Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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What's a good rate to charge for babysitting a 1 and 3 yr old? (link)
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as a parent it depends on your age..and if I have to pick you up and get you..but for that YOUNG age minimum 5 an hour...ok..do NOT take less..
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ok im 17 f ny anyways Every winter on wednesdays i hae ski club after school ....go snowboarding and what not and anyways i called a babysitting ad in the paper because right now I work at a hotel and can onli work weekends because of school and the hours so I wanted more money and I love kids....I love babysitting so anyways the lady called and said the babysitting job is on tues wed thurs after school for a 2 yr old boy which i think woud be super fun ...shes paying about 3 dollars and hour but ifi babysit i cant go boarding on wednesday i can still go on weekends and stuff but i dont kno what to do (link)
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3 dollar an hour..where do you live???
Listen most paretns do want afternoons if they work..tell you can do it on tuesday and thursday..but you want AT least 4 dollars....unless you live in a very small town...
two year olds are tough...but if you do great you might get a nightime gig and a referral from her...
But be prepared for her not to use you...ok if she works she needs someone is will be thee on time and on the days she asked.
PS are your friends doing it for 3 an hour?
I used to pay 4 for those under a certain age and 5 for everyone else..and people called me cheap!!
SO bottom line..money or fun...
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hi i just typed a 72 worded thing out explainign most of my problems but i accidently deleted it all. o well it would not work too long anyways
okay do here are some of my problems
im a freshmen in a catholic high school and im failing almost all my classes and im a loser who gets made fun of, im in between living with my mom at my grandpas and my mom and dad at my dads house; they both suck because my parents are opposites, my dad even tried killing my mom before after throwing a freaking tv at me, im losing weight profusely and im already VERY very very very anorxishly skinny, and every time i eat i get sick and i dont even hardly eat, and im going to the hospital in a couple days to get a brain scan because every time i try to go to slep i go into this episode where i can move, feel, hear, touch, see..well the only thing i can do is breath about 30 seconds about 10 times every night and im really scared becausei think they have to stick me inside a black tunnel thing for 2 hours or something, and that is impossible i get deathly scared, i just feel so abnormal, along with my family. they sleep 20 hours a day in our small dark (grandpa's) house. its like a vampires house. well anywyas someone please give me advice on what i should do, ANYTHING will help. thanks. (link)
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WOAH..you have a lot of issue going on right now...
first of all you are not a loser..sounds like YOUR paresnt are...so this is NOT your fault!!
Sounds to me like your family needs hlep really bad...no one should sleep that much..they must be severely depressed.
Why are they livving in your grandpa's house??do they not work??
They will stick you in that tunnel..but it will be brief..ok..you have to find out if their is anything abnormal on your brain. this isvery important.
Being a freshman in a HS super sucks too..i mean you are at the bottom of the food chain. Is this a private school..maybe it would help if you went to a public school
i hope they do some blood work on you too as to why you are lsoing weight...though lots of people your age are skinny..lsoing weight fast is a bad sign.
So hold on until the docto sees you and tell your family they NEED some serious help if they are sleeping so much..hello PROZAC anyone...
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i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad? (link)
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you know..Chicago..is really cool..besides all the really awsome places to ahng out and all the vibe going down..you may likeit.
But it will be hard on somone who comes from the SOuth. I have lived in the South and North and believe me it is harder if you are a southerner goin to the North.
if you do not get along wiht your Dad..how do you expect to live wiht him. He will be in charge of you..so anything you want to do..well it will be up to him..me i would pick my mom in a minute..she was alwaysa round..unlike my dada.
But if you can handle your da..you might want to try it. Or try chicago and then if you totally hate it..move back to Texas.
I feel for you..moving is the pits...but sometimes you can meet really cool people...
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shes really emotional all the time ive been her best friend since kindergarten i feel a total responsibility over her instead of friendship, she bugs me all the time and all my best friends really dont like she makes me so depressed that well ive done some bad things to myself im tired of being her second mom and anytime i try to do things with other friends without her she flips out i dont wanna lie to her and i dont wanna make it a big deal by completley ditching her, how do i nicely silently disapear form her life? (link)
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man..this stinks..do not answer her calls..avoid her...blah blah blah..but a REAL former friend would at least tell he WHY..so she does not wonder to try to be your frind again..easy way out..do what I said..be a BETTER person..face to face
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This question is for the guys..
Hows the best way for a girl to break up with you? i know all the normal cliches, we should still be friends, im not ready for commitment, blah blah blah... but what will guys take the best? (link)
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the truth..in the end..at least they will know that you cared enough..to tell them what YOU really feel. Yeah they will be hurt or mad..but in the long run..they will respect you for caring enough to be real. But..this is big..they will be hurt or mad no matter what..so CHOOSE the your words wisely....
Ps why are you breaking up??
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ok heres my deal, i will be moving to fl from ca and i am shy and i want to know what is the best way to present myself in a friendly manner so that will able me to make friends...??
thank you so much! (link)
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I used to live in Florida.
Just the fact that you are fom CA make you cool already. Be yourself..and get into some kind of group or club right awy to meet people. They will want to know what CA was like..clothes music etc..so get ready to talk!
I moved several times as a teen..it was hard..but the easiet was to join something to get to know people.
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In june i got in a car accident where my friend rear-ended some1...and i ended up with a spranged knee and a neck brace..well now whenever some1 gets like close to a car i start to freak out and like lose my breath...is that ok? because it was in june and its now november (link)
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it could be a paniac attack left over the the post stress from the accident. I would ask my docot. It may be something else. when is your next check up..or od you have nay PT coming up?? I would ask them too.
It may be jus the fact that you are still in emotional turmoil from the wreck..which is PERFECTLY noram..there is no set time in which to get over accidents
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hey, do you know a site to get good quotes from? :D thanks (link)
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you can try www.great-quotes.com or www.quotationspage.com
or go into your home page and type in great quotes and see what yours pull up!
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my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it. (link)
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You know what..when an adult hits a kid..there is evidence in a bruise or a red mark. But no can ever see the LONG range horrible effects that words can bring to someone.
Your Dad has an anger issue..i know for my paresnts did the same thing to me. And let me tell you those words stopped me from being a functional adult until i saw a doctor to stop that TAPED message they gave me from reapeating in my head.
Talk to your mom..no tlaking to him will not work..for I bet his paresnt did the same to him.
My dad is still like this..i swear...and eventually he did hit me...
You HAVE done nothing...ok...but this is tough..for NO one could make him stope..we all wwent to see docotros..even MY MOM!! This man ruined 4 lives...
I think maybe you need to talk to someone..to see what you can do to disfuse his anger..but if your Mom will not bakc you..then she is a LOSER..this stuff hurts..as much as a punch.
I am so sorry..i wish with all my heart you were not goiong through this...
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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?! (link)
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woah...you have been going through this TREMENDOUS emotional thing..and your Mom just moved in wiht a new b/f??
Am I the only one who thinks she is being REALLY selfish right now.
You need to work on your problems and the reason why you cut and tried to kill yourself. Ok..YOU cannot worry about anyone else right now.
If your mom and her B?F do not see what HIS child is doing then..i am sorry THEY are freakin to blame for what is happening to youand to this other poor child!
Sorry i am a mom and i would NEVER ever put myself first..especially after what you have been through.
Sit your what new sis?/down and say look DO not do this..this is not cool..then call a family meeting...the adults here need some serious talking too...too much is going on in this househol..that THEY as the DAM* adults should be dealing with..not you.
My sister tried several times to kill herself..it was all about making sure she had the right chemicals in her system to battle the inbalance. Finally they did and she has been on an even roa for over 20 years.
Please put yourself first...
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advice here from college students would be greatly appreciated!!! i'm 19 and just started at Boston University this September, but i live in Chicago. at first it was the normal homesickness, missing friends and family, and having it be hard to be 1800 miles away from home. things started getting better, but for some reason, i can't see to make myself happy here. i have a few friends here, but no guys friends (that's partly due to the fact that i live on an all girls floor, and also partly my fault, so i won't complain about that) i'm really close with a couple of the girls on my floor, and one or two other people, but that's pretty much it. i feel lonely here, and as hard as i try, i can't stop thinking about home and missing it. part of that has to do with the fact that i have a bf who's in college but still lives in chicago, so i only get to see him when i come home. i know im supposed to have fun and be experiencing college, but i feel like i'm missing out on so much, but i don't know how to fix it! i don't know how to make myself accept the fact that i'm in college, and NOT at home, and be HAPPY with that. i want to be happy here, and i want to have a good time. please help me. any advice will be greatly appreciated. thanks (link)
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Colleg is very ahrd...even in the best of times..it is lonely and isolating.
If you want to stay on the team do..but if it mkaes YOU feel worse quit...
I would transfer dorms if I could...it fhte object is to meet more guys do that.
Join another organization....Boston is such a cool place..you an find lots of things to hook up with even on the net. I know the chool has tons of thigs to join that are not as exclusive as that snobby skating thing.
However..if you feel even more depresses...chat wiht a counselor....if it still si too hard for you..think about transfering to a schoo near home...it is ok to be lonely...sometimes a school is just not the right fit...
so go to the student union and have a couple chats with some oraganizations....
This is a big change in yor life right now..the biggest besides getting a new job and getting married..ok..lots of emotions going on right now...and trust me..everyon feels a lot like you do right now...
I hope this helps...am thinking of you!
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I have been cutting myself for a while now. My best friend Dylan knows about it and he wants to me stop. It is very hard to stop doing because it is addicting. Dylan and I got in a big fight last friday because he found out the night before I slit the crap outts my arms. He cares about me alot but I honestly dont want him to care. He always tells me that he loves me and I tell him not too. I hate when he tells me he loves me bc he only loves me as a friend and I wish that he loved me as more. I am in love with him. He hung up on me last friday and it is monday and we havent talked since. IDK what to do. Is he gonna stick by me through these times of pain or abandon me. If I love him should I stop doing what I have been doing and try to get some help. PLZ help me! (link)
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cutting is a way to relieve whatever is really bad going on in your life.
So until you face what it is that YOU hate...you will cut yorself.
This Dylan guy shounds like a great guy...to me having someone that loves you even if it is only freindhsip..well is more than I ahve right now..or a lot of people. How do you know he only lvoes you as a friend.
Are you cutting yourself for you want him to love you more??
If he does leave you..it will be for you drove him away...
get REAL wiht your feelings..admit youc are about him..and see what it is that makes you cut yourwlf...plus you may have to get hlep....
a lot of people do this..it is a way to exert control over your life...
Please keep this Dylan close..you need him right now...
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Well okay, here's my situation... My parents work all the time and I usually need a ride... Well my friend opted for the position and I know I do at times get annoying and ask a lot of her parents to take me around and do errands because my own parents can't... So, I give her parents gifts and things like that to thank them for taking me around... And now my friend is really getting agitated about her having to drive me around all the time when her parents don't mind at all... So.. What should I do because I mean I'm always nice to her and her parents but she is just getting on me for asking her parents to take me around... (link)
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YOUR friend is the one who is doing the driving..to me..SHE should get the stuff..not the paresntals...hey if it bugs her..find a new ride ok...sometimes picking ups someone can be a drag.
so pony up to the ONE who is actually doing the driving..ok...
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My mom is very overprotective & strict. I'm 15 years old and can barely even go out with friends. She worries about me because I do have "bad" friends who are into drugs, alcohol, trouble, etc. I think she should trust me more because I have never done any of these things and I don't give into peer pressure. She doesn't even allow me to get into a car with anyone. She has some points in her argument, but I know how to stay safe and what not to do. I'm a teenager and I want to have fun right now. How do I explain this to her and get her to allow me to do more things? She's just mostly worried that I'll get hurt or something bad will happen to me. (link)
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my guess...is that your REALLy strict mom got into some trouble herself as a child.
you know who are the MOST overprotective paresnt..the ones who did a few OOPS as kids...
so sit her down and ask her what is she really afraid of...
but and this is true mostly..you are the company you keep..so if you hang out wiht some burnouts..other kids are going to think you are one too..not fair..but that is life.
if you do resist peer pressure then you are one of the few and i totally applaud you.
Tell mom that so far..you have done nothing to have her doubt you.
BU and this is a HUGE but...it is NOT YOU that she does not trust..merely your friends..who if they do get in trouble..will bring you down in the process(especially if they are doing drugs or alcohol)
so have a nice chat with the mom.and maybe..dump the worst offenders....
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Well here's my situation. My mother was seeing a man for awhile that seemed totally normal, well as time passed he began to become controlling and totally weirded out. He was suppose to be this guy living "the good life" with money ect. ect. Well things started to get weird whenever everytime we were suppose to visit his house the meetings would get "cancelled." After awhile he started to turn my mother against me. He convinced her that I was a hell raising child who needed to be locked up, and I needed help because I was "Ill in the head." All of this was far from the truth. Anyways, to make an extremely long story short, we found out he's not who he says he is, and he has a major criminal record, just got off parole for MURDER. He has an obsession over me (For God only knows what reason) and now the police are after him and he dissapeard before they got the oppurtunity to arrest them. This has brought so much strain on our family. My mom is constantly drinking, and I just can't look at her the same after the things she did to me because this psycho told her to. I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas as to what to do in this situation. I want things to be better in our house-hold after this, but I have no idea where to start to mend it back together. Sorry it's so long, thanks for the help. (link)
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You mom's b/f is a HUGE liar. trust me ..have dated these guys..they come up with all these OUT thee storeis of being wealthy..and boom for some reason you never see the place or they never have money. wealthy people want to show you WHAT they have..so that is the first HUGE lie...
So now you know.he is a psycho..your mom needs help..she HAS to stop drinking..oh by the way..A RON OF US have been takne in by these losers..see WE want to belive their lies..
So she has to stop drinking..tell her that she is going to mess up YOUR LIFE..my mom drank and all THREE of us are so messed up it is not funny.
if you have to move..but change your number to an unlisted one..it is NOT up to you to mend this..you are NOT the adult
your MOM neeeds to BUCK up..realize that men are SMUCKS and stop the HOOCH!! NOW!!!
if you can get her to someone that can figure out why she dates these loers..ok...
But teh drinking has to stop TODAY.
Goo luck..i HOPE wiht all my heart your family get better soon.
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its the same guy from the other one that thought he was losing a frend...great advice we worked things out....well now i kinda like her and she can sometimes forget im even there...idk what to do i want her to awnser me but at the same time i dont wanna feel desperate. can u help? (link)
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sometimes people do ignore us...it is just they are starring in their own drama...you could play games like ignoring her or being real casual...like oh..hi...but that either works REALLY well or you totally lose the person...
I would be super casual..for some reason ...girls just like guys who are super cool (like INTO them..but NOT showing it)
I actually am really stinking on this one..i am sorry...when it comes to women...you just cannot win..so..play it casual..say hi..then talk to someone else(really good if it is a girl!!)
What is she doing when you say hi...is she wiht a group of girls?? That might be the reason too. Say hi to her alone if you can and see what she does...Peer pressure is a B***H!
Good luck...ps if you do figure this chick out..PLEASE post what YOU did!
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sorry this is so long but i REALLY need ALOT of help...please read it...=(
my friend told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me with TWO other girls..we dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT and her cousin goes to his school and said that he has other girlfriends. i love my boyfriend so much and just before she told me all this my boyfriend was on the phone telling me how much he loves me and stuff. i asked his friend about it because hes my really good friend too and he said he didnt know anything about it and he doesnt think my boyfriend would do something like that to me. i dont know. he wasnt home last night when i called so it kind of made me suspicious. i'm going to call him today and ask him about it but i dont know how to ask him. i dont know if i should believe him if he says no either. what if he is? i dont THINK my friend would lie to me, but i never even met her cousin. and lately my boyfriends kind of been blowing me off though to be honest. like hes too busy for me. so i dont know im really confused. i dont know like if he says no im not cheating on you if i should believe him because what if he is? but i dont think he would admit it if he was. not many guys would be like OH YEA I AM CHEATING! you know? please help me.. (link)
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ok..whether or not she would lie is not the point.
You are going to have to ask him..ok...
Are you sure that she does not have some other motve...like jealousy?
if not then maybe you can do some detective work on your own or talk to your b/f cousin and find out the names of the girls.
Has he shown any kind of behavior?
I think the first person you should ask is him.
Either you trust him..or you do not...
but in the end..it is YOUR call
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Okay....I've liked this guy for almost 3 months, we don't even go out and I had sex with him. I know that's bad but I let all the influence get to me. Well that same day, him and his friends was playin on my cell, and when me and my friend was walkin home, I was looking through my phone and his phone #'s were gone, so I my friend called his cell, and he gave us his "supposed" house number....well my friend called it the other day the number was wrong. I was sooo mad. Plus he told his friends what happened between us now they think they gonna get some from me and their not. It's like he used me for sex but he says he didn't. I like him for the better side of him cause I know it's there. But I'm a good person and most pplz say that he's not worth me, but it's always been hard for me to get a boyfriend. So I don't wether or not I should try to stick with him or not.... (link)
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ok..no no no...
you know sex is supposed to be a utual thing wiht somone WHO cares about you..not a booty call.
Then..you have gotten the wrong number...
I would LOSE this USER big time..and amke sure the next guy i GIVE the HONOR of my body too..deserves it.
Ps I am sorry for being so harsh..but LOSERS like this make for women everywhere not to know when a GREAT guy comes along....
It is not hard for you to find a boyfriend...you just need to look in other places...they are out there.
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Okay, this is kinda compicated. So theres this guy i like. hes a year younger than me, hes 16 im 17, but i couldnt care less about that. last year, at homecoming, two of our mutual friends decided that he and i should go out. so they convinced him to ask me to homecoming. he really liked me. but i was still in the process of getting over this really complicated relationship/non-relationship which it has taken me until a few months ago to get over. i did have some feelings for this guy (the first guy) but i wasnt ready and i felt cornered cuz our two mutual friends were pushing for this so when he asked me,... i reacted pretty badly. as in not good. rejected him. not gently.now, hes hung up on these two different girls, one is an exchange student from new zealand. shes really nice, but ive talked to her about her and him, and she says itll never happen. the other girl is not allowed to date. so there's no problem except that he likes them. sometimes i get signals from him that make me think he likes me, and then hell make a comment about one of the other girls and im really not so sure. but i really like him. but im going to college in less than a year and we wont be in the same school or even the same city. well be in the same state though. im so confused. please help. (link)
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hey..call him..explain to him..that you were in not place to date anyone..that you just were not ready...if he wants to do something wiht you he will...but..DO NOT let your friends set up your love life...theings just get all MIXED up when others do things that you may or may not like.
So call him or talkt to him..if he wants to ask you out ..he will..if now..well that happens..it all about timing...
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