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This morning when I woke up, I had this strange pain all over my chest. It sort of throbs to my heartbeat, and hurts very badly when I breath. When I lay down, it's even difficult to breath. It's lasted out the whole day. I took one Advil, but felt no effect.


Obviously, I'm not looking for a diagnosis, because if I have this tomorrow I'm going to the doctor. But if anyone has experienced something like it, I would appreciate a response.

i did have this once and it hurt like hell..i felt like shit and i couldnt do ANYTHING!... i completely forgot waht it was, but it happened one day only, i dnt remember if i talked to my doctor but i know i got it again,and going to the doctor would be best, even if it doesnt happen again, its the safest thing to do, becasue you dont want to use to many thingss that arent prescription[[ibuprofen, advil, tylonel, ec.]] becasue you dont know what they can do, so go to your doctor any way,.hope i helped
LAuren

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Okay sorry this is so long....

ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hes rushing you, and you really dont want that. and if all he wants is the sex then maybe you have to think if he really wants you. he probably does, but rushing isnt always good,plus its ONLY BEEN two weeks, and hes 18! 15 may not be young to some people, but my brother is 15 and its really young to have sex, and maybe if you do choose to do it that young it ould be with someone younger. Plus a lot of people think guys are the guys of there dreams, but hes probably not and your young[[so am i]], i know what your going through[[in a way]] and its really hard to actually take action, but loosing your virginity too your boyfriend of 2 weeks, who is ALSO 18 isnt something to risk. I really think you should talk to him, and if all he wasnts is to rush to sex hes NOT worth your time or tears! if worse comes to worse you might have to break up...and that will suck, but its really whats healthiest, and safest for your body, and youself, as in stress and those things. if you do break up you might cry, but then you really need to think of all the bad things that were and could have happened. hope i helped
Lauren

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. It was great at first. We agrue all the time now and he gets on nerves all the time. Every little thing he does gets on my nerves. I love him and i want to be with him but i am not sure what is going on, He says that its just me, and he thinks that nothing is wrong with our relationship. Please help me.

i think that you should talk to him about it. but if things really start to get real bad then you should just break up becasue you dont want things getting out of control. Plus he might not see it as a problem for so many reasons but you see it differently, maybe you could try to think about what youve done to see why he doesnt thiks its a problem, but it this keeps happeneing and you just dont feel comfortable, then you really should break up.hope i helped
Lauren

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hey can someone give me some good ideas for
a cute desktop background? i want something really
cute. like i'll take anything. thanks!

you could always put a cute picture of you and you friends on it, thats what i do. Or you can go on the internet and find pictures of really hot stars, or movies you like..i suggest the photos as the best choice--they bring back memories... hope i helped
Lauren

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i need to read the first two chapters of the book pattern recognition by tommorow... or else im screwed. i left my book at school by accident and theres no way i can get ahold of one right now so please dont tell me to go to the library or something. if anyone has read it could you explain the first two chapters? i already looked on sparknotes and i couldnt find it.. so if you find a site that has the sparknotes for that book could you tell me?
thanks xoxoox

i dont know the book, but one ting you can do is go online to spark notes or somehthing like that, or just google it, and it will give you summaies of chapters, and even whole book summary, just in case you could print it all out.. it really helps..so go to spark notes, or google it. hope it helped
LAuren

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There is something wrong with me! Everytime i start liking aguy i change myself (sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad). It's not just my peronallity it's also my intresets! I just want them to like me back! I am so affraid to show "real me", i'm afraid they will never like it!! And I have gotten to the point i don't know who the "real me" is anymore! I have just copied all the guys i have been intrested in and that's it...am i a hoplesscase or is there any light at the end of my tunnel? Please help me!

this happens to a lot of people and it just might keep hapenning. its just something we girls do to get attention, but we sometimes make ourselves not as noticable becasue of it. its normal and all you have to do is try to find what you really like. if there is a time your just with your friends, try new things and maybe old ones too and see what you like and try to find the real you. sometimes it takes A GUY to find the real you, like in movies..i know stupid but true. i didnt know who i was at my new school until i finally just found sumthing....and you shuld to, my something was someone who i felt comfortable with, yu really should try to search for something you dont feel wong liking. Its not that great of advice..but i really do hope it helped
Lauren

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My dog died something like 1 hour ago. It was very unexpected, and my whole family was crying. I on the other hand, felt no need to cry or anything, although I was close to him as well. Am I a walking time bomb, or is this just my grieving style? Thanks.

this is completely normal and it happens to everyone about every kind of death. at first its a shock and your just sitting there not able to cry, and you dont know why. but soon it will hit you, and it might hit you hard. you might cry for hours, a lot of people have this happen, and yes it is your greiving style, along with other people, so dont think you dont care about you dog...cuzu kno u do its just a shock at first. hope i helped
Lauren

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Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know when I will get my period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. I feel so left out because all my friends have had there period and I have heard that your breasts get bigger when you get your period. WHAT ARE OTHER SIGNS OF WHEN I WILL GET MY PERIOD BESIDES THE BASIC ONES! I am so insecure at this stage of my life and I do not know what to do!! HELP! Thanks

ok the same thing has hppened to me, im a little taller and weigh about 10 more pounds and ive had discharge for about 3 years...so ive been waiting too. but dont worry it will come it really does take time, and you never really know when it is going to happen. plus there are tings you have missed.. and trust me im angry too becasue almost all the signs have come in[[i wont repeat wut wackyjacky said becasue that would just be reading info over again. the same thing has happened to me and when everything finally started to come i was angry when my period didnt, but really A LOT of girls are in your shoes and it sucks. Plus somtiems getting you period older is better becasue you might have a better tolerance for the shitty pai ull be in and also you will be older and more knowledgable[[spelling??]] so dont worry and be patient, as hard as it may be, many girlls[[sadly incluiding me]] are in it with YOU!!!
hope i helped
Lauren

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or the clique
thanks =]

The A-List! is GREAT
Uglies series![[uglies, pretties, specials]]
Books by sarah dessen[[just listen, someone like you]]
Sisterhood[[of traveling pants]]is real good
Click here! is a mix of teen and like preteen
Where the heart is! isnt really a teen book and it is kind of adultish, but it is AMAZING, plus im 13 and i read it, and its a movie but the book is much better so you should read it[[its also on oprahs book list!!!]]
hope i help and
ps: my favorites are uglies series!
Where the heart is!

the comes sisterhood [of traveling pants[[all]]
Sarah dessen books

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im 15/m my sister is 13. we kinda get along. im the sporty kinda guy who always has a gf. shes the freaky gothic girl that never had a bf. her bff is a guy. our mom wont let her dress how she always has anymore now our mom hates all her friends. mom wont let my sister wear anything dark or gothic. my sister is going crazy shes cussing out and flipping off people ALOT at home but also quiet and says about 3 words the whole time unless shes out of the house or with her friends then is loud and crazy. shes never had a bf but alot of guy friends. she loves her bff and he loves her but she turned him down? shes very violent and going real rebelious more than ever. and our mom wont let her go over her bffs(a guy)house anymore. so she says shes going with her other friends but most of the time is going with him places. our mom hates all her friends anyway. my sister leaves the house dressed normal then she puts on her black hoodie and jewelry. you never know what shes thinking about it scares me? we dont talk that much but we still do i guess. i took and read her diary i know thats bad but i wana help her. her diary was filled with all that stuff then also disturbing drawings and poems and storys all about dark stuff hate and death. i wana help her without taking to our mom or anyone else just between me her and her friends would help. list all i could do for her to help her and change it.
shes turnin violent~ rebelious~ sneaky~ dark hearted~ just seems very desturbed more than anyone i have ever met~ cusses more than she talks at home and gets grounded everytime. but is still freaky and outgoing with her friends just happy but still gothic. i reeeealy need help soon before she kills herself. in her diary she said she might! and she has the nerve to do it..

ok first of all when and if you do talk to her dont mention anything that isnt too obvious that you read in her diary, thats the worst thing you could do. but first study her actions and see if there is anything unusual, i know you have, but study them more becasue you never know. maybe you should ask her to talk with you, but start off not saying you need to change, but something more like im concerned, is anything wrong, or something like that. I was actually kind of like that for a short period of time, didnt last long but i was like that, i did overcome it but it seems that this is the way she wants to be. If she answer to you first question'im concerened, is anything wrong' sorta thing, just wait untill she is ready, and if shes not right away, you really should give her time. But not too much time, becasue then she might think everyone is gagning up on her and ,aybe think something is going on. So you might also want to let her know that this is becasue you really care about her and has NOTHING to do with wut your mom says or wants, its between you two, and because its you conerned, and you love her and dont want anyting to happen to her. LIke you said she does seem happy with her freinds so dont try to make her stop being happy the way she is, but really try to get her to say if she is happy at home or not. wait until she asnwers any of this, becasue if she really doesnt know why she does it, then it might be a faze[[spelling??]] or just the person she is. try to get her to tell you why she is violent, most of the time it is the home life and theres nuthing you can do unless she tells you and then if it is, you finally BOTH should go and talk to you mom and tell her how you really dont think all these restrictions are helping her. but if you really dont feel like doing that then that is fine, everyone is sumtimes afraid to consult with parents, i know i am! but you really should try to get through to her and just need to find out what is wrong, that may lead to other questions and other answers[[13 year olds are also emotional, so she might cry, but you really should give her that shoulder to cry on]], if at all anything that was in her diary comes up, never mention you looked in her diary, it would be better not to lie, but its also good to have you sisters trust. i hope that helped. Plus with the boyfriend thing, dont worry a lot of girls dont have boyfriends untill there much older. i know ive never had a serious relationship because im not totallly ready, i ma now but people take time, and people are different, she might not want a boyfriend. and if she doesnt like boys, dont get mad, it might be a reason for a lot of what she has been doing. so just take that advice and i really hope it works. this is a really hard thing to go through and i know its hard. just remind her you love her and your concerned[[and you mom wasnt part of this]] i really do hope that helpss[[that was long sry]]
Lauren

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Ok so i like two guys..

one is my current boyfriend (("Hollister" well call him that))

the other

is a family friend ((areopostle))

... My mom doesnt know about Hollister

and she knows that bAreopostle thinks im cute

.. I reallly like Aero too.

And i sorta dont like Holllister anymore..

so what do i do??

do i break up with Hollister for Areo

or what
??

HELP!! :]
thank in advanced

:]

truthfully i think that you should just let hollister down easy, but dont mention areo, just tell him u wanna break up, wutever a good reason that doenst mention this other boy. Plus if you really want to be happy, you would go out with Areo. PLus its not always good not to let ur mom know, i did that once, and it was really weird, becasue wen we broke up everyone knew, so i had to tell her, but if you do it now you wont be lying to your mom, and youd be hapy. hope i helped
Lauren

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hey;
ok so, next saturday is my sister's wedding. it is going to be in the backyard of my house [huge] which is a couple of acres. so on all the invatations, they specifically put NO CHiLDREN PLEASE. however, since i`m her sister [i`m 13] i can obviously go. now, i`m thinking it may be a bit boring, so i want to bring my friend gabie. she`s my age. however, her parents can`t come bcuz they have nothing to do with my family & my parents just want close friends and relatives. they are allowing me to have gabie since i might get bored or something' WHAT SHOULD i DO?????
please help me! what should i do?


THANK YOU SO MUCH iN ADVANCE; HELP ME PLEASE.
i`m a raterr.

HELp!
thanks

i think you should really tell her but in a nice way, say something like you can come and i really wan tyou to but we dont really know your parents very well, and it might be awkward. i know i would be ok with it. most people dont even like there parents to be there. but thats not the point. you really should just let her know, and her parents probably wont care very much. I have a new years party every year and my best friends mom hate my dad, but sometimes it just comes like 'oi dont know them well enough, i might not feel welocme' but who knows. this might not be good advice, im kinda distracted today. sry. but i try : ] hope i helped
Lauren

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I'm turning 17 on May 1st. I'm going to have a birthday party this year, because I didn't get to have a sweet 16.

I've been going through so many themes, and the best one I have is a Fiesta theme. Since my birthday falls right after Fiesta! & right before Cinco de Mayo. I'm not Mexican though. But I want it to be really awesome, and just perfect.

I need some ideas.
I know there are websites out there that give you tons of ideas when it comes to making up parties. But I just would like to know first hand from someone else what good ideas would be that they experienced and what not.
Also, if you have any other awesome themes that you think would go well. Please let me know.

Thank you.

well im 13 but still im having a las vegas party with card tables, and some dancing, and magic guy and a lot of las vegas stuff.. its guna be really fun, and i bet it would be even better for someone older. so i suggest that.....and how funny i guess the person below me said the same thing! hope i helped...
LAuren

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hey everyone i have this huge pimple above my lips :( how do you pop a pimple?? please anwser as soon as possible ty ty ty !!

dont pop it, it willl break the skin, and give you a scar[[maybe]] i suggest taking a needle and popping the white part/tip, so all the nasty stuff get out, then clean it with acne face wash, or non scented face wash. but dont pop it, it will hurt and make u look ugly[[maybe]]

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There is this boy at my school who everyone is saying his Penis is Uncircumcised..

What does a penis Uncircumcised differ from the Regular Circumcised penis.

I heard it was a bad thing, Yikes!

Help, Anyone?

i have guy friends who i KNOW havent been circumcised and there is nothing wrong with any of them. I think it is a jewish religious thing, but im not sure, if your jewish, maybe its different. BUt really i dnt really think theres anything wrong with him. my brother isnt circumcised, and hes fine. and there is not regular circumcised, ur circumcised or not. you can look it up if you want....
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/circumcised
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/prepuce
hope that helps
Lauren

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i know its bad to pop zits, but i messed with one and popped one that wasn't ready so then it started bleeding. now i have a scab there and its so annoying! and i've tried covering it with foundation but it just gets flaky and gross. so is there any way to speed up the healing and/or make the scab go away? and also in the meantime are there any good ways to cover the scab? thanks!

Im sorry but no. last year the SAME thing happened to me and it was a BIG zit. i know it sux, and ive learned this the hard way too, but no mattter what you have to be patient with zits, and just wash twice a day a put acne cream on, it helps, but you still need to be patient. And wen the time does come, pop the zit[[gross part]] with a needle, so you dont break the skina nd get a scar, then clean it out...so there is nothng you can really do...just be patient..hope that helps
Lauren

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what's the best shampoo and conditioner in your opinion?

well in my opinion dove is. and fructise[[or however u spell it]]. dont use pantene..its not that good, i learned from a cosmetics teacher this, so i know its accuret..pantene conditioner contains a wax that makes your ahir soft, and after a while it makes you hair greasy, so any of the two above[[not pantene]] that i suggested..hope that helps

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Hi,what condom would be better for a 14-15 year old. lubercated or non lubercated?
what would be the advantages and disavantages of each?

well i have heard lubricated is better, but i dont think that having sex at 14-15 is very good or healthy, condom or not! but you do what you feeel is best. But i just took some[[very disturbing]] health class that said to use lubricated but that, for now, dont use it at all.hope it helped you make the right decision
Lauren

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ok so heres the deal. at 8 pm, i take a shower and let it air dry. at 10, i straighten it and it takes about 15-20 minutes because i have a really good straightener even though i have the tightest curls ever. i straighten my hair at night because in the mornings (before school) i dont have enough time to straighten my hair. i go to sleep with my bangs clipped back and i dont ponytail it because i get this crease in the mornings. when i wake up, its like half wavy but i dont mind because it only takes 5 minutes to fix that. the problem is, my hair ends up smelling funny (like i didnt wash it or something) and its kinda greasy. its probably from when i sweat while i sleep--my question is--what can i do to eliminate this odor, i take showers daily and i am a very clean person but i hate this smell in the mornings after i straighten my hair!
i don't know if this will help, but im 14/f

well for one, you shouldnt straighten your hair that much it burns it, and the starightner may casue the odor. I also ALWAYS get this and i hate it, it smells real bad and i dnt know what to do. Maybe you should try new styles instead of just straightening it. I also have VERY curly hair, and ive changed my style alot which makes my hair smell like it did wen i got out of the shower. hope that helps
LAuren

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i have this really bad rash under my left armpit. it burns. its red and irritated and they look like pimples!!! im joining a sport next year and i have and i have had this rash for a year. what can i do to get rid of it.

well i have had something like this before. it could be when you shave, maybe a dull razor.. but maybe your allergic to something when you shave. You could try a new razor, new razor blade, and maybe if you use shaving cream or soap, switch those up just in case. you should also try some anti-itch cream, just incase. You should also try to talk to an adult..unles you are one. If nothing helps, you could try to go to the doctor, and have the doctor check it out, becasue you never know what it could be. hope that helps

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