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crush..
18/f
so i met this boy mark last summer at one of my friends graduation parties. for some reason, ever since then i've had a crush on him. my friend caitlin told me that he liked me towards the end of the summer. well of course, we both went off to college. we were always flirty when we came home on breaks though and during winter break i thought that he liked me still/again, but you can never be sure with him..towards the end of winter break things got weird and i think he liked a girl that went to his school. turns out he hated his school so now he's at community college for this semester. my question is should i tell him that i like him? i'm afraid it will make things awkward which i don't want at all, but i want him to know. it's just very difficult for me to tell him i don't know how or what to say to him. can anyone help? thank you!
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from what you said my advice is just go for it, in all honesty you dont have that much to loose,
maybe a little pride, maybe there is a risk of embarrassment.
first, you dont have to be like hello i like you. ask him out on a cute date, or something more subtle like coffee,ice cream or lunch. you could be forward and throw it out there but a date might be a little more effective as far as exploring your feelings go. if he likes you back, yahoo.
second, since your both in college, IF you tell him you like him and he doesnt return the feelings ( which i suggest you do on one of your break), you can always avoid the akward thing by going back to college and wait a little while ( untill you think he forgot about it or that its behind you) before texting him outta the blue and just act like nothing happend. guys dont like drama and they actually like having girls who are friends and would be cool with just acting like it didnt happen to have that friendship expecially if he likes you ( as a friend now )now.
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Well thats what you have to chose from. Do you want the friendship to get awkward or do you want to keep it bottled up inside. Sometimes in the long run it pays off too just go ahead and tell him. Sounds like he may like you back.
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The relationship will get awkward if YOU let it get awkward. Let me explain:
I have problems telling guys how I feel for the exact same reason. But I've been on both sides. Belive it or not, guys have the same fear when they wanna preserve the friendship. The ones who took that chance with me are still friends of mine. Very close friends, in fact. When I told them I wasn't interested, I made sure to treat them no differently than before. And of course they were embarrassed and things were a little weird but I always made sure not just through words, but through actions, that I wasn't going to let a little embarrasment trash our whole friendship. And one guy in particular, I kick myself constantly for not giving a chance, but he still is a great bud.
Now for your situation, we flip the script. You should tell him. If he's into it than GREAT! If he's not, then you be the one to not let it get weird. At least if it gets that way, you know it's because of him, not you. And you know that if he would let something like that screw up a perfectly good friendship, then he wasn't much of a friend anyway.
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