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needing advice..
i dont usually do this but ok..im in love with this one guy that i've been with for 11 months, and he claims he is in love with me, but when we get in an arguement he says he doesnt love me right now, which is weird bc i thought that if you was in love with someoen you would love them unconditionally, he makes all the rules and doesnt let me have input on anything.every timei talk to him i end up crying bc he hurts me so bad emotionally..the only time he acts good to me is when he is about to get something(you know what i mean) after that he's back to his normal self.what should i do? i try leaving him but i always get weak and run back to him.i love him alot and i dnt know what i should do.i try telling him how i feel and he gets pissed so i just keep it to myself..im getting really close with this other guy who feels the same way about me as i do my guy, and i dont know what i should do, i love the guy im with, not the one who treats me like a goddess,..*confused*..what should i do..sorry its so long..forgive me lol
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i think that you should try as hard as you can to let him go, not for forever but just so you can like go out and get to know other people. it's in your best intrest, and maybe even give the guy that treats you so well a chance. or you can try to talk to the guy your with and try to work things out, but trust me that is very hard because i have been through this same exact thing before acctually i just went through it like 3 weeks ago. i think that you should just give other people a chance i know it will be hard because i did it, but you will forget about him and be able to move on and you'll be able to be strong enough to not run back to him all the time, and if he really loves you as much as he says he does believe me he will tell you and he will want to do this because it will make things a lot easier and he will come back to you eventually!
keep your head up and stay strong! everything will be ok in the long run!
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He doesn't really love you, he's using you. You need to break up with him. Get some female friends to distract you when you leave him.
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Write him a letter. Get everything you out in the open. I say to write to him because you can do that and not be interrupted by him. It is easy to lose you train of thought when someone is right back at you at every comment. Then make him read it. After that have a long discussion about your needs. If he then blows it off as unimportant...dump him. You deserve better. Being mentally abused is just as bad as being physically abused. If all he wants is a f*** buddy he can use his hand. Get tough! Good luck. :)
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Sounds like your in a bad situation. You say you love him, but it's obvious he doesn't feel quite the same, or quite as strong about him as you do.
The fact your left crying and hurt over things he says.. and being hurt emotional is a sign of abuse. Abuse doesn't always mean hitting and slapping, there is emotional, and it's clear that this guy is doing that to you.
You need to get away from him, he sounds controlling and things can only get worse from here, not better.
If you find your not strong enough, then you need to surround yourself with friends who will support and help you while you break away from him.
You might not like the guy that treats you "like a goddess" but, that's exactly what you deserve, and someday you'll find someone who will.. that you will love dearly and feel the same way for.
Keep your chin up, be strong, you can leave him.
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Never stay with a guy like this!! it never is good the fights will get worse. You dont want to get hurt in any kinda way and if he makes all the rules that aint fair cause when it comes to a relashionship it goes both ways you work together not one works and the other dont. And wow if you cant talk to him about your feelings then you should for sure leave. Thats what your lovers are there for to listen and love you at all times not just when hes getting ready to get something. If you need help after you two brake up you always got that other guy to be there to hold you when you need held and to support you through it. But its your choice and its hard to leave the one your in love with i under stand. Hope you make the right choice.
Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley
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hey! i know this is not what you want to hear, but you deserve a guy who treats like... a goddess... it doesnt have to be the other guy that you dont like that much, it can be someone else. but if your current bf cant give you that affection, or only when hes about to get some, then it seems like hes just using you. you said you've tried leaving him, well, in my opinion, if you left him for good, then you wouldnt be crying and feeling miserable because he hurt you emotionally. if you try to leave him, just keep in mind that he wasnt that great, that he wasnt good to you, and that he didnt seem to care that much about what you feel. a guy that sets all the rules and doesnt let you say anything about them is not a guy you would want to stay with. go for a guy that will love you unconditionally, that will listen to what you have to say, and that will treat you like you've never been treated before. its hard to do, but in my opinion its the best advice i have for you... if you stay with him, it will only get worse, you will still stay with him, and he might just end up dumping you. if you need to talk about it some more, leave a message in my inbox. hope this helped, peace and love
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if this guy treats yuou like crap forget about him. you want some one who will treat you like a queen.. not someone who loves you one moment and doesn't the next.. it should be unconditional love.... not one second 2 second love...but remember if you break up with this guy he may not come running back to you.. so you need to make sure if your goign to do it!... and make sure you let him know why you are soo if he comes running back to you, you and you want him back you can say only under these circumstances! "........" and make sure you really like this guy first..
my advice is dump him.. he is a loser to you! he treats you like dirt when you should be treated like a princess
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This is actually quite common in women, but you really need to pull yourself away from him. I don't recommend jumping into a relationship with this other guy right away either because he will just be a rebound. The guy you are with now could escalate into a physically abusive man who only says he loves you when he is getting what he wants. It's abuse and he's using you, don't let him if you value yourself at all.
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