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Meeting new people at college.
Hello, 18 female, freshman in college. Since coming to college at the end of August, I've realized that I've made about 4 friends (not including the friends that have come to the same college that I've known in high school.) So, all in all, I have about 7 good friends. I'm quiet and shy so I'm not one to go and just talk to someone and just become best friends. But as I'm walking around or getting lunch to take back to my room because all of my friends are in class so I eat in my room and study, I see these girls walking around in groups of like, 20 people. That only makes me feel like I'm really weird that I don't have a lot of friends. I find that I'm usually in my dorm studying and not out at parties or doing crazy "normal" college kid things. Sure, I talk to the people in my building but we don't hang out or have dinner together. I just feel like my life is boring and maybe I'm looking for somebody to reassure me that it's better to have a little bit of friends than a whole bunch of fake ones. Just, I guess, do you have a lot of friends at school and how did you make so many new friends? Is it weird that I'm so introverted? Thanks.
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I've never had a giant slew of friends. I have a few really good friends, and that's good enough.
If you think about it, trying to remember information on 20 people can get really hard. Names, birthdays, likes, dislikes, boyfriends, lovers, exboyfriends... especially girls... we're full of stupid information we expect people to remember for no good reason.
You're fine, you're normal. I didn't party in college either, and all it really meant was that I was often sober and not in jail...
Introverts are people too... We exist in hoards, we just don't flock together. Lol.
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I'm the exact same way. I am shy myself and have a hard time dealing with conflict. It deffinitley isn't weired a lot of people have trouble making friends. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. Start in class. Start talking to other students about class befoe and after it wont seem as weired that way. After you build up your confidence start talking to people who arn't in your classes. Pin point someone who seeem alone. They'll be more willing to talk to you.
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You should join clubs and talk to people in your class. Even if it's just about assignments, you'll get to know each other and can start becoming friends. You could also go to the gym if there's one on campus. A lot of people go.
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