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born and raised in chi-town.(a.k.a.- chicago- for the slow kids)Last time i checked, i was a girl.and i have 10 piercings- 9 of which i did myself.(all but my eyebrow). fun stuff.
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ok like im workin on losing some weight.. and like well i go on my tredmil land its syas like you lost 360 calories or sumtin (just givin a random number) but how do i kno like how many pounds i lost. like how many calories are in a pound of fat or sumtin. or is that like impossible to tell...??
well yo burn off calories to lose weight. exactly how many calories yo have to lose to be equivalent to a pound, i really dont know. i doubt anyone knows. because it all depends on your metabolism. some people have a fairly easy time losing weight, and others a rough time. its all in your genes sweetheart, so keep workin at it.
PLEASE help me! i'm scared and pissed to!
my brother (who is 13 and about 270 pounds- i'm 16, f, and only 115pounds!!) is always threatening to beat the shit out of me! what do i do?? my therapist knows, and she says not to call the police or anything, but to try and let it blow over. when he says something to me (he calls me a lebian or a faggot-so does my mom- b/c i'm bi, also he calls me a highschool dropout b/c i failed 1 year of school!) i really just want to knock him out but he's so big!! and he's so much stronger than me!! ive been known to knock the shit out of some ppl, but they were girls and my size too! he really scares me, and he pisses me off sooo bad!!! he just makes me so mad and he's mean to me and my mother backs him up 100%!! what should i do??? i am tired of living like this!!!
okay- what you need to do is ignore your therapist- it is very much illegal for a sibling to hit you- just as it would be for any other random person in the world to hit you. by calling the police (best done when you have very viible bruises on you- to prove your case)- they can help you, believe it or not. things like this dont come up too often- but i know how you feel. i grew up in a highly abusive home- gettin the back end from my jerk of a father- but just because hes younger thn you ad because hes your brother doesnt mean you have to take any kind of crap from him- as well as your mother- if your mother hits you bad enough to leave bruises and scars- then she will most likely be punished too. try not to wait too long before you call the police- but definetely wait until you have bruises to prove your case. get out of that situation as soon as possible! good luck girl- and my IM s/n is on my site if you need me- dont be a stranger- im here to help ya!
Okay so there is this guy that I really liked. We went out for like 2 and a half months and then I broke up with him, but it was rather mutual. During the school year i had my first two classes with him and it is so wawkard. We never talk and he is cool and I want to hang out with him and everything but we haven't talked in months and everythings so awkward. Hes cool and so are his friends. THis is exactly what I didn't want to happen when we broke up. Any ideas on how to reconnect? Ill rate high for any help.
jsut simply talk to him about it- if he truly cares about you- he'll at least give you the time of day and hear you out. but i cant guarantee that youll get back to being the same kind of buds you were before- but id give it a shot anyways. jsut be very blunt with him about how you feel, and how you would likethings to be with him-but be sure to not hurt his feelings- guys are sensitive too!- hope i helped!
Does anyone know what bluetooth is? i have it on my cingular cell phone and i was wondering what it is // how to set it up. Ill Rate. Kthanks. :]]
its like a wireless device that is registered to your phone. you buy the earpiece for well near or over a hundred dollars and you press a button to receive calls when your phone rings, and you can talk to the caller, as long as you have your phone onyou somewhere- in your pocket, purse- somewhere nearby- and you talk to the caller through the earpiece and there are no wires connected. just go to your local provider's store, and they can tell you all about it. (i know you can also buy the earpieces at wal*mart too- if youre wanting to save a few $'s) good luck.
Does anyone know any songs that say something like I miss the old you, I don't know the person you are now. I'm not looking for a particular song, just songs that mention anything like that. Thanks!! I rate high!!!
yes!- shes become very controversial- so i dont know if youre 'anti- avril' or not- but avril lavigne's song ' too much to ask' is a real good example. it goes a lil sumthn like this:
"Too Much To Ask"
Its the first time I ever felt this lonely
I wish someone could cure this pain
Its funny when you think its gonna work out
Til you chose weed over me, you're so lame
I thought you were cool until the point
But up until the point you didnt call me
When you said you would
I finally figured out youre all the same
Always coming up with some kind of story
Everytime I try to make you smile
You're always feeling sorry for yourself
Everytime I try to make you laugh
You can't
Youre too tough
You think you're loveless
Is that too much that I'm asking for?
I thought you'd come around when I ignored you
So I thought you'd have the decency to change
But babe, I guess you didn't take that warning
'Cause I'm not about to look at your face again
Can't you see that you lie to yourself
You can't see the world through a mirror
It wont be too late when the smoke clears
'Cause I, I am still here
But everytime I try to make you smile
You'd always grow up feeling sorry for yourself
Everytime I try to make you laugh
You stand like a stone
Alone in your zone
Is it too much that I'm asking for?
okay. i guess i knew i was his rebound girl from the start.stupid me, i know. so anyway i couldnt resist because ive had a crush on him since the beginning of the year and now at the end he came to me with problems(his g/f of 2 years dumped him, he said i was the only one he could trust). i was estatic. he was such a sweet talker and i fell for him only because he said he loved me. (over like a 4 month period)and he got everything he wanted out of me and then ignored me. i can't get over him and i see him all the time.i still feel so strong for him even though i should hate him. hes crazy about his ex. infact im seeing him satrday becaus emy best friend is dating his bestfriend. what do i do? what do i say, i need closure.thnx. i rate 5s
i think theres nothing you can do that will give you immediate relief. i think that you need to just think about some things, and get to the point where you realize tht you are much better off without him. becuase i know you are. just think about it- even if he did 'come back to you'- would you want a man tht still thnks about his ex, or a man that ignores you? thats not being a man at all!- find oyurself a true man who will treat you like the princess you are! good luck girl!
I wanna wear thongs but i'm like afraid what my mom would say. not really afraid but idunno how to ask her! because i remember one time she told me like she was christmas shopping with my grandma lol and they were buying me underwear? lol yeah nd my gramdma picked up a thong [by accident] and my mom was all freaking out like its a thong!!.. i mean i'm 14 i'm going into high school. but i dunno how she'd react if i told her. and i dont know how to tell her. soo do you have any ideas??? and like i was thinking about going to the mall with my friends and buying one without her knowing but that would be a problem because my best friends dont wear them and like i don't do the wash! l0l yeahh =\ so how should i bring it up??
haha. i always get stumped with these kinds of questions because my parents were so lenient with things i did.my stepmom was actually underwear shopping with me and asked me if i would prefer thongs over regular underwear. but id say- just talk to her. she might have just freaked outwith your grandmother there because it was your gramma!- but i wouldnt suggest goin behind her back and doing it- bad idea, adn it will cause too much confusion. plus, what are you gonig to do with ONE thong. when you do get permission to wear them- youre going to want to buy alot. thats pretty much all i wear. i think theyre comfortable- and not once do i haveto worry about panty lines. jsut talk to her about it- and dont get pushy with her- if she says no- then she obviously has her reasons- watever the heck they may be.
so here it goes
we started going out about 6 months ago. Everything was perfect. he loved me and he wanted to be the best boyfriend he could be. about a month into the relationship we had sex for the first time. i know it seems forward, but we were friends with benefits four months prior to going out.. after we had sex. we started fighting alot. he was trying to get involved with dealing drugs..and i thought he was doing drugs.. and yeah that was our first fight. we resolved it and then my best friend told me she had heard his friends talking about smoking weed with him and stuff.. so i flipped out on him again.. and he was really upset .. because he doesnt do that.. and he didnt want to lose me. we kept fighting over things.. soon my friend told me she hated him and he treats me like shit and i need to leave him. and i do admit.. he could have treated me with ALOT more respect. he always complained about what i looked like.. he never told me i was beautiful.. if i didnt wear something "sexy" i wouldnt get any sort of attention at all. where as he used to stare into my eyes and tell me how beautiful i was.. we were almost going out for 5 months when we got into a huge fight.. because i had his myspace password and he kept sending girls messages telling them how sexy they were. this hurt me.. and he ended up flipping out on me.. and im one of those kind of people who cant go to sleep at night knowing someones mad at them.. so i had him stay on the phone with me for 4 hours trying to resolve the problem...in the morning he apologised but i was still hurt and sick of the fighting .. so i sent him an email telling him how horrible he treats me. he ended up breaking up with me. it was dramatic.. he cried when he did it. so i know he didnt want to. the next day.. we didnt even look at eachother in school.. i came online when i got hoem and he begged for me back.. and i gave in. .we were just going to take a break and i gave in. the next day i asked him if we were still going to get back together eventually..and he said "idk i only said that to make you feel better" and i went to his house and screamed at him .. because he lead me on again. and then he said he'd go out with me until summer comes.. because he wants to do his own thing over the summer. stupidly i agreed. and we went out .. we've been going out.. but he's been different.. i say "i love you" and he either jokes around and makes sum dumb comment or he mumbles it back.. he tries to strangle me sometimes. .and i honestly cant tell if hes fooling around or not. we wrestled the other day.. just cutsy bf gf wrestling.. and then he started punching me.. and stuff.. and his friend saw and he was like "woah stop thats not cool" .. i have a huge buise on my arm from him punching me. and while we were wrestling i accidently kicked him in the balls.. he knew it was an accident but he still flipped out on me .. he wrapped his arm around my neck and put his hand over my mouth and nose. he held it there for a while too.. i started crying and he just kissed me better.. but still . we broke up today.. and we're supposed to be getting together next school year.. but i just want to know.. is this too serious? because i know when im in a bad situation i never notice how bad it REALLY is.. and i just want to be safe.
please, please, please, please- do yourself a favor and get out fo this as soon as you can. no guy shuld even think about laying his hand on a girl in that way. my fiance jokes around with me- asking if id ever fight him- but he has never hit me, punched me, even wrestled with me in a demeaning way. i think if you dont get out of this mess, you will really regret it in the future. at least do me the favor, and seriously think about all the bad things that could happen. i dont know you- but i do know that you need to get out of all this and real soon. please stay in contact with me- id really like to know how everything goes.
hey i have really bad cramps and their getting worse. i take alive or ibuprofen but there not working anymore and midol has never worked for me not even the maximum strength....should i get birth control pills?
i would ask your gynecologist on tht one. ive heard of birth control pills reducing cramps, but honestly- i think its simply a myth. it never worked for me, and ive always had real bad cramps every other month.
this is most likely the wrong category but whatever i was just wondering can you be gay if you dont want to.
nope. at least not under my beliefs. i believe that being homosexual is all in the temptation of your mind, and there is no way you are just born gay, therefore- no- you cannot be gay if you dont want to be.
Okay, this sounds really gross.
Lately, I've had a LOT of discharge, way more than I usually have. It makes it look like I've wet myself a little bit, when I haven't. It happened about a week ago. My period is gonna start in a week or so. I'm not sexually active & I'm not doing anything that would make it more heavy.
1. What is the cause of this?
2. How can I stop it?
kthx.
its your body getting ready to menstruate- nothing to worry about- it happenes to everyone- just worse on some girls- i would suggest wearing a pantyliner when this happens. and it usually does happen a week or so before your period. hope i helped.
My friend let this guy she`s been going out for a week finger her today. They've never even kissed, shes 13, he`s 12. He`s already had sex before, but she hasn`t even had her first kiss. She said it was for her, just to have fun, and not cause he pressured her, but doesn`t that sound wrong? She claims I overreacted but I find that taking it too far, just a little to soon.
well, to tell you the honest truth- yes- it is a free country and we have the right to form opinions on things- but for you to judge the things they do and say that they are going at it too soon- really isnt up to you. yes, its a good idea to bring up to her what you think- but for you t ocarry it out, or argue with her over it- is none of your right. its her body- and i hate to say it- but if she wants to give it awa- theres nothing you can do to stop her.
If your body rejects a piercing, what will it look like? What are the signs of the body rejecting ANY piercing? I have my finger web pierced and it's really dry around the edges and I'm worried my body might be rejecting it!!
wow. i hate to say it- becuase im sure you heard of it- but really- what is the point of having a piercing there? not tryin to be bogus- i had the skin between my wrost and thumb pierced before- but i would think a finger web piercing would jsut hurt. but no, if your body is rejecting it- it will more than likely become infected. if theres pus or anything else around the piercing- then i would take the ring out and clean the area as soon as you can- but if its just dry skin around the hole- then its more than likely just healing- nothing to worry about. hope i helped- and good luck.
so me and my friend used a tampon for the first time last weekend and it was really uncomfortable until after i was in the pool, after that it felt comfortable...
it kept, like, falling out a little i guess?? cuz i kept having to push it back up..
i am pretty sure i did it right.. so what could have happened??
if you kept having to push it in- then you didnt do it right. you probably didnt put the applicator far enough in before you did it.
does baby oil help you tan?
yeh- because it attracts the sun, and gets absorbed into your skin as the sun hits it- jsut be sure to wear a sunblock underneath.
This guy I'm friends with is cute, funny, nice, smart, always smells good, dresses well, has a six pack basically EVERYTHING I look for in a guy. Him and I are really close (he's 15 I'm 14). Well I'm considered one of the prettiest girls in school, honestly there isn't one boy I've liked that I haven't gotten. Well I really want this guy but the big problem is he likes my mom. my mom is a 30 year old single mother and shes pretty. It's like the song Stacies Mom. Well I don't know what to do. Advice me up.
well, first you need to re- evaluate your ego. if theres one thing that people couldnt be more wrong about is whn they ASSUME that they are the finest thing since fine china. if hes not into you- then how can this be true!? think about some things first.
I just started my marching band training today, and my calfs get very soar really easily. Does anyone know any exercises I can use to strenthen my calfs?
well, i know that when i was in cross country- my legs would hurt all over- mainly my thighs and calves. but for my calves, i would sit down, with my legs stretched out in front of me, and reach down to my feet, and pull them towards me as much as i could stand it, and hold them there. it stretches the major calf muscle, and it may hurt at first, but after doing it every hour or so for as long as you can stand it- you should start to feel better
okay i have recently asked a question to see if i was depressed. i told you how i felt and everyone who answered said that i was definetly depressed and that i should get help. but my question is, if your going through depression can you feel fine somedays but most of the time empty. so i guess what im trying to say is when going through depression do you still have some good days?
my father was severely depressed before he kicked me out of his house last year, so id say that i know first hand how it is. yes, you can have good days- but most likely they wont be full days- theyre more like 'moments'- if youre having full days where everything is peaches, then it souns like youve just got alot on your mind- or that something's bringing you down every once in a while. no biggie- it happenes to the best of us- but IM me if you want to talk about it more. its a serious matter.
We're having a BBQ at our house in August and my mom is inviting this family that has a boy that im really crushing on! I don't know what kind of outfit I should wear! Should I wear shorts,capris, or jeans? Should I look casual or dressy casual since we ae the hosts? What kinds of styles should I look for and where??
id say wear capris- because youd be too hot in jeans- and alot of the time- showing too much leg is a bad minus with his family. as for tops- how about a cute snug-fitting polo with a long beaded necklace. sounds good to me. add some way cute flip flops, and a great hairstyle, and it sounds to me like youd be ready! good luck!
I'm planning to get my first tattoo. I'm searching for the perfect design. I want to get a wolf and a dreamcatcher and my name on my shoulderblade. I just submitted my description on a website to have it custom designed by a tattoo artist. I'd like to know what to expect when I actually have it done. So if anyone that already has a tat could please share their experience. Is it really painful? Do you have any regrets?
it doesnt really hurt- but like the columnist be low me stated- it feels real unconfortable. it depends on how well your pain tolernce is. i, for example- pierced each of my ears myself four times- so id say i have good pain tolerance. everyones different. but i wouldnt worry about it too much. the only thing i can tell you as a bit of advice- is that i have NEVER met a person with a tattoo that didnt regret it to a certain level. some regret getting it placed where they did. some regret what it symbolizes, and most regret getting it at all. just depends on how determined you are to get it done. just have a clear mind when you decide for sure. good luck. have fun!