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friend going crazy
my friend has this boy friend who is cutting himself and inking it (pouring ink all over the cut) because he wants to die and he is in a mental hospital right now and my friend likes him alot because he cares about her more than her step dad cause he beats and rapes her. well my friend said if this guy dies she is going to kill herself and ive tried talking to her but she wont listen and she still wants to kill herself if her bf dies. plz help
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You need to tell someone like a school counselor or another authoritative figure. First of all, if her father was raping her, she needs to be removed from that situation. Still having him around would cause severe emotional harm, not to mention it doesn't sound like it was properly dealt with if the mo kept him there. He shouldn't be laying his hands on her either, so that is another point you could bring up.
As far as her wanting to kill herself, she sees this guy as the only person who cares about her. Make sure she knows that you care about her too and stress how important it is that she doesn't make a deadly decision like that without calling someone first to talk about it. The best thing you can do to help her as a friend is to tell someone who can have more of an impact on this situation.
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she should tell the b/f what she want to do. Im sure that if he knew what she would do he wouldn't do it himself.. Instead, you should tell the guy that if he cares for her so much he wouldn't put her through the pain of seeing him in a mental hospital and he should actually keep his arms around her not cutting them.
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She told her mom and she is still living with him? Says a lot about mom too. She needs to get out of the situation she is in. She needs to be staying with a relative or something. Have her tell a counsler at school or something and stop putting up with that. Mom is just as guilty as the step dad is sinec she keeps her in the situation.
The boyfriend doesn't care about her either. He has to many problems of his own that are wiping out any feelings he may have for her. If he cared he wouldn't be in the situation he's in. This girl is getting it from everywhere. Encourage her to get away from all of it. If she won't go to a counsler then do it for her.
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You need to tell someone, she needs help, if she's thinking of suicide. Unfortuantly you are not prepared to help her, she needs actual proffessional help.
With her history of abuse with her step dad.. and now what she's viewing as the "one good thing" in her life, being essentially taken from her, as he's receiving his own help..
She is feeling lost, and confused.. and before she's able to harm herself, you need to talk to a trusted adult, and get her someone to talk to, and the help she needs before she does something that does hurt her.
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I'm with elscorcho96. You need to tell someone, right NOW! Could be a trusted family member, teacher, counsellor, authority figure, etc.
The reason why I say this...Speculating about whether or not her step-father still rapes her, or whether you think she will kill herself or not...Doesn't matter. If you decide she's lying...What if you are wrong? She could still be suffering from sexual abuse, she could still be suicidal. Both her and her boyfriend need to seek the intervention of the authorities and professional help. Period. To not tell anyone would just be plain careless and dangerous.
And I would also like to mention...People who commit sex crimes, typically, they don't just do it once. The crime itself is a manifestation of a serious mental illness, and the behavior will continue to exist as long as the person is mentally ill. If they do it once, they'll probably do it again.
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That whole thing with her step dad might be solved by now...about the guy maybe you should tell her mom about it just so she keeps an eye out. Maybe she should not see anymore seeing that he's so messed up. Or perhaps he's the one who needs talking to. Why is he cutting himself? There isn't much you can do but it wouldn't hurt to try to help.
Good luck!
Jacki
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Well chances are the girl won't really kill herself i mean i dont think she'll go into that drastic of measures because of some guy yeah she might love him but i think she'll just cry about it but girl you need to get her to a counceler or something i mean you need to do something to help the girl. Tell someone no matter how bad it hurts her! she'll realize you helped her out in the end. I mean would you rather get help for her now or see her die? i think you know the answer to that. so please tell someone, she needs serious help, from an adult! hope i helped you some and i really hope everyhing works out. Love ya!
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Her mom should have called the cops and had her stepdad arrested when he raped her. Go tell your school counselor what's going on - she's required by law to report situations that could potentially endanger a child to the police (or the parents if the child is a threat to his or herself)
Your friend is in a bad situation and doing nothing will only make things worse. She'll get mad at you for telling but what would you rather have - a dead friend with an abusive stepfather or have her be mad at you until she realizes that you love her and care about her? She needs help, please don't wait any longer.
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Ok, i was in this EXACT situation a little while ago. My friend was cutting herself, and this other friend of mine(a guy) liked her. So he said that if she ever died and/or something really bad happened to her, that he would shoot himself or slice his throat or something like that. Honestly, if your friend likes this guyt as much as you say she does. Then she needs to go talk to him face to face. IF she really donsent want him to hurt himself to the point of death, she needs to go talk to him and tell him how she really feels about him doing this to himself. Most people cut themselves as a form of torture, or a form of well... i dunno how to say it. But most people do it to run away from their fears. If this guy is getting beaten or something and he's cutting and inking himself because he wants to run away from that kind of pain, he should go talk to someone. But if hes doing it just for fun (for some wild reason) than he should be in the mental hospita. I know she loves him (probobly) but shes most likely not going to know this guy in 10 or 15 years. So if he dies, and then she kills herself, How would that benefit her? She's ending her life early for some guy shes most likely not going to know in 20 years. I think she needs to go talk to someone, and she needs to look deep inside herself to see if this is realy what she wants. Does she really wanna die early.. and over a guy?!? Also, you might want to ask her if shes thought of what other people might have to say about her doing this. What would her other friends think about this???
hope i helped
xoxo Morgan
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first you need to call the cops or someone on her dad if he really rapes her and keep talking to her about her killing herself. make sure you tell an adult or some one that could help her. hope i helped!
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go to da police bout your friends step dad, then tell someone in da mental hospital that they should keep a closer eye on him.
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odd hes in a mental institution and he has access to ink and a knife? and the outside world to date someone? well simple tell the people at the insitution about it and theyll keepa closer eye on him. then go to the police and tell them your friend is getting raped ad beaten by her dad thats major jail time.
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