and you'll move on.
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There is this girl that I like..and I said that i would go to her volleyball state championship game. I promised her that i would go, but i still did not go. Now she is not happy with me. What do I do to get us back on the same page???
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You need to do something really nice for her... or get her something awesome that's vollyball related... that would be really cute and show you're sorry.
But guy... you can't blow stuff off like that. Girls are fickle little things and they remember everything. You hurt her feelings.
Figure out a way to show her you care, and that you're sorry, and don't do it again. She won't forgive you twice.
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So about a year ago I asked out this guy that I worked with, at the time I was 20 and he was 26. He flirted with me all the time at work so i thought he might have liked me too. So I told him I liked him and asked him if he wanted to go out sometime, but he said no.
I asked him why and he said that he thought I was to young for him. I'm not sure if that was the only reason but that's what he told me.
My friend that worked with us talked to him about it a couple times. The first time she told him I liked him and he said He knew but he thinks I'm to young. Then probably like 6 months after that they talked again. She told him I still liked him, and he said to her I know, I probably should have said yes.
That gave me hope again, now I no longer work with him and I turned 21 so it sounds a little better than 20. It's been a year, do you think I should ask again? And what would I say?
I feel like I have nothing to loose, but on the other hand you would think he would have asked me out if he changed his mind. I miss him and I don't know what to do.
Let me know what you think? Should I go for it and what do I say to him
Thanks!
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As you get older, the same amount of age gap come to mean less and less...
You're 21... that's a really fun time in life... 27 (28 now that it's a year later) is getting closer to that time in life where you don't want to party anymore. You want to get serious and settle down and do all that family planning and things.
I don't see harm in you asking him out again. I don't think you should qualify it with a "you should go out with me now because..." you should just ask if you're going to ask. If he still says no, though... don't be hurt. It's not personal.
21 is a great age, but it's still young... and people are going to treat you like you're young. It's just a thing. Because you're young. No matter what... just go have some fun. You have the rest of your life to figure out that love business.
PS I'm 24... and I wouldn't date a 21 yr old... you will not BELIEVE how much you change in that amount of time.
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This feels weird but, I'm a senior in high school, male/17. And lately I've been having this thing for the younger girls at school, like 14 & 15. There's one I know and I like her, the ones I know seem a lot nicer than some of the senior girls I know. My senior class is kind of small, and most of us know eachother. The girl I like, (we're not that close) when I'm with her I feel like the people around me are looking at me like I'm crazy. This junior kid I know told me to stop trying to go out with freshmen. Our age gap is under 3 years to be exact. My close friends, like 3 of them, don't see anything wrong with it. And why is it that when the guy is younger, people don't say anything. My friend was once with an older senior girl who had to do a 5th year. And I had a friend who was like 15 and with a college girl. Idk. Should I just avoid it? Is it really that bad? I'm starting to like her, what can I do. I don't want people I know thinking that I'm weird/creepy. (link)
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You like who you like... as you get older, age will matter less and less... but those high school years are kinda whack. Everyone is progressing at different rates and things... it's just how it goes.
So are you weird? No, not really, but you should consider that a 14 or 15 year old probably isn't where you are sexually, and you're going to have to respect that... because being that guy that pressured them into something really makes you a douche for the rest of time.
You should also realize that any relationship you start with younger girls will not last. It's just not going to. You'll graduate, they'll find someone still in school with with and they won't give a damn about you anymore. It's high school girl thing.
So it's whatever. You like her, cool... I don't see much of a problem. It's very possible, since girls mature faster than guys, mentally, that you're both even on the same level. Enjoy it, man. Just don't expect her to be your wife one day or something.
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In about 2010, I watched the movie Hachi and got depressed about the sad piano tune. It got stuck in my mind and made me depressed for a long time. It's gone, but I think it's coming back because my mom watched the first 8 minutes of it but I turned it and now It's like coming back to me. What do I do?! (link)
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Find the happiest, most insanely cheerful song you can and listen to it on repeat.
I recommend pop and various techno... even if you don't like pop or techno, the beats in those kinds of song trigger things in your brain that will change your brain chemistry.
Here's a great annoyingly happy song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAKPykZ4Rpo
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I'm a 16 year old girl and I go to sleep really late. I go to bed between 12 and 2 in the morning and wake up at 7, Then I go to school and sleep through my first 2 classes. Then finally when school is over I come home at 2:30 and eat then I usually fall asleep around 5 and sleep until 8 or 9. I know my sleep schedule is messed up but whenever I try to go to bed early like at 10 or 9 I can't fall asleep no matter what(even if I didn't sleep at 5)! It seems like im always tired unless I am really busy doing something or with my friends. I'm not overweight I'm really skinny and I eat a lot. I also have good grades and I don't do any drugs or anything like that. (link)
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It's possible you've managed to come in contact with the Epstein-Barr virus. It causes chronic fatigue. If you've ever had mono... you've come in contact with it.
It's very common, actually, and you can get it from sharing drinks, kissing, etc.
Alternatively, what does your caffeine intake look like? If you consume a whole lot of caffeine, you're messing up your natural metabolism and it will screw with your sleep schedule.
Lastly, it could just be that you're 16... Teenagers tend to A, keep weird hours and B, sleep more than kids or adults do. No joke. It's just what happens.
If none of these sound right to you, you could be low on B12. You can take a supplement, or if you go the doctor you can sometimes get a shot of B12, which will wake you up like you would not believe!
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I have a few zits on my bum cheeks..what can I do about butt acne? (link)
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Butt Acne! How awful!
Body acne, in general, is harder to control than regular facial acne... unless you suffered from that horrifying pizzaface acne people get...
Anyway... body acne is caused by lots of things. If you're having butt acne, there are a few things you can do.
Wear cotton panties. They breathe better than silk... and if you wear thongs, take a break. You could be reacting to contact with your pants. Cover your butt with cotton. I like the boy short cut, myself. They're just comfy.
Get some dead sea salt oil. Available at most beauty product stores (or something similar) and use it in the shower. The salt exfoliates your skin, the oil keeps your skin from drying out after being horrifically accosted by salt. Follow with an unscented, no-oil moisturizer for best results.
Pumice stone. This one is for when you don't intend on showing your butt to people for at least 3 days... but some body wash on a pumice stone and scrub your butt. It may be uncomfortable at first, but once you kind of sand it down your skin can rebuild itself. Again, cotton is an important part of that heaing process, because your skin is going to be a little tender. After like 3 days, though, your skin should have healed over and start looking better.
Also cut down on foods with oil, fat and sugar for a while. What goes in your face comes out your skin.
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what does it mean when your boobs hurt? (link)
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It can mean a lot of things, depending on age and placement in the menstrual cycle.
A) They COULD be growing... you may notice stretch marks showing up... that would indicate growth.
B) You could just be hormonal. If it's about two weeks to your menstrual cycle or less, you could just be out of control with hormones. Breast tenderness is common.
C) You could be sleeping on them wrong... Sounds dumb, but if you squish them too much, they're gonna hurt. It's just a thing. If you suspect this, sleep in a sports bra.
(Don't do that if you think your boobs are growing and you'd like them to grow, however... sleeping in a bra stifles your boobs ability to grow.)
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is it safe to double up on birth control pills to
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A) You're going to run out of pills if you do that, and insurance companies only allow you to get one packet per month... so you're going to end up with half a month without any pills at all if you do that.
B) The pills won't necesarily stop your bleeding. They could, in fact, make them worse. You should really a see a doctor so they can determine what's causing the bleed.
C) Taking two pills won't actually do you any real harm, but they will raise your propensity to be over emotional, cause breast tenderness... a myriad of weird side effects that are caused by too much hormone in your system.
See a doctor, hon.
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First of all thank you for whom is reading this. I go to school part time and just got a new job. I'm trying to figure out myself and just deleted my Facebook because I feel as if it is a distraction. I feel empty, and it's normally when I'm not talking to a guy. I don't know why I feel this way. My last two boyfriends started as one night stands. One lasted a year, the other one two years. I can't seem to take a relationship slow either. Is it just my hormones? I feel like it's wrong to have sex with multiple people but lately I've been wanting to. Most of my friends are guys as well. I use to have an alcoholic problem but I've been a lot better. I just don't understand why I'm so addicted to guys. (link)
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You're addicted to guys because you're 19.
And that's okay. It happens to the best of us.
Happened to me.
I'm going to tell you something a lot of people won't... it's okay if you wanna sleep with more than one person at a time. For real. Just be sure they know you're not exclusively with them. If you want to be single and have lovers instead of a single steady boyfriend, you rock that idea.
I'm not good at slow relationships, either. It's just never been something I've been able to master... and you know what? That's okay. Life goes on, people grow and as you get older you meet more people just like you. You're not alone.
So go out, be yourself and just do something that makes you happy. It's not wrong to act on how you feel. And this, too, shall pass, I assure you. ^_^
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A few months ago I caught my boyfriend talking to many (like 50) girls through his facebook, email etc. He was flirting. Saying he is single (we have been together for over a year) asking for their number, talking sexually to them to hook up. When I confronted him all he could tell me was he doesnt know why he did what he did and he said it would stop. I decided to give him a chance. See if I could trust him again but ever since he has not been the same. He is more on edge, secretive. He doesnt hug or kiss me ever anymore and he used to have trouble keeping his hands off of me. He used to want sex everyday now we are lucky if it is once a week and the last few times I have had to initiate because he seems to have no interest. He always has a reason why he doesnt feel in the mood. He doesnt seem to really care about me anymore. I was really sick a few days ago and not even once did he try to help me around the house and he didnt even ask me how I was feeling. He complains I am always in his space and gets mad at me for every little thing. When he does it turns into an agruement which he eventually starts yelling and swearing at me and tells me everything I say and do is wrong and if im not happy to just leave. He says that he doesnt make me happy anymore and that I deserve better than him.
After I caught him trying to hook up with other girls and really talked to him about how much it hurt me and that I was willing to give him a chance to prove to me that I could trust him he has been distancing himself from me.
I dont understand why he is acting this way. Does he want out and too afraid to admit it? I have tried talking to him but he just gets mad and storms off and says theres nothing wrong and I am complaining for no reason. I dont know what to do anymore I am so heartbroken. Please help! (link)
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He sounds like a real skeeze, hon. Maybe he wasn't always, but that seems to be what he is now.
If I were you... I'd end it and find someone new. There is a world of people out there that are awesome. There's never a good reason to waste your time on someone that makes life difficult for you.
I recently had my bf pull away from me, and I couldn't figure out why... so I broke up with him. It hasn't been the end of the world. I already have a few people I've seen.
Life goes on... and you should too.
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So I'm in seventh grade. I found out recently that a lot of kids in my grade aren't virgins.. And I'm jusrt sickened by this. It's been in my mind all day and I can't get it off my mind. How do I make this leave my mind? I'm just not wanting to go to that school anymore, but my friends are there... (link)
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Well that's disturbing...
However, in relation to your question, I don't think you should change schools. It's not going to really be different at another school. Also... kids are liars. They lie about sex all the way up through college and beyond. Whether it's true or not, it doesn't need to affect you.
You're a virgin, and that's great for where you are in life. What everyone else does with their bodies is their business. Some will respect themselves, some won't... the important thing is that you always respect yourself and do only what you think is right.
All you can do is file away that information in the back of your brain and find something else to focus on. It's gross, sure, but you're going to be horrified by lots of things people do in life. You may as well find a way to cope with it now.
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I think my boyfriend has been cheating on me. He has been acting very strange around me lately and he is very weird about me being around his phone he hurries and snatches it up as if im going to find something. (link)
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Well... you could ask him what the problem is.
Something is up. Whether he's cheating on you, I can't say. I've only been cheated on once, but I was a cheater for a while too, and nothing eats at you like a guilty conscience... makes you act weird, like you wouldn't believe...
But I definitely think you should just sit him down and ask what his deal is. Explain that you feel like something is wrong, and that his behavior is making you nervous.
If he's been cheating on you, though... you should kick his ass to the curb and find someone that respects you, instead. Don't put up with that BS.
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