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okay so my boyfriend went to a strip club the other night i knew he was going and i have enough trust in him that he wont do anything stupid. But, the other night in his away message it said that stripper last night was so hot. I confied in my one friend to tell her about where he went i left out the fact about what he said in his away message. Well, she took it upon herself to call him and tell him that i was so upset which i was not. So he called me asking if i had a problem with where he went. I told him it did not bother me. He then kept telling me how cute i am and how much he loves me. but now i cant help to question his true feelings for me, i could not get over what he had in his away message. I dont know why i was too afraid to tell him about it but maybe i am just making a big deal out of nothing. So my question is what would you do if you were me, is it normal for me to be upset about that?
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First, you knew he was going and were cool with it...or were you? A lot of times we may not want to appear jealous or controlling, so we fake being okay with something we are really not. It is totally normal and healthy for you to NOT want YOUR boyfriend at a club where the whole point is to get sexually excited over naked women's bodies and lewd dancing. I have known strippers personally, their backgrounds and some of their experiences. There are many clubs where prostitution is held in back rooms and lap dances are very borderline. It is a big deal and it does not mean nothing. The media plays up how cool it is, but it is sleazy and not the place for a man to be if he is supposedly commited to someone else. If he disagrees, then he won't mind you slow dancing with a hottie...women are not as visually turned on as guys, so to be fair, you would need some hot talk and touching to get you hot and bothered like he was at the strip club. Fair is fair! I would not question his feelings for you, but I would not pretend that going to strip clubs is something good for the relationship.
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it is normal to be a little upset because your obviously going to be jealous of that because hes your boyfriend. But it probablly didn't mean anything and he wasnt thinking of it when he wrote it, that you would actually think some thing of it. Guys are sumtimes like that... you will probablly be a little upset but you will get over it soon probablly, if you trusted him.. then you were probablly rite about it if you know him good. I hope i helped a little bit :)
Amber <3
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it is completly normal to ne worried.. it could possibly even be that your a little jealous that he said that on an away message you should really try talking to him about it. he should understand if he really loves you.
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