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So, i had sex today. and i ended my period a little over a week ago; well me and the boyfriend didn't use a condom,so he busted his load all in me. should i be worried about becoming pregnant?

yes definitely. if i were you i would go to planned parenthood and get emergency contraception.

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hey, i just want to know if there's anyone who's asked their good guy friend out,or if you've had feelings for them and just straight out told them. i dunno anyone who's done that and what the best/worst is that can happen,as in how often the friendship still remains after that is said. so if you can tell me what happened after you told your best guy friend please let me know! thank you!

i told him online with the help of my best girlfriend. and after that, we kind of got closer and eventually dated. for about a month. after that, things were really awkward for about 2 weeks. i mean it was bad. but i met my now current bf of 2 yrs 2 weeks after my guyfriend and i broke up. once i met a new guy i felt a lot better, and my guy friend and i got talking. we both talked about not being weird around each other and it didnt take long to get things back to how they were. nothing got ruined. we even got closer as friends. i mean now that we both graduated i dont see him as much, but definitely when he comes home for breaks we hang out.

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15/f

this is going to sound super shallowww.

i really really really like this kid. but, hes not cute. at all. i mean i deff. like him for his personality. hes not the type of guy i would ever date. all my boyfriends were usually football or baseball players or something. this kid is deff. far from that. i wanna like him, and i know he likes me. but, i know.. if i went out with him, people would make fun of me. i dont know if id kiss him or anything, because i'm not attracted to him like that, i mean i kinda am. but idk. do you think its worth it? it seems though, as eeach day goes by, i like him more and more. its like i have a disease.

i went through something similar to you before. this great guy who treated me like gold, but wasnt attractive. i wasnt concerned about what people would say, i just really wasnt attracted. i couldnt picture myself kissing him, nothing. so i knew i wouldnt be happy in the relationship. so i know that sounds shallow, but if he is someone you can see yourself being cuddly and kissy with, its a boyfriend material guy. if you cant stand the thought, then there is no point in dating him if you know you will be miserable, not feeling it, and leading him on. so it might be better as friends.
maybe the idea of him being so nice is attractive to you, but if you would feel uncomfortable kissing him, its like dating someone for the heck of it. maybe if you keep hanging out you will ignore his flaws and be perfectly okay with the unattractive parts.,but if you cant get past the looks,it will just be a mess in my opinion.

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My boyfriend and i decided to break up while he figures some things out. For the time being we are going to be friends. He told me that he Loves me. Then he said that he might get back together and we might not, he's not sure. So I am giving him time, but one day he will be negative about us, and the next he will be positive about us. And I have been trying to give him time and space, and he ims me when I am online. Does anyone have any idea what he could be thinking and why he is sending mixed messages to me?

it could be a few things. maybe he is afraid of commitment, wants to spend more time with friends, wants to be single, is getting bored with the relationship but still really likes you, it could be anything.

but let him live life on his own. let him see how things would be withouttt you in his life. he might be miserable and find out he belongs with you, or he might find its for the best. give it time, and give him space and just wait it out is the best thing for you to do.
good luck hun!

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I always get stressed out about how much homework I get and I dont know how to sort it out. My school always gives work home that I didn't finish and I am not that much of a fast writer. what should I do to not get so stressed out?

if you have any studyhalls, use that time to get a headstart. if they have afterschool tutoring,library hours, etc use it to have a quiet place to get stuff out of the way.

when you get home kind of have an idea how much sttuff you have and how long it should take. the sooner you get it out of the way, the better. work in a quiet place, no distractions. get the big stuff done first. then chill for a bit. get a bite to eat, go watch a tv show for a half hour, or whatever then go back to homework.

so your schedule could be like this:

3:30 you get home
3:45 start on the big stuff
5:00 take a break, watch tv etc
5:30 do a small assignment until dinner is ready or something
6:00 eat dinner
6:30 do more homework
8:00 watch a show , use phone,etc
8:30 do homeowkr until the rest is done

something like that. with a couple breaks inbetween i think it would help. if you dont get peace and quiet at home, maybe after school you can do homework for an hour.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. We're currently living together. We're both still virgins and that's not the problem. My guy... he's just not that affectionate and it's very discouraging to me. When he comes home from work, he won't even come and hug me or kiss me or say hello and it makes me feel sad, like he doesn't WANT to come see me and kiss me. When we go to bed at night, he's just like "good night" and that's it. Nothing more. I really don't think he's losing interest in me, because he's always sort-of been this way. Is there any way that I can encourage affection from him? Any ideas that'll make him want to come give me affection?

Please help! :]

Oh, I'm 18/F

well , break the routine a little. maybe get some concert tickets, suprise him like others said with his favorite food by candlelight, massage, sexy dress up, role playing, change it up, take him by suprise. videocameras, etc could be used for certain activities lol. just something different and sexy.

or just a change of pace in the routine. going out to dinner, seeing a movie, a concert, etc could do the trick. bake him his favorite dessert, before bed just rub his back and seduce him,

think back to when you guys were constantly at each other. was there a particular thing he would always like you to do sexually? if so, just go for it :) has he been wanting something pretty bad like a cd video game etc? if so, get it as a random gift and maybe spend the evening playing the game together

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Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years, and I honestly do love him. It's the most serious relationship I've ever been in. We live together and everything.

Lately, though, I've kind of been having second thoughts about this whole thing. We've been fighting quite a bit (but we've always fought), and I just miss dating other people. I know it sounds mean, but I can't help it. Sometimes I think I want to be with him, and sometimes I think I don't.

Don't think it's just me being mean and everything, because he's messed up a lot, too. He's lied to me, and some girl told me she slept with him (She's known for being a liar, and he denies it, but I just don't know). The thing he lied to me about, though, was him saying he wasn't with the girl when he was, and stuff like that.

I just need some help, please. Sometimes I just feel like I'm way too deep into this relationship to leave him even if I wanted to.

**Edit** i read your extra information, and this sounds like one of those things where you dont have proof he did it, but you have your suspicions, whatever they may be. its one of those situations where the answer to this problem could be dont jump to conlcusions, let it go. but then again, if you cant trust him and you worry about him being faithful, maybe the relationship isnt a good idea to begin with because trust and faithfulness is number 1 in a relationship.

you know your guy and you know the suspicions you have. you know him better and none of us on here know allll the details or know you guys personally. so your judgement might be the best answer here. just remember, honesty and trust in a relationship is so important.

you may use your judgement and decide to get past these cheating suspicions. if so, be sure you can trust him now, because if he is still being shady or those suspicsions are still there, its like a neverending cirlce and you will be absolutely miserable. just be sure to keep in mind you desserve a great guy, you desserve someone you can trust and communicate with, and always remember you are your own person and if things arent working out, you are strong and you will find someone better down the road.

**feel free to inbox me if you want to ask more questions or update me :) **


Dont feel trapped. You shouldnt feel tied to him, because if its like that he has the power to make you miserable knowingg you will stay with him, he iwll take advantage. i think you should talk to him about your concerns, if he really cares about you then hhe will listen and the two of you can work at it. you can also bring up the girl claiming he slept with her. tell him now is the time to completely come clean, kind of dont freak out and make him trust you so if its true he might tell you it is.

then if you hear that, maybe dumping him is for the best. as for the rest, just tell him how you are feeling. tell him you dont want to be fighting, hopefully together the two of you will try to do new activities and get back on a positive track. however, if he doesnt care, doesnt pull his share in the relationship, or if the fighting continues constantly, breaking up could be for the best

you are your own person, dont feel trapped. think about the people who have been married for 10 years + and have kids but get divorced. they pick up their life and move on, and even find someone new,etc. if this doesnt work out of course it will take time to get over him, but there will be another guy down the road.

i hope he meets you half way and is willing to communicate though

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For my basketball team, we;re making the seniors signs, for senior night. And for football season, they made signs that had rhyming things for their names. Ex. "we have beatty, he weighs 280"
things like that but for girls.
Ashley, Courtney, and Cierra or C.
Courtney makes a lot of threes
"C" is REALLY tall, like 6'4
and Ashley has really good defense.
Any help?
I need the signs done for monday, thanks!!!

we got ash on defense which makes a lot of sense
c will knock it down and make the other team frown
courtney will shoot and swish it through the hoop!


ashley steals the ball and amazes us all
courtney swishes all the threes you wish you had skills like these
C is really tall she could jump over a wall
c is our center you wont find anyone better

lol hope it helped

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I bought a Compaq Presario a little over a year ago. It was working great until a little while ago..Now, sometimes when I turn it on, it doesn't boot. The machine runs but the screen just stays black.

I've been told that it'd work if I took the battery out, but the problem persists sometimes even when I turn it on with the battery taken out.

My warranty expired already, as well as the over-the-phone tech support. So is anyone out there that can tell me what the problem is?

i too had the same issue. i had mine fixed at the geek squad located in best buy. it took them a few weeks, but they found out the hard drive was bad and had to replace it. i was lucky and had it done for free because of the warranty. after that, i just used my recovery disc and now its fine. so it wouldnt hurt to call the geek squad, they could take a look and let ya know how much it would cost you. if its way too much, i would just save up for a new laptop

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can anyone explain to me in detail no websites or links, what you exactaly do to a guy when you roleplay: he is sick and you are the nurse, because i am lost here. thanks

role playing is putting on an act to seduce or sexually attract your partner. if you were the nurse you would dress up in a tight skimpy nurse dress that might show some cleavage, you would put on an act and talk dirty,act sexy, etc. an example might be..you come in the room dressed up like a hot nurse, you say something like its time for your examanation now and maybe giggle or something..pretend to drop your little pen or whatever on the floor, maybe bend over in front of him so he gets a good view, kind of give him his "examanation" if you get my gist here. kind of massage him a little, touch wherever your comfortable with, and have some fun :)

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my boyfriend (m/16) and i (f/16) have been going out for almost 6 monthes. we have not had sex yet, but i've given him head before.
we got into a conversation one time about how guys think it's weird to eat a girl out.
he sad that he'd eat me out any day because it would only be fair considering i've given him head before. that's probably going to be the next step in our relationship.
i'm a little nervous about the whole idea though, not uncomfortable about it, just uncertain i guess.
how should i prepare for that?
some guys think it tastes nasty, but i heard somewhere that eating fruit beforehand makes it taste better....?
i know that i have to wash down there everyday and all... but is there anything else i should know?
thanks ~

**edit** the fruit thing is true. different foods give off differents scents/tastes. look it up lol :)


yes! pineapple is probably the best. i read it makes that area tastes sweet. i would avoid meat that day. i hear it doesnt make it taste so good. he could suck on a mint beforehand, you could go to a sex store or visit some websites on *safe* things to put on there to make it taste good. but to prepare just be relaxed and enjoy. eating fruit that day, keeping the area dry and sweat free, shower as normal, etc and you will be fine!

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is there anyway to tell if a girl is pregnant after the first couple of weeks after sex?
i'm only sixteen, i would love as much information and advice as possible, please.

try an at home test. they have pretty good ones..first response can tell pretty quick. take one now, then take another next week, don't panic or it will make your period late, try to make an appointment at planned parenthood in a few weeks if your period is a no-show. nausea and morning sickness may occur soon, but it doesn't happen to all women. dont panic until your period is a week late. then i would make the doctor appointment or planned parenthood appointment. they can give you a pregnancy test that is extremely accurate.
i dont know your situation,but if the condom didn't break relax you are probably fine. a pregnancy test wont hurt though. good luck, definitely feel free to message me because i have had my scares before

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is it safe to have sex after doing ecstasy?

ecstasy itself isn't safe at all, you can die from it. so to ask if sex afterwards is safe isnt the greatest question. the issue here is the ecstasy use. sex isnt relevant.

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when is it too early to loose your virginity. not only age wise but relationship wise, physically, emotionally.

thank you!
and i know this is an opinionated question but thats what i want. people's opinions

i dont think you should put an age on it. i think when you feel comfortable with your partner, responsible to accept emotions that come with it as well as consequences,etc you are ready. i think its best to first wait in the relationship and get the real picture. i wouldn't do it with someone who seems to be pressuring me, getting impatient, or just in it for sex. i would wait until i feel we are serious about each other, in love, etc. although i know i said i don't think an age should be put on it, but i do believe 15 and up is acceptable if both people are in love and understand the consequences. i waited until about 17 and im almost 19 and still in the relationship. I knew when i was ready. It was clearer than day. I felt completely ready. And I think that is what people should wait for. I hate to see people getting cornered into losing it.

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i decided to stop smoking cigarettes -after 3 failed attempts-on friday. Its sunday today and ive started revising for exams. The thing is..i need a cig', and i dont want the feeling of needing one to put me off the work i have. So what do you lot think i should do? carry on smoking till june/july when the exams are completely finished, or stop smoking and let it affect my exams and revision, because the exams start in march....

i know how this is. my feeling is there will always be something going on..exams now..maybe in july/august there will be other stresses. dont use that as an excuse. physical withdrawal symptoms last 3 days. the rest is all psychological. i find that visiting messaging boards offers support, people share techniques/tips, chew gum, keep busy, and remember this..cravings last 3 minutes! so next time your craving, just keep an eye on the clock you'll see! i know i didnt beleive it at first either but its true! here are great sites to check out...

http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/tobacco/1stweek.htm

http://www.neversmokeagain.com/

http://www.quitnet.com/q_corp/Q_news/betterHomesAndGardensTop10Tips20021223.html

http://forums.virtualfestivals.com/forums/lofiversion/index.php/t13710.html


good luck! :)

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I'm seventeen years old.
So I don't consider myself too young to be having sex,the thing is I just am apprehensive to go all the way. Two reasons.
1. My mom who is very domineering would absolutely flip out, she'd go crazy.
and
2. I don't want to tell my doctor, because I don't want a pap test (she said after I was sexualy active I had to.) I just don't want her to think I'm skanky, even though she can't tell my mom it makes me nervous that she'll have to let it slip.

Physicaly though, I'm ready, I could easily get my head around the idea of sex.
I've been fingered and such.
Like today my boyfriend and I were 'fooling around', and he was like "i don't want to presure you but when you're ready I have condoms."
I just laughed. I'd actualy like to have sex with him, he means a lot to me.

i know the feeling you were describing about your doctor. but honestly, your doctor is there for you. she will not be judgmental at all, she wont make remarks, and she must obey privacy laws or she could lose her license. i know it feels awkward, but remember she is a doctor and understands teens may become sexually active. she wont yell at you like your mom might.

second of all, your mom does not have to know about your private/sexual life. if you are truly ready, then be safe and go for it. just be sure you are absolutely ready :)

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Ok... So My Boyfriend has some.. family problems with his older brother/guardian....like Incessant rape? I can't take it anymore I've been understanding about it and since I live so far away I can't do anything to stop it but talk to my boyfriend and comfort him when he's depressed. Some of my other friends call me "the fortune cookie" because I'll change completely from a hyper bubbly girl to someone who seems as if they're reading off of fortune cookies!

Countless times I've talked him out of suicide and harming himself, I've even gotten him to stop taking drugs and drinking.

But It seems I've run out of things to say to comfort him, and today I asked him what was wrong.
"My life." was his answer.
I tried to explain it as shattered glass, to relate to how he was feeling. but if anything I think I made him worse off.

So not only does it depress me to see him depressed, to know he lies about how he feels so I won't worry, but him lying just makes me worry more.

I've often said to myself, " How's it feel to know everything you do never matters at all? "

When we first met he said I'd leave just like everyone else in his life, but here I am...a little over a year later! and as each day goes by, no matter how much I love him I'm beginning to think that maybe I've made his life worse off?

So what should I do?
I'm open to any suggestions
because if it's able to make him happy I'm willing to do anything...

I say what I mean and I mean what I say, so I hope you can do the same to help me before I crack and go back to my own ways before he made my life happier...

****EDIT****um ACTUALLY NO. ,ALL im saying is he needs to see a psychiatrist. he needs more help than just you. i dont appreciate your sarcastic tone, what i told you is what i learned. so whatever, thanks for the 3


I took psychology in college, and if there is one thing i have learned its this:

sexual abuse like that is a major problem and a professional psychiatrist is the best answer for him. he needs to talk to a mental health professional about his depression and sexual abuse. i know you want to help, but all the words in the world cant help him. he needs to talk to someone who is trained and give therapy, perhaps meds (although i have read anti depressants aren't recommended for those under 18) but i really feel the need for him to get professional therapy to confront his abuse and depression. i know for this past year you have probably tried everything you can think of to help him, but he is obviously depressed and the abuse is traumatic for anyone to deal with. he should really start seeing a counselor because who knows, one day he might actually go through with the suicide :/
best of luck. please feel free to inbox me

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16/f with my first bf (he's 15, five months younger than me)

well, he's really REALLY experienced...I mean, this guy's been in relationships for like 10 years lol

well, I'm not into hookups. I'm into a really...passionate relationship. like, very loving.

we've been going out for 23 days.

and he's already grabbing at my crotch and feeling me up.

i mean, i like it and all. it's like fine...whatever.

but when he does sexual things like that, i feel really embarrassed. and he even QUESTIONS me after...like....why did you yell, you didn't like it?
sometimes he slowly forces things on me. like, he went up my shirt and onto my bra, and started touching me there. it's not that it feels uncomfortable..im just afraid he thinks I'm easy and he's using advantage of me. I'm a really shy/sensitive girl...and i'm also nice. so I don't want him to think I'm easy..
we're already makiing out, and I just feel like its too soon to be doing it. and he tells me he loves me ...
and he always tells me that he'd love to make love to me one day, and that he has dreams about giving me oral sex. I feel so awkward. He expects me to promise sexual things in the future..towards him.
I'm scared, really.
But I like him a lot. Its just that I'm not experienced so I don't know how to tell 'bad' guys from good.
Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I don't want to end up being raped :(

Hes going way to far. It sounds like he isnt respecting your boundaries and all he is concerned about is getting as far as he can with you. No good. That isnt love, its just some horny teenage guy who just wants sex and whatnot. You need to lay it on the line you are NOT comfortable with this. You are being pressured to give in and do stuff with him, its not right..dont allow him to take advantage of you. If he cant understand this, then he doesnt desserve you. Watch, once you have a talk about this and let him know you dont like this etc he might decide to dump you because he seems like a prick. Hopefully he will respect you. If he really likes you he will stop with the pressure. If that doesnt stop I would dump him because nobody should fear their boyfriend of rape.

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My friend needs help on choosing Latin, French or Spanish, for high school

Spanish-Florida a lot of people know Spanish here

French-A love romantic language she loves lot

Latin-A great language to learn, because it will be easier to learn another language afterwards

I can't help her because we have different opinion on things. Any help please?


Please and Thank You.

i took French in high school but honestly i would recommend Spanish. A lot more people in the U.S speak the language and it can come in handy for jobs,etc. My personal opinion is that it will come in handy more.

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okay so my friend jeff is having a party on friday & i have a crush on my friend tyler. tyler's going to be at the party and i really want to like hang out with him at the party..we're all also sleeping over, so how do i flirt with him without being completely overbearing? thanks!

you have a couple options. is jeff cool with tyler? if so, maybe have him ask tyler what he thinks about you. jeff can drop some hints that you like him or that he thinks tyler should get to know you better.

little stuff like..
-playing twister and getting a lil flirty
-smiling,dancing near him or with him to get his attention
-telling him a funny story
-maybe ask him to take a walk outside with you because you 'want some air..' then hint around by asking him advice. you can say.."what do you think i should do? i kind of like one of my guy friends..do you think i should tell him?' you might get the vibe from him that he knows you are referring to him. he might hint at you to tell the 'guyfriend' ..see he flirts back, etc.
good luck!

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