about

hello :)
my name is amanda.
i love to give advice, so drop one in my inbox and i'll get back to you right away.

advice

yeah well my little sister and brother are just really annoying and when ever im with my friends they are right there listening in and just standing by us and i cant even say anything becuase they tell my mother and father everything so i cant even talk to my friends at home ill be doing something and they are so annoying they are also really really loud they are by the way 11 and 13 but my sisiter will be 12 in may 8th i pretty much hate them im tired of their shit i just wished i was the only child like mu sister is sooo spoiled and i have to clean up her mess and if i say something to her she goes and tells my mother and my mother always sticks up for her so i get in trouble my brother just always bothers me whatever im doing he has to question like if im texting he will be like why do you always text? and it makes me mad and they all gang up on me all the time and i sometimes want to hit them!!!!
wtf do i do to control myself and any advice on my brother and sister?

just realize that your brother and sister love you. you're their role model!! your the big sister, the one to look up to. so of course they're going to follow you around so they can learn how to be just like you. just be patient with them. if you get angry and get upset because they're around you all the time, they're more likely to do it more because they see it bothers you. this is totally normal. my brother used to do the same thing. dometimes it might feel like everyone gangs up on you, even your parents, and it might seem like they always take your sister's side, but i think they are just harder on you becayse you are the oldest. they want you to set a good example for your younger brother and sister. all of this will go away eventually. your brother and sister will grow out of this. for now, just keep your patience up and try to ignore them when they try to bug you.

good luck =]]]

[view]

my name is brandon i used to be emo i carved my friend name in my arm but before i did that she said it would be kool but then she saw it and i asked her not to tell anybody and she did and i got introbule and i hate her now i mean she was my best friend and she betrayed me so should i give up on our friendship or wat

i don't think that you should give up on the friendship. she wasn't trying to lie to you or betray you. she was probably really, really worried about you. cutting is scary for people who have never done it before. so before you did it she was probably like, "cool, yeah it's no big deal" and when she saw it she was probably thinking "oh my god, i wonder how bad it really was..." and she started to get really worried. even though it got you into trouble, it did get you help, right?? your friend put you and your life before the friendship. so don't give up on it. your friend just really cares about you.

[view]

ok well i have this friend..and at the begging of the year we were really good friends and some howw we got into fites....and it all started when i said that her b.f was a player and she beilved him insted of me ..she got mad at me we didnt talk for months and then she called me up and said im soory...so i forgave her ( dont really ever forgive people when they backstab me) then the second time she siad that i did something on purpose..and i was like no i didnt..and it had to do with a guy...she thought i was trying to steal him but i wasnt..so aguan we got into a fight then she called and i forgave her...because i really loved her alot she was my good friend..but now agian somwthing happend about and lets just say it repapted and we werent talking and then agian i forgave and we beacme firneds....yea i know im pathetic..but now this is new she thinks i spread rumor about her..like really bad...rumor and hwn i didnt beacuse why wouold i so now we hate each other agian and today in the whole way she came up to me with her friends and asked if i said anything i was liek no and started to wlak away she grabbed me and grabbed her hang like le tme go you hore...and wlaked awya and she laughed and calle dme names..so i dont no what to do !! HELP!!!

It kinda seems like you guys are developing a pattern: she thinks you did something, she gets mad, she calls and apoligizes. and that just keeps repeating over and over again. i don't think thats a good situation for you to be in. it seems like you've been really hurt by this, and even though she is a good friend, you have to ask yourself if she will keep repeating it and if she is really worth it. it would probably be a good idea to take a break. then slowly try to rebuild the friendship until you guys are back to normal. but this kind of thing keeps happening, you might want to let it go for good. just do what you think is best for you, and remember that a true friend probably wouldn't keep doing this to you.

hope i could help =]]]

[view]

Ok so Im going to put on highlights at home on friday and my mom says if i dont like it i can die my hair right away or saturday. But will that harm my hair if i do highlights then go to hair color right away if i dont like the highlights

well its not really great for your hair or anything....but just make sure you use a deep conditioner to prevent damage and breakage. just don't dye it alot or your hair will fall out =/

[view]

ok so i have been dating this guy for like three months. he tells me thatdon't he loves me but i really love him back yet!! what do i do?? i've been debating whether or not to break up with him, but i'm afraid i'll hurt his feelings!! please help me!!

ok, well you have to think about what you are really feeling. if you think that he is moving too fast and you need a break, then you should take a break. if you're worried about hurting his feelings, then you just have to break it to him gently. tell him that you need some time to yourself to think about things, and that maybe you guys could get back together if you take it really slow. remember, just do what's best for you!!

[view]

ok so im lookin for a way to get skinnier because
im startin to look like a white queen latifa
so will someone plz give me tips on how to get a littlier stomach ya know with out becomin anerexic
lolz all answers will be greatly appreciated .

try to eat a bit healthier if you're feeling concious about your weight. exercising alot would also help. try to focus on one part of your body that you want to improve on: arms, legs, abs, butt, etc. and then find good workout routines for one area. then you can move onto other areas. take it one at a time and don't overload yourself. and please stay healthy!! hope this helps ya :)

[view]

iam having trouble iam over weight but have managed to lose 40kgs but have about 30 kgs to go and just cant get my head around losing the rest i also have bulimia so can sombody please help me with a few words to try and get back on track and what does having bulima do to my body

other than psychological things, like low self-esteem, and a constant body-bashing cycle, it's also really, really harmful to your health. if you end up throwing up hard enough, your can tear your esophagus and you might end up having surgery. you may notice little black specks when you throw up. this is not food. it is actually really hurting your stomach and esophagus. and of course, you are basically not really eating. just because you eat something and immediately throw it back up, that doesn't mean that your body is getting the vitamins, nutrients, and calories that it needs. if you go from being bulimic to normal and back and forth multiple times, you can actually do some serious damage to your heart. by fluxuating from a healthy body weight, to a dangerous body weight, you are weakening your heart and you could actually end up having a heart attack. please stay healthy!! =]]

[view]

My child makes comments like, "that person on TV is better than you at ..blank.., "you smell, you are the ugliest, I missed my cat more when I was gone. He prefers to be with his dad more than me, he takes his side, and comments that he would save his dad first and a toss up between me and the cat. What is up? I am about as normal a parent as it gets. No neglect, no physical abuse, no psychological abuse, no other priorities. Are kids just mean today and tell you all they think or is he just displaying his "love" in an awkward way. By the way, I am the parent that says yes to McDonald's, walmart shopping etc.

i had a friend who acted very similar to her parents. i really didn't understand it but it turns out that all she really wanted was attention. your son really does love you, so don't feel like he doesn't. eventually, this will stop, and everything will be normal. hope this is helpful =]]]

[view]

Are short like cocktail dresses kinda weird for prom? should they be long and formal? whats your opnion for prom dresses.. THANKS

no!! i actually think that a cocktail dress would look really cute. just make sure that you find the right color for your skin tone and the right fit. remember, prom is all about having the time of your life!! so wear what you like! i hope this helps =]]]

[view]

a friend of mine has an eating disorder. its not anorexia or bulimia or anything like that. she eats, but very little. and when she gets stressed out it makes her stomach hurt. and then she makes herself throw up. i have yelled at her about it and stuff because shes lost over 20 pounds since christmas and its totally unhealthy. she claimes she is just fine, but i know thats total bullshit. i really respect our friendship, and i dont want to ruin it by telling someone who could help her. i know it could help her and would really pay off, but i've been in her position. not with eating, but i was cutting and told my so-called friend, and she told her parents and her parents called me parents and it was a mess. and i hated her for it. but i dont want my friend to keep up this bad habbit! shes not ok! its out of control! and she wont listen to me! but if i tell someone, i might lose her! what do i do?

well, you really have to think about it for a minute. your other friend told your parents about your cutting, right?? and after it, you hated her because you thought you could trust her, right?? well, maybe she was in the position you are in right now. she was your friend, and really wanted to help, but was scared to. now, even though you hated her for telling, did it help you in the long run? that's what you have to think about with your friend and her eating disorder. would you rather lose the friendship or lose your friend forever? if you are afraid of her finding out that you told, you can tell a school counselor and ask to remain anonymous. that way, you can get your friend the help she needs. and even if she does end up finding out, she'll appreciate it later. your friend has a problem, and she needs help to get it under control. do what you think is best. just don't wait until it's too late.

i hope this is helpful =]]]

[view]

i cant stand being with my bestfriend anymore we've been close for like 9years now, since forever but she totally pisses me off very so often! like i can never forgive her for throwing things in my face while we were younger, also! she always like the guy i like, last year i told her i like this guy, then she went after him! but he didn't like her, he said she was too weird and not his type, the whole school knows about it, and yeah we have some really good times, but others shes a complete total female dog! i can't stand her gusts! i let her stay at my house after school every day because she lives far away and her mom picks her up at like 8 or 9pm, then a few months ago she told me she can just come and go as she pleases, its her decision that she could stay or not at my house, she acts as if my house is her house and she can come and go as she pleases, i convinced my parents to let her stay, my parents said if it makes me happy, so shes here, but she thinks shes always right about everything, so when she started to go to my school she became worst of who she was! she took all my friends away from me, dyed her hair like 10times to get attentions from others, and she disses only about EVERY guy i like, its soo annoying, i cant tell her to just leave after 9 years, im so confussed, she lies to everyone about her, making everyone at my school like completely hate me and choose her over me, im hurt realy bad of what shes done, and she makes her mother more miserable then anyone, she threatens to kill her self of she doesnt get what she wants, my parents dont like her at all, since we were younger my parents dont like her because she was a bad influence, i got soo sick of my friends staying over for sleep overs and everything and say how great or wonder she is,...she came over once to my house over the weekends and totally liked like bestfriends with my friends, and laughed at me,...she thinks she knows everything about me, well shes wrong i hate her, but i dont wanna loose her, advice please?

well, i know how you're feeling right now because i had a friend that was the exact same way. she would always try to out-do me. we were best friends for like five years, and then all of a sudden she became so different. unfortunately, people change. i guess she feels like she has to always be better than you. she's trying to show others that she's better than you too. well, by what you've said, i can already tell you that she's not.she uses it all for attention, if she is being mean and putting you down all the time, that bullying and a real friend wouldn't treat you that way. as for the whole thing with stealing the guys that you like, she's trying to make it like a competition. and with dying her hair alot, she's just doing it for attention. when she's nice to everyone else but mean to you, she's trying to make them think that she's better than you. i'm sorry but a real friend wouldn't do that. yes, you said that there were some good times where you guys were just like best friends again, but the truth is, if you think about the bad times more than the good times, i don't think you should be her friend anymore. and even though you don't want to lose her as a friend, you have to think about it: is this really a good friendship?? does she really care about me or is she just trying to hurt me? there's no reason why you guys can't still talk and everything, but i don't think you should keep her as a close friend, and i don't think you should fully trust her either. instead, surround yourself with people who make you feel good, people you can trust, people who make you feel happy. you deserve so much better!! i really hope everything works out for you!! =]

[view]

So, I want to cut my hair short, but i feel that if i do, boys won't like me, because short hair is "lezbo" like. My face would be complemented by the hair, and i personally would love it, but i am just scared that boys will not find me attractive. and at this point in my life i need boys to find me attractive, because i am not feeling very attractive right now. ugh.
so anyways, would a boy love it if i cut my hair, or should i comprimise with just a trim and style? (my hair is down to my crack)

don't worry about what they think. whats important is what you think about it. if you love it, and you think it will compliment your face shape, then do it!! and besides, if a guy doesn't like you just because of your hair, then he's not worth it. you deserve to have someone like you for you, not just for your appearance. plus, if you do cut your hair and end up loving it, that's an extra boost to your confidence, which is something that guys love!! so don't worry about it! i'm sure you'll be able to pull it off =]

[view]

ok so im tired of being someone im not. im not a prepy joke. but id rather be myself. the EMO joke. who has prepy friends. and i just figured out im tireing to be something im not. but i dont know how to cross all the way. because my friends wont like it. and im scared of what my mom and my family will think. and what her friends will think.... and i just want my brother to leave me alone about it all...

just be yourself. don't try to be something you're not either. be the person you want to be. if your friends don't like you just because you rather be more emo than preppy, than they're not your real friends. and your family should love you no matter what!! just be yourself!!


good luck!!
tell me how it works out =]]

[view]

My dad is an alcoholic and he won't listen to me when I try to tell him he needs to quit or hes it goign to die from drinking and driving or other horrible things I can't even imagine! How do I tell him?

unfortunately, this is a habit that won't stop over night. it is not enough just to tell him these things, you have to encourage him to stop. show him how horrible it is. print out pictures, diagrams, do research etc. there is of course a chance that he will see this and still continue to drink. try to get family support also. if a few members of your fsmily work to get him help, i'm sure he can overcome it. but this isn't going to be easy. it might take months, days, even years until it stops. just never give up. you are doing a good thing, trying to help your father. and i know that if you stay strong and persistant, he'll get the help he needs and will be able to stop.


i really hope this works out =]]]]
i'm interested to hear about how it turns out =]

[view]

i need to know how to convince my mom to get me contacts early.
she said i could have them if i wore my glasses consecutively for a year, which is going to be in november. but i just hate glasses, and they limit me to what i can do. i cant join sports teams at school because of my glasses, and they just make me feel really self conscious and i hate them. so my question is, how do i convince her to let me get them before summer instead of in november? thanksss.

ok, so what I would do is just wait a while. i had glasses and i really wanted contacts, but the more i asked for them the more my parents said no. i think that you just have to wait awile and let everything cool off. you can maybe even so some research. then when you have some positive information about contacts, sit your mom down and tell her about it. just don't complain. calmly explain her why you want contacts so bad, the reasons why, like how you can't play sports and they make you feel self-conscious. she'll see how responsible you are, and (hopefully) let you get contacts early!!


Hope this helps ya =]

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker