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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



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okay so this one guy liked me that i didn't really know and i got cought up with it and kind of liked him back. now i like him a lot more but he does not seem interested at all anymore and idk its just nice to know somebody likes you and i've just been really lonely lately so that doesn't help at all. i also think i might like this one guy...but he has a girlfriend. and another guy that likes me didn't hold my hand or hug me or kiss me or any of that when we went out. im just kind of stuck because i don't know where i stand with boy number one, i don't have a chance with boy number two OR one, and boy number three...idk he's too much of a pansie. so if you think its not going to work with these boys...then do you have any tips of how not to be lonely...other than surrounding myself with my friends...because its not that kind of lonely. hopefully you know what i mean. thanks!

Here's my opinion on all three situations:

Boy #1-
PROS: He likes/liked you, you like him.
CONS: He's not terribly interested in you anymore.

Boy #2-
PROS: You like him.
CONS: He has a girlfriend.

Boy #3-
PROS: You like him.
CONS: You've already dated him, he doesn't get physical.

Personally, I think that boy #1 is your only option of the three boys. You can't go out with someone who has a girlfriend, and re-dating is a bad idea. However, there is one more option.. Keep your eyes open for new boys. There's always someone who will surprise you with his greatness.

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hey. well, the person i like, supposively likes my friend. I asked him if he does like her and he always says "well a little bit i guess" !?! and this doesn't help me. everytime i ask his best friend who i am also friends with he won't answer me questions. my friend who the guys likes still kind of likes him [i think thats why the guys likes her]. she also likes this other kid. but i need to know all these things. i want to know if the kid i like likes my friend still, if he's going to ask her out, if he likes anyone else too.. me basically [yeah he knows i like him], and also why he likes my friend. also is there anything i can do to make me feel better because it makes me so sad to see the kid i like like my best friend [me and her are equal prettiness and niceness btw]. i'm just all so confused. sorry this question was SOO long. thanks for your help.

If this boy is too shy to even say who he likes, than how would a relationship even work out? Yes, I understand that you have feelings for this kid, but if he has to decide between two girls, than he doesn't have his heart set on one thing. You want to be able to go out with someone who wants you and only you. If your friend knows about your feelings for the boy and ignores them, than you should consider how good of a friend you have on your hands. I wouldn't drop her if they went out, but considering her a close friend would not be a good view. Summer is coming up and you should keep your eyes open for new boys. You deserve it!

Good luck, and hope I helped.

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okay...lately i've been feeling really self concious about a lot of things on my body. i've solved my problem of having too big of a butt and thighs and im working on that at the moment. i need help figuring out how to get rid of my acne problem though. it's like...it takes over my whole body. i've got a little tiny bit on my chest and some on my back and like a norml teenage amount on my face i guess you could say. i've also got little bumps on my arms. everytime i take a shower i use a loofa to wash my body and i'm trying this overnight lotion stuff that helps with this kind of thing but it seems like nothing is working. summer is coming up and i don't want to be disgusted with myself in a bakini or being afraid to be my flirtatious self around guys. any tips would be an enormous help =/ thanks so much.

Well, acne is a very normal thing. As for the little bumps on your arms, they probably will never go away completely. However, when you get a tan, they won't be incredibly noticable. The tiny bit of acne on your chest and back really won't be a big deal. I have some, but I just put a little bit of cover-up makeup on them. Unless you bring attention to them, nobody will really notice them unless they're terribly disgusting. The ones on your face, just restrain from popping them. IT WILL SCAR! Believe me, I've got scars all over my face, chest, back, arms, and legs from picking at zits and scabs. DON'T DO IT! Try new products. I've heard proactive works well on some people (not particularly on me and my brother, however). Also, OXY sells a body wash that you can use in the shower to rid youreslf of body acne. Shower daily. I wish you the best of luck, but remember, it's summer... RELAX!!!

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14/F and i am a huge procrastinator!!! its horrible i am especially having trouble studying for my exams and stuff. i know this may sound wierd, but do you have any tips for staying on task? thanks so muchh

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN! What you should do, is rid yourself of all distractions. Turn your phone off, turn your computer off, turn your TV off, and go to a place where you can't get distracted. For studying for exams, I go into my kitchen because I know that my mom will be nearby and won't allow me to be offtask. If you need your computer for homework, make sure that you sign off of your screen name (an away message won't cut it!) and don't go onto myspace. If you do your homework as soon as you get home from school, you'll have the whole night to yourself! Try that technique. And look on the bright side, SUMMER IS ONLY DAYS AWAY! Good luck!!

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15/f/md
ok well i have this problem
this guy & i recently had sex and
im kinda nervous as to what might happen
i dont think im pregnant or anything but you never know
and i hate to say it but there wasn't a condom involved

help******

Well, I would reccomend a pregnency test that you can buy at any drug store. They cost anywhere from $15-30. That should cover the pregnency issue. As for STDs, be sure to check for any rashes, strange discharges, bumps, and odors. However, you might want to see your doctor. If you go to a pediatrician still (you can go up to one until you're 18, I'M NOT CRAZY) than they can tell your parents. However, if you go to a regular doctor, they are required by law (I do believe) to keep things confidential. You can just tell your doctor you're worried about STDs and if they can run a test. This will be an uncomfortable situation, but it's your health we're talking about. Good luck!

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I smoke but I want to stop. I dont want to buy the gum or patch I just want to do it naturly. I didnt need anything to help me start so I dont need anything to help me stop. The other day i went with out a cig for a day but then the next day I wanted one. If I am not around them I can deal with it better and dont think about them. The problem is my family and friends smoke so I am mostly around it how can I stop smoking

Well, you could gradually stop. If you smoke a pack a day, each day, take away one cigarette. Eventually, you'll be down to nothing. However, I would keep a pack of nicotine gum near you so that if you have a craving, you can have a quick fix instead of having a whole cigarette. I wish you the best of luck!

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my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old high school special ed student and my verbal skills brought my iq up really high,but they still put me in special ed for english and I don't understand that.I asked my mom about it and she got really mad she said if I asked her about it again she'd make me quit school,but I still think I could do regular ed english,but she dosn't belive me what should I do?

I think that you should ask your special ed teacher if you could possibly take a placement test to see if you are qualified for a regular English class. If you qualify, than tell your mom that you are clearly ready for regular English, and you need the challenge to get the most out of school. Good luck!

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ok so i like this guy, and he is like a best friend to me. he has helped me through tons of situations, and ive done the same. he likes these two girls but he just recently got over one, and the other doesnt like him and has a bf. i talk to him all the time and i think he knows i like him more then just a good friend now, but i honestly have no idea what to do..? i dont know if i shoud ask him about it, or let it be, and i dont know if he likes me. like i have no clue. im so confused! well i was just wondering if you could help in any way. thnk you if you can, if not thnx anyways.

Well, if you are good friends with him, you should be able to talk to him about anything. However, you don't want things to get awkward, you should try to get one of your friends to see what he thinks about you. In the meanwhile, flirt with him so he'll know you're more interested in a relationship than a friendship. See how it goes. LOVE YOU!

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14/f i got sunburned, and now it's starting to peel. it itches and falls off a lot. is there a way i can stop peeling or at least stop itiching, maybe even make it less noticeable? thanks.

Sunburns are yucky! I've only gotten a few in my lifetime, but this is what you should do. When you take a shower, use a loofa to brush off all of your dead skin cells. Then when you get out, use a lotion with aloe in it. That should bring back moisture to your skin. Don't scratch and peel the skin unless a piece of skin is on it's "last thread." It'll just dry out and irritate your skin more. Good luck!

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okay im 14. i like this guy, he likes me. im going to get straight to the point. he likes when his girlfriends jack him off and he told my friend he's going to ask me out tomorrow. but how doi you jack off do you know how? its not that im afraid to do it i totally will i just dont know how.
thanks

I know it seems kinda scary, but it isn't really that big of a deal. If your right handed, just wrap your right hand over it and gently, but firmly move your hand up and down. Don't doo it too hard! Go at a steady pace. If you're doing it wrong, he'll direct you and it won't be awkward at all. No worries.. You'll be fine. Good luck with the new relationship!

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my friend really liked this guy and she said she was over with liking him on like friday and now she is all like ooh i really like him again, butim sortof starting to like him too. would it be really wrong of me as a friend to go out with him or even like him? thanks

I think that you should talk to her about it and just say that you're developing a crush on him as well and see what she says. But I would steer clear of falling for the "friend's crush." It's never a good idea.

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i really like this guy,, i dont know if he thinks i still do but he knew i did a little bit ago, and i think he thinks i dont like him anymore but i do. its becoming more and more awkward to talk to him, but i really want to keep talking to him and have it not being awkward. i really like him but he doesnt live here and that adds to the problem of having not really any thing to talk about. do you have any helping points/tips thanks!

Well, the fact that he doesn't live in your area anymore is going to be a HUGE factor on the chances you have of potentially dating him. If you still like him, then you should continue to talk to him, but do it on a friendly basis. If and when he visits, the last thing you want is awkwardness. Keeping it friendly is probably the best thing to do. In the meanwhile, keep your eyes out for some other cuties. Good luck!

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I'm 14/f, 5'4", and about 103 lbs. I'm goign to this pool party on June 8th. I pretty much am ok with my body, but I want to make my stomach a little flatter (no so much my flatter, just get rid of the extra chubbieness). I also really want to get rid of the flappiness/sagginess on my butt. It's aroudn the bottom of my butt, where the creese is. It really bothers me and I want it to look better if not go away. What exercises can I do, and what can I eat to help them! I have about 17 days left at the most. Thanks, I'll rate!

I'm a fourteen year old female that's 5'4" and 105ish pounds.. trust me, you're NOT fat! If your body is like mine, your stomach probably totally skinny. Just do crunches. Start off by doing 100 and then add 5-10 more each night. As for the crease around your butt, do stair exercises.. like step-ups.. where you go up a step and then back down (right foot on the stair, left foot on the stair, right food on the floor, left food on the floor repeatitively). That should work out. But really, I wouldn't worry about your body. You're going to be fine!

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ohkay. here is the thing. i have a history with this guy from last year..mhm? and then my friend went out with him this year. but when they went out i was jelus and yeah. he soon got a new gf...but they broke up and now we are talking more. BUT my frined that went out with him b4 likes him again. maybe i just see an opportunity arising for us to go out and i like the idea..but idk if i like him or not. i do not no how to appraoch the situation or deal with the fact that my friend likes him. i can't tell anybody that i like him or my friend will find out and get mad. what do i do?!?!?!?!?!

please help =(

I think that dating him will never be okay. First of all, I think that it is wrong to date a boy that has already broken your heart. And he has done this multiple times! He broke up with you, went out with your friend, then he broke up with your friend.. He is a player. Re-dating is never a good idea. Instead of reflecting upon the good times you two had, just remember the things that annoyed you about him. Or how he broke up with you. Or the reason why you broke up. It won't be worth it to go back out with him. Instead of telling your friend, simply drop this crush and keep your eyes open for a new boy. Good luck!

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Hi
If im looking for a new hairstyle/cut whats a good website that I can look at that has pictures too?

The best place to look is in magazines. Any magazine. Vouge, teen vouge, seventeen.. whatever floats your boat. There are always girls with cute hair cuts there. Sites usually suck. Unless you go to a website for a magazine that has pictures of celebs. Good luck.

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wht r some ways 2 get high? just wunderin cuz my frind seemed lyke she was 2day. so i want to c wht she's doin 2 get high.

thnkx

BE HIGH ON LIFE! BECAUSE DRUGS ARE BAD!

Honestly, getting high is stupid. You just risk your life--your whole life-- just for a few minutes or hours of a high? Not worth it. And if you thik that it is, than you're stupid. You'll just risk addiction, health problems yaddah yaddah yaddah. Hell, you'll risk your reputation. People don't like stoners.

So go on a sugar high or something.

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hey .. i love your layout it's super cute !
i was wondering .. how do i switch up my layout from the basic one of this site?
thanks !

Hey, thanks. Go to your column settings and go to custom settings and then fix it how you like. It has pre-mades and pretty good instructinos. It's way easy and takes about three minutes. Have fun!

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hey its me again..the one asking about hooking up...and in this situation hooking up refers to making out..got any tips this time? hah thankss

Haha, yeah. I've got some tips. Brush your teeth, use a plastic spoon to scrape your tongue (gets the bacteria off) and use mouthwash before your date. As I said before, follow his lead. I think it's cute to hold hands, or hug him. If he touches your face, feel free to do the same to him. Also, don't be afraid to be agressive, but don't take control if you have no clue what you're doing. Good luck!

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ok i'm 13 and i got a question. whats the white stuff that comes from your body...girls you hopefully know what i mean. is it bad, or good?

It's called discharge.. It's completely healthy and normal. Just make sure that it doesn't smell EXTREMELY bad or have a yellow-ish tint to it. If it's just white and fairly odorless, than you're fine. It's just your body's way of cleaning out your vaginal area. No problem. Sometimes it may be a little clumpy, but you're still healthy. If you have it a lot, you can get really thin panty liners that stop it from staining your undies. So you're all good.

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im sorry if this is in the wrong category but..

14/f
im going to get a physical soon ..and i shave down there so would it be awkward if he notices it, like would he say anything?

Uh, I wouldn't shave it all off because it really hurts to shave it all off. Just leave it, he's a doctor. I'm sure he's seen MUCH more gross things than pubic hair. Just make sure you shower before you go.

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