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Q: Ok, here's the situation. I really like my friend Mike because he's so sweet & is extrememly nice to girls. However, he doesn't like me as a girlfriend, just as a friend. I tried to get closer to him, but it feels like I'll never be special to him because there's always someone else that he likes more. I try not to get jealous, but he has a lot of friends, so sometimes I wonder, what makes me so special? Since this relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere, should I just give up & leave him alone entirely (so that I don't get hurt again) or should I keep trying to get close to him & see where it goes? Thanks

well. why would you leave him alone? after all he is ur friend... but just try to let go.. if you already know that hese not into you just forget it and go look for somone else.. or maybe be single for a while ..
-hope i helped..

-iceicebabyM

Q: ok im 13 i have been having this white thick discharge and i havnt started my period and i have had it for a long time i dont know what it is

dont worry its all normal really.. it just means you mite be gettting your period soon.. but umm if you wanna protect it wear
pantillers..

^^ICEICEBABYM*

Q: 14/f
this summer i went on a teen tour. i made a lot of friends.. but theres this one girl alyssa that was reallyyyyy annoying and i was kind of forced to be friends with her. me and my other friends all agreed we dont really like her, but we dont want to be mean and blow her off. so anyway, this upcoming summer my friends and i want to do another tour. alyssa keeps asking me which one im doing so we can go together.. but i REALLY dont want to go with her, but i cant lie.. im serious like i cant stand her for another summer. what can i say or do so i can avoid this?

HELP IS GRRRREATLY APPRECIATED

i dont think you should leave her out itl hut her feelings and make her cry i mean maybe she just wants new friends

iceicebaby*

Q: what to do? well actually it's my Gaiaonline crush.. and I've never liked anybody on Gaia before cause most people are weird but one day he just said hi to me and i said hi back and like we have so much in common.. then on his profile it said he likes guys so im kinda dissapointed........ and he's really hott! haha so should i just give up? :/ i wish he was straight!!! ugh. well i've barely talked to him and i didn't know what to say to him without sounding stupid so now i'll be totally clueless or should i just try to be his friend first? :/

aww.. okay look if you really wanna make it "happen" you should ask him a couple of questions like
hey what if a girl liked you dont be all up on his face and be like i like you!
no like give out hints and then he will most likely be lke " do u like me "
say yes i do like you
and see what happens but for now you should keep givin some hints hehehe

^ICEICEBABYM^^

Q: I have this teacher who I had last year, and now I have her again. And for some reason she's never liked me. I have no idea why, because teachers usually LOVE me... I'm a really good student, respectful, don't goof around, etc. But this teacher is always so mean to me and she keeps making nasty remarks. Like today was "hat day"... so I come into class wearing a hat, like everyone else, and the teacher says (in a mean voice), "ooooh, you think you look so cute, don't you?" And the other day I got a note during her class to leave early for a student council meeting, and she says to the class, "Well, EMILY has to leave now because SHE'S special!" It really hurts my feelings and embarrasses me and I don't know what to do. If I say something it will just make her hate me more, right? Is there anything I can do, or should I just try to ignore it?

haha... word..
well look honesstly if it was for me id probably give a attitude back cuz im not the kind of girl that would take crap ....
but in your case you seem like the kind of girl that doesnt know what to do .. so i say have one of your relatives. example your mother call her up and have a talk with her
OR:
you could go talk to your principle about this and tell your principle whats going on
i think its a good idea!

so you wont have to deal with this every second!!!!!!!!!!!

hope i helped

^^ICEICEBABYMILUOIUK*

Q: I'm sorry but I really didn't know what topic to put this under... Anyways my parents won't let me go to homecoming unless I have a date. It's all kind of complicated and hard to explain, but I'll do my best. My sister got pregnant at 15 and I think there holding me accountable for it. Like I get punished because she messed up her life. Which still doesn't make any sense to me because if I'm not going with a guy, doesn't that lessen me getting knocked up by like a lot??! Anyway I've already beat my sis. I'm 17 and still not pregnant. But if somebody could please help me I would really appreciate it. Any advice to talk to my parents about this is good. I don't even know where to begin when I'm talking about situations like this. It uberly pisses me off.

that sucks look one of my sisters got mugged rite.. and yeah my mom is still scared for us but now we know how to take care of ourselves..talk to your mom nd tell her how you feel, and that it hurts you that you cant go out or do something because of what mistake your sister did and tell her that you already know the consquences for such things! lol
i hope it works=]

*hoPE i helped! xD

*iceicebabymilu*

Q: There's a girl, I'll call her Sara, is really slutty and all she can talk about is how much she likes emo bands and how she flashes her breasts to guys. This is mostly the reason I don't like her, and the other part is that she's kind of punk and I have a clean, preppy style. Well, anyway, she is really nice to me, and I always help her around and stuff because of that. It's really hard, because she's always so nice to me, but I really don't like the way she behaves or talks. I know she tries to fit in, but I feel guilty about not really liking her and venting about how annoying she is to my friends when she acts so nice. Any advice?

ok this is hard but honestly be nice back maybe if you both continue being good friends youll like her i know you can stand her mot probably but she didnt do anything to U so theres no reason why u shouldnt be her friend =]

XDICEICEBABYmiml

Q: Well this boy I love Lany said that we where friends but he never talkes to me and the girl he likes Gianna but she will never go out with him.So ya my real problem is I am not sure if I should be friends with Lany or not or should I tell Him how i feel and than the whole friendship will be runed or is there anything else that I can do.Please help me I cant handle this.

well.. i would proly say dont tell lany but seems that you both are not so close.
so why not?

-iceicebabymoiuktt

Q: my friend she was telling me or well asking me we basically talk about everything to eachother and well yeah you know she said when she peas it burns and then she saids there is like blood rushed to her vagina but idk what to tell her any advice on what this may be like an infection or somehting idk

tell her to go to the doctor now if she doesnt listen tell her itl get worse!
*iceicebabymilu

Q: lately my best friend has been acting different and it's just confusing me and making me annoyed. she comes into school in the morning and seriously acts like a zombie, im not kidding, like i'll say something to her and she won't even answer. i mean everyone has those days- and she's obviously not a morning person, but it's EVERY SINGLE DAY. and if i'm around her in the morning, she just puts me in a bad mood, cause like she'll just pass me in the hall and not say anything and if she does, it's hardly anything.

also, i'm not a mean person or anything but she's also been acting kinda bitchy. of course again, everyone acts like one at some point, but it's just making me not wanna be around her, even though i love her to death and she's my best friend. like today in history, my teacher was handing our tests back and she accidently gave mine to my best friend (it must have been mixed in with her papers) my teacher noticed that she didn't have all the tests to give back and asked if anyone had some mixed in. so my friend had mine, and a few minutes later i JOKINGLY said to her "you stole my test" and she flipped out like omggg no i didn't she handed it to me. then, later, when school was over, i was talking to my other best friend, along with this one, and mentioned that she "stole my test", again, joking-yet she was like stop saying that she handed it to me blaaah. like i've been best friends with her since 4th grade and she doesn't realize i'm joking?! it's not like i said it seriously..idk.

it's just weird and unlike her. when we hang out outside of school, she's usually fine (except for the fact she'll like leave at 9 pm willingly, we're 15 almost 16, who stays out to only 9?) i have 4 classes with her in school, so i see her a lot and half of the time she is in a bad/weird mood, so i try not to say much, but when i do, half the time she comes back with something bitchy, and she ends up putting ME in a bad mood. i'm confused, i wanna say something to her, but i'm sure she'll come back with something, and we'll end up in a fight. what should i do? sorry for the length, thankss.

theres probably something bothering her i say leave her for like a couple of days and after those days if it starts to get worse i say talk to her about it and if she doesnt wanna tell you about it tel her how you feel and that you dont like the way she is and that you kno... etc.. the things you feel inside you

-hope i helped
$iceicebabyMimusmabilu$

Q: ok i need help. i like this guy and he likes me back. weve known each other since the summer and have hung out every weekend. now its been time that i want to have a relation ship and so dose he should i ask him out or let him do that??????

you should be sure he likes you back.
if you are
wait for him to ask you out.. itl be better..

Q: hi, i know this might be a little too much information but i AM pretty nervous for some strange reason. First off i NEVER had sex in my life, i have done other things but sex isn't one of them. anyway. i am really nervous because my period the past 3 months has either been on the 7th or 8th day of the month but its now the 10th and i still haven't got it is that normal for a 15 year old girl?

please help asap. thank you =]

hhehe okay look
periods can be so diffrent to girls i mean i get 2 times a month which is perfectly normal so im sure yours is pretty much,yes normal
honestly if you dont feel so sure go see a doc. hehe okie hope i helped
---iceicebabyMimumb!-

Q: hah, this has been puzzling me for quite some time ...and I figure, since a lot of people probably know more than me here..

okay, so...why is it...that everytime you THINK you get over a guy, and you say to yourself after waking up in the morning "I don't care about him...he means nothing to me..." Why is it that even though you say that to yourself..that icky feeling of jealousy is still left even if the guy gets a girlfriend...and even if you don't like him for his looks OR personality? How would YOU overcome this? :/ I'm like biting my hands here..lol

truthfully i dont really know how to overcome it but the icky feelings is i think you might like him like you says who cares about him and then your heart says i do! have you eve heard that before its a saying lol... jusst give it more time to get over him ..
one day youl wake up and be like. ..
are you seriouse?
i liked him?
omg!
lol so dont be to much in a rush
i hope this helps i rlly do hehe

*iceicebabym*

Q: My friend LOVES my b/f, literally. She walks up him(while i am around) and pushes me over and says "Hi Zach-y" and flirts with him. I have told her MULTIPLE MULTIPLE times that she needs to stop. Because now like when me and my b/f walk down the halls holding hands she runs up in between us and says "Hey Zach-y why are you and (my name) holding hands? You know that when you and her break up i am tottaly gonna go out with you!(then she blows him a kiss and skips away)"

Now i KNOW that he is not going out with her also.

When she talks to him like calls hime "Zach-y" he looks disgusted then stares at me like "why the F*ck are you friends with her???" he has recently started not sitting with me becuase of her. He has told me that he can't stand her and he tells me to tell her and i do. I am afriad that my friend is jepordizing my relationship(with an AMAZING guy)

WHAT DO I DO?

what a friend.. tell her to get away from him
if that doesnt work tell zack to go up to her face and tell her to quit it cause he doesnt like her back and hun shes not a friend...
if she was she would never do that
if my friend did i would drop her rite there
and id... ok maybe you wouldnt wnana know what else i wouldve done.. but annyway..
-hopeihelped -

iceicebabyM

Q: My best friend has been really upset lately, and every time i ask what is wrong, she says nothing. but im not stupid, i know when something is wrong. should i just leave her alone, or should i keep asking her what is wrong? i know she wants me to know, she just wont tell me. i know this because she will half bring up that she is upset and then drop it. im pretty sure i know what it is, and i want to help her, but she wont let me. idk, what do u think? thanks,

I Know this might be stupid but
BE ANNYOING..
like make it come out of her im like that when i want to tell somone that theres something wronge i feel more comfortable if thyre like dont worry il help you or comone dont feel embaraced or stuff like that do that to her.. so that she will feel comfortable and let out her feelingsto you ..

hope it helps..

ICE ICE BABY M

Q: I'm 15f and I feel like everyone hates me. My brother came home today and said that my friends or my ex-friends wanted him to hang out with them. They never call me and they think I'm annoying. What is up with that? I'm not a bad person. why do people choose other people over me? All the time, too. It's so confusing. I just want people to like me for me. i don't want to be like my brother. He's all emo. I'm just normal and fun. He's just something else.

theyre not even your friends.. forget about them ignore them and so the same. forget it dont fight or anything thatl just make it worse the more you ignore them the more they will come back talkin to you when they come back to talk to be so happy that they are coming to talk to you be normal, make it look like thyre not worth you to be happy, you get what im saying?
dont let people be like that to you because it happend to me and honsretly im not going to lie it still does but thats why im doing what i just told you to do!
so stand up for yourself and be who you want to!

HoPe I HeLped!

ICEICEBABYM!!

Q: There is this one guy, who i liked for a while over the summer
and then all of the sudden we stopped talking for a while, and now we are back to talking..

but like i dont know if i still like him, im just confused but the only thing is, i cant figure him out!!

they say guys are confusing and i agree this kid is so mysterious

apparently he likes it when i i.m him first
because we took that long break because none of us would i.m eachother

but then on ocasion he i.ms me
also he doesnt wave in the halls
maybe he's shy idk

but then on occasion he stops me and says hi

im just confuseddd
helppp =(

same thing happens to me your just goingto haveto accept the face that..
guys are weird!! like what the other couloumist said
they havediffrent moods
so dont think anything

-hope i helped--

*iceicebabym*

Q: I'm a girl, 18 years old, and recently I was talking to this guy on an internet dating site. Through our conversation we found out that we had in fact attended the same high school and now were going to the same college - him being 3 years my senior. Even more weird, he turned out to be the best friend of MY best friend's older brother. Now he wants to meet in real life and he won't stop messaging me about it. (he says things like, "let's meet up at [our mutual friend's] house,") I don't have any desire to date him, or meet him at all. Even if he's my friend's brother's friend, I still don't want to. How can I make him realize that those two instant message conversations (only two!) didn't mean as much to me as they did to him?

okay before you jump to anything and be all i dont like you and stuff maybe hese just being friendly. Meet him talk to him normally when he accually tels you he likes you then you sit down and tell him that your not into being in a 'reliationship ' with him ritenow.. Be straight forward.But for now, jusst keep it real

hope i helped....

*iceicebabyM*

Q: 14/f

Well, all over my body (legs, stomach, back, upper chest) I have these bumps on me. I don't know if they're zits because when I try to pop them, instead of puss there's clear liquid that comes out. Whenever I try to pop whatever these things are (I know I shouldn't) they just become more inflamed and start to look like mosquito bites. They aren't very big to begin with, but I just don't feel like they're normal. Lately I am itchy to the highest extent and I think these bumps might have something to do with it.

So can anyone take a guess as to what it is? Or should I jsut go to the doctor? Or ignore it? Thanks

Go to the doctor im sure they wil help you

Q: homecoming is coming up this next weekend and my parents have always been too over protective and strict. my mom keeps talking about how before the dance she wants to like, go to whos ever house we are going to and i dont know like meet everyone or something? but im a sophomore and most of the people im going with are juniors and we dont need parents for rides or anything. and no one elses parents are like going and seeing everyone before hand and i have tried telling her this 100 times but shes just like "i dont care those are our rules" and i dont know how im supposed to get through next wekeend without her embarrassing me because i really want to have fun but shes already starting to ruin it

You have to tell her your old enough, and tell her the truth
mom idont want you there,
but dont be mean. lol
say it nicely.
haha
keep trying and tryin