Hey I am 16 and believe it or not I have a lot of experince in giving advice.
So let me know if I can help and I will do my best.
Gender: Male
Location: US
Age: 16
Member Since: March 21, 2009
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Last Update: April 29, 2009
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18/f
so i met this boy mark last summer at one of my friends graduation parties. for some reason, ever since then i've had a crush on him. my friend caitlin told me that he liked me towards the end of the summer. well of course, we both went off to college. we were always flirty when we came home on breaks though and during winter break i thought that he liked me still/again, but you can never be sure with him..towards the end of winter break things got weird and i think he liked a girl that went to his school. turns out he hated his school so now he's at community college for this semester. my question is should i tell him that i like him? i'm afraid it will make things awkward which i don't want at all, but i want him to know. it's just very difficult for me to tell him i don't know how or what to say to him. can anyone help? thank you! (link)
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Well thats what you have to chose from. Do you want the friendship to get awkward or do you want to keep it bottled up inside. Sometimes in the long run it pays off too just go ahead and tell him. Sounds like he may like you back.
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I AM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT MY BF. TO START OF WITH he is 11 and i am 16 and WE STARTING GOING OUT LAST AUGUST TILL EARLY THIS MONTH WHEN HE DUMPED ME AND A WEEK LATER HE TOLD ME HE DIDNT WANT TO DUMP ME HIS BRAIN TOLD HIM TO AND HE STILL LOVED ME AND WE TALKED AND GOT BACK TOGETHER AND HE TOLD ME HE HAS ADHD AND IED. Then now he keeps saying he hears voices telling him to join them in hell and how he hates his life and wants to kill himself and he worried me the other night cause we were talking and then he changed and started saying stuff like i hear the bells ringing hahaha bye im goin to kill myself and he went and i was worried and i even had to phone his sister to see if he was alright as he switched his phone off and she said he was unhappy. then last nite it happened again me, him and his mate were talking and he changed and started saying stuff and then didnt rember and then he went he was coughinh up blood and his mom was talking with him and he went off and i am so worried about him cause i love him so much and i dont know what to do i just wanna be with him and help him but i dont know how........ (link)
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I know you prolly have already heard this but your b/f is 11! whats wrong with you, sounds like you have issues of your own if your 16. Sounds like you both need to go see a therapist.
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lol?? Ugg...yes I am in love with my best guy friend. Umm...I am 13.. were both in 7th grade...I know it not REALLY love..it just feels like it. Umm.. we met last year...umm...I had a crush on him last year...and he found out by my blabber mouth friends!! lol Umm...I think it freaked him out. I didn't want my friends to ask him out. Like, my friend Samantha is Tanner's cousin...she introduced me the first day last year. So...she was siked to know I liked him so she asked him out. He said no..umm...so I didn't ask him out again...but my friends kept doing IT! So...he got fed up with it...and I left him alone...so we were just friends. Now, this year...I fell for someone else...he selfishly broke my heart. So...I just realized...that Tanner always had my back.. and I really want to be his girl friend. He's not a jurk...he's a great guy. He already found out that I liked him... because I had this issue...with my friend..she likes Tanner 2 ...and I HEARD that she only likes him because she wants 2 make me jealuous....she told me she never said that ...so I gave her another chance, but the note I wrote her I told her that I really cared about Tanner and I am not going to let her hurt him. I was worried because my friend dates a guy than breaks up with him after about 2 or 3 days. I don't want her to hurt him. Well...Tanner read that note...so now he knows...I like him again...well... I don't know if he feels the same way...I want him to ask me out. I asked my friend Cody to try to persuade him...lol he's tanners friend 2 and there really close...
Can someone help me out?? I really like him.. so much. What can I do to get him to like me back ...in that way?? Please...don't be rude..
Thanks for helping... I'll rate fair. :) (link)
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Sounds like you ike him a lot. As much as I hate to say it and as hard as it's going to be for you to read it he may not like you. That's not something you or his friends can control. All you can do is accept it. I know thats hard but with time you will move on if it doesn't work out with him. I know this isn't the answer you want to hear and I am sorry you have to hear it but that seems to be the only solution to this.
Sorry
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so i got a cough on like thursday night itno friday morning, which is most likely from allergies because the weather around here has been fluctuating on and off. friday night, i smoked hookah (with tobacco) .. and my cough kinda got worse. it was stupid to do, i know, considering my cough but theres nothing i can do about it now. so my mom said if it doesnt get better in a few days i have to go to the doctor. would the doctor be able to tell that i smoked? i really didnt do it for that long, but i just want to know if he would be able to tell. obviously i dont want him or my mom knowing. but the whole thing began with my allergies im pretty sure. (link)
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No I doubt the doctor will know you smoke unless he runs certain test. He wil prolly come to a conclusion without knowing that you coughed since it only irrated it I doubt that is the underlying problem that started this whole thing.
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This is NOT a 'does he lyke me' question. This is a 'why's he acting this way? should I take action?' question.
I'm a girl who is 13 going on 14.
The guy the question's about is a boy who juuuust turned 15.
I've known this kid for a couple years now, our dad's have been friends since they were in diapers, all that happy stuff.
Before we never really saw each other often, but ever since he and my brother got to be better friends that changed... That was a year back.. Ever since then, he's teased me a bit, just typical playful teasing.
recently it's been more frenquent (every time I see him), and sometimes he crosses the line and makes fun of my behavior to a hurtful level, like "--Because ya don't have any real hobbies!! *laughs like it's the best thing in the world*" or..well, I wanna keep this brief as possible, so I'll give examples of his behavior later if needed.. I don't know if he actually means to be hurtful or not!
Other than this, he's a great, funny, sensitive guy with tons a friends. He says he doesn't hate me but..
why does he tease me like this all the sudden? and, does he mean to be hurtful by it? what should I do?
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Sounds to me that he may have a crush on you. He's at that age where hes starting to finally like girls it's new to him. But sounds like too me you should just tease right back. Then he will know how it feels it cross that line when you cross with it him. But you may also want too talk to your brother about it, he may ask him to stop. I doubt he means it to be hurtful sometimes some people may not know when it stop either.
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theres this guy i've been hooking up with for a while now. we met last september, and we've hooked up a few times. i've become really close to one of his friends recently, and he told me that this guy has a girlfriend. i believe him, for various reasons that i don't really want to get into right now. anyways. i just hooked up with him last tuesday, and i don't know if they were going out at that time. i don't want to ask because i don't want to make it obvious that me and this guy have something going on. we used to talk a lot, but we stopped talking. he acts like he cares, but i don't feel like we've gotten to that kind of "relationship" place yet, if you know what i mean. should i confront him about it? or just drop it and drop him? (link)
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Well first thing I think it's wrong of you to be guggling more than one guy espeically if it'smone of his friends. But it seems to me you should just ask him and stop "hooking up" with him until you get a answer from him.
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so i guess the title for this question wasnt a very nice one haha but it got you reading it. well i do love my boyfriend to death we have been dating for 6 months. im 16 hes 15. theres just a few small problems. everything will be going fine, then sudenly a few weeks ago he wanted to take a break. all the lovey dovey stuff stopped n he really didnt seem to care about me anymore. well now we are back together and all the lovey dovey stuff has started again. he says he loves me more than anything. thats what he said before the breakup too. most days he is great and i love him so much. i couldnt imagine being with another guy. but some days he is in the worst mood and he will practically ignore me. i really try to help him out and i put up with so much stuff just for him. he is very outgoing so its not like him to be quiet and i always think its something i did. but he gets in different moods all the time. is he bipolar? he acts completely normal other than the mood swings and is captain of the football and lax team. hes popular and a really funny guy. but he also has told me that he hears voices in his head. he doesnt act like its a big deal and yesterday a voice told him to jump off a building. he obviously didnt listen haha but he doesnt act like his mental problems effect him much but the break and his mood swings make me think maybe they do. i dont want him to start listening to these voices in his head or go crazy one day. and i dont want his bipolar watever you want to call it mood swings, to effect are relationship either. i know he has suffered from depression and possibly still is. but he acts like hes the happiest guy in the world. you would never guess. does he have schizophrenia or bipolar or something else? any advice? (link)
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Sounds like he may have schizophreina by the way it sounds. But you also need to make him see a therapist or something. Because sooner or later he is going to start listening to those voices and that can't be good. So try to get him to go to a therapist more than likely he needs medication.
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:[ okay so long story short.. this guy i liked, who said he liked me started going out with his ex girlfriend. [he basically played me i guess..] and like SOOO much stuff has happened since then [they've been going out for a little over 2 months now..] but he like flirts with me.. sometimes. but i haven't talked to him in a little over a week because im done. IM SO DONE. he has a girlfriend. and it's never gonna happen. like, he used to text e everyday around the same time [on weekdays] late at night... i think that's when his gf and him would stop talking. and he would flirt a little bit, but sometimes he wouldn't, and i never knew what to expect it's like i was always just hanging on. yuh know? so anyways, since i haven't talked to him [he's in one of my classes, i ignore him.] he texted me late last night and said... "hey." then i didnt answer because i was so tired and fell asleep. and he texted me saying, "just outta curiousity why were we like cool and now you seem mad at me again"
i woke up at 10:30 p.m to find that message, and i didn't answer him. i think me not talking to him anymore is eating him alive, but i don't know. I don't know what to think anymore. I like him, I know i do. but i have to get over him, right? i don't want to... but i've exhausted all of my options, yuh know? and like in my class i have with him, a coupl guys flirt with me in that class [they are friends with him] and one of my best guy friends is in that class. well. one of the guys always pokes me and tickles me and im like ahhhh noooo. and when i like walk away the guy i like will be like, "duuuude, don't poke her." and then they'll start "play fighting" i dont get it. why does he do this? is he jealous.
I also saw him at a hockey game and he saw me and i dont know. him and his girlfriend didnt liek meet up until like 3 minutes left in the game. then i left and saw his parents [who love me, we are family friends] and they were talking to me and stuff.
I just don't know what to do or think or ANYTHING. someone help ?! with anything ?! thanks. sorry for the length, i appreciate those who take the time to read and answer this. (link)
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I think it's good you've stopped talking to him like that. He should know that he can't have both of you. You should tell him that he needs too chose between you and her. Don't be shocked if he chooses her because trust me he might but you also need too let him know that you don't want to be that kinda girl. He prolly is jealous but it doesn't matter since he has a girlfriend. Your single and hes not thats simple and thats just how it is going to be unless he wants to work with you to change it.
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I've been trying to lose weight lately and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on what i could eat for lunches at work...preferably something i could buy there.. I work at a walmart supercenter thing... But i also need something inexpensive.. so if you have any ideas let me know please.. thanks in advance :) (link)
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Buy apples or bananas none of those are expensive. Any fruit that you can find is cheap is worht buying.
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i love sex i mean i really love it i dont do it but i watch it on the computer im over 21. do you think its normal? (link)
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Yes your normal. Especially since you've never done it. After you have done it the first time some of these feelings should fade. But your 21 have fun while you still can. Even if that includes porn or just messing around with other people. JUST HAVE FUN.
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I'm seventeen year old girl.
Here we go, there is this boy Mike who is friends with my friends. I met him a while ago, but never really got to know him. That is until last Saturday. That night he and I were hanging out with my sister, and her bf another girl and two other guys. He and I talked most of the night. We did a little flirting. Every time he'd look over at he he'd smile, and I'd smile back. We sat in the car together we went places, he put his arm around me. We played a little game where we flicked a bottle cap back and forth to each other. When I was about to go home, I mentioned I wasn't tired so he suggested I text him, so he gave me his number we talked the rest of the night till I fell asleep. We hung out the next day too, more of the same. A few days later I added him to MySpace,and he denyed it. AH idk why. And there was a rumor going around that we made out, his crazy ex either started it or her friend did.
Then last night I hung out with the same people again. And he was very nice, and more little flirting. He opened my door when we were getting out of the car, and when we were all finding seats at our friends house he got me one next to him. We exchanged a few text messages in the car and after I got out of the car then he said good night. He said a specific goodbye to me as I got out of the car.
So the problem is I'm confused. What do you think is going on. Where do I go from here? Please, I need opinionss :) (link)
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He may have hit the wrong button. Just ask him why he denied you. Yes their is something going on you guys have something there. But wheather you want to explore that or not is up to you. But try taking his hand next time. Or give him a goodnight kiss on the cheek.
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16/m
There's a girl in one of my classes that I like. We always talk and she smiles and laughs a lot. We say hi and talk in the halls all the time.
BUT...sometimes I'll message her on facebook and we don't really talk that much. I also heard her say to another girl she doesn't want a relationship at the moment (she just broke up with her bf not that long ago.) So does she like me? Should I ask her out?
I'm really confused!!! (link)
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It doesn't mean she likes you. But it also doesn't me that she doesnt like you. What you should do is just come right out with it and ask her.
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Okay, so, this may be long-im sorry. But Its been on my mind for 2 years and i feel like if someone out there feels this way too, they could help me as to what to do.
2 years ago,I had a boyfriend that i really did like. He was great, we felt instantly connected. Somehow,i loved him right when i saw him...i don't know how. But back then i was shy and unhappy, so i couldn't be who i was with him-seeing as he just made me even more nervous.I recall one time,when someone actually said "All guys want is to get in your pants!" and he whispered in my ear "i would never." I knew he ment it,its just who he was. After a month or two, i wimped out and broke up with him. For reasons like-we didn't talk much,hangout,and i was positive he could find someone better. And even though it was that short of a time-i still feel like i should be with him. I've found myself liking guys that have his features. His personality is exactly like mine,now(2 years later). He's moved on,had other girlfriends. After we broke up,he was so mean to me.i told him to never talk to me again. Then he apologized and i asked him if we could ever be friends and he said no. Then months later of not talking he comes out of no where and tells me he has a girlfriend,i say "thats good :D"(obviously i'm going to be happy for him) then he signs off of aim.That was the last time we talked.(about 2 years ago? maybe)
Which brings me to now.I actually think he hates me. See,starting this year-I see him everywhere(in school). He looks away every time i look at him-so do i. I went to a dance the other day(we met at a dance)And he was there. Everything came back to me,so i decided to dance near him with my friends.And as strange as it is..it felt good to be even near him. and my friend who knows about the situation was telling me he was staring at me.I was really happy,then really sad.I've been thinking about him a lot lately. I get these feelings-and it feels like he's thinking about me too. But he hates me. So i don't know what to do,i REALLY want to smile at him or say hi to him in the halls. But i know he won't do it back.
Leading to the grand fanalie, Should I try to talk to him again? Has anyone ever felt this way before? What did you do? Is there such thing as a connection between people that have to be together? Lastly, Why do you think he hates me,even after 2 years? Anything,anything to help this feeling go away,please. Thankyou (link)
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Yes you should try to talk to him. I felt that way with a girl before we got real close and then broke up and we were mean to each other at first and now were good friends. At first it's natural to hate each other but with time it passes. After we broke up I will admit I was mean to her too. I was so mad it felt like I had wasted a lot of time with her. Yes when you really like or even love someone you will feel this connection and it's like you've known them forever. You feel like you've been looking for him forever and he makes you happy. He doesn't hate you he just likes you a lot and he maybe mad at you that you broke it off with him when it sounds like to me that he loved you a lot. He's prolly mad and wants to know how and why you brke off such a good relationship.
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i need your guys advice on this..so this is like the millionth time hes "blown me off" he doesn't really blow me off but he has this list of chores his dad makes him do and he knows that if he doesnt do them he can't go out or anything. hes basically lazy and its starting to get to me because he always makes plans with me and then cant last minute because he didnt do his chores..what do you guys think i should do? i texted him telling him i had to talk to him...what should i say? and what do i do? i need advice thankss
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Your just going to have to tell him that you want someone who can go out and have fun with you. Not someone you can't count on because he can't do his chores. He's too old not to be able to do his chores and hes also to old not to be able to take a girl out every once and a while. So the only solution here is just let him know what you expect from him.
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Is 14 too young to have depression? Any answers would be appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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NO depression can hit anytime. All you can do is get help before it gets out of control.
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So there's this one and he basically owns my heart and my world. I know that he struggles with depression and I honestly do believe that he's suicidal. We have this thing going on, and I don't mind it when it's going well, I love talking to him and he always makes me feel good about myself. However when it's not going well and he's shutting me out, it hurts like a mother fucker.
I don't think that he's playing games, his family knows about me, he sought me out from day one, he was the first one to say I love you, and this summer he even told my brother that he liked me. Yet I'm on this emotional roller coaster with him and have been since Christmas time. It's like whenever it gets closer to the time that we'll see each other, he wants to push me away. I believe that he's afraid of getting closer with me and perhaps having his heart broken. He thinks that pushing me away is better thing to do, and it always hurts me.
He feels like a failure, like he's failed our relationship. Yet our “relationship” even though it's barely begun has so much potential, and he does as a person too. But he's so used to his dad putting him down, his father really isn't the positive male role model and I don't know how long it's been like that for. He's always put down by his dad and I think that in the end his dad is one of the reasons why he has so many problems with letting people in. That, and his grandmother died when he was 9 years old, he's been like this since for almost 10 years (he's 19 now) and he thinks that he's this big tough guy and can get through it on his own, but he can't... this is going to wind up killing him and I don't know how I'm going to be once his commits suicide.
I want him to know that my intentions aren't to hurt him. I honestly want to be with him, every time I give him his space and I'm close to giving up on him he doesn't want me to, he's right back in my life. This is the only thing that I would change about him as a person, the fact that he does this stuff to me.
He's an amazing person as far as I'm concerned, he just needs to get through this thing. I'm trying to convince him to go to counseling. He went and he was doing really well, he was starting to see the guy that I see in him, instead of just this lame asshole who bluntly sucks.
Do I just give up on him, or try to talk him into going to counseling? I don't really know how to do that, most of my friends are like tell him that he either goes to counseling or he loses you. My family just wants me to give up on him, but in a way I don't blame them... I don't know what do anymore. All I know is that I don't want to get hurt again anymore. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? What do you think I should do?
I'm seriously praying to God for help in this, and just trying to give him what he says that he wants. (link)
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All you can do is ask yourself if you want to deal with this everyday. Because if you don't think you can handle that then you need too tell him that you like him a lot but you can't deal with his issues and kinda mention about going to see a therapist.
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Hello, I'm an 18 year old male. Today, I was in the shower at my local gym when a guy came in to shower as well. he was at the shower tower in front of me. these are communal showers by the way. I have showered in front of him and vice versa for a few days VERY COINCIDENTALLY, not planned at all. i notice that he starts to umm "warm up" when in the shower. he started to give me the eye and he came over to where i was showering and he started stroking my penis. i started to get very hard and i actually didn't feel weird about it. Does that make me gay? (link)
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despite what the other people say it could be possible. You might want to explore that feeling. Who knows. Any questions let me know.
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