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what is to early?
when is it too early to loose your virginity. not only age wise but relationship wise, physically, emotionally.
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and i know this is an opinionated question but thats what i want. people's opinions
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i dont think you should put an age on it. i think when you feel comfortable with your partner, responsible to accept emotions that come with it as well as consequences,etc you are ready. i think its best to first wait in the relationship and get the real picture. i wouldn't do it with someone who seems to be pressuring me, getting impatient, or just in it for sex. i would wait until i feel we are serious about each other, in love, etc. although i know i said i don't think an age should be put on it, but i do believe 15 and up is acceptable if both people are in love and understand the consequences. i waited until about 17 and im almost 19 and still in the relationship. I knew when i was ready. It was clearer than day. I felt completely ready. And I think that is what people should wait for. I hate to see people getting cornered into losing it.
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I don't think it has too much to do with how in love you are, but also if you can single-handily accept any and all responsibilities and consequences that come for your own actions. It might not matter how much in love you are with the other person, if you choose to make a decision then YOU should be able to handle anything that can (and most often does) go wrong. A breakup, pregnancy not ready for, health complications, emotional issues, just to name a few. So it depends entirely on the person.
Its too early when you can't accept all the possible responsibilities or consequences from your actions; when you expect that those who you did things with will ALWAYS be there; when you depend on others for a living; when you have any doubts about this situation; when you can't think for yourself.
You can look back and say that years ago, people never actually had problems from waiting until marriage for this. If problems arose it was because of personal compatibility issue, or others such as finances, emotions, etc. I haven't heard of anyone say that waiting until marriage actually ruined the relationship. I have heard, however, that while dating, especially in high school, taking those kind of decisions has ruined relationships, and in some cases people's lives because they weren't ready to deal with health issues, including emotional ones and having to care for someone else. Some people have made decisions to wait for marriage, others not, and sometimes it works out for some when they decide not to wait.
So yeah, do you need to love the person? Of course, why not? But is that all it takes for the green lights to go...definitely not. When you take something like sex as serious as it is, then its easier to deal with it, and if anything comes your way afterwards, the seriousness you had before will most likely help out with most things afterwards. Hope that helped.
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To lose your virginity, you should be completely in love. That pretty much defines when you are ready. If you are with someone for long enough to see that you love them completely for everything they are, sex is perfectly fine. A one night stand, a summer fling, or a friend with benefits would not be a good sex partner, especially if it's your first one. If you don't feel right about it, it's not time. Wait it out, and don't let your partner pressure you into it. Also, if you and/or your partner isn't mature enough to keep it between the two of you, you aren't ready.
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I think it all depends on the maturity level of the person. Now, I would definitely say that it is too young if you are under the age of 14, but that's my opinion. You have to be able to handle the situation on a mature level. Knowing the consequences of doing this and what could happen to a person if something bad were to happen, i.e. pregnancy, STD's, or emotional scarring (depending on how someone reacts to the experience).
For someone who is having sexual activity for the first time, they need to consider even more options, like is this really what I want to do? Do I want to save myself for marriage, or at least until I know I am in love with someone? Is this going to ruin my image with myself? How would it affect my parents if they were to find out?
Anyone that has sex, needs to also make sure they are practicing safe sex. For a female, they need to be on the pill or something equivalent. For a male, they need to make sure they are wearing a condom. When it comes to sex, the best thing to do is practice safely. I hope I've helped.
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I think the relationship should be a married couple. I think that too early to loose your virginity if your not married, I think that you could be 50 never married and still a virgin. Good luck, I hope I helped
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