hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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so this guy was fingering me a few days ago, but i do not know if it was fingering.
it was on the outside, like he never actually stuck his finger IN there. so he was like fingering me on the outside of where the hole is. so is that considered being fingered?
also, he pretty much ....... could not find the hole. like his finger was moving to different places but like he could not find the hole. why couldn't he?
it also hurt when he did start poking at the hole area, and when he [barely] tried to put his finger in. why did it hurt?
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No, its not really considering fingering unless it's in the holee. And It's most likely because your virgin and your still sensitive down there. And he couldnt find the hole probably because its just generally hard to for a guy sometimes. Its just all depends, especially if hes never fingered anyone before.
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im a girl. when i shave "down there" i get the razor burn//bumps. how can i make it go away? (link)
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When your shaving putting on conditioner before you shave that really helps.
And if it goes away keep on putting on moree until your done shaving.
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14\F
Ive been going out with this boy named Eric for about 4-5 months now, and were always going on dates and everything and just this weekend [Saturday] I went over his house alone... well we've been kissing for a while but thats it I mean IM ONLY FOURTEEN and Eric put his hand up my shirt, and I donno if it's normal or not but I sorta freaked cuz its the first time anything besides kissing has happened to me.. and I was like Woah and he like continued so i was like oh umm im sorry but can you stop. So kinda mad I think he did, I let him"feel me up" on the outside of my shirt so he wouldn't get to mad, but then he tried un-buttoning my jeans and thats when I was like WOAH! What are you doing?? and he was like weve been going out for so long now why can't you go further then kissing me it's not like we'll have sex or anything.. and i donno I just didnt feel comfortable but I do like him. And I was like Im sorry.. and hes like You do like me dont you so I said yes! and he was like okay then. and Tried putting his hand up my shirt again then it was like No.. i dont feel comfortable ill just walk home and he got really mad at me. I tried telling him Crawling leads to walking, and Walking turns to running and I dont like running not yet atleast IM ONLY FOURTEEN!!! Well I feel violated right now, but then it's like would I have gone all the way if I let him? Would he have?? and I needed to talk to someone and my best friend Adam--yes it a boy was like WHAT and wanted to kill him but I made him promise not to. And this weekend oim going back over... and I dont want to go any farther then we did this weekend but I donno if Eric will accept that and I know if he doesnt break up with him but shouldnt I atleast do something? Like handjob? like satisfy him?? I dont want to.. but to make him happy I will... I donno what to do i really like him, and I dont know why I cant just let him do what he wants with me, but I cant... I know I cant.
and Im not a slut.. im only 14, I know ive dated him a long time but I thought he was happy with just kissing... now its like how long has he wanted this? Why didnt he tell me before? and Im just scared you know? Maybe I shouldnt go back to his house without a parnet and my and his parents are being super cool with letting me over because they do know! and I promissed my mom Id keep it PG-13...
Anything would be helpfull really. (link)
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Well first of all,
If you dont feel like its right,
or have a gut feeling or just dont fee comfortable,
Dontttt.
The exact same thing happened to me too,
Im 14 and I really liekd this guy and he sort of liked me too, we werent going out but we were both making out and he tried putting his hand up my shirt, but I said no. Then he started unbuttoning my pants and I liked him so much that Ijust let him even though I really didnt want too. That was one of the biggest mistakes ever, and I hadnt done anything like that before, and now, long story short, we never talk and I found out hes just a jerk honestly. I know hes your boyfriend and he probably wouldnt do that too you, but your instinct is always usually right, so maybe you should talk to him about it. He might not get that your not comfortable and stuff about it, Guys are kind of clueless about those sort of things and the best way is just too tell them upfront about how you feel. And if he doesnt accept it, and trys to force you, then I know this sounds lame and people always say it, but its so true, he's not worth it. Just try to do or sort out things that would make you feel more comfortable about the situation first, until you dont have a bad feeling about it. And if you cant, Then hell have to wait. Dont give it all up just for him.
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OK! I'm going to rewrite this for any of you people assuming I only like her for sex -.-
No I do not but heres the qwestion..
I really really really like my girl friend and I know she really likes me.. Small problem -.- When ever we are making out I tend to well.. you know get a Cof Cof* boner Cof Cof* but Annnnyway the point is I know I love it when we make out and I know she likes making out but how do I know if she is well... (horney) Once again! I'm stating that im 14 -.- I dont want to have sex yet -.- So for any girls out the that feel like helping =] HAVE AT IT! :o (link)
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Okay well, first of all, if the girl likes you and is your girlfriend and she makes out with you a lot. Then 90% or more chances she is probably horny. Unless she's just not old enough to yet to really feel tht way, or she just doesn't really get horny off of making out period. But you said she liked it soo, chance are, she is. One of the biggest ways you can probably tell is if she gets more into it, but then again, a lot of girls arent comfortable or too shy with that. So, at this age, if shes making out with you, she probably is in my opinion. Other then that you might be abke to tell by the way she reacts to certain things, and her body language.
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does anyone know on what site i can find musics to download at my computer,cause i need to burn music for our project...please help.... (link)
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Well to download music free you usually need a program like
Forstwire
Limewire
Imesh
Bearshare
Those are some more famous ones.
But I use Imesh and I think it's one of the faster and better ones that wont give you a virus or anything.
To download one of them just go to their sites,
Like frostwire.com, Limewire.com, etc.
Hope this helped a bittt. =\
(L):)
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okay so there is this guy that i like.he goes to the same school as me.a bunch of people know that i like him.he shows alot of body language that says he likes me ,but i think he is shy.i am also shy as well.see the problem?
my best friend talked to him and asked if he liked me and said that he said no.and she also said that he said that he has a gf.what should i do? do i move on and go out with this other guy who i know likes me and has asked me out? or should i keep liking him? (link)
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Well, to be honest, If he sayd he has a girlfriend, then I think you should move on, becuaseyou definitly dont want to start anything between him and his girlfriend. And if this other guy likes you, you should go out with him if you like him backk. I think you should probably move on. But if you like this other guys personality and stuff that says he has a girlfriend, maybe try to get to know him more, or like become friends, and see what happens from there. But if your not shy, maybe try talking on the phone or on msn or facebook first. And thennnn, at school and maybe even hang out :). But wait till he's free to make a move or letting him or other people know you like himm. ;)
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which of the new chocolates does everyone like best? the maroon, blue, or black?
incase you don't know what i'm talking about...
maroon:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3097&changingCompletedOrder=
blue:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3076&changingCompletedOrder=
black:
http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=3098&changingCompletedOrder=
i'm leaning towards the maroon.. but i'm not positively sure. the black looks kind of tacky, and the blue is really boyish. help me! :) (link)
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I think the Black is definitly the cutesttt =]
It also can match with anything if your into fashion and stuff ;]
xxxAmber
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hey
14 - F
first off, sorry this is so long
a couple weeks ago, i received an email saying, "you've received an eCard! click here to view" and there was a link. so i clicked the link, and it opened this download box. well, i have a setting so that my mouse automatically goes to the download box's "OK" button, and i clicked download. stupid. i know. you don't have to tell me again.
so, ever since then, my laptop has been running SO slow. like when i type, it takes 32095823432 hours to register that i typed it. every few hours, sometimes days, my whole screen turns blue & it says something like, "if this is the first time you are seeing this message, restart your computer." and when i'll restart it, this window would come up with a mozilla firefox screen saying, "something is messed up with some hardware recently installed or software recently downloaded."
i have tried:
- disk defragmenter [to make it run faster]
- disk cleanup
- system restore
- safemode
- add / remove programs [i couldn't find anything out of the ordinary]
can someone please offer me some advice? i KNOW for a fact that this has been happening ever since i downloaded that spam email!
thanks so much in advancee. (link)
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The best thing to do is to reboot your computer. Sometimes if you download to many things or go on certain sites it makes your computer way slower. It's happened to my computer a few times, so I just rebooted it. It basically like starting your computer again so you have nothing on it. You can probably find the old files after also. You could also go to add\remove programs and remove all of your programs you never use. Because that could be making it slow.
Hope this helps a bit.
xxxAmberr =]
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I just got my first boyfriend. He's been a friend of mine for four years and he REALLY likes me. I like him too. But not as much as I like another guy I've liked longer!! The day my boyfriend asked me out, the guy I like was going to ask me out, too! I know my boyfriend really likes me and I think this other boy likes me... I kinda want to dump my boyfriend but I don't know how, dion't want to hurt his feelings, and I want him to still be my friend. HELP ME PLEASE!
female, 12 (link)
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Well, I know from experiance that usualy, when you go out with one of your friends, after you break-up, and youve been going out for a while It gets akward. Also, you might not feel as comfortable and as you use to when you guys were just friends. It can also ruin friendships in some cases. I think that if you went out with this guy that you've been friends with for so long, and he finds out another way that you like another guy more, but your going out with him because you feel bad, he would be more hurt then you breaking-up withhim now. Since he's been your friend so long, Im sure he'll somewhat understand. You could tell him that you like him, but you really dont want to ruin your friendship with him or you think its better if you stay friends. Then after you havent gone out with him for a while, you can go with the other guy you like. But when you go out with this other guy, stil stay really good friends with your other friend. Try not to do things infront of him that would make him jealous. And show him that you care more about your friendship a lot. Like not always hanging out with your boyfriend, and try hanging out with him also.
I hope that helps a bit =]
Just Remember to try to not make your new boyfried jealous also.
xxx (L)
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okay so my boyfriend went to a strip club the other night i knew he was going and i have enough trust in him that he wont do anything stupid. But, the other night in his away message it said that stripper last night was so hot. I confied in my one friend to tell her about where he went i left out the fact about what he said in his away message. Well, she took it upon herself to call him and tell him that i was so upset which i was not. So he called me asking if i had a problem with where he went. I told him it did not bother me. He then kept telling me how cute i am and how much he loves me. but now i cant help to question his true feelings for me, i could not get over what he had in his away message. I dont know why i was too afraid to tell him about it but maybe i am just making a big deal out of nothing. So my question is what would you do if you were me, is it normal for me to be upset about that? (link)
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it is normal to be a little upset because your obviously going to be jealous of that because hes your boyfriend. But it probablly didn't mean anything and he wasnt thinking of it when he wrote it, that you would actually think some thing of it. Guys are sumtimes like that... you will probablly be a little upset but you will get over it soon probablly, if you trusted him.. then you were probablly rite about it if you know him good. I hope i helped a little bit :)
Amber
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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you. (link)
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U dont need to be a professional to give out good advuce, i mean whos a professional on life, people from different religions backgrounds and ages and differet prospectives can give u advice which is great andi f it helps even better, and of it doesnt u dont have to use it and at least sumone tried....
Amber xoxo
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which is the best hairstyle for guys?
spiky,skinhead,mohawk,liberty spikes,ponytail,long metalhead,shaggy skater,emo combover,flat and short,center parted,side parted?
also,is there a difference between emo hair and skater hair?
like both styles usually cover the eyes,but i heard that skater hair is more flippy and messy,while emo is just covering the eyes but combed to the side and looks more "prepared" if you get what i mean.can someone pls help to clarify.
thanks for reading (link)
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I think emo and shaggy hair is reallyy hott. Most guys do have shaggy hair though. So.. ya i say either one of those r really hott ;) but it also depends on what type of person you are
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Hey,
Well theres this girl who wears like a little tiny bit of like guys body spray as purfume. you know like axe and stuff. I think it smells good, but thats probably because it reminds me of a guy...and guys that smell good are hot. Anyway, my question is, would guys think that is hot or sexy or whatever or would they think its weird?(guys oppinions, or girls who have heard from guys) (link)
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I love the smell of guys cologne also, lol but doesnt every girl, thats why guys wear it. I once wore cologne to school and everyone that that a guy sprayed it on me as a joke :S so i decided not too altho i loved it, but i spray it in my locker and other things. I think you chould keep it at that just incase some people mite think its weird.. but if you dont care with other people think try it :D and maybe people in your skool think its not weird at all. Just try it for a day :D
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im a pushover.
When it comes to guys, especially ones I like.
For example, I ride this bus and whenever I'm on it ,guys are so mean to me.
They like take my stuff and make fun of me,
and its not just once ,its constantly.
Then if im with them alone, they are nice.
But other wise , they are mean and it makes me sad.
And i dont do anything about it, becuase I dont wanna be mean.
Usually, ill just be like " stop"
and the even worse part is, one of the kids.. i had sex with ![i know, dumb choice]
becuase i liked him
and to this day , he is still mean to me.
He wasnt mean to me back then though, like over the summer.
Now ,im sad becuase I like him
but i dont know what to do about being a pushover doormat.
Help please!
im in need of it :[ (link)
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you should try to be a little more... meaner in a way. i know that sounds wrong but, their never going to stop if you dont. the same thing happened to me, and finally one day i started being meaner to them when they did that stuff, and when they were normal i would be nice to them. Eventually they stopped. Guys like girls that are more confident and stick pup for themselves, and no matter what age guys will usually be immature so i wouldnt worry about it that much. This one guys use to call me a wh*** and a slu* and all of these other things and one day i started talking to him and we became friends and it turned out he liked me and just wanted to show-off and get my attention. :D
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ok, basic story in short form: girl gets boyfriend, almost three months later girl and boy are planing to go to school dance. girl's mom wants her to get readdy at mom's. girl wants to get readdy at dad's (divorced parents since girl was like 2). mom feels hurt. mom is kinda pissed off at girl. girl now feels guilty. mom tells girl point blank that girl must get readdy at mom's for prom in two years...girl is not sure if she wants too. but girl still feels guilty about getting readdy at dad's for her frist fromal dance with boy. should girl be feeling guilty???
please help! i feel horrible!
alyssa (link)
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I dont think you should feel guilty at all... I wouldnt worry about it because peopple get in fights sooo much with their parents and some people dont at all but everyones different. I think that with you parents divorced and all you might get in more situations like these. so you should choose whcih one you would like to spend at your Dad's more, and then tell your mom that you'll spen the other one with her to make it up. Plus your mom can probablly help you more on getting ready and tips and things, you should maybe try to give her a chance at it :D
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how do you make your own fixed layouts? is there a program? (link)
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Well i have a piczo site, and once when i was on piczo pros, I went on back grounds then went on fixed backgrounds, and one of the selections on their is make your own fixed backgrounds. It will tell you how and everything. I would give u a link but it doesnt have one since it on piczo pros sry. hope this helps a bit...:)
Amber
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my hair is originally light brown with a few natural highlights- im wanting to go blonde- and i have been for a long time. the only thing is- i dont know if i can rust myself to do it- to get like, my whole head done. another thing- i KNOW i couldnt trust someone else to do it for me- so id rather do it on my own. i dont want to spend too much on the dye- and walmart sells the revlon colorsilk dyes for 3 dollars a box. anyone know if thats a good brand? and will dying my hair lighter make it come out some funky color or what? any help would be grand! (link)
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Ya, to tell you the truth i wouldn't by a cheap brand, usually the cheap brands either wont work, or will turn out a funky colour. I would by loreal paris, my Moms uses it to dye her roots all the time, and they always turn out the rite colour.
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Well to start things off ill tell you why i worte it...well i wrote it because it is my friends b-day and i wanted to get her something and make her somthing so it came from me and not just something i bought...if that makes sence!! So i worte this and i wanted to know how it sounds to you and if theres any changes you would make... here it is: Ill rate!!!
**Danielle Joan**
There’s many things I can say about you
But the thing that sticks out the most is that you’re my best friend
You’re a friend I can always count on to be there
You make me smile and brighten my day
You’re a friend I can always have a good time with
There may be times when we fight but we somehow work it out
Were two best friends that can never be torn apart
When I am not with you something always reminds me of you
Weather it be your laugh or your bell button ring
Something always rings a bell
You’re a great girl that I love dearly
Honestly I don’t know what I would do without you
But luckily I don’t have to think about that
Cause you’re my friend
You’re the friend I never lose
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aaww... that's so sweet!I think it sounds really nice!! I think she'll like it, she sounds like a nice person, so she'll probablly apreciate it a lot. I think it'sgood you made her something instead of buying her something. To tell you the truth i wouldn't change it, honestly. I'm sure she'll like it a lot!
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School ended jus the other day and I'm really upset about it. I wish i still had to go to school and not have summer yet. I think the main reason is because I'm not going to see everyone everyday. What can I do to get over the saddness? (link)
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Ya, i'd totally call a friend!! Keep in touch with tem as much as possible!! Trust me you'll regret it later if you don't. Also try to get back in touch with old friends, they mite have changed a lot!Just think though, not having to do school anymore mite be a good thing. Try doing stuff like watching your fave t.v. shows and movies, and playing your fave stuff, or invite your friends to have a sleepover. Another thing you could try is going to a camp and making new friends to hang around during the summer, or, make new friends in your neighborhood, so you can see them easily!
Hope you stop being sad! :)
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what does knock on wood mean? (link)
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It is a myth to beleive that knocking on wood will bring you good luck. So it's basically saying wish yourslef luck i geuss.. sry if i didn't help.
~Amber~
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