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mom issues
My mom is very overprotective & strict. I'm 15 years old and can barely even go out with friends. She worries about me because I do have "bad" friends who are into drugs, alcohol, trouble, etc. I think she should trust me more because I have never done any of these things and I don't give into peer pressure. She doesn't even allow me to get into a car with anyone. She has some points in her argument, but I know how to stay safe and what not to do. I'm a teenager and I want to have fun right now. How do I explain this to her and get her to allow me to do more things? She's just mostly worried that I'll get hurt or something bad will happen to me.
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Alright im in the same position. My parents dont let me do ANYTHING. At all!!! I even had to lie and say I didnt have a boyfriend when I was going out with a guy for almost a year!! Basically what I do isnt really going to help you out though unless you want to lie to your mom because that is basically all I do. I say I am going to my friends house and then from there we go other places n stuff sooo yeah!! It works pretty good lol!
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if she doesn't like your friends its for a reason. don't have a grudge on your mom for being overprotective. she loves you and just doens't want you to get hurt. she knows about your friends and doesn't want you to give in to stuff like that. maybe you should make friends that don't do stuff like that and then she will give in!
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ok well, let her meet some of your friends who arent "bad". let her know that you'll be safe and wont do anything stupid. well just a though. hope i could help any.
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my guess...is that your REALLy strict mom got into some trouble herself as a child.
you know who are the MOST overprotective paresnt..the ones who did a few OOPS as kids...
so sit her down and ask her what is she really afraid of...
but and this is true mostly..you are the company you keep..so if you hang out wiht some burnouts..other kids are going to think you are one too..not fair..but that is life.
if you do resist peer pressure then you are one of the few and i totally applaud you.
Tell mom that so far..you have done nothing to have her doubt you.
BU and this is a HUGE but...it is NOT YOU that she does not trust..merely your friends..who if they do get in trouble..will bring you down in the process(especially if they are doing drugs or alcohol)
so have a nice chat with the mom.and maybe..dump the worst offenders....
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hi. you mom sounds very over protective. What you need to do s sit down with your mom for a chat. She needs to understand that what she is doing is preventing you from having a life. She has to understand that if you make mistakes, they will be your mistakes that she can't prevent and you will learn from the. You will not be able to grow up unless you are able to live your own life and make your own choices. What will happen if she carries on is that you will rebel and maybe become out of control.
Try to compromise, like say to her that you will call and tell her when you will be home - but don't be late, if you say you are going to be back at twn be back at five to. This will help you gain the trust you need and will help her to relax.
good luck
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This is something a lot of people your age have to deal with. Something seems to happen to people when they have children; they loose all ability to think rationally or calmly – they seem to live in a constant state of worry and hysteria. They do it out of good intentions – you know that but it doesn’t make it any easier to live with. The bottom line of the situation is something almost all teenagers and parents go through. The teen saying I’m not a child any more, I have to grow up and the parents saying no you can’t. It’s a fight the parents are designed to loose because their children are inevitably going to grow up. Sit down and talk to your mom and explain how you feel, stay calm and listen to her. Then try to make some compromisers; you might be surprised at how effective it is. Another piece of advice, what your mom doesn’t know she can’t say no to or complain about can she? (for more practical advice on that point send me a message and I’ll let you know all the tricks lol)
Derfel
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Try do the same thing to her.
Dont let her get in her car, pour her booze down the drain, if you see her watching a movie with swearing or violence in it, turn it of. Hide her romance novels, make her feel like you do.
If it doesnt work, it will be at least fun the watch the aftermath.
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tell her exactly what you jsut told us!!
-beccers_boo
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Tell her you can handle yourself. You no what to do because shes taught you all of these things on how to handle things and shes been a good mother for doing that. Be persuassive. Say you dont have to let me go out all the time but it would be an even cooler mom if you let me do somethings. I no you dont trust my friends and you and i both no they do bad things but just because they doit doesnt mean i will. Mom you can trust me. What have i done wrong?
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Hope it works!
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just tell your mom that you are smart and can make the right decisions and you will never learn if she doesnt give you some freedom. usually when parents hold their kids back, it seems to backfire on them. tell your mom she can trust you and if you feel uncomfortable you will call or find a way home. just talk to her, she might give in after a lil arguin, it usuall works for me good luck
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