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Please help me.. I'm sickened my this..
So I'm in seventh grade. I found out recently that a lot of kids in my grade aren't virgins.. And I'm jusrt sickened by this. It's been in my mind all day and I can't get it off my mind. How do I make this leave my mind? I'm just not wanting to go to that school anymore, but my friends are there...
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I'm in 8th grade, and alot of kids in my grade started loosing their virginity in 6th grade, it's gross i agree, but keep in mind...thats their idea of growing up. to make it go away just remember that its not you, and that ur above all of them. show them whos really cool, and dont lose your virginity, because its not cool when it gets around school. so, just dont do it. be the better person and keep it in your pants. hope this helps :)
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sigh......im in 7th grade and sad truth-kids are gonna do it no matter how young.some of my friends lost their virvinity years ago, or so they say.some kids might be lying to look grown up.dont worry-but dont feel obligated tpo have sex at such a younge age.you dontt need it.
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Well that's disturbing...
However, in relation to your question, I don't think you should change schools. It's not going to really be different at another school. Also... kids are liars. They lie about sex all the way up through college and beyond. Whether it's true or not, it doesn't need to affect you.
You're a virgin, and that's great for where you are in life. What everyone else does with their bodies is their business. Some will respect themselves, some won't... the important thing is that you always respect yourself and do only what you think is right.
All you can do is file away that information in the back of your brain and find something else to focus on. It's gross, sure, but you're going to be horrified by lots of things people do in life. You may as well find a way to cope with it now.
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As you go through life there are going to be many things that you will find unacceptable behavior. To be shocked over it to the point that you want to leave that place for another is harmful to you. For example: You have finished college and maybe had one or two jobs when you find and take that one job that is the one you worked all through school to find, your dream job. Just because you find the behavior of a couple of coworkers unacceptable would you want to leave your dream job. The only one who would be hurt here is you, not any of them.
The same is true in what you have written. Then there is the fact that much of what your friends are saying is false bravado. They want to be seen as more grown up, worldly or more mature. Many are not the non-virgins they claim they are. Unfortunately some are and that is a shame as you know.
You have your values and you should stick to them as they are good values. This is one instance where you do not have to do as your friends say they have done. Some even say they have done something just to goad someone else into doing something they are to scared to do themselves. This is one of those things.
My advice is to ignore them. You are coming into a more adult world and you will continue to see things as you go from middle school into high school, college and the work place that by your values and standards are sickening. It is just unfortunate that this is how the world is. Learn to ignore what you don't agree with, stick to your values. As my mother would tell me; "just because your friends jump off the bridge does not mean you have to as well." This is good advice which you may use if you like.
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Hi. You're probably feeling sick because you've had a bit of a shock and it will pass. The fact that friends of your own age are doing something you choose not to simply can't go on shocking you permanently, especially once you just accept it as a fact. Truth is, most are not being pressured or forced into it, and don't think they're doing something 'disgusting'. Age of consent laws are virtually impossible to actually enforce when a couple of horny, hormonal and curious teens get together! Ok, it's not for you. You want to wait. There will be plenty of girls who feel the same too. Try to get along with the ones who have a different point of view. They can still be your friends...the fact that they have decided to have sexual relationships is their choice, and it doesn't make them freaks or alien! And I'll reinforce an answer you have already. It's the educational side of school life that's the main thing. Having sex, or not having sex at thirteen is not going to be in the picture when the boss is looking at your cv with that tasty job up for grabs my friend!
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It's school. Worry about your education and what is going on in your life instead of what everyone else is doing.
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