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Is this bad, or weird?
This feels weird but, I'm a senior in high school, male/17. And lately I've been having this thing for the younger girls at school, like 14 & 15. There's one I know and I like her, the ones I know seem a lot nicer than some of the senior girls I know. My senior class is kind of small, and most of us know eachother. The girl I like, (we're not that close) when I'm with her I feel like the people around me are looking at me like I'm crazy. This junior kid I know told me to stop trying to go out with freshmen. Our age gap is under 3 years to be exact. My close friends, like 3 of them, don't see anything wrong with it. And why is it that when the guy is younger, people don't say anything. My friend was once with an older senior girl who had to do a 5th year. And I had a friend who was like 15 and with a college girl. Idk. Should I just avoid it? Is it really that bad? I'm starting to like her, what can I do. I don't want people I know thinking that I'm weird/creepy.
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IF you were 27 and she 24 or 25 I would tell you to go for it. But at 17 and 14 or 15 the maturity levels are to far apart.
The girls) would be or are so infatuated by the fat that a senior boy is interested in them they are going to try and please you as they think a senior girl might. This is where the problems come out.
I'm not saying you would pressure this girl or take advantage of her because she is immature. I'm saying because of her immaturity and lack of dating skills if things were to get to hot she is most likely not going to know when to call a stop.
In everything we do and this includes dating, there is a learning curve or a time when we need training wheels. This is why when we are teenagers we need to date within our age group. To learn how to date because at our own age we all have the same worries and anxieties about dating. You have gone well past this. You could say you are way more worldly then she.
No you are not weired just a few years ahead of your time. If after you both graduate and you see her on a break from college and want to date her go ahead. For now find someone that is 16 or 17 to date.
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You like who you like... as you get older, age will matter less and less... but those high school years are kinda whack. Everyone is progressing at different rates and things... it's just how it goes.
So are you weird? No, not really, but you should consider that a 14 or 15 year old probably isn't where you are sexually, and you're going to have to respect that... because being that guy that pressured them into something really makes you a douche for the rest of time.
You should also realize that any relationship you start with younger girls will not last. It's just not going to. You'll graduate, they'll find someone still in school with with and they won't give a damn about you anymore. It's high school girl thing.
So it's whatever. You like her, cool... I don't see much of a problem. It's very possible, since girls mature faster than guys, mentally, that you're both even on the same level. Enjoy it, man. Just don't expect her to be your wife one day or something.
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When I was your age it was common for girls to 'look at' guys 2 to 3 years older than themselves as potential boyfriends and I believe it's still usual. Mainly because girls (in the age group we're looking at) tend to find boys their own age, well...just that. Little boys! Girls really do mature sooner in outlook, not just physically. I'd say, now that anyone who says you're creepy or wierd is basically misguided and/or forgetting how things are at your age. So no, you're not weird. But keep in mind there's still a lot of 'girl' in girls of 14/15/16, however grown-up they feel they are. Naturally, you'll find her attractive, and in a physical way. But using your age-advantage to pressure or hurry her into ANYTHING she's not happy about is REALLY bad form. I'll be quite clear, if that's your only motive here, you ARE creepy and weird!! Only YOU know the answer to that one. Nuff said??
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