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Why All The Teasing? Should I Do Anything About It?
This is NOT a 'does he lyke me' question. This is a 'why's he acting this way? should I take action?' question.
I'm a girl who is 13 going on 14.
The guy the question's about is a boy who juuuust turned 15.
I've known this kid for a couple years now, our dad's have been friends since they were in diapers, all that happy stuff.
Before we never really saw each other often, but ever since he and my brother got to be better friends that changed... That was a year back.. Ever since then, he's teased me a bit, just typical playful teasing.
recently it's been more frenquent (every time I see him), and sometimes he crosses the line and makes fun of my behavior to a hurtful level, like "--Because ya don't have any real hobbies!! *laughs like it's the best thing in the world*" or..well, I wanna keep this brief as possible, so I'll give examples of his behavior later if needed.. I don't know if he actually means to be hurtful or not!
Other than this, he's a great, funny, sensitive guy with tons a friends. He says he doesn't hate me but..
why does he tease me like this all the sudden? and, does he mean to be hurtful by it? what should I do?
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Sounds to me that he may have a crush on you. He's at that age where hes starting to finally like girls it's new to him. But sounds like too me you should just tease right back. Then he will know how it feels it cross that line when you cross with it him. But you may also want too talk to your brother about it, he may ask him to stop. I doubt he means it to be hurtful sometimes some people may not know when it stop either.
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If the stuff he is making fun of is as personal as "because you dont have any real hobbies" he obviously feels comfortable revealing that he knows you pretty well. In that, he's telling you and everyone that he knows how you spend your free time.. as opposed to making fun of your shoes, clothes, backpack, etc... see what I mean?
Your brother is friends with him, right? I would talk to him. If he's your older brother just ask him about it. Older brothers should be protective of their little sisters, and if not, you should be able to get some ammunition from him about his friend (nothing mean, do unto others!). How surprised he'll be when you fire back with, "I might not have any hobbies, but atleast I didn't watch the Jonas Brother's concert last friday night"
Well, you get the point. If you can't get him or your brother to stop it, just go with it.. you're his friend's little sister, that's the teasing relationship he wants. Feel confident enough to talk to him like a regular person. He might tease you, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to be friends, or that he doesn't atleast care about you.
PS- Expect it to get a lot worse when you get a boyfriend.
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He probably doesn't mean to hurt your feelings by it. He's probably just teasing & doesn't even realize he's taking it to far. If it's really bothering you, just talk to him about it. Tell him it kind of hurts your feelings when he says things like that.
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