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Q: i've had under eye circles my whole life and sleeping more doesn't help because it just makes them purple from too much sleeping. stupid eyes. circles be gone!

Use hemmorhoid cream under your eyes to get rid of the puffiness and circles, it is a secret trick that professionals use.

Q: What is the difference between vegans and veggetarians?
Thanks

Vegans do not eat or use (leather coats, etc.) animal by products. Anything that came from or out of an animal is against their beliefs.

A vegetarian doesn't eat meat, but they do drink milk and other animal by products. Often they still eat fish though because they don't technically consider it an animal due to the muscle.

Q: My boyfriend's a rather sexual person, and I'm..getting there, haha. I've given him an orgasm and we've been trying to give me one. I'm kind of reluctant cos it hurts! Should it hurt? We are not having sex, fingering, but no intercourse. When he touches my clitoris it seems like pain, but also kind of good, but like tickling in which you try to move away. It hurts when he presses too hard of course, but then doesn't give that weird kick when it's not hard. The other day he was touching my clit and my leg started spazzing, but the clit hurt, but it felt like we should keep going, yet we stopped cos it hurt me kind of. We don't think I came. Wondering, what aren't we doing? And what does an orgasm feel like for a girl (or anyone)?

The reason it "hurts" when he is touching your clitoris is because he isn't stimulating you enough before hitting the sweet spot. You never go straight to the most sensitive female area without building up to it. Which may also be why it hurts when he is fingering you, you aren't lubricated enough naturally from being turned on. If it's a lack of moisture no matter what, try using KY jelly but do NOT use anything that isn't MEANT for genitals as you can have serious reactions. Anyway, go slow, build up to everything, you may not have an orgasm for a long time...but practice never hurts. Try pleasing yourself too, as it will help you realize what you like and don't like. Don't be afraid to tell him what feels good either, he probably isn't totally sure what he is doing either.

Q: Ok so I usually get my period around the 12th or 13th. In April I got it the 23rd. What time of the month should I expect to get it in May? The time I usually do or the time I had it last?

It is 28 days from the first day of your period, to the first day of your next period. But that's just an estimate, it should come around the 21st. And you plan it from your LAST period, not what it normally is.

Q: I have these dark purplish circles under my eyes. And my eyelids are almost always red...Majority of the time I get 8 hours of sleep and I am 13 years old. Is there anything I can do to get rid of these hideous circles?

The best way to reduce swelling and circles under the eye is actually to use hemmorhoid cream (yeah I know it sounds gross) and put it onto your face. It's naturally made to reduce swelling and it's a beauty trick that many stylists and professionals use.

Q: my friend has this boy friend who is cutting himself and inking it (pouring ink all over the cut) because he wants to die and he is in a mental hospital right now and my friend likes him alot because he cares about her more than her step dad cause he beats and rapes her. well my friend said if this guy dies she is going to kill herself and ive tried talking to her but she wont listen and she still wants to kill herself if her bf dies. plz help

You need to tell someone like a school counselor or another authoritative figure. First of all, if her father was raping her, she needs to be removed from that situation. Still having him around would cause severe emotional harm, not to mention it doesn't sound like it was properly dealt with if the mo kept him there. He shouldn't be laying his hands on her either, so that is another point you could bring up.

As far as her wanting to kill herself, she sees this guy as the only person who cares about her. Make sure she knows that you care about her too and stress how important it is that she doesn't make a deadly decision like that without calling someone first to talk about it. The best thing you can do to help her as a friend is to tell someone who can have more of an impact on this situation.

Q: Does anyone have a site where you can take a lot of fun quizes? Thanks!

http://web.tickle.com/
http://www.quizilla.com/

You can also look up "fun quizzes" on google, it will come up with thousands of sites.

Q: My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex and I just had my period. I usually have it for 4 or 5 days but I only had it for 3 this time. The first two days it was very heavy. I had to change my tampon (regular absorbancy) every hour. Thats a lot for me but still it was only heavy like that for 2 days .. Im really nervous. I just want to know if u guys think I could be pregnant. I dont feel any different at all.. no stomach aches or dizzieness. Please help.. I rate high!

I'd guess you aren't pregnant because heavy bleeding for 2 days while you are pregnant is not common. Also, it could have been a change in your body because of the recent sexual activity with your boyfriend. If you are really nervous, go to planned parenthood or buy a pregnancy test and just do a test...you'll be fine.

Q: Does anyone know of a really good site that offers pre-made layouts for MYSPACE that you can insert with a code?Thanks!

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?s=6bb42405be1122ee68747f7357c74a98&showforum=57

Awesome site.

Q: My Child is turning four years of age and I am afraid that she may be depressed but I am not sure what the sinse are can you give me some advise please

The chances of a four year old being depressed are pretty low unless they are living in a chaotic environment. They may just feel unstable if things are constantly changing around them, which would also lead to more bed wetting and unruly behavior. If you are really worried that it is depression and not some underlying cause, then take them to the doctor and talk about the problems you have been experiencing.

Q: O.K., Im thinking about downloading AIM onto my computer, but Im afraid it will give me a virus. If I get a virus my parents will KILL me! Does anyone have it and can tell me whether its ever given you a virus or someone you know? Thanks! All my friends have it and they've never gotten viruses before, but I need to make sure. THANKS!

It won't give you a virus as long as you don't accept files or random links from people you don't trust. You can also change your settings to refuse certain things to better protect yourself, also download a free Virus program such as AVG.

Q: what is a papsmhere if i even spelled it right!!!!!!!!!!!

Papsmear. It's an exam given to women to check for any abnormalities or problems. You should get them once a year, especially if you are sexually active.

Q: My dance is friday and of course I got my period yesterday. I have to wear a dress but I am not so good with tampons. I've used one once but the last time I used one it hurt and I had to take it out and it hurt more. I don't really know how to get over my fear and do it, I mean, I HAVE to for the dance unless I wear a pad, but, you know...yeah. Does anyone have any tips for getting over the fear of tampons?

There are tons of different tampons, buy a variety pack of one's with plastic applicators. They have one's specifically made for teenagers too, so check into those. I'm sure you can find them at local grocery stores or whatever, but an applicator is a must if you are having a hard time getting it out. I wouldn't put anything like vaseline or anything like that onto it because it could smear onto the rest and make it hard to absorb. Make sure you read all the directions and at the very least, just breath and relax, tensing up will make it hurt.

Q: My friend is pregnant and she's only 13. She's freaking out a lot..and she wants me to help her. What should i do ? i dont wanna end up killing someone else's baby!

First of all, her parents need to know. She also needs to decide what she wants to do with the baby. If she wants to keep it, that will pertty much end her social relationship and it will be really hard for her to finish school. I'm assuming she already took a pregnancy test, but if not she needs to get her butt into planned parenthood to not only do a pregnancy test but check for STD's.

Q: im looking for some help/advice as to why i always have to buy things in large amounts. for example i cant buy just one pen i have to get 4 or 5 at a time its the same with everything. if i go to a store to buy one thing i buy at least 5-6 things that i dont really need but buy anyway. any help or ideas would be appreciated.

It could be that you are a pack rat and think, 'what if I need one in the future and this one is gone, I better buy more'. I wouldn't think it's OCD, maybe you should practice telling yourself that if you need more in the future you can always buy more. Another thing you may have a problem with is shopping, they actually have groups for that which you could check into locally.

Q: i dont usually do this but ok..im in love with this one guy that i've been with for 11 months, and he claims he is in love with me, but when we get in an arguement he says he doesnt love me right now, which is weird bc i thought that if you was in love with someoen you would love them unconditionally, he makes all the rules and doesnt let me have input on anything.every timei talk to him i end up crying bc he hurts me so bad emotionally..the only time he acts good to me is when he is about to get something(you know what i mean) after that he's back to his normal self.what should i do? i try leaving him but i always get weak and run back to him.i love him alot and i dnt know what i should do.i try telling him how i feel and he gets pissed so i just keep it to myself..im getting really close with this other guy who feels the same way about me as i do my guy, and i dont know what i should do, i love the guy im with, not the one who treats me like a goddess,..*confused*..what should i do..sorry its so long..forgive me lol

This is actually quite common in women, but you really need to pull yourself away from him. I don't recommend jumping into a relationship with this other guy right away either because he will just be a rebound. The guy you are with now could escalate into a physically abusive man who only says he loves you when he is getting what he wants. It's abuse and he's using you, don't let him if you value yourself at all.

Q: There's this boy i really like but... i have a boyfriend and im going to be going out with him for 6 months this friday and I already had sex with him and I really like this kid named josh and we have 2 classes together and he’s in my grade. My friend asked him if he liked and and he was like ummmmmmmmmm ummmmmmm ummmm and asked who? And she said my name and he said ummmm no. how do I know if he likes me.??????!!!!!! Really need to know!! He’s moving to California in July and all I want is just a lil piece of him lol and I like in ny so we would NEVER see each other

Seriously, it doesn't sound like he likes you. It doesn't even seem like he knows who you are that well. Why would you want to sleep with him? Not to mention, that would really hurt your boyfriend. I think you should steer clear of this, you and your boyfriend have been intimate already but that doesn't mean you should run around having sex with anything you find attractive.

Q: well ya see i want to get black streaks in my hair... idk how i should do it tho... my parents dont want me to say they wouldnt take me to get it done... so im gona do it without asking them...
my hair comes a TINY bit bellow my shoulders in the front...its layerd like crazy...and it gets longer in the back...and its naturally wavy and really thick... oh yea and i also have bangs down a tiny bit pasmy eyes... and its a bunch of different colors ( naturally)... mostly dirtly blonde, light brown... how should i get it done? should i go to a salon anyways? if i dont... what product should i use? also... if i do it myslef... how? also if i go to a salon... how much is it?
PS if it helps... i like the way Xtina Agularas hair looked when it had black streaks

If you want to have it like Christina Aguilaras, you're going to want to go to a salon. It's very hard to get things exactly how you like them when you are doing it yourself. Prices can range anywhere from $40 to $100 depending on how much they charge and exactly how much of your hair you want highlighted.

I don't recommend doing this behind your parents back though, considering they are obviously going to find out.

Q: well there is this boy that told me he likes me, but i only liked him as a friend then....and now that i saw him again, he acted totally the same but then somehow i am madly in love with him now...i am pretty sure that he still like me but i am not really sure...how can i know...and also, he doesn't go to the same skool as me so would it be bad or weird if i was his gf?

Just be mature and ask him if he wants to do something sometime. If he's still into you, he will definitally accept, otherwise he could just say he's busy and then no feelings would be hurt. As far as going to another school, it will mean less time for you to see each other, but it wouldn't be bad or weird. You may also be suspicious because you won't know if he is doing anything at his school, since you wouldn't be hearing about it.

Q: i am the same person that wrote witch/devil with the thoughts in my head. well kately i have thought about it a lot and all that, well in class i kind of fell asleep and i was aware that i had my eyes closed and all that, anyway i had a weirdish dream and it was a dream that the devil was dragging this guy i have never seen before in my life under the bed and killed him. this woke me right up but i hnever had a dream like that and now all i can think about is that dream and that guy i didn't even know and the fact that i might be a satanist what should i think about instead of this?

Dreams are representations of other things, so the devil isn't really the devil. It is something that is bohering you and you feel like it is over powering you. The man getting killed under the bed is something that you feel secretly ended in your life because of that overpowering. And you cannot be a satanist unless you WANT to be.